Pressing charges for rape

[JustThinking]

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JT talking will help you deal with it and put it away forever, not just hide it away.

I'm glad you've gotten a regular slot and I pray that all goes well with the police

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Justthinking, when I was 15 I was attacked by a man who tried to pull me into his car. I was absolutely fine physically but mentally I was absolutely distraught. Nearly 10 years down the line I have only been out in the dark by myself a handfull of times, I still think about what might have happened. It does get better in the long run, I am not comparing what happened to me with what you went through as there is no comparrison. I did report it to the police but nothing came of it. I am happy for you to CAT me if I can be of any help at all. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you are feeling ok x x x.

Hi JT

If you want/need any thing over thing to do with the trial (not sure what)then do contact me if you'd like.

it's hard to know what is best for you regarding the counselling ..you don't want to miss it completely but if you feel it's not the right time, then talk to them about postponing it..

Would it help to prepare you for the trial even though you would not be able to discuss that directly?

xxx take care

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that's what i was wondering about it being a mental preparation for the trial going to the counselling

the timing may really be good

I'm sorry you have to go through this

I will come with you to court , you won't be alone x

Jt - - if you decide that you really do not feel ready to talk at the moment would they be able to offer you counselling when the trial is on? In other words would they sort of hold your place open? You may need it then and they have experience of supporting victims at this time. Hope you are having a good weekend and also still often wonder how you are getting on.
Dd is wasing up better go and see the damage

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JT How is your counselling going?

And has there been any progress in the court case?

I hope you're not having as much trouble sleeping.

Tnikning of you and wishing you well in all aspects of your life at the moment. Keep on top if you can.

xxx

Really just wanting to repeat Lemonice's last post

(((JT)))

you know where i am hun xxxx

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Just because it's not in active convo's doesn't mean you're forgotten, JT. It's still early days - you will get your peace of mind back, eventually, because you are a strong person (yes you are!) and you will not be beaten by this.

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Just give it time - it's still really hanging over you with the court case still in the future.

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A glass of wine will do that for you I'd like one too but I've got a stinking headache.

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Glad you are feeling more positive JT.

Did you get my cat?

Just another quick update, I've just realised I haven't updated this for some time.

I got a call to say that he'd fled the country where he was but they believed they knew which area he had gone to (and nowhere near me!!) so wanted to check with me that I still wanted to press charges in this country as because he'd left the other country had closed the file!) I said I did.. so they were going to put a warrant out for his arrest and get back to me. This was about 6 weeks ago.

I'm certainly going to let it get close to a trial but, i'm afraid, i've decided that unless they think there's a good chance he'll be charged i'm not going to put myself through it. I hope they do think there's a good chance as I really don't want him to have the chance of doing it again along with some help as he clearly needs it.

I've stopped getting flashbacks now but I still get related nightmares. I am trying to move on though. Thanks loads x

Glad to read you are making some progress, I hope there is a good prospect of conviction if they manage to arrest him. He obviously thionks so if he is onthe run.

Always here to listen.
xxx