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Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 2 xxxxx

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barbie1 · 08/11/2008 21:50

Hello to everyone coming over from the previous thread and for all the new girls who will sadly be joining us...
You will not find a better bunch of girls to help you through such a hard time, we will get through this with the help of each other xxxx

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mm1509 · 30/11/2008 22:34

Lol at your dad using his phone, a little rebelious...... Talking to him will have helped put your mind at ease a little. My appointment is at 1:45 so by the time we get home from Glasgow and pick up dd it will probably be about tea time before I can post but it will help knowing you are thinking about us, thank you. I am having mixed emotions about the appointment, deep down I am glad to be going but I guess now there is no more hiding away from the reality of the situation which I think I have been doing a little.
Lots of hand holding is going to be happening in the coming months for us all.......mm practices her grip.

mm1509 · 30/11/2008 22:36

Oh hotwater bottle for barbie...... Actually when you are saying that I am getting a lot of discomfort from the side my cyst is on, never noticed this before, it actually woke me up today.
Men get off soooooo lightly.

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 22:41

maybe facing up to reality will help you in the long run, as hard as it might seem. Remember whatever happens there will be help for you so thats a positive. You can and will face whatever the outcome from the appointment, Some times positive thoughts are enough to get you through so im going to be your posive thought from now on ok I will pop up every where only telling you the positive stuff, so strap yourself in for the rollercoaster ride starting now until thursday 2.30 pm and then you can unstrap yourself and get off the darn thing! May i suggest the teacups as an easier and more relaxed option next time?

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mm1509 · 30/11/2008 22:51

What would I do without you.....I am actually laughing out loud, got a few strange looks there. This is why I love our chats hun, probably even more so since we met.
You make me so humble - all that you have going on atm and here you are making me laugh, you really have been sent from heaven. Someday soon your little dd or ds (or both) will be blessed to have you as their mummy.
God I am nearly in tears, hormones raging here thinks mm.

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 23:01

now you can stop that right now >> You nearly bloody made me cry
Im glad i made you laugh, you see thats why im going to stalk you all week and pop up unexpectedly to make you laugh some more
easier option

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mm1509 · 30/11/2008 23:11

Oh I need that tissue fast......my own personal stalker, got a certain ring to it don't you think. Thank you so much, came in here tonight like a raging bull (well at least the hormones were raging) and now I am sitting here laughing, crying but very much calmer. Negative vibes are 'slowly' moving away. I am so glad we are chat (and rl) buddies, if I wasn't for mn where would we all be.

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 23:17

we would be either
a] in a pub drowning our sorrows
b] tucked up in bed at a reasonable hour instead of mumnetting
c] at a counseling session/ or aa meeting
d] in prison due to kidnapping another ladies baby or killing a pregnant lady with a evil look
e] In a straight jacket

Personally im glad we are here!

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mm1509 · 30/11/2008 23:36

I hate to say it but a combination of a,d and e sound likely. Most likely resulting in e eventually. I need to go for now, work calling, but you have really cheered me up tonight. Hope your tummy settles down hun, night night.

barbie1 · 30/11/2008 23:37

night night glad you are smiling now x

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VillageMum · 01/12/2008 09:29

Hello everyone, sorry to have been so absent, RL is really taking over at last! Don't have time to read through the HUUUUGE backlog of posts but just wanted to send ((hugs)) and a big hello to you all. xx

Heebeejeebee · 01/12/2008 14:35

Hi all

I've been trying to rest for the past couple of days, but need a bit of help. Did anyone have an ERPC? I didn't have any bleeding for the first couple of days, but since yesterday (TMI alert) have had a regular bloody discharge when I wipe. Yesterday I had bad cramps for most of the day and passed some stringy clots. Does this sound normal to people? Just can't wait for it to be over..

Hello to everyone x

Jools1 · 01/12/2008 16:19

Sorry HBJB - I haven't had an ERPC so can't really comment - I did get some stringy brown clots though and some cramping, after all the other bleeding had finished

I have a question actually - when the MC happened, I saw Gynae Emergency for an internal, then had a scan and wee test in the EPU 2 days later. I had a conversation with my GP on the phone. However, I've had no follow-up or blood tests - not sure whether I should have done or not ? How do they know it wasn't a molar pg for example ?

Back later to catch up with everyone else - work is mad today !

Heebeejeebee · 01/12/2008 16:46

Thanks Jools. I seem to remember that after the 1st one they said I could bleed for 7 days. After a bit of googling today I've read 7-10 is normal, so I'll see how things go and call them on Monday if it hasn't eased. The cramps have gone though.

After the 1st mc (I had an emergency ERPC) I was told to go to see my gp after 4-6 weeks. I went sooner for a certificate for work and he said unless there were any problems, I didn't need to come back and see him. I've read about other people having to go back for hcg tests etc, but I wasn't offered these either (I finally got a bfn after 3 weeks). Re the molar pregnancy, I suspect that they would be able to tell from your scan if there were signs of a molar pregnancy, and as they haven't mentioned it, they are probably confident you haven't had one.

VJay · 01/12/2008 17:04

Hello, just spent ages reading through all the posts you chatty lot! barbie and mm being the main culprits
scamper ds is 6, maybe a little young for star wars, but he loved it, especially chewbacca.
Glad you got visa sabs.
Hello vm, I've missed you, I am really enjoying your book xx
heebee, I had an ERPC after 1st mc, I bled for a few days, but that was it.
Hello to everyone else, .Got to go and start the tea, Dh is on a night shift so will be back on later xx

VJay · 01/12/2008 19:27

Could any of you tell me what ovulation pains feel like, are they like period pains? I'm on CD12 and last night and this afternoon have had low down period type pains, I only normally get these type pains around af time, so wondered if it was ov pain, any ideas?

barbie1 · 01/12/2008 19:59

hi *vjay it could be, i usually get an ache on one side, normally my left, last for 24 hours or so and then nothing until my af...

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Sabs1981 · 01/12/2008 20:18

Hello ladies hope you all had a good Monday.

I've had a really crappy day couldnt sleep properly at night and had a really bad nightmare. Don't want to scare anyone with the details but it had to do with losing a baby, it left me upset the whole day.

Work isnt helping either, too many office politics, and all the time I was thinking that stuff like that is so petty, when there are people in the world have bigger problems...Also find out this week if i'm being made redundant or not

Bless DH, he's trying really hard to cheer me up. My digital box isnt working either, so cant even watch America's Next Top Model

Away i'll stop going on, dont want to bore anyone with my depressing life

barbie1 · 01/12/2008 20:21

ah sabs come and sit with me in the miserable corner, i had a bit of a teary day, thinking is my hormones due to spotting but i sat crying in the middle of the shopping mall today on the phone to dh, and i mean sobbing loudly, oh the shame everyone was looking at me! was worried about my dad, tired and just bloody emotional .....

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VJay · 01/12/2008 20:33

Oh sabs and barbie, you are both having such a crappy time at the moment, I'm sorry my lovlies, hugs coming your way {{{hugs}}}.
My pains have gone now, maybe it is ov pains, a bit early, but we'll see.

Sabs1981 · 01/12/2008 20:33

barbie i'm pulling up a big fat bean bag next to you where i where I can just sink into.

Sorry to hear you didnt have a good day either. How's your dad doing?

My nan's still in hospital as well. It been over 3 weeks.
Its Eid next Monday (religious festival for Muslims) so we're hoping she'll be home by then. My mum's planning on going up North to be with her parents.

mm1509 · 01/12/2008 20:46

Hi barbie and sabs, hate you hear both of you having such a bad time today.

sabs I had some strange dreams after my mc, they can be unsettling but try not to dwell on them, well certainly not the sad ones.

barbie oh hun, sounds like everything is catching up today.........you have had so much to deal with the last few months and without dh by your side for support. I guess it is your dad's illness that has brought everything to a head and the fact he is back in Devon, it will leave you feeling helpless but your dad's getting the best treatment and dh will be home soon. You are so strong and you just need to hang on a little longer. Good times are ahead. Sending the biggest hugs thru this mac for you.

mm1509 · 01/12/2008 20:46

Hi vjay didn't see you there!!!!!

barbie1 · 01/12/2008 20:46

Im ok, just spoke to dad...he is still waiting for more test, should of been seen at 10am this morning...bloody nhs for you I think if i wasnt hormonal i would be coping so much better, damn the horrid little things!
sabs i hope your nan is home soon, what about your visa situation?

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mm1509 · 01/12/2008 20:57

hate to hear not hate you hear.......doh

barbie1 · 01/12/2008 21:00

mm i missed your post! im ok, really i am....the muffin i have just eaten helped lots
I hope you are happier today, i have been laughing about the tea cups all day!

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