Should we give in and get married?

[Daddog]

I'm not married (but 'coupled' for 12 years) with one son and another on the way. Just spent several weeks recently going through all sorts of legal hoops to clarify our relationship - getting a will made, signing a parental rights agreement, looking into pension rights, next of kin agreements etc. - all stuff that would just be sorted if we just got hitched.

Dislike all of the historical baggage which goes with marriage - even the words husband and wife get my back up - but wonder if it wouldn't be easier just to go down the registry office grab two stangers off the street and get everything straightforward.

Any experiences, attitudes to share?

yes i agree
people are strange when you're a stranger

its my choice of song on arriving in small scary league of gentlemen villages in uk

Well Expat, that would really call our bluff...

hey daddog, have you had a vote to vote on whether to have you put your marital status to the vote yet?

Suzy, think we've come to a decision, which is to get hitched! Maybe one of the strangest marriage announcements ever...

Everybody say congratulations.

big congratulations to you and soon to be mrs daddog! well done guys!

congratulations!

Strongly suggest you just go off and do it and save the stress and hassle, and if you don't tell anyone in rl I'm glad you at least told us.

Expats wedding sounds great.

Congrats!

If we ever do it I will expect everyone to commiserate with us and will only have witnesses who know it's not a positive choice for us.

so commiserations, daddog

Congratulations on erm tax avoidance

GAH it is people saying CONGRATULATIONS! that makes me want to run screaming as well

Think the mixed reaction sums up my own attitude, so thanks everyone.

maybe so daddog,
but when the chips are down it will be easier for you or missus..
dont do it with heavy heart, it can be your own thing too you know...

dr creamcheese is very much in this mode right now, so i make great joke of all the flowers, cars, marquees, dresses, that am NOT hiring buying etc..
i dont beleive in doing anything like this w/ miserable disposition, think you might regret that bit..

It's not the worst thing in the world, Daddog.

You might even find you rather like it.

Exactly, MP. Noone congratulations you for taking out more life insurance, or updating a will, which is basically what marriage would be to us if we did it.

fennel, might surprise you go on tell them and ..the insurance company would at least celebrate..
not much joie de vivre here guys