Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 2 xxxxx

[barbie1]

Hello to everyone coming over from the previous thread and for all the new girls who will sadly be joining us...
You will not find a better bunch of girls to help you through such a hard time, we will get through this with the help of each other xxxx

Hi vm, I'm diy-ing today, I'm currently painting the ceiling in ds's berdroom, and I'm absolutly covered in whtie spots....splatter proof paint my a@#e!

VM So pleased the scan went well and you've been given the all clear. Shame it doesn't take away all the feelings of terror now associated with trying again though so I'll send you some positive thoughts instead
Barbie Oh dear Sorry to hear about your rather large bill for the car, perfect timing for Christmas!
MM Sounds like you need some TLC lovely lady, I think falling out with DH is par for the course and happens for many reasons, sometimes cos they don't understand other times because it's easy to pick a fight even when you don't want to, it sort of takes the focus off one pain and introduces another. Don't beat yourself about it though, he'll be there for you when you need him and in the meantime you've got us >
Blue Hope you have a good weekend
Sabs Not sure whether to say good luck for the visa outcome or not
Hello to everyone else
Mollie now runs out after stealing one of the big hugs Vjay has on offer!

vm dh and I will be fine he knows what I am like by now, (not that am admiting to being in the wrong now) but you are right I don't think he understands the fears attached to this appointment. I was asking about the christmas tree as I am dying to get our tree up now, I won't of course it's still just a little too early but I love christmas dd is just at the perfect age. See I am trying to be positive..........

vjay lol at the splatterproof paint it's just a DIY myth..........enjoy

Hi all

Thanks for the good wishes. Yesterday seemed to go very well. I've had minimal bleeding since (though have to admit to still being in bed ). Got home around 7pm as I had to wait for the anti-d jab. My consultant wants to see me in Jan and she'll discuss further hormone testing then. Unfortuntly I asked my private health insurers while I was checking I was covered for the ERPC, and they said they wouldn't cover hormone investigations into m/c until after my 3rd m/c, so I need to check with her whether I was supposed to say if they were for fertility issues? I've got an apointment to see the same consultant in her nhs clinic in March anyway..

How's this for ironic? I'm waiting to go down to theatre and I get a call from the midwife asking me why I hadn't turned up to my booking in appointment? The EP midwife said she would cancel my appointments..

Barbie - sounds like the appointment was tough (though just to confirm, follicles are good!), and DEFINITELY not helped by the car - bet you were glad when yesterday was over. All my scans have been in the same room, apart from the clomid ones which are in xray for some reason and the last scan I lay there with my eyes shut..

Jools - definitely sounds like ov pains!

mm - hope things get back to normal rapidly

VM - glad your scan went well - if you find the key to not being scared about trying again, please let me know for the new year!

Vjay - lol at pain!

Blue - have a good weekend south of the border!

Waves to mollie and everyone else!

mm sounds as if you have a good marriage and as if he's a good guy!
Mollie, you're so right about the reasons for picking fights... how true!
Talking of which, I'll be in trouble if I don't go and lend a hand upstairs!

mollie my lovely......you will get tears from me yet. Yes I think you have hit the nail on the head, but then again we are in similar circumstances so you will know me well. Is your appointment also next week? How is your knee hun, hope you are getting the chance to recuperate. Thank you so much for the much needed hugs atm, sending some back for you.

Glad to hear you're not feeling too bad Heebee MM - I can sympathise. Now I'm back at work, DP is struggling to be so understanding and really didn't understand my tears last night until I sat him down and explained this morning. I guess all we can do is make sure we keep talking

VillageMum - I remember you talking about bad OV pains, so was wondering if this is what I was feeling - if so, I really really hope the egg isn't quite on its way yet, so I can perhaps get some BD'ing in tonight

When I conceived, I had OV pains early on a Thursday evening - pounced on DP that night, then had OV pains the next day aswell - unheard of, so I harboured a secret theory that I'd laid two eggs and was having twins !! Oh well, guess I'll never know

Fingers crossed I haven't laid my egg yet - don't want to wait another 4 weeks (stamps foot in a tantrum - I WANNABE pregnant NOW ! )

heebee glad to hear that yesterday went as planned. Don't feel guilty about staying in bed, the day after my ERPC I tried to do too much and paid the price for days afterwards. As for the midwife calling you, it is horribly ironic. Take care xxx

HeeBee Glad all went as well as can be expected, sorry to hear about MW mix up bloody typical! Take it easy, remember we're here when you need us
Jools LOL at you jmping DH, poor thing will be knackered if you keep this up
MM My consultant appt is week on Tuesday, just trying to expect the worst so I won't be disappointed if he says it was just bad luck and to try again. Still TnTC as I want to give the next pg a chance to succeed don't really want to go for 4 in a row
just in case there's something I can do to prevent in. Keep your chin up

Just got one of those weekly update thingies that won't let me unsubscribe - email title "you are 15 weeks pregnant"

jools I got and update after my mc and if it is from mn then you have to change your profile to not preg, then it should stop sending them.

mollie yes we are in exactly the same boat, that is the reason we are also tntc. I really hope we both get the answers we crave, if they do say just bad luck then I really don't know if I can do this again.......the thought of 4 in a row is too difficult to comprehend. Trying to stay positive but it is all coming out now I'm afraid. Lets hold hands and get thru this together hun. mm xxx

It is a Cow and Gate one that I can't get rid of - don't even remember signing up to it and, to unsubscribe you have to log on to the site but I can't log on - have emailed them to ask them to remove me but that was over a week ago.

I've just set it to go into my junk email folder now so I don't have to see it.

I wonder if I will get a call from the midwife next week - was supposed to make an appt and see her again at 16 weeks

It is a Cow and Gate one that I can't get rid of - don't even remember signing up to it and, to unsubscribe you have to log on to the site but I can't log on - have emailed them to ask them to remove me but that was over a week ago.

I've just set it to go into my junk email folder now so I don't have to see it.

I wonder if I will get a call from the midwife next week - was supposed to make an appt and see her again at 16 weeks

Hi everyone sorry i cut short this morning, i realized the time and the laptop went completely flat....
My day has been ok, the usual end of month paper work and a mad dash around the shops to buy something new to wear tomorrow night, oh how i hate all the new shapes out right now i have a small waist but child bearing hips (if only!) and everything is big and flouncy around the hip area making me look like one on the dolls you place over the toilet roll so ended up with two new tops only to come home and decide on a vest top i havent worn yet, still with tags on from last xmas! so im going to be sensible and wear with jeans and heels, well i am a married women after all, no short skirts for me

mm oh dear, i hope you and dh of yours are now talking, you are so a cute couple, i must admit to shouting, crying, and generally back answering my dh just before the appointment and even more after because of the frustration, unfortuantly men can never fully understand, thats why we are here!

heebee i hope you are resting up and taking it easy my love?

jools fingers crossed you have ovualted, i saw a tiny tiny amount of pinky discharge today, i could of cried with happiness, its gont now though....least i have follicles!!!

vjay my hairdresser freaked this week, she had no idea what the stripes of white were in my hair, she thought the junior had dont something to it, the paint has been in there weeks!

Hi to everyone else, im just about to have some dinner yum yum xxxx

barbie only on quickly tonight but had to come on to say goodnight to you while I got the chance. DH and I are sharing a bottle of wine and are fine now, tbh when I came home from work tonight last night was pretty much forgot about, he is an angel..............oh dear is that the wine talking now. So glad to hear you are going out to have some fun tomorrow, I always hate the thought of your being there on your own so really hope you have a great time tomorrow. By the way don't go knocking your figure I have seen you and you could wear anything and still look good............not the wine talking now. While I remember phoned the hospital today and my appointment is Thurs so not too long now. I am sure I will got thru the whole range of emotions before then. Have you made an appointment to see your GP?
Will be working tomorrow night if you come in and feel like a drunken chat.
Anyway got to go now but just had to say goodnight and wish you sweet dreams hun. mm xxx

Thanks mm glad to hear you are having a nice evening, only a week or so til dh home, so you dont have to worry about me, although i have to say its nice that you do, makes me smile
Thursday isnt too long at all, i have the docs then too so we can compare notes, hope your dh is going with you...
If i can work out how to turn on the computer when i get home tomorrow i will certainly come and entertain you! xxx Sweet dreams xxxx

Yes dh is going with me, if in any doubt the thought of a bill for £850 would convince him. If you want drop me a text with the details of your car and the damage and dh can give you an idea what you should be paying.
Right need to go now getting some frowns my way now but for the record I will always worry about your at least a little, that's what I am here for. Take care hun and have a great time tomorrow. xxx

hi all i really don't know how u all got through this im really struggling with things at mo just feel like falling deeper in to depression thanks all 4 ur support

Hidaisy it is so hard, there is nothing you can do but just take it a day at a time. In the beginning I cried for days, then I'd have a day when I didn't cry, then the tears would come back, and so on, but you've just got to let that happen, don't hold back how you're feeling, but it will get easier to deal with as time goes by.

Loving your book at the mo vm, I've not had chance to read much the last couple of weeks, but picked it up again last night and read for ages. Maybe if I spent less time on here I could read more

Afternoon all.

daisysmummy yes it is hard, I guess we all have some better days and then some worse ones. Yesterday I had a little chink of sanity when I really felt like the old me, and life felt full, without being pregnant. But today am down again. Write some more on here, we are all here for you. How's daisy mai? I love her name, its so pretty.

More in a sec, just wanted to post to daisy first...

Back again until DH yells at me to get off the computer...

barbie hope you have a fab night out tonight hon, are you going dancing too? Also hope AF shows up soon for you

jools about your cow and gate email, its the last thing you need. LOL at your foot stamping, I am feeling exactly the same! DH says 'its not a race' but I can't help feeling that the whole world will have babies before I do. 4 months since my 2nd mc, I'm on day 30 of cycle, but did a test last night and no BFP {sad] Arthur the cat is being a rubbish baby substitute as he's buggered off to have adventures today and refused to be cuddled.

mm and mollie really hope you get some answers from your appointments coming up. I guess in a way you don't want to be told 'its just bad luck, keep trying' even tho that would mean there was no specific problem. It must take a lot of courage to start thinking about ttc again

heebee hope you are still taking it easy and being looked after

sabs curlee how are you both? Hope you're feeling more positive than I am.

I can't remember which one of you ladies said mc is like the silent sadness which is not spoken about, but I agree.

Oh grrrr to feeling down on a saturday!! Am also being mean and snappy with DH. Really need to pull myself out of this before my sis and her DH arrive later today

(((hugs))) all round from a glum scamper about to distract herself with cake

When does post MC sadness and hormones become clinical depression that needs treatment ?

I have had a diabolical 24 hours - it feels like the world is falling apart and this isn't baby-related but the same feelings I had when I was diagnosed with mild depression a good few years ago - can see no future, no point in life and don't want to do anything or eat anything. I just get angry when people talk about Christmas and don't want to participate in the slightest. I struggled to even get out of bed this morning and can't bring myself to do ANYTHING more than sit on the sofa and cry

I started thinking about going to see a GP, then started worrying about the effect being back on citalopram would have on TTC Do I need to give the hormones more time to settle down before assuming this is depression and I need help ? Its been 2.5 long weeks now

oh jools honey I cross posted with you. So sorry to hear you are in a bad way. Wish I was there to give you a hug and share my chocolate brownie with you. Must be something in the air today making us all sad

I really can recommend acupuncture, despite my sad feelings today, because at least the edge has been taken off the desperation and I do feel calmer. The advantage is that it can't do any harm if ttc. A lot of places I researched also offered a space to talk about post mc feelings. If you google acupuncture and mc then lots of info will come up.

Altho it must feel like an eternity, after 2.5 weeks I'd bet that your hormones are still the main culprit for how you are feeling. I still had a positive pg test 3 weeks after mc, so the hormones must stick around for a while.

but maybe you could go to your GP anyway and talk it over? Perhaps the Misscarriage Association could offer some advice? I have their number if you don't already have it. Keep talking on here too

massive (((HUGS))) to you honey XXXX

hi jools and scamper sorry to hear you are both so down today. Jools it does take time, plus you're back to work so probably feeling tired. When I'm tired everything seems 10 times worse than it is. I've had mild depression before, and after my 1st mc thought I was heading back that way, but about 4 weeks after mc I started to feel better, the cloud started to lift, if you get my meaning. Don't be too hard on yourself, it does take time. Thinking of you both xx