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Pressing charges for rape

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JustThinking · 22/05/2005 22:36

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JustThinking · 22/05/2005 23:48

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Flossam · 22/05/2005 23:52

JT, I really think you should go to your local police station in the morning. DP says you should be able to go down there and talk it through with them, if you don't identify him, they can't arrest him and will be able to talk you through the process. They are likely to have a specialist team there who can refer you to all the right places. That way you can take better stock of your options and also be pointed in the right direction for help for you, whether or not you decide to press charges. I do think you should proceed with it though. you are not at fault here. He is. Don't ever believe anything else. x

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JustThinking · 22/05/2005 23:58

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lemonice · 23/05/2005 00:00

No. But if I had hindsight into my feelings I should have but from what you have said please do go ahead This sounds very prurient is recent last night or today? But if it's not it makes no difference

Flossam · 23/05/2005 00:03

As long as its still in the same area, fine. Can do it anywhere, but better the closer to home. Aww, you poor thing. Such a shame you don't feel able to say, as I'm sure many willing mumsnetters would help. Are there any that you know in your area? Someone perhaps you don't know that well might be easier, who knows your story and can be completely non judgemental and supportive. If I can help, please let me know. I'm off to bed now but I'll check up with you tomorrow, please do something about this, I'm sure that dealing with this will be vital to helping you move on from your horrific ordeal. Try and get some sleep. xx

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 00:10

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 00:14

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 00:17

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lemonice · 23/05/2005 00:19

I think you need to follow the channels suggested for now and yourself in the future, you haven't been silly..

lou33 · 23/05/2005 00:20

i would like to think my friend could talk to me about anything, and not be judged by me...

lemonice · 23/05/2005 00:22

As far as friends are concened, have you got one who you normally talk to?

lemonice · 23/05/2005 00:29

I have to go to bed now but will look out for you tomorrow, xxx

iamyourfriend · 23/05/2005 00:34

I have worked out who you are and changed my name for this so noone connects us. I will totally not judge you if you want to speak to me, and i hope you don't really think i would. Here if you want me xxx

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 06:53

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 07:30

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 07:35

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tiffini · 23/05/2005 07:49

JustThinking
If you found out later that a friend of yours had kept this to herself would you understand?!!

A true friend would always understand, no matter how far the line you told them.

I hope you can find a way to get through this, and find the strengh if you decide to report it
XXXX

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 08:06

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moozoboozo · 23/05/2005 08:16

JustThinking,

As someone who has been where you are now, I would report it. I felt that this was the only way I could move on from it. Please CAT me x

Evesmama · 23/05/2005 08:26

how are you this morning hun?
are you working today??
could you get an app with your gp..explain all to him/her to record it...then he/she could inform the right people for you..they would come to your home i strongly assume?

M22 · 23/05/2005 08:34

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 08:35

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Hulababy · 23/05/2005 08:41

No advice to offer, but thinking of you.

No friend would judge you.

Evesmama · 23/05/2005 08:43

dont build it up for yourself..yes shell be shocked..but she will support you.

could you not speak to your mum???

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JustThinking · 23/05/2005 08:55

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