Should my husband be asking my parents for inheritance money now?

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My parents are of an age to be doing IHT planning. They have not decided on anything yet.
I know my OH and I have much more money than my brother and his wife, and a much fancier lifestyle. My brother just moved house. He’s a contented person. He and his OH are quite happy doing the house up slowly, at his own pace, though it does need some work.
My OH just told my parents that they were on course to be the richest corpses in the graveyard. He suggested them giving my brother £100k right now to help him employ decorators, replace windows and install a new kitchen more quickly.
Then my OH told my parents that if they do, he will fight them for £100k for me now, too. We don’t even need the money. I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy and they might change their plans. My parents say they are ignoring it but I think they are cross.
I want OH and me to be a team and I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents. But I am uncomfortable with this.
I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

Your husband is breathtakingly rude and entitled. If my sil spoke to me like that I'd make sure he got nothing. Does he have any redeeming qualities? I think I'd be considering binning him off.

This is a joke surely? You need to tell him to back the f off. Jesus.

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This pretty much.

I would start to divorce him tomorrow. I would do everything in my power to stop him benefitting in any way from any money your parents may or may not leave when they die - eventually.

It's their money FFS. Cheeky git.

I’ve read some things on here, but hells bells this absolutely takes the cake!!!😳

The audacity of this creton, to speak to your parents in an unbelievably disrespectful way, did you sit there and cringe? Who the heck does he think he is?? I honestly don’t think he can come back from this one.

What the fuck?
he sounds abusive
does he normally behave similarly?

Wtf
I would have smacked myy dh in the face if he dare say that to my parents then I would have told him to get out

Anyway, there is no such thing as 'inheritance money' until the owner of the money dies. Until that point, it is that person's money.

Unbelievable. What a dick. Aren't you ashamed to be with him? I'd be divorcing him.

Can’t agree more

My thoughts are that you sound incredibly calm and passive, considering how rude, cruel and disgusting your husbands behaviour towards your parents has been. Don't downplay how awful he is being? It's inexcusable. He's an arsehole.

The only financial planning I'd ensure was in any way connected to this greedy bastard would be the getting my ducks in a row prior to serving divorce papers. Seriously do not stay with.this arsehole. How dare he. Your parents are not a fucking ATM but that is how he sees them. And he said he'd fight them for you to get £100k as well. That is unforgivable. If I were them I'd write the will in such a way that your inheritance would be in a trust so Me Entitled Grabby Bollockswould get jack shit. Did his greedy piggy eyes light up when he realised his then girlfriend had parents with some money? And what''s the betting that when your parents do pass and You have your inheritance that he'd fight you for it in a convenient divorce? Fuck him. With a spiky loo brush.

Your husband (are you actually married - you say "OH") is beyond rude and greedy and venal. What a nasty man to say all that to your parents.

Yes, your brother could probably do with the help now.

But that is not your OH's place to tell them that.

Good lord! It's not even your place, as your parents' daughter, to tell them how to spend their money. In my family, we've always discussed money (as there has been quite a lot of inherited wealth & various trust funds and so on). But we as put parents' children have never EVER told our parents what they should do with their money. And if any of my siblings' spouses even hinted at doing what your husband has done, they would be getting a very sharp response from me.

If I were your parents, I would be telling my son in law, in no uncertain terms, how out of place and greedy he is.

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I wouldn't bother.

I'd be seeking legal advice about a divorcing him now

I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy and they might change their plans. My parents say they are ignoring it but I think they are cross.

I hope they're busy funnelling all their money where his grubby little fingers can't 'fight" them for it.

What a despicable creature, and where is your backbone? No-one would be speaking to my parents in that manner ☹️.

It’s hard to believe this is true.
I would have died of embarrassment if it is.

I didn't see what Frosted Shreddies said but I'm thinking your DH has an exit plan funded by your inheritance.

He was so out of order - you need to tell him to back right off and to apologise to your parents

IHT planning has to be handled very carefully to avoid charges deliberate deprevation of assets should either or both of your parents require care.

IMHO it's the ultimate in terrible etiquette to ask elderly parents for inheritance money before they die. The fact that your OH did it to not his own parents but yours makes it even worse. I'd be livid.

Wow, just wow. If my OH did that he would be read the riot act in words he would have no trouble understanding and I would be looking at him in a whole new light. What a shithead.

Why did you marry such a grabby arsehole? Did your parents' wealth figure in his decision to marry you?

Disgusting to put it mildly. If I were your parents I would use that as a trigger to write my will in such a way that I would miss you out if still married to your twat of a husband and leave it to grandchildren, assuming you have some. I’d also put a clause in it saying you got no money if you were divorced and still in a relationship in case he decided that would overrule the clause. I’m still struggling to understand why they didn’t just tell him to leave and that he was no longer welcome in their home.

Well if he was my husband I would have told him to shut the fuck up and then I would leave him because he's a complete twat. It's none of his business. I wouldn't want him on my "team" because it's not a team of CF's.

I agree he is really rude
divorce him