Being Pregnant after a Miscarriage

[Katherine]

Hi Wills, everyone - don't feel ready to join the pregnancy threads yet as I don't want to tempt fate so as promised - here is what is hopefully a happier thread to vent that stress as the time crawls by. Need to confirm my booking in appointment with my mw today

Wills

Wills, Katherine, I too am the victim of the Trickle...but at 29 weeks am obviously less worried about it than you
...but I know pregnancy does stimulate the production of - ahem - extra secretions

Another trickler here, 28 weeks so like Bundle a lot less worrying. Have resorted to wearing panty liners now also useful cos I keep having little pee accidents when I sneeze if my bladder is a bit full! Oh the joys of motherhood eh!
Seriously, hope Wills,Katherine and Ghosty are all hanging in there, it seems like an eternity but believe me you will soon be waddling around with a lovely big bump
Take care of yourselves

Brilliant - that neatly answered my question of how long do the errh extra excretions (brilliant description) last for. The problem I'm having is that my memories of my first pregnancy appear to have been wiped out by the mc. I'm too nervous to consult a book (like I did during dd's pregnancy) and therefore end up wondering all the time. Still getting lovely bouts of queasiness and have decided to buy additional padding for my breasts. Not that they aren't doing a brilliant impression of Dolly Parton's already its just that they are soooo sore and every time I go out in the cold it feels like someone's trying to twist them off. But I'm not complaining - I'd worry far more if they didn't hurt so in an extraordinary way its comforting.

Wills I know what you mean about the amnesia. I had 2 healthy pg before my mc and yet I'm so bogged down by the memory of the mc that I'm not actually thinking about the pg at all. I never really think about there being a baby in there. Just about whether I'm trickling or spotting or some other horror. This week for the first time I got a pg book out and looked at what the baby would be like now - size of a large lime apparently and more or less fully formed. I feel quite bitter that I'm just not enjoying this side at all as the other memories blank it all out. But hey you know there probably is a fully formed baby in there wriggling about. Wow!

This week is quite tough. I feel SO sick and I'm so tired. DS is exhausted from school and has to crawl up the stairs at night - I know just how he feels. I'd forgotten the leaden feeling you get in your limbs as if you just can't move any more. Also its now week 11 - good news in that week 12 and the MW are in sight next Wenesday. Bad news in that I have had one mc at 11.5 weeks and one at 11.6 weeks so I'm a bit paranoid and convinced that if it is going to happen then it will be this week. One day at a time though. Only 5 days to go until (please please please) I get to hear the heart beat and hopefully some wriggles soon.

Katherine, I had mine at 8 weeks and I agree that I felt awful during that week. I'm still waiting for week 14 though and will be far happier when the little one start to kick.

I looked at a book the other day and couldn't workout whether I'm in week 9 or 10. I'm 9 weeks 5 days today so that suggests I'm in week 10 and at the end of it I will be "logically speaking" 10 weeks. Would anyone agree/disagree? The book goes on to describe week 14 as being part of the second trimester but I thought you didn't enter the second trimester until after you were 14 weeks.

Hi Wills - I would say you are week 9 but I might be wrong these things are confusing. I think you are 9 weeks which makes it the 7th week of gestation. Crumbs how complicated. I think the second trimester begins at the end of the 13th week i.e. once you go into week 14. Can't wait.

Feeling very fed up. Have finally started to get some confidence in this pg even though this week is the "tense" week when I have to pass my worst milestones. However decided to tell one of my friends today so phoned up to arrange to meet. First thing she said was "oh congratulations". SIL had beaten me to it - AGAIN! I felt so disappointed and flattened. I tried to laugh it off but I just felt like bursting into tears. Why do people think its OK to steal your thunder like this

I think she real mean to do that to you Katherine and very disrespectful of your feelings - knowing that these first few weeks are not easy for you.Having said that I would be inclined to leave it - don't let it bother you -keep focusing on your visit to the m/w this week.
We are all thinking of you and hoping that very soon you'll feel those first kicks.

Love xxx

Katherine - I don't know how you are coping with this - I am bad enough!! Every time I see your conversation jump into the 'Active Conversations' list - I open it with dread. Glad to see that you are still doing ok.

Katherine - I'm so sorry that's awful to steal your thunder. You're probably working hard at keeping is secret too - torn between wanting to announce it to the world and desperately not wanted to jinx it. How many more days until you reach the first milestone of 12wks? Wish I was as close. Best wishes and thinking of you.

Thanks Wills - its tomorrow! And I see my MW tomorrow too so I'm really hoping she'll pick up the HB which will really put a smile on my face.

Every time I meet up with friends I think "OK I will tell them today" but every time I wimp out and feel chuffed with myself for keeping it a secret. Its only a few close friends that I have chosen to tell because they have gone through everything else with me.

Woppeeeee. Everything was fine. Even heard the heartbeat loud and clear. I have now passed my milestones. I do beleive I might be having a baby!

Wills how long have you got to go yet?

Hi Katherine - what brilliant news, I am delighted for you Wishing you all the best for the rest of your pregnancy.
Melly xx

Katherine, that's great news

Fantastic!! Enjoy your pregnancy.

Pleased to hear it Katherine!

Katherine - that's fabulous to hear. You've really brightened my day. I'm having a really blue day and feeling really down in the dumps about this so its great to hear good news. Unfortuantely I still have another 11 days to go to get to 12 weeks and as yet haven't been informed of when I will have a scan. I don't think I will feel happier until I've had that SCAN. It feels like a long way away and so its really great to hear your news - thanks

Sorry - wanted to add these but keep forgetting how to do them between postings.

But the big question is.....

Will you only be going to the loo when you need to?

Wonderful news Katherine I really hope that its a happy,relaxed pregnancy from now on.You deserve it.
Wills hopefully you'll be posting the same news very soon.

Katherine - have been waiting with bated breath for that news .... fantastic !! Now relax and enjoy this special time ...

Wonderful news Katherine!!!

Oh, Katherine - I need a smilely that's looking happy and tearful at the same time, but in a good way and another one for Wills that's hopeful and encouraging and sympathetic.

Congratulations! Great news.