Please help - partner died no will

[TheAgileDuck]

Hi All, I would really appreciate your help. My partner of 12 years died over Christmas. He was very ill and I was his carer (unofficially he didn’t claim carers allowance etc) We have lived together for 8 years in his fully paid for house. He has two children who he has not seen for 10 + years and other relatives still alive but again not spoken to in a very long time years and years.

he has died with no will. His family are asking me to leave the house I have called my home for 8 years as we were not married and I wasn’t paying any rent/maintenance officially. He always verbally promised me that I could stay in the house if he passed away until I died or if I choose to leave 30% of the value of house and rest to his children. However it turns out there is no will so none of the above is official.

do I have any right to stay in the house? Please note I am not on bills. I also have no other savings, so if I was kicked out I would effectively be made homeless. I haven’t worked in 8 years as his health was extremely poor and I looked after him and he had enough money to cover all bills.

I am not after any money from his bank accounts, his expensive jewellery and watches just a small bit of what was promised to me for so long. I have no money saved so getting a solicitor I think will be last resort but guessing it might have to be done.

I am totally devastated by his loss but also now by this situation which has come as such a shock after thinking I had some safety for my future.

please help if anyone has any advice

many thanks

OP has been in a relationship with him for 12 years, 8 years of which she has been his full-time carer. If OP hadn't been there, he would have probably needed to sell his home to pay for his care. She has saved him and the beneficiaries of the will an absolute fortune.

OP now needs to do what's best for her, not for the family that he hadn't seen for 10 years.

Fair point, I might be over thinking.
But I don't understand why they didn't claim it, unless it was him trying to show as few links to Op as possible. If she'd claimed it, it would have given her a decent cushion for today. And it would have given her evidence of the links between them.

I'm also worried about where it has left the Op with regards to state pension.
Fingers crossed she has enough NI credits to at least get her full state pension in a few years.

Op must be absolutely kicking herself. So easy to look in from the outside and see what a vulnerable position he's put her in.

Any news, Poster? thinking of your case , you deserved so much more

Maybe the OP's partner was too old for her to claim carers allowance, maybe they didn't qualify for attendance allowance (it is not the same as CA).

Off the back of this thread though, I have begun the process of sorting out a will... I have no desire to leave my partner in this situation, as horrid as it is to think about my demise!

There's an age limit for the person receiving the care? One of the requirements is that the person being cared for has to receive a benefit including Attendance Allowance, which doesn't have an age cap. If he'd been refused it then yes, but too old?

There is an age limit for a new claim for carers allowance. After that, it is then AA you can claim, however the criteria for claiming that are different to those for CA.

Marriage is also a good way of making sure you are both protected. And there's no inheritance tax between a married couple.

Marriage is only good if you want to leave the majority of your estate to your spouse and/or cba making a will.

if you want to leave significant assets to anyone else- eg your house from a previous relationship or bought yourself to your children, marriage is pointless and could end up making sure your spouse gets it rather than your children if you don’t make a will or the will gets “lost”.

I think I agree with this

Carers Allowance would probably also have given her NI credits.

I really hope Op is doing OK. What a horrible situation. The man she went above and beyond for hasn't done anything to protect her, so many things he could have done, marriage, name on the house, joint accounts, savings in her name. Nothing!

I feel for ur frustration but please realise he had a carefree feeling of tge unknown in what we all know truly is inevitable but never see when I guess. I wanted to give you my empathy and thoughts of understanding what I know I can't that you are going threw. My own situation is if u can imagine finding happiness that others c I understand never allow due to the dynamics of how we came to be . Many say how the death of another brings out the true colours of some least expected and lacking morals im glad my partner will never know the things he wrote in his own will that were deliberately ignored by destroying the copy that would of made this sad unfair pantomime of a show they made up to suit their own version far from reality . He failed to change the ending by the words he wrote in the will that they quickly tore up and believe nobody knows different and similarly their words failed to change his life and what he lived for and was as they echoed round the church and clapped at their fake story he woukd never cave in and be hence it ked to his heart failure now that's why we avoid the truth !!! So sad as I tore up one version of his wishes in an argument myself one day screaming it was about love and never about the money. Luckily it always was fir the love and yes the money I coukd really do with to help me out having list our home now and the rest of this situation he will never have 2 know I was put through 4 the cost of what was far greater lucky it was about love because we shared so much more than money coukd ever buy........ps this is 4 the haters they know what they are and im glad he doesn't as he will not have to be disgusted by his disrespectful family and their fake front . Hide the evidence and pretend he never stood up to them like he did they never coukd accept him for being strong enough to live his life for the few years we had the pleasure to 2gether. Good luck its tough so tough be strong they woukd want nothing more than that. Look at what you've had not what you've lost if possible at all my inbox is free for any who are lost after loosing another close to them .

Zombie thread.

How are you doing op?