Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 3 xxxxx

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so here we are on part three, let this one be fun of happy news.....

Praying for you Mermaid I am a fraeked out mess too - just posted a while ago I'm beside myself so totally relate. Everythings crossed - do let us know asap wont ya..

4ever oh sweetie feel bad cos was in such a rush I never read through the posts. I am so there with you girl, we have to keep telling ourselves that it will be ok 4th time round. Telling family is a supportive thing and either way we are going to need that support.
Consultant was lovely he is arranging for a scan at epu next week with lots of backup names and numbers in case the appointment gets lost. My tests showed high levels of hormones so I was already pregnant when we saw him , shame we cant stay blissfully ignorant for longer really! But my lupus test did'nt work cos it had coagulated so they are testing that again.What is that then? As we left he said he was crossing everything for us and I feel happier - for the next 5 minutes anyway -
hope you feel a little better this afternoon, the 15th is'nt too far away.

mermaid keeping everything crossed for you today, let us know once you are back

4ever try to stay strong and hopeful hon, not everyone gets sickness, although I totally understand why you are anxious that it's stopped, it could well be that you had lots of sleep and relaxation at the weekend. Do you have to stay at work today? Any chance you could go home and just take it easy? I really feel for you, I am trying to stay hopeful as I don't have any spotting any more but neither do I have any pg symptoms. Am sure that by 26 jan I will be a bag of nerves. But do try to think positive thoughts, this is a new pg for you and so many women do have healthy babies even after several mcs, I can picture your little one all safe and snug inside you, growing and growing, and waiting to meet you in just a few months xxx

sorry mermaid cross posted with you, I don't know anything about lupus test I'm afraid but glad he has booked you for a scan at epu, will continue to keep fingers and toes crossed xx

4Ever - I kept a diary last time of when symptoms came and went - it became blindingly obvious that if I worked from home, so wasn't getting up early and commuting, my nausea more or less disappeared - it was never bad, so was only noticeable when I was tired.

If you've had a relaxing weekend, I'm sure that is the reason. I really think it is worth keeping a diary of symptoms though, so you have something to refer to - helped me anyway

yes the key is relaxation, rest, and most importantly as scamper says positive thoughts - I am going to listen to scamper cos she can mn on her phone which means she is clever

Ahh mermaid scamper jools THANK YOU SO MUCH! I kept coming back on to see if anyone had replied yet and was getting more and more despondent! mermaid so glad you sound like you're in good hands and feel a little reassured, let us know the date of the scan hon? I had the lupus anticoag done twice, I think its standard to do twice and thats the one for sticky blood syndrome or antiphospholipids? Know what you mean about feelin better for 5mins cos that what it was like each scan, reassured to see growth & hb, then by the time I was home the anxiety kicks in again!

You 3 are all so sweet and said such spot on things, thanks scamper for visualising my lo inside growing strong! Must do that more often myself! jools good to hear you noticed the diff in sickness when working and not, thankfully by 12ish I started feeling pretty dizzy and weak (YEA!) then people at work talked about this restaurant and some funky food and wah hey - complete nausea kicked in! PHEW! Ate a big lunch so feeling a little better, and most importantly reassured by you absolutely lovely ladies! What would I do without you?!?

I'm now visualizing your lo's growing big and strong scamper and mermaid and jools I'm visualizing 2 pink lines for you on the 19th!

Thanks again so much and sorry for being a stresshead! xxxxxxx

Hey girls. I got the letter from the hospital today with the forms for chromosomal tests and I'm trying to figure out whether it's okay for us to go ahead with TTC in the meantime. Apparently we won't get the results for 8 weeks

Anyway, while I've been googling like the wind, I found something that I thought might help give some reassurance to you pregnant ladies because how worrying a time it is. A few studies now on recurrent miscarriages have shown that getting the extra support that you are getting - early scans etc - has a massive impact on the likelihood of a successful pregnancy. I've cut and paste below:

In the first study in 1984, researchers screened 195 couples with recurrent miscarriages and found identifiable causes of the miscarriages in 56%. In the remaining couples with no abnormalities, 86% of couples receiving counseling and support carried their pregnancies to term as compared to 33% who received no special care. In a 1991 study, New Zealand researchers followed 42 women with unexplained recurrent miscarriages and in 44 pregnancies among the women, 38 went to term and the researchers could identify a cause in 4 of the 6 miscarriages that did occur. In the admittedly small control group of 9 women who received standard care from a family practitioner, only 3 of 9 pregnancies went to term. In 1997, British researchers replicated these findings in a larger group. Following 201 women with unexplained recurrent miscarriages, 26% of women who attended an early pregnancy clinic with supportive care miscarried as compared to 51% who did not attend the dedicated miscarriage clinic.

Scamper, I'm going to try some of that positive thinking myself, forget about the test results till we get them and just visualise a BFP for me by Valentines day

Curly We are waiting for chromosome testing plus other blood etc, but ours is 10 week wait We asked the consultant if we should wait or keep trying he said it was up to us. As I didn't want to have a 4th pg go tits up and then find out that I could have stopped it happening we decided that we'll wait. It's entirely yours and your DH's decision as to what to do, it's down to personal choice at the end of the day. Good luck for whatever you decide
Mermaid Hope all went well with the scan today
4ever What you are discribing is only natural when you've had the experiences you've had. I only hope you can get some sleep before Thursday, 3 more sleeps to go I will be thinking of you
Jools I know how you feel about pg people making you want to scream! when I found out my SIL was due the same month as the last one I lost I nearly lost the plot. I know the cliche time is a great healer is a bit tired but it is so true, she is now 17 wks pg and I can talk to her about it without crying/shouting or getting stressed out. Not too sure how I'll cope when they're born mind you

Thanks Mollie, I understand why you would wait - I just think I can't anymore. I really thought I was pregnant a few days ago and now the thought of waiting till April is too hard

Are you getting your results in Feb? Fingers crossed for you honey. Have they told you whether there are more tests they can do after this if nothing shows?

morning girls,

jools how is your back? I don't know about ibuprofin and pg, but I do know my gp told me that paracetamol is safe. Keeping fingers crossed for two pink lines for you

mollie thankyou for thinking of me, it hasn't really sunk in yet mainly due to lack of symptoms and I think it will only feel real after the scan. Wishing you patience and peace while you wait for your results, am still smiling at barbies positive new year vibes and hope those stay with you over the next few weeks

Speaking of which, barbie when do you go to the sunshine, can we move our cave there too?

Finally, last but by no means least, curly thankyou so much for the reassuring research! I certainly do feel much better cared for this time, mostly by you lot! Xxx

Ladies, I just wanted to say a huge thank you for all your supportive messages - I've been feeling too lousy to turn my laptop on recently but have been thinking of you all and wondering how you are.
barbie, I'm so touched that your dh asked after our scans - what a sweet guy!
mermaid, thinking of you as you get your results...
mm, so glad you have a good birthday. Yes, I agree that we all HAVE to meet up one day!
Curly, Mollie, Jools, scamper, 4ever and blue sending you love and positive vibes...
Oh girls this is pathetic; I think I have to go back to bed again for a lie down. Sorry to be so brief!

ohh vm thats not pathetic, back to bed with you at once. hot chocolate, bed socks and day time tele for you. hope you feel better soon.

But feeling lousy is good ?

I had to go to bed for a hour when I got home from work last night - absolutely exhausted, and with a niggling headache that got bad enough to wake me up overnight. Still there, niggling - keep wondering if this is a symptom as I had headaches v v early on last time.

I need to STOP symptom spotting and do some work

AAArrrghhh more spotting last night, this time it was red too. I saw my doctor today, she did the booking in appintment anyway and said she'll ring the hospital for futher advice. But at the end of the day, as long as I'm being careful, there's nothing I can do, and that's the hard part. Sorry to rant.

Rant away Vjay

Fingers, toes, eyes and anything else I can cross firmly crossed that this is not anything sinister. Would your period have been due around now ?

Will be thinking of you

Thanks jools, it is so hard to stay strong and positive, I am trying....

Vjay hon - please call your EPU and request a scan tomorrow or thurs latest - dont they have a walk in clinic? Mine does mon-sat 7-11am. Even if they dont, with your history you should be able to request one to give you some peace of mind. I am crossing everything willing all to be well with you.. Where are you based? I'm here in London and using St Georges in Tooting which is great, even if you could get there for one? My heart aches for you cos I know the panic and worry you must be feeling, and as Isaid prev I had spotting for 2 weeks (week 6-8) last time but was fine til week 13 and spotting was unrelated to my loss as it was downs or worse. Spotting can be perfectly normal, and as Jools says. can happen when your period would have been due. I just want you to have peace of mind and get that scan cos worrying that poor little head of yours is no good! Fingers crosed hon xxxx

Aw isht vjay just checked your profile and see your in the highlands! London a bit far to come for a scan then?!?!? Hopefully you do have somewhere locally? Keep us posted.. xx

Vjay - sending positive vibes your way. I know you know all the stories of ladies who bled and were fine v ladies who bled and weren't and I know how utterly helpless you feel when the bleeding has stopped then a few days later starts up again and knocks any confidence out of you BUT it will be OK for you, I just feel it xx

vajy sending sticky vibes your way, you're emotions will be all over the place atm. All fingers and toes crossed for you hun, take care. And like jools says rant away anytime that's what we are here for.

vm you stay to your bed and take it as easy as possible, the tiredness won't last forever so time for you to be pampered now.

VJ thinking of you lots right now. I hope you are coping okay. Jools has a good point asking about whether AF would normally be due as apparently bleeding is a lot more normal around then. I'm sure you must be going up the walls - just try to hang in there sweetie.

VM I hope you are feeling better. I don't know if it would help but water biscuits, peppermint tea and a good nights sleep did wonders for me. Make sure you take it easy. And that goes for you too Scamper, 4ever and Mermaidspurse (Curlywurlee loves being bossy )

I was told paracetemol was okay too Jools, but advised not to take anything else. I so hope you get good news soon.

Oh and a big wave to everyone else

Thankyou, it seems to have stopped now. I looked at my diary last night and I've had 3 episodes of spotting each 5 days apart, so I've calculated when the next one will be! My GP is well aware of the situation and is seeing if I can get anither scan. I will keep you posted, and thankyou for your thoughts xxx

Good to hear things sound OK VJay - I was thinking of you last night. There was someone in my (our ) old antenatal thread that bled once every 3 - 5 days up to around 11 weeks and she is fine - a nervous wreck though ..

I'm feeling a bit crampy this morning - nothing major but abdomen is a bit tender and heavy. Trying not to get too excited in case I am imagining it. 8DPO today (I think)

Is today Barbie's moving day ?? Have a safe journey