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Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 4 xxxxx

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littlebellsmum · 13/03/2009 20:44

Less sadness, more joy but always lots of lovely people who understand

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Neeko · 09/04/2009 21:12

cupcake What's a PFB? Don't worry my MIL can unwittingly drop some clangers too!

cupcakefairy · 09/04/2009 22:19

Sorry- getting too into the acronyms! Precious First Born!

littlebellsmum · 09/04/2009 23:10

Hurrah for devon , cupcakefairy. Obviously if the weather was bad, there are some other things you could do inside?
Hope the weather stays lovely for you - we had a great holiday in Devon in feb - nice weather, good kids, perfect holiday really. Oh and make the most of reading books before you have kids or wtaching your choice of film in the afternoon - post kids, it is never going to happen!
Enjoy!

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iggypiggy · 11/04/2009 11:41

hello all - just dropping in quickly as am away at the mo

No news from me - have been spotting for 9 days now and am just wanting the MC to happen and be over with

Anyway - am eating alot of chocolate - so that is helping a bit!

Hope you all ok - and that you felling bit better lovelypear? xx

Neeko · 11/04/2009 15:53

Hi iggypiggy Hope it happens for you soon as this has been hanging over you for a while. Take care and keep eating the chocolate!
Hi and Happy Easter weekend to everyone else. Hope you're all doing ok.

BlueMoon1981 · 11/04/2009 16:51

Hi everyone, sorry for being quiet the last few days, have been suffering with a bad cold and cough, and have managed to bruise a rib by sneezing (how embarrassing ) so am in a lot of pain!

Happy Easter to you all, hope you have been good so the Easter Bunny will bring you loads of chocolate to build your stashes up!

BlueMoon1981 · 11/04/2009 17:05

Oh and i forgot to say, what's with all the pregnant celebreties at the minute, Coleen Rooney, Sarah Michelle Gellar, Nicole Richie, anyone would think they are doing it on purpose to spite us....

How come they get the good life AND babies

Neeko · 11/04/2009 18:18

Poor BlueMoon Hope your cold and rib are better soon.
Wouldn't want to be a celebrity... Not allowed to have fat days, pressure to lose baby weight, tabloids reporting the amount of mini and Lindt eggs you buy... Stuff that! At least when we have our babies we'll be looking after them and not worrying about them puking on their designer outfits!
(Am a bit about their babies though!)

iggypiggy · 11/04/2009 18:49

Hope you feel better soon bluemoon

Agree with Neeko wouldn't want to be one.. would just like the money (and the babies... but won't dwell on that).

Managed to fall off my horse today - so am hoping that will have speeded things up and it sort of seems to have a little.

Happy Easter and lots of chocolate to you all xx

BlueMoon1981 · 11/04/2009 18:57

hi neeko and iggypiggy

i do agree with you on not wanting to be a celebrity, but yes neeko i am very too!

aww iggy hope you didn't do too much damage falling off your horse. and hope your mc will soon be over with so you can start to get on with your life (as much as you can)

i'm feeling a bit sorry for myself today, who ever knew you needed your ribs for so many things, its hurts with everything i do! please girls be grateful for your ribs

iggypiggy · 11/04/2009 19:05

BlueMoon only damage was grazed knee (like a child) - and injured pride! I haven't fallen off in years - but am having a terrible day and that was kind of topping it off for me!

Have bruised ribs before and know is so painful so you have much sympathy.

Eat choc and try not to breathe too hard xx

Heathcliffscathy · 11/04/2009 20:28

ahem. excuse me. is it ok to join? have only just found this and think it might be just the place for me atm...

BlueMoon1981 · 11/04/2009 20:52

hi sophable of course, jump right in and join the mad house, actually maybe thats just me

sorry that you have to join us, but i promise all the girls here are lovely, they have helped me no end, i only wish i'd found them sooner. its a really good place to be, and although under sad circumstances, its good to know that others feel similar to you and really understand your pain.

feel free to say whatever you like on here in the safe knowledge that no one will laugh at you or tell you to just 'get over it'. we will help you all we can xxxx

BonyM · 11/04/2009 22:01

Hi all, not been on for a few days.

Sorry that you are having to join us sophable - I have just been reading your other thread and can completely empathise with the comfort eating and putting on weight thing. Although all my pg symptoms have gone now after medical management on Tuesday, I still look pregnant . Big fat tummy from eating too much chocolate but am finding it so comforting.

Emotionally I think I am feeling a bit better - haven't cried much since Tuesday but feel very flat and gloomy. I'm finding it really hard to muster any enthusiasm for anything at the moment and feel I just want to sleep. Poor dh has been up in the mornings with dd2 every day since we found out about this (letting me lie in until about 9am) and I'm feeling guilty because he could also do with a rest. He's been looking after me so well and yet he's feeling so down about what's happened and is just soldiering on.

iggypiggy - I hope it's all over for you soon, although I think it can be a couple of weeks before it's completely done with. Although they didn't let me out of hospital until the sac had gone, I'm still (4 days later) passing largish bits of stuff (sorry if TMI) which has surprised me. I guess it's normal though.

Sorry so many of you have insensitive MILs. Mine doesn't know what's happened as we are not close to her, but my mother is very much a "chin up and get on with things" person. She's actually really upset dh and I with some of the things she's come out with - "it's probably all for the best", "well it's gone now, you have to move on", etc. We get the impression that she thinks we are wallowing in self-pity and should just put it all behind us . She's coming here for lunch tomorrow which will be the first time we've seen her since it happened and I'm really, really hoping she won't come out with insensitve comments.

Blimey - sorry for the long post, more to get out than I thought!

LovelyPear · 12/04/2009 10:00

Morning all. iggypiggy glad to hear you're ok - I was getting worried! Sorry to hear about your fall, and that you're still waiting for things to start happening . Hopefully you won't have too long to wait now.

Hi sophable, I saw your other thread too and so I'm glad you've found your way here. Completely understand how you're feeling. Just give yourself time - it's still early days.

bluemoon, sorry you've been poorly! Hope you're making a speedy recovery now. You must have been sneezing v hard to bruise a rib!

bonym, I also have a bump still, although it is going down slowly . It's so unfair that our bodies take so long to recover! Hope all goes well with your mum today. I'm hoping that I never have to talk about it again with my MIL, as she ALWAYS manages to say the wrong thing. Neeko I'm glad to hear yours is more understanding! I'm sleeping a lot too - afternoon naps and all, and DH is really helping out with DS so feeling v lucky on that front.

I went back into hospital on Sat morning, as I was feeling really nauseous all the time, and just completely wiped out. I was worried about an infection, but they scanned me again and confirmed that the baby had gone , there was just a lot of blood still to come (sorry tmi). Apparently it's normal to feel that awful after a mc. I'm feeling better now, although like BonyM just generally flat and gloomy and on the edge of tears all the time.

Phew, sorry for the huge post! I feel better knowing that we're here for each other. Hope everyone can enjoy Easter Sunday xx

Heathcliffscathy · 12/04/2009 18:50

i went running today for first time in over a month, just for 10 minutes, and i nearly fainted!!! was totally dizzy and had to crawl (embarrassing) to a park bench.. i can't be that unfit, is it cause of preg hormones. i'm sort of assuming that because i've done a preg test and it is negative (hospital made me do that and phone them) and have finally stopped brown spotting that all is as normal. is that not right?

slightly better day today, but dh is very wary of me so i must be partic scratchy. he isn't in fab place either tbh.

ScorpiowithabigS · 12/04/2009 18:51

having a bad day today

ScorpiowithabigS · 12/04/2009 18:52

Soph - your body has physically as well as mentally been through alot - you will still be recovering and should rest a little bit more I even felt jelly legged a week later.

Heathcliffscathy · 12/04/2009 18:53

scorpio, feel free to vent about your bad day as i'm here and it helps me to hear it

ScorpiowithabigS · 12/04/2009 18:56

WELL - you have asked now, lol

I am home alone with my 3dc for 2.4 weeks - DH is living it up in Thailand and i am starting to resent him, to the point of ignoring him he is home on wednesday. in the childrens defence they have behaved beautifully like always.

I feel all hormonal and want to cry alot and the last day or so ttc & mc has hit me like a brick in the face. Then DH said to me on the phone today that things are nice how they are, but we can still ttc. i was so mad as it felt like he was being shite on my mc'd baby, iyswim?

Also i am very lonely this last couple of days. and so tired, had NO sleep last night. Going to get in bed in a sec and watch Forgetting Sarah Marshall on box office.

Heathcliffscathy · 12/04/2009 19:09

poor you, horrible that you're alone with the kids and feeling like this...

are you going to let russel brand soothe you??

x

ScorpiowithabigS · 12/04/2009 19:10

i kind of don't 'get' Russell Brand, just its a nice film a world away from my world at the moment, iyswim.

LovelyPear · 12/04/2009 20:01

sorry you're having a bad day, scorpio. sounds like a good night's sleep is just what you need, so good idea to get tucked up in bed now and take your mind off it all with a film.

sounds like your dh was a little bit insensitive to say that, but men are rubbish sometimes, and as he's far away he's probably even more useless than normal at getting how you're feeling right now. well done you for having the kids on your own for nearly 3 weeks - I'm not surprised you're feeling tired and hormonal! hope your dh will give you the spoiling you deserve once he gets home.

my dh finds it hard when I want to talk about the mc all the time, as I think men deal with these things completely differently.

look after yourself in the next few days. hope you get a decent sleep tonight. xxx

Neeko · 12/04/2009 22:00

Evening ladies. don't have much time to post tonight but wanted to welcome Sophable and send Scorpio a big hug. Hope you're all doing ok. Will catch up soon.

Neeko · 12/04/2009 22:00

Evening ladies. don't have much time to post tonight but wanted to welcome Sophable and send Scorpio a big hug. Hope you're all doing ok. Will catch up soon.