missed miscarriage, just sat here waiting.....

[dramaqueen72]

anyone out there relate to this? this is my second missed m/c, tho i had a baby inbetween. the shock of a diasterous scan still hurts like mad i found out yesterday. i now have to wait a week for a rescan, and then choose how i want ot proceed. either a eprc (d&c), or pills to force m/c, or 'sit and wait' with poss return to surgery. absolutely crap awful choices. i feel so numb and like my life is on hold. still havent told hardly anyone but struggling to day to appear 'normal' and jolly.
bloatella if youre out there......i couldnt find your thread so am wittering away on this one.

george, which exercise dvds are they,I'm too scared to look!

morning girl think today is cycle day one for me, so happy to be at the start of fresh cycle and working towards my christmas baby
sorry you and dh arent talking right now....men! duh! i take it thats his way of saying he missed you?!
apple crumble? m, yummy, might just do apple pis for tea actually, sounds like a pie kinda day today, comfort food is the best! its bloody freezing here, and i'm almost as far south as uk goes so you'd think it would be warmer!!!
posted some 'slightly' contraversal reply posts earlier and actually nervous about any fall out from them!!! remembered to change name on one but not both ! oops. mumsnet is pretty scary off our threads sometimes....
anyhow, have a good sunday everyone, off to do some shopping, then may well bake thro afternoon LOL
have you tested bonkerz? how v exciting!

PMSL! of course i meant apple PIE for tea...

dq, I know just what you mean about controversial posts. It can be a harsh place somethimes can't it? I was thinking just this morning (when I was reading the thread about being a 'thread killer')how lucky and comfortable I feel on this thread and how welcome and unjudged I feel here (and on our ttc thread too). I've been on threads in the past and had fingers wagging at me quite quickly and really not liked it at all.
Love your posts by the way!
dh and i thawing nicely! I am still a slattern in pjs and fleece and would be scaring the horses if there were any to see me. Hope all are well.

havent tested yet cos am not sure what the chances are that i have ovulated since D&C. No af yet either though and am starting to get a little concerned. Been having lots of fun with dh so there is always the chance.
Will probably wait till next weekend to test. What would you lot recommend?

how long is it now bonkerz? four to six wks is the norm for af to show.
mines here but abit pathetic. ie; not alot. i am assuming thats normal, read it somewhere i know i did!, just that one of the other girls got a heavier af first time....so confused DQ.
test at four and then five and then six wks i think sounds good. fingers crossed for you.
Girl glad the big thaw has been going on. hd are nice really. mines very 'in the mood'...LOL the only week i'm not!!!! funny man. hes so excited to have actual dates to 'get busy' that hes raring to go, me- i'm on chill out mode with af here cant do much else! next week is my payday and shopping week so should pass the time fairly well!! i'm already impatient to get to the ttc bit, what i'll be like in a week is going to be terrible!!!

oh god, must learn to think as fast as i type. meant DH not hd, obviously,
you'll just all have to get used to my spelling. we need spell check!

will be 4 weeks on tuesday that i had the op so will test at weekend as planned if no af! Am resigned to the fact that no matter when i get pregnant i will spend the whole 12 weeks thinking the pregnancy was not viable anyway so waiting to concieve isnt going to help at all.

Hi folks - I hate it when the 'Threads I'm on' shows zero in the last 72 hours because it makes me realise how long since I last posted!! Anyway on Friday (one week after op) I had what looked like AF but sounds like you DQ - rather pathetic. Very odd to be so quick after op so I'm not sure what it was/is (still there but weak). I stopped bleeding from op the next day so it's nothing to do with that I don't think. Anyway it's weird to be back in the normal swing of things again.
Girlfromip - I agree about the tolerance on this thread - I've never experienced any negative feedback on other threads so don't know how that feels but it must be pretty nasty. Perhaps it's just luck to fall into a group that's so friendly. However perhaps you more experienced MN-ers can me tell what the 'life' of a thread is? Do some go on for years? Will this thread continue indefinitely or gradually fade? What happens normally? If the thread stops how do you keep in touch with the people you 'met' on it?
We're all a bit sick at home - Dh caught eye infection last Tuesday (very evil looking red eyes) and now I have it. Ds is so full of cold that his ears are also weeping snot (despite recent grommets). Eye ointment is dealing with my infection but now have sore throat and swollen glands. Considering whether or not to go to work tomorrow - didn't miss any time over m/c so this seems a rather pathetic reason and missing the class is ultimately more work for me in the end... will see.

Bonkerz - Good luck with your test, hope it's a clear BFP. I think we would all feel a bit like that (unable to enjoy the early weeks of being pg), can't see any way that we wouldn't. Just have to be brave I suppose for the sake of getting over to the other side and having a happy eventual outcome. I'd be amazed just to get pg at all (as I was this time!!).

oh teatime! you sounds pooooooooorly! go back to bed!!
who knows if that was af for you? i understand its common to bleed a few days after youve stopped at first.......so the only reason i think this is af is because its four wks since op.......so i dont know if yours is...why is it so confusing>????
bonkerz, test soon, i'm hopping about here wanting to know. we need lots of november/december babies

Oh dear, going barmy, crashing again...3 weeks post op, 7 weeks since I lost my Dad. DP is also caving in.
Taken day off work and going back to the docs to see what pearls of wisdom they can offer (either that or ask them to shoot me).

Tissues out in force again and back to this thread for a few days I think.

(((hugs))) to you george. its very like that, this m/c business, up and down, and then youlost your Dad too, dont be so hard on yourself. eat chocolate and stay in bed/on sofa. -that wasnt meant to sounds like i am belittling your feelings by the way i feel just like you do too, somedays fab and somedays gutted all over again. i hope the day gets better for you.

Just popped in to send huge to George and Teatime. Sorry to hear that you are both having a tough time at the moment.
George, i didn't realise that you have lost lost your Dad, poor you. No wonder you are up and down, definately make sure you are nice to yourself and have lots of "letting it all out".
Teatime - hope the eye infection clears up, sounds nasty.
Well just to let you know that I am thinking about you all this week and visualising all good things to happen to each and everyone of you

obviously huge was supposed to say HUGS

Thanks Bella & DQ, I'm feeling a bit better just by going to see the doc & doing something positive. It also probably helps that I don't have to struggle into work & put my happy, "yes, I'm fine", face on today.
Was a totol idiot & cried over the doctor. She is sending me off for some bereavement counselling & signed me off work for another week in case I need to take more days off.

Also asked about my bleed, 2 weeks after op, and she says that can be counted as my first AF so could be the same for you too Teatime (I also stopped bleeding 1 day after op).

Good luck with the test Bonkerz. I am keeping my fingers crossed for everyone doing tests as I think if anyone needs any luck it is definitely us lot.

xxx

Oh George, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, I didn't know. What a time you're going through. (((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))) and thinking of you, what a year so far.

Teatime, house of illness, not fair and work too, take care of yourself and hope you're feeling better too. my DH poorly again and string section deafening all around us.... . Teatime, I'm not sure at all about the life of the thread, really good question we have to ask DQ she may know!

DQ! sorry about your tough day, I think angels should come and sort out all your irritations and bring you a cup of tea and a great big pouffe for you to put your feet upon! But seriously, I don't have much patience for the little stuff neither..Was mighty mean to ds this afternoon.

Bonkerz, thinking of you too! And hereshoping and Bella!

Thanks Girl.
DQ hope you are feeling better today, theres me moaning on & you're having a crap day too - sorry.
Teatime, hope you are feeling better today too.
Haven't cried so far today so things looking much brighter.
Hope everyone has a better day today. xx

George, glad to hear you went to the doctors, its good to talk to someone and i think the counselling idea is the way forward. I know a couple of people who have gone down that route and it has made a world of difference to them.

gosh george, dont worry about me, mine was all hormones and self induced crap. yours was much more real. todays a good day anyhow. life is sweet today. hope your day stays that way!!!!

AM SO COLD. DH home sick today, so hands full!
((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) to all hope all are well.

whoah, check other thread..............

Hi all, thanks for good wishes. Eyes OK again and feel OK really but SOUND really croaky - so can get lots of sympathy at work while still keeping up with everything... ideal!
Got a 2 hour class this morning to survive but it'll be fine. Ds seems better (ears just crusty not weeping) although not behaving well at nursery apparently - refusing to cooperate and being rough with the other children. Hopefully today will be a better day. Lovely winter wonderland outside - fields of white and more sprinkles coming down. Put fat ball and seeds out for birds as noticed a poor robin trying to peck at the empty container. Feel sorry for the sheep and their tiny lambs in this weather too.
Hope you're feeling better soon George - one day at a time. You've had a lot of loss to cope with so I would take the time the doctor's given you and give yourself some treats.
I've made an appointment for next week to discuss things in general (fibroid and ttc) as well as to hand in my discharge papers. It does help to feel that something is set in motion to plan for the future.

Teatime
Good to hear from you, you sound a lot better and as if this are on the "up" Good luck with being back at work and don't forget to nice to yourself xx

Hi all - esp teatime who havent heard from me for a while
come onto the ttc after mc thread - its full of positive vibes even though lots of us are still recovering from ERPCs
glad everyones slowly recovering, the bulbs are up - doesnt that just make you feel more fertile!

hello all, lovely to hear from you Teatime and your description of rural snow scene sent me off into a kind of blissful trance (not quite the urban sludgescape I'm looking at!) you sound like things are feeling a little better maybe? It is a slow process isn't it?
I was annoyed earlier in the week when a woman I know quite well started asking me how I was in an intrusive way (in front of other people) and I said 'oh fine' and she started just saying: "but of course it is a great loss for you and now you've got to deal with what you do next etc etc" and I just thought 'Just Shut it, you don't need to muse out loud about this for me!' but I just nodded and changed the subject. People are so odd but I guess they are just dealing with their own stuff. [irritated face].
But anyway I finally have what I think is af but feel a little blank about it. Not ready to ttc yet but still want to go to ttc happy board too! Feel like I'm still recovering actually, that my body is only just getting straight about what's going on! I don't feel as upset as I did and don't feel quite as wiped out by seeing babies as I did even a couple of weeks ago - so I guess it's true about time helping.