Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 8 ALL welcome!

[Sunbird24]

Exactly as the thread title says.
Some links to online resources that may be useful to anyone currently or recently going through this awful experience:

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/
www.tommys.org/
Www.miss-support.org.uk/support/
www.blr.lifecharity.org.uk/
www.petalscharity.org/

www.miscarriageformen.com/

You are not alone - please post whatever you need, or just read if you aren’t ready to talk.

Link to previous thread:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/miscarriage/4732386-support-thread-for-those-experiencing-or-recently-experienced-a-mcmmc-thread-7-all-welcome?page=1

Yes he's been here the whole time thank goodness. Was here yesterday until I knew I wouldn't go down, then came back today at about 11 this morning.

Oh that's so nice he's been with you, so much less lonely and less worrying. Surely they will let you leave soon??!! I can't believe they kept you so long- are you feeling ok now? Did they let him have some dinner as well or did he have to fend (vend?) for himself?
My DH just had to drop me off as he had to work and I just sobbed in the waiting room so embarrassing, thankfully they took me through pretty quickly to the cubicle. I was just in day surgery so you can't stay there, my BP was still flashing red when they took the monitor off the nurse was like.,, drink lots of water yeah?? And get yourself up and dressed when you've had a wee you can go. I nearly fell over waddling to the toilet thankfully it wasn't far.
Feeling so much better now, think I'll sleep well

God its like one extreme to the other! I felt so dizzy walking out the hospital I honestly don't know how you managed it yourself. Are you still planning on going to work tomorrow? Sorry to hear you were so upset on your own, I'm glad they whisked you through straight away.

Just heading home now. He had to get his own food in the canteen downstairs, but I think he probably appreciated a change of scenery as it was verrry boring there after a while.

@UrsulaSings123 good morning lovely, how are you doing today? Hope you managed to get some sleep, I bet you're glad you're back home!
I went into work, going to leave soon though as I think I might need my hot water bottle for a bit, I forgot to bring it.

Wow you are a proper trooper going into work! I was in bed until 1.30! Feeling a bit sore today but mostly OK. Hope you got home and got some rest too.

Sat here crying my eyes out... I feel so sad 😭

@UrsulaSings123 I'm so sorry you're feeling so sad, it is a tough day and you've been through a lot so just let it all out. Things will get better and you'll start to feel bette day by day🩷

@UrsulaSings123 so sorry to hear you are feeling low. That is completely natural and you WILL feel better as the days go by. This is such a difficult thing to go through, and the crash in hormones after your procedure will be making everything feel even worse. Things will get better, I am sure of it! Thinking about you lovely - can you think of something to do today that you'd enjoy and take your mind off things even for a brief period? Maybe even just binging a show on Netflix?

@UrsulaSings123 oh no I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling low sweetie, it will get better. It always does ❤️‍🩹
DH and I tried to have a "nice day" yesterday went for lunch and a mooch around Ikea, i ended up slicing the top of my finger off on a broken vase and had to spend 2.5 hours in walk in centre for a dressing. It actually hurts more than my uterus. So stupid.
Trying to keep busy today but really I just want to spend the day in bed. This was going to be such a sweet Mother's Day, I was quietly looking forward to it 😓 just a card from my cats this year.
I hope everyone has a lovely day

Thank you ladies.

@californiacooper that sounds so painful. Hope it gets better soon lovely. What a rotten time you're having 😥

@UrsulaSings123 @californiacooper
What a day...I've sobbed a lot. I hope these hormones even out soon.

I know it's tough for so many people on here and today just amplifies everything.

I've spent the day at my friends and her children cuddled me and her husband made us dinner. Am exhausted, have pushed myself to get out and about this weekend and I think I need to rest but can't. No pain but I am bleeding more than I thought.

Sending lots of love to you and hope you are okay.

I’m back again. Got a BFP yesterday and woke up with heavy bleeding today. I know the EPU will want to see me but my parents are away for 2 weeks, my partner works full time and kids aren’t allowed in and I don’t trust anyone else with my 3 year old!

Has anyone still had pregnancy symptoms during a miscarriage? This is my 3rd CP but I’ve also had a MMC and an ectopic but I’ve never still had symptoms during a miscarriage! I’ve still been feeling incredibly nauseous which I’ve been feeling for about 4-5 days now!

Joining this thread...
Went for a private scan at 8 weeks to be told the foetus measured 6 weeks and no heartbeat. Went to EPU 2 days later and still no heartbeat and it measured 5 weeks. I've booked a private D&C for later today (9+1) as my local hospital is a disaster. I have a scan beforehand for one last confirmation. It feels like a nightmare that I can't wake up from. And I'm so scared of what will happen with the scan... although I'm not hoping for anything tbh. Oh and I still have very bad nausea and zero indication my body is aware it's over...

I’m so sorry @MisssMarion I had a similar experience, where I was 10wks but baby was measuring 8wks with no heartbeat when I went for a scan.
Sending you so much love, it’s the worst experience in the world. I hope the procedure goes as well as it can x

@MisssMarion sorry to hear of your recent loss. Its just heartbreaking isn't it.

@Jess1997 I had pregnancy symptoms but they faded a few weeks after my initial scan and about 1 week before I started to physically miscarry.

@californiacooper @ifididntknowbetter hope you're both doing OK. I have been feeling much more 'normal' over the last couple days, but pretty tired still as I get back to doing my usual routine.

@ifididntknowbetter how are you doing now??? I hope things have settled down and you're over the worse of it.

@MisssMarion @Jess1997 I'm so sorry to see new faces over here 😭

I still felt very pregnant until around a week after I found out it was MMC, and it has died a few weeks before that. I felt so sorry for my body that was carrying on as if everything was all alright, but I knew it wasn't. I sort of wonder if finding out started the process of my body realising, my brain telling my body it had ended. Who knows.

@MisssMarion, how did you get on today? Thoughts with you both

@UrsulaSings123 good to hear that you're feeling a bit more normal now. I feel like myself a few months ago, the one that wasn't pregnant. It's like I've lost a few months of my life. I took a test today to see if it was -ve, but still +very which is annoying (I know it's too soon it's only been 6 days I just want to move on)
Ffs. It's the middle of march, it's spring, it's nearly my (37th) birthday. I feel desperately like I'm running out of time.

I'm sorry to hear about your MMC. I was 12 weeks and found out at my scan baby was measuring 8 weeks just last month, it's heartbreaking. I too still had symptoms which made it feel even worse. I hope your surgery went ok today, take the time to rest and process everything.

I haven't done a test yet because I don't want to see its positive still. My partner is 51 and although I am younger I also feel time is running out as we dont want him to be a really older dad. This whole situation has taken a bit of a toll on our relationship as well. He's not very good when it comes to emotional stuff and tends to bottle it all up, whereas I am the total opposite, so we find it difficult to manage each others reactions to things. We've been through tough stuff before and always come out the other side, but it's difficult when you're in the middle of it.

@UrsulaSings123 I think it's normal for things to take their toll. This is the first big challenge DH and I have had, really. He's very quiet, and just hugs me when I cry, which is nice. He's younger than me (4 years) so I'm very conscious that he could be in a very different situation with someone in their 20s and not have to be dealing with all of this, IVf, infertility, etc.

I so understand you. Sorry I don't know your full story but I'm 38 myself and losing the last 3 months + whatever time it will take for it to happen again feels like a luxury I don't have 😔

@MisssMarion it's just shitty isn't it. Good luck for today. My surgical treatment was the best outcome, I felt better (mentally and physically) almost immediately, like a cloud had been lifted off my shoulders. Yes I've lost a few months. But hopefully there's still something ticking over in there and squeezing some eggs out. (My story in brief is I've had IVF as I have low AMH, only got 2 frozen day 3 embryos, and I conceived naturally in between the stimulation and going back for the transfer, so it felt like a dream and so perfect, but it's actually just messed things up for a good portion of the year instead)

Yes it's horrible isn't it, the way it feels like lost time. Such a long time to lose as well - 4 cycles really, possibly 5, depending on how quickly things settle down again.

Hi ladies,
I got sent a link to this thread by someone in another chat I am in. Had been looking for a thread exactly like this but hadn't been able to find one.
I am so sorry to read of everyone's losses.
I have had 4 losses in the last 7 months.
The most recent, I only found out yesterday. Went in for what I thought was a 9ish week scan, as EPAU have been seeing me fortnightly due to the previous losses. Had my last scan 2 weeks ago and was over the moon to see a healthy heartbeat, and was measuring just over 7 weeks. Should have been 9+3 yesterday but was only measuring 8+5 and no heartbeat was found.
Was not expecting it in the slightest and this has hit me hard. I'm booked in for surgery on Tuesday and I feel so lost.
I turned 40 at the start of the year and was so grateful to get my BFP just after my birthday. I also started a new job after having been made redundant at the end of last year and so it all seemed to finally be falling into place.
Just like that, I feel like it's all been ripped from us again. I know this happens to so many of us but I just feel so upset, angry and numb about the whole thing. I'm honestly heartbroken. I really thought this one would stick.
Trying to keep positive for my 3 yr old but am really struggling.
Feel like I am back to square one with next to no time left 💔