Empty sac

[Itonlytakesone]

Initially found at a private clinic sat and again today epu I have an empty sac no embryo inside. (6+6) Going back in a week to get re scan & my options anyone also going through this if you are maybe we can go through it together

@Hoping77 @bluebutterfly8

Oh no I'm sorry you're both not feeling great, you could be up/Dan a bit over the next couple weeks so stock up on the things you know you'll need now.

I'm not feeling amazing. I did sleep well last night however my hand is so sore from the IV line and my throat is sore from the tubes, stomach a little tender but not too bad and completely no bleeding. I'm just on couch in pjs still feeling guilty for not being dressed.

One day at a time

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

I think I would get another scan just to make sure it's all gone - if I have the option to do so.

What you said about your manager - yh I would find that a bit awkward to hah! Funnily enough, my manager is also young, no kids so this whole preg would have been awkward trying to explain what's going on (the fact that it's empty bla). Instead, I've spoken to a manager higher up - female, compassionate, knows the ins and outs of stuff like this. She's been brilliant with me.

Sounds like a plan with the hot water bottle. Glad you're planning ahead - hope it all happens with ease and as little pain as possible. Previously, when I had my miscarriages they all happened naturally and weren't majorly traumatic!

@Itonlytakesone
Aww no! The day after is always the most uncomfortable!
Hopefully, over the next few days, you start to feel better.

I'm the same - if I'm not dressed or house is a tip - I feel so guilty and overwhelmed. I've learnt over time to accept that when I'm not well - it's ok to stay in pjs etc.
Saying that, i'm lying down and have been thinking about the tip the kitchen is in for the last hour.

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

Hi

I'm stressing so thought I'll post!

It's past 22pm and I've got this constant dull ache in my lower stomach - enough to make me feel uncomfortable. No bleeding.

I also feel really cold and shivery and have a bit of a fever.

I bet I'm just coming down with a cold but got myself paranoid thinking what if I've got an infection of some sort.
The ache in my stomach - could that be my body realising that nothings growing hmm...

@bluebutterfly8

Im quite chilly tonight actually, not sure which part of the uk you are both from but here in the midlands tonight it’s a little colder.

I has constant on and off cramping and lower heaviness and aching. Googles like mad and definitely found reassurance that it can be absolutely normal.

So far none of my cramping has been uncomfortable or strong enough to take tablets. I’m sure all that’s about to change but who know whether that was because the pregnancy was failing or just a normal early part of pregnancy, uterus stretching and increased blood flow.

You really won’t know im afraid. But it it’s not sharp and painful or accompanied by bleeding then you can’t assume the worst.

Try to get some rest and stay warm, hopefully you wake up tomorrow feeling a little better x

@Hoping77

I was meant to type 11pm!! Not 22pm lol

I'm from Yorkshire and it is a little chilly here to but it has been for the past few days - I just don't feel right. Got the heating on so hopefully that warms me up!

So, you feel very similer to me - I'm assuming eventhough the sac is empty, it's still growing a bit so will be making room!
Mine's not as crampy/stretchy though - it's more of a constant dull ache and its right down my pelvic area.

Have a good night xx

@bluebutterfly8

How are you feeling? It's such a worry I totally understand. You just feel like you're waiting for something bad to happen knowing what's going on inside you.

I had a terrible bad throat extreme fatigue last week and a couple days of crampy feelings I'm still unsure if related I was scared stiff I had to get the husband home from work because I didn't want to be alone (with my 5 year old) incase the miscarriage started, he works away. It eventually eased but I just think it's all incredibly tough on your body physically and emotionally and it gets to you. That's why I was so desperate for a quick solution. I hope you wake up feeling better today. It's so tough 😞

@Itonlytakesone

I couldn't agree more. It's a horrible time waiting.

I woke up this morning with a period like pain really low in my pelvic area. It's just there all the time. Now, I've got a crampy feeling in my lower stomach.

I'm glad your husband was able to come home, it's scary going through it on your own. My husband finishes at 11am and then will be home all weekend so that's a plus. And then Monday morning I have my scan so I'll know 1 way or other.

You mention you had a sore throat, I guess the stress of all this will naturally make our immune systems weaker. I can't wait till it's over !

How are you now?

@bluebutterfly8
Having your husband off this weekend will help you get through to Monday. The wait is almost over for you. I definitely had a horrible feeling in my stomach waiting felt like my stomach was heavy, crampy it didn't feel right 🫤

However today I definitely feel much better my sore throats gone my hand doesn't hurt from cannula and stomach feels more normal I'm definitely on the road to recovery. I seriously need help in motivation for healthy eating plus it's Friday so not a great day to start all that😭

@Itonlytakesone
This did feel like the longest wait I've ever experienced lol! 2 more days to go :-)

I think you should just treat yourself and start the healthy eating from Monday! Hah. You deserve it right now :-)
I'm glad things are getting better for you. How do you feel emotionally, do you think your hormones are settled.

I feel like I'm all over the place - from feeling optimistic and hopeful that things could be fine and if they not then that's fine to, to sad and helpless that nothings growing, and recently I've been over reacting to small things which isn't like me!!

@bluebutterfly8
I was like that! The second week was the absolute worst.

I'm less emotional now and I'm back to more practical thinking.

I really hope you get better news than me on Monday it's good your sac progressed 1mm per day?! Mine slowed too much then went smaller so it was never going to be good.

2 more days

@Itonlytakesone
No, it's not going to be good news. No preg symptoms and cramping don't go well together. I feel like the progesterone has delayed the MS.

The 1mm/day growth that gave me hope - the measurements were still tooo behind from my last period. There's no chance. I literally keep a note of the date of my period so knew exactly when it was and everything.
I think my hosp are too optimistic whereas yours were more realistic from the start! I would preferred them to be realistic.

Glad you're at the stage where you can begin to move on!

@bluebutterfly8
Ah right ok well then if all you're symptoms have gone then it definitely seems to be stopping I bet your sac has stopped growing and you will get your answers on Monday then can get help. It's definitely good to be realistic in this awful situation isn't it. False hope ruined me at the start of this because it didn't end well.

I know I'm only 2 days past but I'm 98% sure I'm not going to try again. I'm happy with my daughter and I don't want to go through any of that again I'm pretty sure I'd go onto have multiple miscarriages and I'm 41 now I just want to plan and do other things. Least I gave myself one last chance but it wasn't meant to be. It's such a hard decision but one I feel I have to own up to for me personally and for my family

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

Morning guys, hope you’re both ok? Sorry to hear you’re still having cramping @bluebutterfly8 only 2 days left hopefully they go quick. It’s so hard to completely expel any small feeling of hope even when we know in our hearts what the outcome will be.

Ive just had a call from the hospital, I said nothing has happened yet so they are getting me in for a scan next Weds when they can hopefully call it and give me medical management.

Problem just came into my head was that we were going to relatives the weekend of 15/16th it’s been planned a while and there are other family going not just us.

they don’t know about the pregnancy miscarriage but really don’t want to miss out on going.

i asked the hospital and they said usually between 48-72 hours the medicine has started things off. The lady said I could always delay my treatment until the week after which is where I am in my head right now.. but also trying to think of a contingency if it were to happen when we were away. They are up in Stockport so a good 2.5 hour drive x

@Itonlytakesone
I've just had a tiny bit of spotting when I wipe - more of a browny colour than red. Sorry TMI. First time that's happened.. cramps have stopped now but here and there I'm getting pressure around pelvic area.

Aww do you know what, do what feels right for you. You never know in a few months you might change your mind but right now if you feel the best decision for you is to not try again, then that's ok too.
The thing is this experience has wasted 3 months of our life. The uncertainty and constant stress has been overwhelming.

Right now, I have no intention of trying again but then I also know I might feel differently a few months later..

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

i told you there was always drama around my miscarriages! 🙈

@bluebutterfly8
Oh totally i was feeling like I was in normal life in April and now it's June and I feel like iv been in a whirlwind.! Where did those 2 months go and iv gained nothing but emotional turmoil 💔Oh no a possible early start of things coming to an end do you think? Hope you're ok.

@Hoping77 in your situation im not sure what's best to do🙈it's so hard that it's still ongoing and you have plans you don't want to miss that's the part I struggled with when I knew it wasn't viable the other week it was the (when can I move on ect?) I obviously forced it to happen asap but iv got to get my husband back to work and get back to normal next week so I couldn't really do this any other way but surgery. I'd probably delay taking your meds enjoy that weekend if I were you but it could then start naturally anyway. Tough call.

The hospital sent my sac off for analysis too so they can rule out molar pregnancy ect iv never even heard of that before!?

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone
Samee!! It certainly doesn't feel right. Eventhough, I expected it to happen at some point - I feel quite scared :/ I'm not sure why.

@hoping77
Thing is if you delay the meds, it could happen naturally!! What would you do then, the amount of bleeding is unpredictable.
Hmmmm

@itonlytakesone

Is that something you requested or they do anyway? I did read something about molar pregs but didn't give a 2nd thought. Interesting to know what comes out of that..

@Itonlytakesone @Hoping77

me neither on the molar pregnancy front. The only thing I know about that is extremely high HCG but that’s where is ends I’m afraid..

@bluebutterfly8 it’s natural to be scared, we’ve been there and you’re not on your own. If the inevitable happens then it’s very sad but our bodies are amazing and we will recover quickly.. but in the mean time take care of yourself and take all the time you need to rest..

re my weekend… I’m going to take it day by day. If by Weds next week I haven’t had even the smallest amount of spotting or pain then maybe I’ll delay.
yes the chance of it happening naturally whilst I’m away is real but I seem to remember it might come on a little slower than with medical management. My partner bless him thinks I’ll be sat there laughing with a glass of wine then all of a sudden I’ll get a gush and it all comes out!! Hmmm not quite I told him! 😂 xx

@bluebutterfly8
No I didn't request the sample to be tested it seems to get done automatically I did consent though I'm not bothered if they feel they should then I'm all for it.

@Hoping77 see how you get on then just take it a day at a time like you say our bodies are clever, iv probably done a bit much today thinking I'm all over it but I'm now back in my pjs on couch watching tv🙈have a pain in my low left side hoping it wears off if I rest.

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

Hi both, how are you feeling today? @bluebutterfly8 are your stomach pains any better at all?

No change here from my end, some very very mild aches but nothing else and no worse that I got before I had my scan.

x

@Hoping77
I was wondering how you were getting on. Iv been much better today. Iv had slight constipation from the general anaesthetic so iv had senna last night plus sultana bran daily I'm ok now think that was causing me that pain yesterday so it's all passed.

I'm glad you're ok today. I'm sat having a Prosecco resting not up to much. Daughter had a stomach bug this morning probably picked up in school...so today mostly taken up by making sure she's ok and the husband scrubbing all the stairs which she sat on and threw up down the entire stairs carpet🙈 @bluebutterfly8 how are you?

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

I'm ok today compared to yesterday and kept myself busy so the days gone quite fast thankfully :-) 1 more day to go!

@hoping77
Glad you're feeling better but deep down when I have the cramps, I just need it over and done with :/

@itonlytakesone
Aww no! Just when you were recovering aswell! How's your daughter now? Your poor husband lol that's the worst when they sick on carpet or the bed !! I could cry with the thought lol

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

I probably would have been hoping it would all be over with if I hadn’t got this family event this weekend! Now I’m just hoping it holds off until then!

@bluebutterfly8 im glad you’re feeling a little better and today has gone quickly! Hope tomorrow goes equally as quick for you. What time is your appointment?

@Itonlytakesone hope your daughter is feeling better soon. Nothing worse that cleaning up sick especially from carpet!🤮

Sounds like you’re relaxing now though.. a glass of Prosecco sounds lovely and well deserved! I haven’t hit any Prosecco in at the moment but I’ve had a cheeky JD and coke the last couple of nights..

X

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

Spoke too soon ladies.. I’ve just started to spot! No real pain at the moment though 😩 x