Empty sac

[Itonlytakesone]

Initially found at a private clinic sat and again today epu I have an empty sac no embryo inside. (6+6) Going back in a week to get re scan & my options anyone also going through this if you are maybe we can go through it together

@Hoping77
Yeah, it might be best for it to happen once your family event is over. So sad we're having to go through this lol

My scan is on Monday morning at half 9.. thankfully! So, i should know nice and early :-) Usually, all my scans are at half 1 so I'm waiting around all day.

What times yours on Wed?

And not sure about you but I've just had a few random crying outbursts today :-0 I feel like my hormones are all over.

@bluebutterfly8

You may have missed my last post but ive just started spotting so looks like it won’t hold off! Better sooner than later though I guess..

My scan is at half 1 lol would rather they be nice and early I agree the waiting around is awful!

Ive definitely been having low moments, one moment I’m quite upbeat and matter of fact and the next I’m sad and feeling quite hopeless.. I do understand, its really hard x

@Hoping77

Yes, i did miss your last post - sorry.
Oh no - is it still spotting or more now? Keep us updated. Hope you're ok.

@Hoping77

How are you this morning?x

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

Hi both, sorry didn’t message back I’ve been out most of the day.

Ni further bleeding or cramps last night or most of the day really but later this afternoon and certainly right now I’m starting to get quite crampy and bleeding has certainly picked up with some small clots now (sorry tmi).
So with any luck it will be over by the weekend and when I go for my scan they can confirm it’s all passed.
Might even take tomorrow off work tbh if it gets much worse overnight. Definitely not going into the office next week at all either way.

How are you both feeling? X

@bluebutterfly8 scan tomorrow nearly there.

@Hoping77 well least you dont need to decide your options. Nature taking its course what a cruel blow for us really. The weekend will give you something to look forward to and yes time off work is an absolute must at this time.

Iv had bad bowel pains last couple days but I think I'm over the worst. Also a little spotting I'll probably have a bit daily for a while but I'm taking painkillers until it all settles as it feels cramp pain / period style might get my hot water bottle back out it just works so well.

@Itonlytakesone

Are you off work still? Or planning to go back next week?
I think I’m going to ask for tomorrow off and probably Tuesday as well. Then as I have my scan Weds I might as well just go back Thursday if I feel ok. Presume the worst will be over after tomorrow but it’s just the emotional and physical toll it takes.

My partner will be at home, probably working still but here if I need him.

Feel guilty for taking the time off, I am always the least likely to take time off sick I would go in or log on even when I’m feeling rubbish many others just calling in for a mild cold.

But this is different I feel.

I hope your pain subsides soon 🤞 x

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

Omg I hope you're ok - I guess it's all started for you :-0 I'm so sorry. At same time I'm glad that you're getting some direction and can mentally prepare!
How are u now?

I've been ok this weekend.. no symptoms/cramps - assuming because I'm still using progesterone.

@Hoping77

I'm off work still I'm part time so I'm meant to be off at the moment anyway. I'm currently covered by a sick note as well so I'll probably take a bit longer it's taken it's physically and emotional toll on me and I just want to feel a bit more 'ready' before I go back to work so I'll need a bit longer yet. I just feel sad and a bit low about it because I know I'm probably not going to try again.

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

I'm the last one to take sick too - actually I've never taken sick! But this has really taken a toll - I think when my 'time' comes I will defo be taking sick. We need time to recover physically and emotionally.

@itonlytakesone

I guess it's underatandable to feel sad. It will get better. Take your time! I was thinking even physically although you might feel better quickly, your body will need a bit more time to get back to normal.

@bluebutterfly8 @Hoping77 I know I hate going off sick iv not been off for a couple of years but sometimes you just need to for yourself if you're not 100% saves putting on a brave face that's exhausting. Time will get us over it though  good luck at the scan tomorrow you've waited a long time now @bluebutterfly8

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone
Couldn't agree more about the brave face part - I need to just let it all out. I also feel like I'm living a massive lie - that I'm having to hide from everyone but it's actually not real either.

Thank you - hoping tomorrow brings answers and finally I can move on!

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

Ditto about the brace face.. it’s exhausting enough just dealing with it ourselves isn’t it.
Typical stiff upper lip mentality!

Glad I’ve got tomorrow off, I think the majority has already passed now got really painful about 4 hours ago but thankfully only lasted about half an hour. Then I just fell asleep.

Just woke up so hopefully I’ll manage to get back to sleep again.

Will be thinking of you tomorrow morning @bluebutterfly8 x

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

Just had the scan - it's gone smaller.. :-(

@bluebutterfly8
I just came on to check and your message just popped up. Oh no I'm so sorry it's just completely heartbreaking isn't it, even though you know, the confirmation is still a hard pill to swallow. I feel completely deflated if I'm honest I can't see anything positive. So I completely know how you feel. hope you're ok

@Itonlytakesone

If I'm honest - at the present moment sat in the waiting room - I'm glad I know for certain and can move on! I'm kind of relieved after the last few stressful months. Finally, I can have my body back and just BREATHE.

However, I'm not sure how I'll feel later.

@bluebutterfly8

I am so so sorry, you expected as much but even so it’s a real punch to the stomach.
How are you feeling?
Take care of yourself today x

I don’t know how I’m feeling at the moment, one minute I’m upbeat the next I’m flat and sad. That will settle I’m sure with time.

We both know how you feel it’s heartbreaking x

@bluebutterfly8
Are you ok tonight? Did you choose how to proceed. Iv been wondering how you're doing.

@Hoping77 also wondered how you're doing too.

We can all be a bit sad together

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

I'm sorry I haven't posted - I've felt so many emotions within a day - it hurts. I think I'm going to be of work over the next few days - I need time to process my thoughts and emotions.

I had some spotting before so I'm assuming it'll start soon.. my stomachs starting to feel weird aswell.

The midwife gave me the options and said to go home and have a think and let them know in the next day or 2. If I'm honest - I think it's about to start naturally. I feel scared - no idea why :/

How are you both? How's the bleeding?

We will get through this together! Crazy how we've experienced the exact same thing at the same time.

@bluebutterfly8
Aww no 😔 I was worried you'd be feeling like this. I think your body is starting naturally so give it 2 days before you get back to them. At least you know the score now so can be prepared. Stay off work definitely it's too much to go through.

I feel really bloated and horrible just not in the mood to not comfort eat I definitely don't feel ready for summer clothes I just want to curl in a ball on couch...I feel very conscious of my stomach and it still hurts. I'm sure it'll all settle but right now I'm fed up and sad that it didn't work and after all this time I'm left feeling uncomfortable in my own body yuk. I was scared too that's why I had the d&c the very next morning.

It is totally crazy that @Hoping77@bluebutterfly8 we are all going through it at the exact same time.

@Itonlytakesone

Awwww no :-( we kind of assume after a few days, we'll be back to normal but that's far from reality.
I totally get how you're feeling, it's horrible but remember you will get back to normal - it's a matter of time.

I'm same as you as in not in mood to eat and literally just want to curl up on sofa and do nothing.

@Itonlytakesone @bluebutterfly8

Hi both, I’m feeling ok but cramping has ramped up again this evening again. It had subsided after the main part of the pregnancy passed last night but starting up again now. Not enough to take tablets as it’s on and off but I have a hot water bottle which really helps. Certainly not as bad as last night but then although painful it was very quick.
Bleeding more like a day 3 period now so not too heavy. My periods weren’t too heavy before the pregnancy though and only 4/5 days max so that might have something to do with it?

Ive done nothing but binge watch things on tv and drink hot drinks provided by my partner. I’ve eaten but not as interested in food as I usually am.. stomach feels flatter now and definitely more empty 😢

I don’t know if I’d have got through this without you both to talk to so thank you for allowing me to share your journey too x

@bluebutterfly8 everyone is different but if you are starting to spot then it’s not going to be too long I wouldn’t have thought. Especially as you are still or have very recently taken progesterone? Did they tell you to stop that now?
Totally natural to be scared, no doubt the hospital gave you an emergency number to call at any point you needed to and told you you could go in if you wanted to?
Have you had any stomach pains yet?
Today was always going to be hard, I’m so sorry for us all that we have had to go through this..

@Itonlytakesone Really hope you’ll start to feel a little more like yourself soon. I really can’t remember how I felt after my D&C but I was flying out on holiday and on the beech in the sun so I’m guessing that helped a little.

x

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

I'm glad it was quick - I guess cramping will stay for a few days till it gradually goes away. Most of it happened for you that first night the miscarriage started? That gives me hope.. my periods are always heavier the first 3 days so not sure how heavy my bleeding will be...

I'm glad you're able to rest and give your body time to heal. Did they say they would do another scan to make sure everything left your body?

I forgot to ask them about progesterone but I didn't take it last night nor this morning. I'm thinking, what's the point..
I woke up to dark browny discharge (sorry TMI) - doesn't look like discharge, looks more like old blood.. but nothing else yet.

Yes, they did - gave me leaflets telling me what to expect. I've got a very mild ache but that's it.

I think after yesterday I'm not as impatient because now I know which way the pregnancies going so can prepare.

@Hoping77 that's so nice and I completely agree I dont think I'd of got through it without you 2 to talk to going through it at the same time. I'm having 2nd thoughts about not trying again today I'm obviously still undecided. I'm just so sad I'd built my hopes up for weeks only for it to just come to an abrupt end. I picked up a wine from the supermarket because I can now, looking down at my basket made me feel sad . Obviously needs more thought this.

@bluebutterfly8 you'll be ok just get loads of painkillers in and hot water bottle. My stomach feels slightly better today.

@Hoping77 @Itonlytakesone

Hi

We've been quiet today. Everyone okay?

I've had some dark brown bleeding - like a period.. not the clots and red blood I was expecting and what I had last time.

So confused :/