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Being Pregnant after a Miscarriage

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Katherine · 13/01/2003 09:57

Hi Wills, everyone - don't feel ready to join the pregnancy threads yet as I don't want to tempt fate so as promised - here is what is hopefully a happier thread to vent that stress as the time crawls by. Need to confirm my booking in appointment with my mw today

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suedonim · 12/02/2003 13:46

Best wishes, Marina, and all the other pg mums.

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Wills · 12/02/2003 14:06

Mariana - You've bought tears to my eyes (I get stunningly emotional when pregnant). I'm typing from work where of course no-one knows yet so this is a major bit of subtefuge (but my computer at home has broken and its agony no real long sessions mumsnetting). When are you due (or would you rather not say yet?). Tell me about the nuchal scan - what happens. My hospital still hasn't sent me a date and wont do any abnormality checking until 20-22 weeks which seems really late to start telling you something's wrong.

Did Baby wave? Can you feel anything like Katherine yet? Do tell, I'm "hungry" to hear more good stuff.

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bells2 · 12/02/2003 14:33

Fab news Marina!!

thumper · 12/02/2003 14:35

That's wonderful news Marina. Take care of yourself.

CookieMonster · 12/02/2003 14:40

Brilliant news Marina - many congrats to you and your family

Janus · 12/02/2003 15:27

Marina, I'll second Wills comments about pregnancy hormones making you so emotional as I am in tears from your posting. Take special care of yourself. xx

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Katherine · 12/02/2003 15:46

Marina I'm so please for you. My EDD is now 9th August? What about you? I've not even considered what will happen in August before now. Its such a hard road isn't it. And even now I'm past my milestones I still worry. Fabulous news though. Congratulations.

Wills - yes I have felt movement. Started just as I turned 13 weeks although at first I dismissed it as wind. But as time has gone on I've become more certain. Its still very faint - mostly felt when lying in the bath or in bed but it is a great comfort.

(one each eh!)

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star · 12/02/2003 16:30

Marina,just noticed this-fantastic news and congrats and all thatI'm made up for you.

Paula1 · 12/02/2003 16:50

I'm so pleased for you Marina. I remember that your little boy would have been due around the same time as my dd, and I often think about you. best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy

bayleaf · 12/02/2003 17:01

Great to hear from you - I was wondering how you were keeping just yesterday . You must have a proper bump by now so no hiding it in real life for much longer I suppose.
Take care
bayleaf
x

clucks · 12/02/2003 17:06

Great news marina, thinking of you!

Caroline5 · 12/02/2003 17:12

Fantastic news, Marina!

batey · 12/02/2003 18:03

Brilliant news, all the best.........

Ems · 12/02/2003 19:07

Congratulations Marina, that is wonderful and happy news!

Demented · 12/02/2003 21:50

Fantastic news Marina, all the best over the next few weeks, thinking of you!

jessi · 12/02/2003 22:49

Many congratulations Marina and well done for keeping it a secret for so long. Take care.

jasper · 12/02/2003 22:57

great news Marina.
Many congratulations.

pupuce · 13/02/2003 08:01

Marina - and I was wondering yesterday how you were doing... thought of writing to you.... this is SUCH good news. Will keep my fingers cross.............
Lots of cyber hugs xxxx
Pupuce

Marina · 13/02/2003 11:09

Wow, thank you all so much for all these lovely messages. It's really helped me to start thinking we have something to be happy about now (I didn't post earlier because there have been times when I was very depressed about the timing - due same month as Tom died, etc). But now I feel I can give myself permission to smile about it at last!
Katherine, we are now ONE day apart. I'm due 8th August. And like you, since my nuchal and booking-in, I've begun to cautiously think about August. Two very special babies, 250 miles apart...what a nice coincidence .
Wills, my nuchal scan was a joy. We get them automatically in my HA once you hit 35, but this time we put in a plea not to be seen by a doctor from the Harris, which we were with Tom. His scanning technique was hideously intrusive and lacking in sensitivity, I remember thinking that at the time. This time I got an "ordinary" sonographer from the hospital and he was such a great guy. He was able to show me the healed site of the small bleed that had me virtually suicidal a month ago, we got a good picture of bean doing the thumbs-up, and best of all, we got a lower Downs risk calculation for this little one than we did with Tom. So we could opt out of CVS, which is offered to all women of 39 in my HA, without a qualm. I hope you get similar sensitive and supportive treatment, Wills, all women deserve it, especially those who have lost a baby.
The best thing for me in all this paradoxically, is going back to the same hospital where Tom was bborn. It's not a high-powered teaching hospital, but they have a wonderful Head of Midwifery and the staff in Women's Services are all clearly happy if a bit over-worked. I trundled along the ante-natal corridor feeling really special, several people were pleased to see us back. We're getting one-to-one support from the Bereavement Midwife - she did my booking-in so I didn't have to explain anything about Tom, and my consultant said, in the nicest possible way, that he didn't want to see me until 36 weeks and that was when he next expected to see me. We were also able to discuss Tom's death again and I now felt strong enough to ask and get answers to some difficult questions.

musica · 13/02/2003 12:15

Congratulations Marina - I'm really really pleased for you. I hope you're feeling ok, not too tired or sick!

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Katherine · 13/02/2003 13:49

Marina you must really have been feeling all over the place. I am so glad to are managing to feel positive now - and special. It is such a special time.

I've been feeling a bit low today as I've got this terrible cough and am sure something is going to pop. Its so bad now that I'm "leaking" a bit and of course although I know what it is I can't help panicking that its the other sort of leaking. I've not felt any little twitches since yesterday either so think I need a nice long soak in the bath with a bar of chocolate!

Suddenly realised that I've only got 2 pairs of trousers I can fit into and we are going on holiday next week and the cottage has no WM. Tried to order some trousers from JoJo only to be told a week later they were out of stock so tried Tesco.com. Their maternity trousers are all reduced to £8.99 and they have some lovely cords but won't arrive until after half-term. So I spent the morning in M&S buying tracksuit bottoms - maybe I should buy a baseball cap too

Bump is looking enormous now. I guess my muscles have really packed up and left home. I look about 6 months instead of 14 weeks. Don't suppose there will be any hiding it once we get back from holiday.

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Rhubarb · 13/02/2003 14:22

Best of luck to you Marina, Katherine and Wills xxx