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Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 2 xxxxx

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barbie1 · 08/11/2008 21:50

Hello to everyone coming over from the previous thread and for all the new girls who will sadly be joining us...
You will not find a better bunch of girls to help you through such a hard time, we will get through this with the help of each other xxxx

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scamperT · 30/11/2008 01:03

oh yes I'll second that! On that positive note, I'll say night night, hope the rest of your night shift goes quickly, and I also have a good feeling about 2009 for all of us

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 10:56

i havent had time to read from you all but thankyou for your kind wishes re my dad. Just had an update and he is still in, they found a blood clot on his lungs i cant quite believe it to be honest as my dad is the most active 53 year you would ever meet! I think i told you before he has been off work for three months now for a trapped nerve so its totally knocked him....not one day off sick since starting work at 16 and now this...Now im worried about him being able to fly when we move, too scared to ask
Last night was ok, too much drink was consumed and now my head is slightly sore! I think though i would of prefered to stay in and watch x factor and talk with you lot.
Hope you are all well, im off to catch up with all your post.
Love from barbie xxx

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VJay · 30/11/2008 11:36

Hi barbie, been thinking about you and your dad this morning, I suppose at least the doc's know what it is and can treat it.
Sounds like you had a good night though, what with the sore head
Talking of x-factor do you know who got booted off, I didn't watch the results.
Well it's snowing again up here, and seeing as the frost from 2 days ago hasn't thawed the snow is really sticking.
Hope you are all having lovely lazy Sunday mornings xx

VJay · 30/11/2008 17:59

Wow it's been quiet in here this weekend, DH is away and I've had no one to talk to . I hope you are all alright

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 18:01

hi vjay im here

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barbie1 · 30/11/2008 18:01

How are you? Im sat watching the re run of x factor, its freezing and my hangover is only just clearing!

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VJay · 30/11/2008 18:06

Poor you barbie I hope it was worth it . Have you found out who got booted out yet? I can't watch it cos ds is watching star wars.

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 18:13

yes do you want to know?

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VJay · 30/11/2008 18:14

Yes please. Hows your dad now?

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 18:16

ruth! My mum text last night while i was in town to tell me, bless her! Dad is doing ok, had a scan and having regular blood thinning injections...i feel a little helpless being up here, but then again there isnt anything i can do being down in devon x

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VJay · 30/11/2008 18:20

It's hard being so far away, but like you said there's not much you can do, just keep in touch with your mum. Am thinking of you, I know what it's like to be so far away, you feel a bit helpless don't you.
I can't believe Ruth got kicked out, I liked her rock chickyness....is that even a word
So are you ttc when dh gets back?

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 18:30

vjay Im trying not to put too much pressure on dh re ttc. My periods still havent shown, although i have got some browny coloured discharge today and im crying at everything so i hope my hormones have finally woken up
I think we will just see what happens...maybe really try in jan/ feb once we are settled in dubai.

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VJay · 30/11/2008 18:35

That's sounds like a good plan, it's going to be a bit hectic for you for a while. It's a bit hectic here at the moment, and my sil says that's when it'll happen, when we least expect it. I'm trying to be all cool and calm about it, the last 2 times I was temping etc, so I'm trying not to think about it this time .
Off to get ds ready for bed, he's just had his bath and has just sneaked past me to watch some more star wars, the cheeky monkey

VJay · 30/11/2008 19:19

Ds now in bed doing chewbacca impressions

MollieMooma · 30/11/2008 19:36

MM Thanks for the hand holding offer, I will accept it most gratefully and squeeze yours in return, glad you have made up with DH Good luck with your appt on Thurs is this to see the consultant?
Barbie So sorry to hear the bad news about your Dad, really hope he makes a full and speedy recovery x
VJay Can I book you to finish painting my bathroom for me??
Sabs Have you heard about your visas yet?
Scamper I am so glad you feel better about your sister's pg now, it's so hard isn't it? My SIL has her dating scan tomorrow, her first DS is only 8mths old Neither of them were particularly planned, some people get it so easy
Jools How are you feeling today hun? I agree with Scamper hormones play a huge part in how you are feeling and can stay in your system for a few weeks so don't expect a speedy return to normality. Obviously if you still feel unable to cope book to see your GP and have a chat, maybe some counselling would help, I find it very useful and would recommend it to anyone and everyone

scamperT · 30/11/2008 20:28

Evening girls.

Well, my DH and bro-in-law were in a lot of trouble when they finally came home at 4am this morning! Would have been ok apart from the fact that they didn't take any keys so I stayed awake for as long as poss, expecting them back around 1am. They were both a right state when they came back. They'd been in the local gay bar drinking with my ex and a couple of other friends, ironically one of the reasons I left my ex was his drinking! At least I didn't have to worry that they were out chatting up ladies I suppose. DH's wallet paid for my lack of sleep today as I forced him into greenwich to buy christmas decorations and a pub roast dinner [happy]

barbie really hope you get good news about your dad, and that he is being looked after. Must hit him hard not working, esp as he is usually so fit. Hopefully that will stand him in good stead for recovery tho. Enjoy the x factor re-run! I like Diana, she's flaky in quite a sweet way, but reckon Alexandra will win

mollie that must be hard, your SIL having her 2nd pg. I remember a childhood friend of mine texted me just after my 2nd mc to say that her DC number 2 is due in Jan, which is when my 2nd lost angel was due. I couldn't respond to her text for weeks. With sis, by the time they left today I'd almost forgotten she is pg, it was just like old times with us all mucking around and the boys being in trouble as usual. I'm now really looking forward to christmas and our holiday after with sis and bro-in-law, which is a relief

Vjay at your DS in bed doing star wars impressions! How old is he? He sounds like a cool little dude

Jools and Sabs you feeling any better today? Sabs I nearly posted here at 3am this morning with lots of faces at my DH! But was too tired. Hope you've made up with yours. Mine will continue to have to make it up to me for a few more days I reckon, but am not really any more.

Scamper waves to all the lovely ladies in our cave. Reckon we need a cozy open fire in here to keep us all toasty xxx

Sabs1981 · 30/11/2008 21:51

Molliemoolla sorry to hear about the knee. Hope its healing
barbie sorry to hear about about your dad. Hope he comes home soon...
VM good news about the scan! Will see you on the other side (thread) more often then??
mm good luck for your appointment this week.
jools know how you feel about the update thingies. I sent a whole bunch of things for freebies and info off when I found out I was pg. The other day I got a leaflet from Emma's diary, and am dreading the next few months where more things will come through the post
daisysmummy hope you're feeling better
scamperT yo-yo day, i like that, im going to use that phrase as well! You sound youre being la lovely supportive sister. I am sure you will be the best aunt in the world. I have a 3 year old niece (who is a right madam!) and 1 year old twin nieces who I just adore. My sis was so worried about bringing them over when I had the mc, but I love them to bits, they cheered me up no end. I love having them over, and hate handing them back again
heebeejeebee sending out lots of hugs to you (and anyone else who wants a hug off me)

Vjay thanks for your hug yesterday

Well I got my visa for India...am still a bit nervous about going to India, but hopefully things will have calmed down by the time I go there.
Reading all these posts about ovulation pains, I really need to check my body for OV pain this months...ive never noticed it b4....[hmmm]

Have made up with DH, had a good talk with him to explain that just because on the outside I might seem normal and getting over things, doesnt mean I am fine on the inside. I guess I will carry on feeling like this until we can start trying again. One month to go, i just need to be a bit more patient
Spent yesterday with my mum and sisters watching x-factor, then xtra factor, then x factor - the results and finished off with xtra factor-the results! I know how to lead an exciting life!

Waves to any1 else I have missed

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 21:59

sabs good news on your visa, hope you work out soon whether you still want to go. I cried at x factor and not just because of the awful miming brittany did! i have raging hormones, even snapped at dh when he called tonight i hope the bleeding continues in too tomorrow as the previous two attempts didnt get pass day 2

im waiting for you mm dh has deleted your email details by mistake so can you either resend them or ill text you the car details, sorry!

There is a alarm going off in the street and im going to bloody go over and pull the wires out myself soon if it doesnt stop, see i took you i have period hormones

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mm1509 · 30/11/2008 22:02

I'm here!!!

mm1509 · 30/11/2008 22:05

barbie just replied to your text, will forward on a message from my email tomorrow so your have it again. I am with you on the hormones, AF made her appearance today and I have been a grump ever since, dd picked the wrong day to play up.........

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 22:09

we might be cycle buddies!
The strangest thing happened to day and you will think im mad but here goes.....
I was walking the dog when i suddenly thought about you and thought you were going to tell me soon that you are pregnant, finished the rest of the walk wondering what i would by for the baby when it arrives and then panicked as i havent got your address to send the gift too! how weird, maybe its a sign!
I came home to log on straight away to see if i had missed a post or something

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barbie1 · 30/11/2008 22:15

right im in bed, lying down...i feel sick and more stomach is agony...this has to be the real deal right?!

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mm1509 · 30/11/2008 22:21

OMG and here is my thinking at least dh and I are being successfull tntc. Maybe it is a sign but atm I am terrified at the thought. Hopefully after Thurs I will feel a bit more positive but at much as I want to be preg I think I need some reassuances before I can give it another go. What a lovely thought thinking about what you would buy the baby, you really are a sweetheart. Don't you worry I will forward on my address for future reference. Where did all my positive thoughts go..........I feel as if I am back on a rollercoaster one day up the next down. Probably hormones talking here as there are certainly lots of them flying about atm.
Hopefully this is your AF so cycle buddies we are.

Hope you are feeling a little better now you know what is going on with your Dad, now he has been diagnosed he is in the right place but I can only imagine how you are feeling. You will see him soon but just be carefull you don't injure him even more when you give him mammoth hugs.

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 22:26

im day off thursday so will be glued on here for your good news and all clear from the hospital, tbh im not sure how i will feel about getting a bfp, i havent had the need to think about it, but with af finally showing up and dh home shortly i might need to think about it sooner rather than later! i know i will need loads of hand holding....
Spoke to dad just now, the naughty man has his phone on in the ward, he sounds relaxed and chirpy so thats good x

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barbie1 · 30/11/2008 22:28

I cant believe i have been wishing this day to come, im in agony and now im freaking in cast three months of blood comes out! even though i know that wont happen....

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