Empty sac

[Itonlytakesone]

Initially found at a private clinic sat and again today epu I have an empty sac no embryo inside. (6+6) Going back in a week to get re scan & my options anyone also going through this if you are maybe we can go through it together

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

Hi both,

Yes sorry been a little flat again today. The thought of going back to work soon and getting back to ‘normal’ as if nothing has happened is sad.
When i was pregnant i felt special, protective, nothing really made me sad. If only for a brief time.
Plus I now have a really sore throat and cough. To be expected I guess if our bodies are working hard elsewhere we may be susceptible to picking things up.

Bleeding steady but slowing down now. Not much cramping today either.

@bluebutterfly8 mine started brown and not very much then the next day quickly progressed to red. But we are all different.. took a good 3/4 days after stopping the progesterone for that to start though.
Have you had any more cramping? That’s the sign that things are progressing I would say..

x

@bluebutterfly8 @Hoping77

I think tomorrow you will see the most passing by the sounds of it so make sure you are still home. I think mine would have probably lasted weeks more if i had left it to nature I was showing zero signs.

I know what you mean about feeling protective, special and excited when we were pregnant and then to have it pulled from underneath us. Id of rather have had a chemical at 5 weeks than 9 weeks of this ending up in a hospital it's totally ridiculous.

I'm not sure how I'm going to do normal life. Although iv struggled, today i tried to be a little bit more positive. My stomach pain eased today so this helped massively. I think after 2 weeks I'll feel physically better therefore emotionally stronger too. We can do this

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

No cramping since last week..

I have had period like light blood but that's it.. I feel like it's going to take a week or 2 but then you never know..
The nurse rang today and has booked me in for 24 june for a scan to make sure everything is out.. I'm of work and will be of for a few weeks so that gives me time to myself.

@hoping77 I ordered a hot water bottle from amazon lastnight too. The one I had was a good few yrs old and has started getting cold really quick. Looking forward to the delivery on friday :-)

I felt the same - special and just happy about everything and that's all gone and instead, I now feel sad and horrible.
I agree @itonlytakesone - would have preferred a 5 week chemical.

And 100% once we physically recover, we'll recover emotionally too. I've got soo many thoughts running in my mind. Like what if there is still something there but they've missed it, then I'm going from wanting to try again soon after to not trying for the forseeable future.

Glad we created this safe space where we can be vulnerable and post what we actually feel.

@bluebutterfly8

I agree with everything you just said and iv gone through all these thoughts. Iv gone from not wanting to try again to thinking about it again. I'm going to see how I feel after a proper period or 2. Not rushing as I'm undecided anyway and like being able to plan my immediate future anyway.

If you're off a good few weeks then this is good to let yourself heal I definitely felt more sad when I felt physically bad like pains ect and as soon as they lifted I just felt normal again it was weird! Feel like my hormones have now settled and i have that breather i so desperately needed. I'm doing much better last day or 2 my normal chatty self not avoiding people out and about like I was. Oh and yes iv love chatting on here - very relatable! it's not just the miscarriage it's the after but that's so important to talk about too because it's so hard isn't it.
@Hoping77 hope you're ok

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

Yes, I don't think it's the right time to make these big decisions. Hopefully, in a month or 2 we will be in a better state of mind.

I'm so glad things are settling for you now. I bet this whole experience will become a blur in a few months.

So, today I had such a tiring day. I dropped kids of to school, came back and had some breakfast, walked to the GP for a blood test which is about 30 seconds from my parents so sat there for an hour, picked youngest up from school and walked home.
I was so so exhausted - my body was aching and I didn't have the energy to get up for the 3pm school pick up.

Usually, I would have a much more active day and I'm totally fine.
Goes to show the toll this has taken on my body.

@bluebutterfly8 🫤 yes such a toll. We were physically pregnant so had all the associated symptoms even when sac was empty the body doesn't recognise this and holds onto the symptoms. It's taken my body a week to 'click' after surgery, I just feel normal and better. (I'll probably have a bad day tomorrow now!)

You will feel so much better soon you've just got to wait for your body to sort itself out. It's hard to see the other side right now though while you're battling that fatigue it grips you, I couldn't believe how awful I felt. I'd of felt happy awful of course if there was actually a baby in there🤷🏼‍♀️

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

Hi ladies, sorry for being absent today. I’m glad you’re feeling better @Itonlytakesone and feeling a little more like yourself. Bloody hormones! They are both amazing and horrendously cruel at the same time!

@bluebutterfly8 I really hope it doesn’t drag out too long for you, you’re not in any rush and you do have a few weeks off which is good but I’m sure you would still rather it be over with.

I called the hospital this morning as I was due a scan this afternoon. I told them most of the pregnancy had passed and they said it was my choice to come in or not.
I took a pregnancy test before I called them and it still showed positive although much fainter than I was getting. Not sure what I expected, I knew it took longer for the hcg to come out of your system so I didn’t see the point in the scan.
They said I should take a test in 3 weeks and if I test negative by then, that means it’s all cleared. They will call me though in 3 weeks to check but obviously I could call them and arrange a scan in between if I’m worried.

Id rather not go there again tbh if I don’t have to, feel like I should be going there for happy positive reasons to check my baby is healthy. Not to check that the ‘pregnancy’ had all gone.. jeez I can’t even call it a baby because there never was one 😢

I messaged my manager this afternoon to tell him I was taking the rest of the week off and would be back Monday.
Im sneezing and coughing quite a bit so the last thing I want is work stress at the moment plus I’m still going away this weekend and want to be well for that.
My manager read my message but didn’t reply for over 3 hours which really stressed me out, he was busy I’m sure but I immediately worried that he was annoyed somehow with me for being off more that I’d initially said.
Just my hormones I guess making me extra sensitive 😩

x

@Hoping77

Glad you're taking more time off I definitely think we deserve it and would look back and be annoyed if we didn't you need time to get yourself together again. I don't blame you not wanting to step another foot in epu I was same I went back just for my operation that's all.

@bluebutterfly8 hope you're ok today. Is it still dragging on because you could take the tablets I bet you just want to feel normal. Although there is no good way to deal with our situation. Bet you're excited that hot water bottle arrives tomorrow it's freezing anyway!

I was sad today because my daughter is back to coming home with pictures of the 3 of us again after i told her to please not add a baby on anymore 😞. These are the pictures she does in reception. She's ok with it she is resilient, I'm not sure us mums are quite as tough! It's all the emotions.
💕

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

Hi both, how are you feeling? I’m back at work tomorrow and not looking forward to it at all. Had a lovely weekend away with family but not it’s back to reality. Had a few people from work message me to ask me how I am and the type of messages that makes you think they ‘know’ something is up because I’m never ever off ill. But I’m not telling anyone, I haven’t even told my best friend let alone people from work.

My bleeding has completely stopped now, going to test tomorrow to see if it’s negative yet although I suspect it will take a little longer.

Not sure what my cycle will be like this month but hopefully it will be back to it’s regular length soon.

@bluebutterfly8 how have you been? Has anything progressed for you? X

@bluebutterfly8 are you ok?

@Itonlytakesone @Hoping77

Hello

I'm so so sorry for not replying. I feel like this whole exoerience really effected me emotionally and mentally - I just curled up in beed and didn't talk to anyone. Over the last few days - I had quite bad cramps and then lastnight I started bleeding and most of it, I think, has now come out.

I woke up this morning with the intention to divert my thoughts to positive ones, and just 'sort myself out'.

How are you? Are you back at work..

@bluebutterfly8
So sorry I totally understand we both do. There's no need to think like that absolutely don't rush you're hormones need to settle and your body needs to recover. It really takes its toll on you doesn't it, I was a wreck and I'm still off work. I was still testing positive the other day too I need to re check that. I was wondering because I dtd the other day then got scared of getting pregnant again😭. Im so confused what I even want after all that blighted ovum mess

@bluebutterfly8

Hey, there is no need to apologise at all we were just worried about you. Like @Itonlytakesone said it will take time and how you’re feeling is completely normal and we totally understand.. there is no limit on feeling better you just have to take one day at a time ❤️

Im back at work but feeling very flat and unmotivated. Feels as if the shine has been taken off everything. @Itonlytakesone im still testing positive but it’s really faint now so hopefully won’t be too long as I hate keep seeing that line knowing it doesn’t mean what it should mean 😢 x

Here’s my story, just after people’s experiences I guess.

I came off the pill in December 2023, had regular-ish periods since. Cycle’s tend to be between 25-29 days. It’s highly likely my dates might be off but I had been tracking them on Flo and I’m not sure how they could be wrong but..

Thought I am around 6+4. Last Wednesday, I had very light pink when wiping after the toilet. It stopped, then the next morning, had it again, again quite light. It’s since turned into brown, again when I wipe, and I very small amount in my underwear.

Scared I was having a miscarriage, I went to A&E last night, they did bloods, which she said HCG was meaning in the 1000’s. She also did an internal exam which showed my cervix was closed however she was some old blood.

Went back for a scan last Friday, nothing could be seen on the ultrasound so has a transvaginal one. This showed only an empty gestational sac. They said I am either earlier than I thought, or it’s not progressing as it should and I might miscarry.
I have to go back next Friday for another scan.

The brown bleeding has slowly progressed to red and today has been consistently flowing (not enough to fill pads in a short space of time) and I’ve got constant period pain. I haven’t passed any clots of tissue that can see.

Has anyone experienced similar? This seems to be taking so long for the inevitable to happen and it’s draining.

First image is Saturday. Second and third is today, it doesn’t look quite so bad there, I can feel it coming out.

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

Exactly. I still can't get my head around the blighted ovum part.. esp as we didn't even know this existed :/.. the last few months feel like a blur and I just can't process my feelings - I feel all over the place emotionally. I haven't done a preg test but I will once the bleeding stops - I've got the scan on Monday and I'll be going just to make sure it's all clear..

I'm glad you're back at work and you've got some sort of normality now. The thought of going back to work scares me and makes me anxious - I've no idea why.

We will get through this! Thank you for checking up on me, it means so much. :-)

Have either of you decided yet if you're going to try again or wait or just not bother now..

@JessParrish

Hi, I’m so sorry this is happening to you. If you’re unsure on your dates then you could possibly be measuring less than you thought but the combination of the empty sac measuring smaller, the bleeding and the cramping does sadly point to a miscarriage.

With me once the sac wasn’t really growing anymore once I started to spot it came on quite fast and was mostly all out in a few days.

But everyone is different, it’s a waiting game I’m afraid but hopefully you’ll get some answers tomorrow. My HCG was still quite high towards the end but that’s why the body doesn’t let go of it because it thinks you’re still pregnant..

let us know how you get on tomorrow, take care x

@bluebutterfly8 @Itonlytakesone

Morning both, I’m pretty sure when I next take a test it will be a stark negative. I’ve bought some really sensitive ones so I can ba absolutely sure it’s gone. That way if I get another line i won’t be confused thinking it’s not genuine.

Although I’m kidding myself really, we’ve not been ‘preventing’ but not actively trying for a few years now and this is only 1 of 3 I can recall. The other 2 were very early lines that faded within a few days..

But you never know! Not sure if I’m just numb to it right now or just good at compartmentalising it but I’m keen to try again. Although I’m leaving it a cycle to make sure I’m back on track.

Just need to do what I was doing before and not think about it just let it happen if it’s going to happen.

Some work colleagues (married couple) have been off for ‘private appointments’ last couple of days. Could be appointments with their kids or family stuff but now I’m paranoid thinking they are pregnant too!! Imagine how I’d feel if that were to happen 😩😢 x

@Hoping77 Thanks for the reply. I’m lighter then I was yesterday and the day before today. I wonder if yesterday and Tuesday was as ‘bad’ as it would get for me. It’s hard to know.

Annoyingly it’s not tomorrow it’s next Friday. 28th. So even longer to wait to find out for sure so we can plan to move on.

@JessParrish
Hope you're doing ok it does sound like you're in the same boat as us 3 since your sac was empty at 6 weeks from our experience nothing will develop. Just take it easy until you are back to normal.

@Hoping77 @bluebutterfly8
I'm kind of wanting to hold off until I get the results back from the testing after my d&c but at the same time find my husband irresistible all of a sudden haha 😂 he's away at work but I'll probably just see what happens regarding trying again, when my sensible head is on I'm in no rush to get myself pregnant after the fiasco iv just been through🫣 I just want some stability. Been googling again 🙈Iv read you are very fertile after a miscarriage and that blighted ovum isn't common twice in a row.

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

Morningg - I've been quiet recently - my anxeity is sky high and the scan this morning kind of tells me why. I've still got 11mm of tissue/clots or what ever left. I assumed it jad all come out last week but clearly hasn't. My hormones are all over and the emotional side is causing physical pain throughout my whole body. I really hoped it would have all been gone today and in the next few days the spotting would spot and I was finally free. Starting to think if the natural way was a good idea now..

@Itonlytakesone
I feel the same with my husband haha ! Haven't felt like this for ages lol Are you still bleeding? How do you feel now?

@Hoping77
I would feel the same if someone around me was preg right now lol I just hope everyone I know just puts of getting preg till I'm sorted haha
How are you feeling? Did u do a preg test?

@bluebutterfly8

Oh no that's taking ages to come away naturally isn't it? Are you still staying with that plan or did they give you more options on how to deal with it?

I completely stopped bleeding and this weekend showed signs of ovulation so I'm guessing I'll get my in a couple of weeks but who knows🤷🏼‍♀️ they emptied my womb so iv no idea how long it takes to return to normal. Oh yes I know my husband's loving that I'm all over him🤣🤣🫣

@Itonlytakesone

It's too small now to have a d&c so that options gone.
I've just been given the meds to start the process. Sat at the hosp with first 2 tablets under my tongue, 2 more to go and hopefully today it all clears.

That sounds good! I'm so happy for you :-)
If your womb is empty and bleeding has stopped - you're back on track lol so even if you wanted to try again now, you could..
Haha yh is my husband lol but that bubbles now burst and we're back to square one lool!
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@bluebutterfly8
Are you staying at hospital while it clears? I'd be scared to do the journey home after the tablets but yes definitely a good plan to take them you need to help your body get back on track and settle those hormones back. Then you can reset rethink and plan your next move. I hope it's not too painful for you today let us know how you get on

@Itonlytakesone

I was sent home after 30 mins - my husband picked me up. I was then down with a fever and chills and my tongue/throat became really sore which was to be expected.

I started bleeding a little but that was it - nothing major. :/ The hospital are meant to call me tomorrow to see how I'm getting along and if the tablets haven't worked then I'll need another dose.

Weird thing was when I initially took the meds orally .. after a while my palms became bright red and were in PAIN - never experienced that before. It was like a sharp, prickly pain - maybe nerve pain not sure. Now, I'm petrified of the thought of having the meds again :-(

@bluebutterfly8
Oh no I hope the hospital call you to see how you're getting on. It could be an allergic reaction. Let them know what happened after you took the tablets and maybe ask to stay in hospital for the 2nd dose? I'm sorry it's still dragging out for you, you must be completely fed up😢