Wow, so you come with sex, food, cleaning, cooking, beautiful babies that help him claim to be a respectable doting father and family man, you are also free childcare, chef… do you also clip his toenails for him?
I hate to see fatherless children, but he doesn’t look after them, feed them, bathe them, from the sounds of it… does he play with them, teach them, take them to activities, plan or suggest activities for them?
Since you have your own job already, that you are managing alongside no childcare(!), would you be financially any worse off if you moved out, with the addition of child maintenance for two children? Let’s see how his fat wallet and big house plans will look then!
I couldn’t stand to see my partner going without necessarily maternity clothes and stressed out and crying from debt, and refuse to give them even one month’s delay! That is very cold hearted, and mean - in every sense of the word.
And then to tell you about his fat bonus whilst he knows what your condition is!
This is the kind of relationship where ten years down the line you may come out with nothing to show for it except for a loss of dignity and personal adult agency, being essentially infantilised and oppressed.
What he earns matters little, you are not benefiting from it if you are going without basic things.
I worry about his basic empathy.
You have differing attitudes to money. These things cannot usually be changed without one or the other partner becoming miserable.
Life’s too short for this kind of crap.
You only asked to simply delay one month, hardly the crime of the century.