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Pressing charges for rape

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JustThinking · 22/05/2005 22:36

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 08:56

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Evesmama · 23/05/2005 09:00

you cant suffer like this honey..tell your closest friend, ask her to go to doc/police with you and then start getting yourself sorted, youre going to need treatment for your injuries anyway, so best to get everything done together.

i kept quiet for too long and he walked away scot free..please dont let this happen to you.x

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 09:02

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 09:07

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Evesmama · 23/05/2005 09:12

ask for emergency app with your doc and tell them youll sit and wait till they can let you in.

hellomama · 23/05/2005 09:31

Morning JT. Have been thinking of you a lot since posting last night. Just to let you know I'm here if you need anything today (or tomorrow... or the next day etc). Good luck with whatever you decide to do. As you can see from other posters, your experience is not uncommon and you are definitely not alone. Don't forget that.

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 09:50

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sparkly · 23/05/2005 09:51

JT, I've just seen this. I'm sorry you're going through this right now. Many years ago, when I was a student, I was raped and did press charges. If you want to talk please CAT me and I'd be more than happy to help in anyway I can.

Thinking of you x

Evesmama · 23/05/2005 09:54

it is very different to be the one who has to make the descision.
mine wasnt one instance..was for over 10 years(am not attention seeking, just wanted you to know people are in similar situations), but mine was by a family member and when i finally plucked up the courage at 17..it was too alte for me..please dont let this happen to you.xxxx

ggglimpopo · 23/05/2005 09:55

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 09:59

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moschops · 23/05/2005 10:01

have just seen this and wanted to say i have no advice but wanted to let you know i am thinking of you and sending you vibes to help you be strong......................

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 10:03

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 10:08

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bossykate · 23/05/2005 10:14

jt, i am so sorry this has happened to you. in no way is it your fault. do go to a specialist centre such as haven - they will be able to advise you on next steps.

hellomama · 23/05/2005 10:14

As long as you weren't at risk of more abuse / harming yourself then its unlikely they wouldn't pass on the information unless you wanted them to. I would however try and encourage you to get other services involved, but as long as you know all the facts then it would be your decision. I would document everything though so that its there if you ever need any of the information in the future. Its a bit of a complicated issue though and I probably would share the information (confidentially) with another colleague just so they know what is going on.

Evesmama · 23/05/2005 10:15

no honey, im ok
im not trying to out do you!!!i just want you to know its so common and these bastards keep getting away with it because they know how it makes us feel

you may feel awkward and worried now, but in years to come you will be so relieved to know you got it off your chest and reported it.. why should you fear another person..he is lower than the low. life for a life i say...not just a death but when someone has actioned to 'ruin' someones life...i wish you all the luck in the world and send you all the courage i never had

hellomama · 23/05/2005 10:16

sorry, that looks a bit wrong... its unlikely they would pass on the information unless you wanted them to. Depends how experienced the health care professional is as well. But they should let you know what they are going to do with the information you have shared with them, whether they are going to tell a colleague, what they are going to document etc.

koalabear · 23/05/2005 10:21

just thinking .... i have skimmed the thread, but don't know if anyone has let you know, but under the Law, if a person in intoxicated or on drugs, they are legally unable to give consent, and therefore, it is NOT YOUR FAULT

emily05 · 23/05/2005 10:26

Just thinking - I have just read this and I really hope that you are ok.
I was date raped when I was 16 and never pressed charges and now I really regret this. I have always thought that because he got away with it with me - did he then do it to somebody else. I really think as well that you should get some councilling. This helped me. I really hope that you are ok x please cat me if you want to talk.

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 10:27

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koalabear · 23/05/2005 10:32

of course not - was just trying to say that, gosh, perhaps i was saying it clumsily - just trying to say that, well, i hope you are ok, and that please don't feel that you put yourself at risk - he did this, you did not

sparkly · 23/05/2005 11:14

JT, everyone did find out but everyone was incredibly supportive and nooone judged me. I know it's an incredibly difficult decision to make and only you can do it. Your priority now has to be to get your medical issues sorted out - please make sure you get seen today.

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 11:36

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 11:38

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