Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 4 xxxxx

[littlebellsmum]

Less sadness, more joy but always lots of lovely people who understand

Huge congrats, Bluemoon! Brilliant news. xx

Sophable didn't see your message last night but yes, my DH and I are so much closer since the mc too...he has been v affectionate and we are just generally being very clingy at the moment (in a good way!) so that is definitely a good thing about all this. (I find it's helpful to look for positives...for example, my little goddaughter had chickenpox last week and I wouldn't have been able to go anywhere near her had I still been pregnant....small consolations.)

That's amazing news Bluemoon congratulations! So pleased for you. Also you birthday is the day after mine!

My bleeding stopped on Sunday (yesterday) - so that was 2 1/2 weeks from the initial spotting and exactly 1 week from the MC.

cupcake glad you had nice break - although can imagine spending time with a 11 month old might make you a bit

I am feeling 1000 times better today (which may be temporary) but I don't care - am going to make the most of feeling better. I had a lovely weekend, should never have come into work last week, so glad i took Fri off. Now ready to deal with work again.

hugs to all xx

BlueMoon its great to hear you are pregnant again, I wish you all the luck in the world. Don't feel guilty for having happy news, I can imagine how worried you are feeling now. Have you looked at the Onwards and Upwards Emmsys thread? There are lots of newly pregnant people on there who have all previously had miscarriages.

hi everyone, thank you all so much for the congrats

i am obviously worried silly!

gracie i hope to join the other thread soon, just going to sit quietly in the corner til i know things are ok....

BlueMoon You are welcome to lurk on the other thread, most the people on there (like me) aren't pregnant yet but there have been loads of BFP's this month. Its a lucky thread!!

Congrats Bluemoon am so thrilled for you - hope bubba continues to hang on in there.

Haven't been on for while as needed space and also life been real busy both social and workwise.

Find that I still think about baby most days - and kina feel it daft that I am, but at same time know it's early days.

My little girl put a lump in my throat earlier as when I picked her up from nursey she has drawn some pictures for me and gave me one saying, "Look Mummy I drew our baby for you so you won't forgot what our baby looked like." Was on verge of tears but managed to hold it together and gave her a big hug and kiss. Her keyworker look like she was going to cry too!

Anyway hope all you ladies are doing ok. to any newcomers am sorry you're here with us, but this bunch are a good bunch to hang out with for support.

Bionic - your daughter nearly made me cry too! I don't know how you didn't!! I would expect to think about what you lost a lot- I still do, it doesn't hurt so much but it's still there

Morning.Big waves to Bionic Glad you're back with us. Your DD sounds very sweet.I could feel myself welling as I read your story.
I think the thought will always be with us. My DH bought me a beautiful chain and pendant as a belated Mothers day present last week (I didn't think I was a good enough mum at the time to deserve one ) It has a tiny diamond in it like my tiny baby and everytime I touch it I remember. It's nice that he (convinced it was a boy) is close to my heart.
Life can be so cruel, but we're strong (and becoming stronger everyday)
I hope you all have a day with some hapiness in it today.

Bionic that's so sweet - think it would have made me cry tho! But to be honest - it doesn't take much at the mo!

Neeko that's lovely about the pendant... such a nice idea x

It's been 9 days since my m/c and I have just started bleeding quite a lot, have passed a coupld of clots and have some period like pains - is this normal - I thought it should be stopping soon?

Jacanne Not sure if normal - but sounds like your body still has stuff to get rid of? Are you going for a scan at any time? x

I had one day after the m/c - they said it was complete - just some blood clots to get rid off - tbh I thought that they had come out in the days immediately after because I did pass some more clots then.

Maybe is just a bit that is left then? Guess it should stop fast if it is? maybe go to Dr is continues longer than a day?

Bionic I nearly cried too that is so sweet of your dd! Yesterday was the first time I have managed to keep it together talking about the m/c... all other times I have started welling up but yesterday talked to HR manager about it and he was very kind, saying I could have my leave as compassionate leave.

Feeling a bit down today though. I chart my cycles so take my temp every day and it hasn't gone down yet since the m/c over 2 weeks ago which has worried me; it's usually much lower than it is at the mo before I ovulate....which then sends me into a panic of 'oh my body still thinks its pregnant' and 'I'm not going to ovulate' and (as always) 'we'll never have children' just so worried.

Neeko so lovely about your pendant. My DH said before mothers day that he'd buy me a present for it if we were pregnant by then... we were but by the time the day came round we were so worried about baby it felt like bad luck to be buying anything to do with babies. We have bought a little something to remember our little one by though.

Have been lurking a little over at Onwards and Upwards but don't quite feel ready for it yet!

Thanks Iggypiggy - I phoned the EPU and they said that it was probably just the blood picked up on the scan and I have to keep an eye on it - oh and no work tomorrow either.

Evening everyone. Bionic and Neeko. Both your stories are lovely and very moving. I think it's so important to remember - every time I look at the rose bush we planted I feel so sad, but happy that we'll have roses year after year to remember our baby.

Cupcake, try not to worry too much. Your body is bound to be adjusting still after the mc, so this month may not be a typical one ovulation-wise. I do understand though, it's so hard not to worry, isn't it.

Jacanne, I've had more clots today too, even though my bleeding slowed down to brown spotting a few days back. It feels so long and drawn out now - just want this physical reminder to be gone! I have a scan on 27th so will wait until then to ask the doc.

I've been a bit wobbly today as I should have been having my 12 wk scan, but I had a lovely day out with friends in the sunshine, so trying to stay positive.

Hi. jacanne Hope you're coping ok. It's the most awful thing in the world but it WILL pass eventually.
Lovelypear Keep an eye on that bleeding and make sure you mention it at scan. The day you are supposed to have your dating scan is awful. Glad to hear you've done something positive.
cupcake Girls on onwards and upwards know lots about ov after mc and are very welcoming. Just ask! Be like me and keep a foot in both camps
bluemoon how are you keeping?
LBM are you still getting grief for being on MN? Hope you're doing ok.
I'm feeling very up and down today. Can't believe how oten the hormones take you by surprise. Tomorrow will be a better day

Evening ladies - yes Neeko,I'm sneaking a post in but then he's watching Sharpe which I'm not too keen on !!
Good to see you can still post even though you're now at work. Your dh sounds lovely!

Cupcake, Lovely pear and Iggypiggy - great to hear from you. Hope the day is going better. I actually had my 12 week scan which wasn't nice, especially as I met a friend on my way out of the hospital who was the proud father of a 2 hour old baby... Needless to say I didn't visit and lied about why I was there!!

It does get better - I do still feel sad about what I lost, but it's managable and life goes on pretty well.

hello everyone

thanks for asking neeko i am doing good, but very tired and very scared, hoping my bean is hanging on. your dh sounds lovely, the chain was such a nice idea.

jacanne and lovelypear hope things get sorted for you soon, its feels like the bleeding will never stop, but it will eventually.

waves to all the other girls xxxxxxxx

littlebellsmum what awful timing to meet someone you know who has just had a baby

I cancelled my 12 week scan - but was meant to be on 1st May. Am actually bit worried about the EDD and how I will feel , but that is a long way away.

Jacanne that's good that you called the EPAU - hope it stops soon tho.

lovelypear sorry your bleeding still carrying on - there's no general rule for how these things happen it seems - everyone is different - which is so frustrating because I want to know when i can expect my next AF etc etc.

Bluemoon glad you doing well

Neeko I know what you mean - yesterday I was like that - up and down.. xx

Thanks LovelyPear I know I do just worry way too much about everything! Temp was down today so really hope it stays that way for a bit...then goes up nicely for ovulation! Don't think DH and I will properly ttc this month though; I would quite like to see clearly on my charts that cycle is settling first. Plus I don't quite feel emotionally ready for that yet.

Neeko I have had a peek in Onwards and Upwards, there certainly is a lot of ovulation knowledge in there! To be honest, having used Natural Family Planning for 3 years I am pretty good at reading my body and will be able to tell when I'm ovulating...just so hoping it happens soon I don't want more trips to the docs!

LBM how horrible seeing your friend like that. I found it bad enough just men I didn't know walking towards the maternity unit with car seats, all ready for their newborns

Hope everyone is feeling ok this morning.

Hi- is it okay if I move over here to this thread now? I was meant to be 11 weeks tomorrow, but I finally had my slow/mmc confirmed today. I had suspected 3 weeks ago this would be the outcome of this pregnancy.

This is my 2nd mc and I remember it being very hard emotionally last time. Not looking forward to the crashing hormoness...

How is everyone doing? I recognise some names from the Due in November thread- I hope you are okay.

cupofteaplease I am so sorry that you're joining us here, but of course you're more than welcome. Three weeks seems a very long time to be dealing with the possibility of a mmc - it must have been incredibly hard for you.

I have found this thread and people here to be very supportive, and felt good that I could just rant and people would understand. I'm so sorry that this is the second time for you. I hope you find some comfort here.

There are a few of us here from the Nov thread now. Hopefully we can stick together and hold hands in November to get through it.

cupcake, I know what you mean about not being ready emotionally yet. I'd like to take some time before we start ttc.

I think my bleeding has stopped today . I will wait and see though as my body has been surprising me a lot lately. I'm feeling ok - it's a gorgeous day and so trying to remain positive. Hope everyone's well xxxx

cupoftea sorry to hear you are having your second miscarriage. Stay on this thread, everyone will look after you.