Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 8 ALL welcome!

[Sunbird24]

Exactly as the thread title says.
Some links to online resources that may be useful to anyone currently or recently going through this awful experience:

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/
www.tommys.org/
Www.miss-support.org.uk/support/
www.blr.lifecharity.org.uk/
www.petalscharity.org/

www.miscarriageformen.com/

You are not alone - please post whatever you need, or just read if you aren’t ready to talk.

Link to previous thread:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/miscarriage/4732386-support-thread-for-those-experiencing-or-recently-experienced-a-mcmmc-thread-7-all-welcome?page=1

@MamaBear878 So sorry you're going through this again. Everyone seems to have had such different experiences. In case it's helpful, heres what I experienced:

I spotted for a week and a half before the baby's heart stopped and then carried on spotting on and off for another week (with up to 48 hours of no blood at all). Then I had heavy bleeding and pain for half a day, and passed the sac 48 hours after the pain started. Then bled for just over a week more, getting lighter daily. So bled for exactly 4 weeks in total

Thank you @warmbutteredtoast. I think this is similar to what will happen with me too! 4 weeks is so long! My goodness. Hope you're okay now.

It did feel quite long but the actual heavy bleeding was only about 4 days, then it was just annoying heavy spotting. I'm ok now thank you, bleeding again but a period this time!

@warmbutteredtoast that's good to know!

Just to update - they could see a HB and they've given me progesterone suppositories to take as they couldn't see any source for the bleed. I'm bleeding properly now like a period so I'm still not convinced this will end well! They've told me to return in 2 weeks. I'm also measuring a few days behind but apparently that's normal too...

Wanted to post here so you can all ask for progesterone if you have had a previous m/c!

@MamaBear878 thanks for letting us know. I am curious what progesterone does to stop the miscarriage, is it only if youve started bleeding?

Mine was a MMC with zero bleeding or cramps and my body only realised 7 weeks after so clearly my body likes keeping things in. I am currently starting my first TWW but not sure if I should speak to my GP about progesterone if we are lucky this month.

@FullMoon1917 I'm not sure exactly but there is some evidence that it can lower your risk of a miscarriage ? Thats what the consultant told me. You can ask for it if you've already had a m/c before.

Though it's not great news here. I sort of wish I hadn't been shown a "heartbeat" because now I'm bleeding such massive clots and soaking through pads. This is obviously bad news. Called EPU again. Just feel like I've been on such an emotional rollercoaster. Getting my hopes up , just for them to be shattered a few hours later. Got period like cramps too. Maybe the bleeding was an indicator that the heartbeat would stop? I have no idea. Grateful for this group!

@FullMoon1917 also sorry you had to find out 7 weeks later :/

@MamaBear878 I'm so sorry you're experiencing this. The same happened me & I'd to wait a week for the next hospital appointment. It's absolutely horrendous isn't it.Feel free to DM me

Its one week tomorrow since my D&C & I'm still struggling I'm getting awful headaches every day & not really sleeping .I'm back to work in 3 weeks .I'm.still bleeding too. I was also asked would I like a Teddy bear from the miscarriage association of Ireland & a memorial book. I know its happened and my baby is gone but I'm also so shocked too.

@Duffy23 so sorry you went through the same. I actually don't even know my options if I don't pass everything naturally. How far along were you, if you don't mind sharing? I really hope you're able to put this behind you soon.

@MamaBear878 ah ok, ive been referred for specialist help now for fertility so maybe they will be able to give advice on whether i would need it.

So I actually found out a week or so after the baby stopped developing but medical management failed etc so it took that long for things to happen naturally. I like you had that first scan with heartbeat and although i am glad we saw that i wont get a scan till past 10 weeks next time as it just seems like you can have a scan and its fine but its not guarantee things will work out.

I am so glad i found out at a private scan and not at the hospital though.

I hope things work out for you and maybe theres still hope it will be ok? Xx

@MamaBear878 Not at all. I was weeks when just started bleeding & 9wks6days when I had the D&C x

Progesterone thickens the lining of your womb. It won't stop a miscarriage if there's a genetic problem with the embryo. But if you have low progesterone then you could miscarry because of that, and the pessaries can then help support the pregnancy

@warmbutteredtoast thank you!

@warmbutteredtoast that makes sense!

Thanks :)

EPU won't scan me again until next week they said and told me to let them know if bleeding doesn't stop by the end of this week. Great. So I don't even know if this miscarriage is ongoing, even is one (I am sure is) or anything ! Still waiting for "tissue" to come out but just clots for now. Sorry for the graphic details!

@MamaBear878 oh I'm sorry, being in limbo not knowing for sure what's happening is so tough ❤️

@ThelastRolo20 thank you! I just need closure I think :/
Taking the week off work as I can't really focus and keep checking to see what's coming out!! The side of pregnancy and loss that women go through that nobody talks about. Because why would they...only women go through it!!

Just checking back in to see how everyone is
@MamaBear878 I’m so sorry , that’s such an awful position to be in with the limbo :( I agree 100% with taking the week off

@FullMoon1917 i have been told I will get progesterone if I fall pregnant ( 2x mc and spotting throughout 1st trimester in two successful pregnancies) according to miscarriage association and Tommys, after one mc/or spotting you are meant to be offered it. This is fairly new the threshold used to be higher.

I am now 13 days since mc , 1 week since scan confirmed all had completed and 5 days since stopping bleeding, I am still getting faint positive pregnancy tests which surprised me a little.

@Lemonyfire a faint positive is really good at this stage, it can take a few weeks to fully flush out the system, I'd only worry if it was a strong positive x

@ThelastRolo20 oh thank you that’s good to know! It is very very faint, a squinter. think because I feel physically better and am back at work etc I wasn’t expecting any positive but you’re right that it will take a while

@Lemonyfire I'm 15 days post surgery and mines attached for reference - I'm pretty sure I'll still have a faint line by 3 weeks but it'll probably clear in my next period 🤞🏻

@Lemonyfire good to know, i will speak to my GP if I am lucky enough! Sorry to hear both you and @ThelastRolo20 are still testing positive, i guess its just a waiting game.

Im definitely am finally ovulating and my goodness i forgot how great i feel when that happens its like i am a superhero! Insane how quickly the body bounces back, as it will be just 2 weeks since everything came out but by then my HCG tests were very faint.

@FullMoon1917 I can’t remember if you said are you TTC before your next period?

ah @ThelastRolo20 mine is fainter but maybe because I didn’t have surgery so it drops quicker? I think my levels were already dropping well before I started bleeding anyway and actually spotted for 10 days prior
it’s so faint you may not be able to see but I know it’s there- it was more obvious a few days ago my husband thinks this counts as a negative but when I can still see it I can’t really!

@Lemonyfire Yeah, with my last one my HCG had started dropping as I ended up miscarrying naturally so I actually started at a higher amount this time.

That said if it stays like today's by 3 weeks I'll have to go get checked as it's likely retained product (although all my bleeding has stopped so I would have thought a good sign?).

Silver lining is I'm not TTC again until April so I have time for it to sort itself out!

@Lemonyfire well we werent planning to then we ending up DTD while my LH was still low to wake up to a blazing positive the next day... so we might be lucky but it took a year last time so i am trying to be relaxed about it all. I am just fully enjoying the ovulation euphoria before PMS comes and smacks me back down to earth!

I also think my last HCG looked like yours and then i decided it was ok and stopped. I just did one now to check in case and it was definitely negative.

Hi everyone. Can I please join? I've only come across this board and it's devastating to read all of your posts. I'm sorry to say that I'm now part of the miscarriage statistics.

My second pregnancy ( I have a 2 and a half year old) and had my 12 week scan yesterday. I heard the awful words "I'm sorry but there's no heartbeat". I lay in complete shock staring into space not able to comprehend what I was hearing. I hadn't had an early scan, had pregnancy symptoms, no bleeding, no cramping. Absolutely no signs anything was wrong. We're both heartbroken. Utterly. We were so excited for another child and a 3 year age gap but now our dreams are shattered.

I've opted for surgery under GA as I just want it over with. I was told baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. I have all the questions and can't understand why this has happened or why my body hasn't recognised it. I was able to get an appointment tomorrow for surgery so at least I don't have to wait too long.

Sorry for the long post but I'm just devastated/confused and saddened to see that so many women are in a similar situation.