Journey after miscarriage support thread March 2023

[SMG1992]

Hi All,

I've started a new thread as the other was at page 39.
I hope everyone had a good weekend. I'm still just about in my fertile window - I got my LH surge yesterday.

The clocks going forward has hot me a little bit, but I'm looking forward to brighter evenings.

Managed to dtd this weekend (cd 12) but my hubby now away so missing 'peak' ovulation as got a static smiley on the CB test this morning so think im likely out this cycle. Just hope we get lucky the next couple months & make it all the way 5th time lucky. Trying to stay positive

Hi @SnookyPook
thanks for checking in.
i got the results back for my cytogenetics and our baby girl had turners syndrome so despite that awful news I also feel comfort that there was a reason for her death in some way.
me and my partner are going to try again straight away as we feel that’s right for us. Have already had one period but going to be fertile in the next 5 days so fingers crossed🤞🏽
trying a few different things this time and hopefully will be a nice relaxed conception as we are going away tomorrow and we can take our minds of the pressures of everything.

@Ttc2023x ah that's a bit frustrating for you but maybe in a weird way it will be nice to have a month with lower expectations as a bit of a break. Though saying that, cd12 isn't bad so you never know. Everything crossed for you for the next couple of cycles.

@MummaDaisy ah gosh, I'm glad that that knowledge has brought some comfort, though I can imagine it's been a bit of a rough time too. Good luck for the next few days! And enjoy your time away. Sounds perfect.

@SnookyPook Thanks for asking. I am now 15 weeks pregnant (this is my 2nd pregnancy, first was a miscarriage at 6 weeks in December).

I had a really bad time with nausea from
weeks 6-12ish but finally coming out the other end of that and starting to feel more hopeful about the pregnancy.

I’m aware I’ve been very lucky to get pregnant again quite quickly, and everything is developing well this time. I think the miscarriage is affecting my experience of this pregnancy though, I struggle to feel excitement and it all feels a bit surreal to me somehow. When I had my 12 week scan it was kind of like an out of body experience, I struggled to connect what they were showing me on the screen was really happening to me if that makes any sense?

It’s gradually starting to feel more real the last couple of weeks though, and I’m looking forward to finding out the sex when I have my 20 weeks scan - I think that might help me to envisage the baby as a real person sort of thing!

Hi how is everyone, I’ve just got my period after the bleed from my loss and it’s not as ‘clotty’ as I thought it might be so that’s a relief. I have an appointment at the recurrent miscarriage clinic in a month - both dreading it and hopeful I get some answers. Hope everyone is okay xx

Hi everyone, thanks for checking in @SnookyPook . I’m doing ok, on cycle day 8 now so starting back on the ovulation tests after not getting pregnant last month, I love and hate the sight of those strip tests in equal measures!
I was a bit upset last week after getting my period and just not wanting to start the whole ttc business again, it feels all consuming, my head is filled with dates at the moment and it’s taking it’s toll. We are away on a little caravan holiday next week however so I’m sure that a break from work and change of scenery will help xx

@SnookyPook Hello! I'm doing okay. Currently 4+5 after falling on the cycle after my miscarriage. Lines are progressing nicely but had a bit of a panic this morning when one didn't look darker than two days ago... not sure how healthy it is to keep tracking! However a big indicator last time was the lines not getting dark so I feel it's one way I can monitor what is happening. Weird mix of excited but worried. As I approach closer to 6 weeks I'll get more worried as that's when I miscarried last time.

Hey @SnookyPook thanks for checking in!

Happy and nervous to say I am 5+6 today. I am still going through a few tests and had our genetics bloods done on Saturday, not too sure whether I said on here before but my previous miscarriage was a little boy and had trisomy 13 so the same as @Fairylight102 he never had a chance of life 😢

I know I'm really fortunate to fall again, I'm just so nervous, I have a scan tomorrow to see how things are developing

How are you? Xxx

Thank you for checking in @SnookyPook I've still been lurking on here to see how everyone is getting on.
I'm currently 11+5 pregnant and have my 12 week scan next Tuesday. I've already had 3 scans as I haven't been able to relax (2 private, 1 epu). I'm so nervous about the 12 week scan as my MC was a MMC which we found out at the scan so it's going to be a bit scary going back to that hospital.
I hope everyone else is getting on ok and taking care of themselves! X

Just endless waiting here. First frozen embryo transfer will happen during my next cycle if the stars align for dates. It's our only 5AB (the five others we have frozen are a 4AB, 4BB x3 and 3BB) so I'm not particularly hopeful that it will work and even less hopeful that if it does we'll actually make it past nine weeks.

So yeah, all a bit shit really. We're now 17 months on from when we started trying for number two 13 months on from the first MMC and five months on from the second. My body sucks.

So many feelings i can relate too. It really does help knowing we aren't alone. So lovely to hear of all the positive news & sending alll the luck to those still waiting.xx

Congratulations to all those pregnant again and good luck to everyone ttc!
I had my scan at the epu this morning which confirmed a complete miscarriage. Although it was upsetting I'm glad I can start to move on from it. Its a bit confusing though as the sonographer at the private clinic thought she saw a fibroid or possibly a bicornuate uterus. The sonographer today was equally confused and said I possibly have a complicated anatomy/abnormal shaped uterus. She said in some cases this can cause miscarriage. Anyway, she wanted to show the pictures to some senior colleagues and get back to me. She's also referred me to a specialist to have a look. Waiting for her to phone me later today. It all sounds a bit scary but at least the ball is rolling on getting some answers/information.

Hi All! So lovely to hear updates.

@Fairylight102 so happy to hear that things are progressing well! Have you got a date for the 20wk scan yet? I can imagine that if I'm lucky enough to get pregnant again I might be beginning to feel I can enjoy it a bit by 15wks... I hope so! Keep us posted with how you get on 😊

@Ttcafterlosses I'm glad AF wasn't as bad as feared. Really hope you get some helpful answers at the clinic next month. Let us know how you get on.

@xxcxdonxx caravan holiday sounds lovely and hopefully the break will do you good. I'm just in my first cycle of TTC again after the loss and it is such a weird mix of excitement/hope/anxiety/uncertainty etc etc.. currently 1dpo here so right at the beginning of the tww. I'm not quite sure how it will hit me if it's a bfn... I know that's the most likely outcome but I think it will still hit hard with just wanting to be pregnant again and being told fertility is higher after loss etc etc. My Sister once told me something when I was trying to conceive my first which I found comforting... If AF arrives, it could be Day 1 of your pregnancy (as they measure from last AF)... For some reason that really helped me to be less disappointed!

@RegardingPersephone it's horrible how previous loss just robs us of the excitement isn't it. Everything crossed for you that all progresses well this time. I imagine that getting past those milestones will take a lot of nerve but there's no reason that you won't get a different outcome this time. Do you think you'll be having an early scan?

@kookyelephant congratulations! And I'm glad you got some answers about your loss too. Hope all goes well at the scan tomorrow - keep us posted!

@SMG1992 so glad to hear things are going well for you and that the scans so far have gone well. Mine was also a MMC at 12wks and I can well imagine how nervous the thought of being back for a 12wk scan will feel. Signs are all great for you though. Everything crossed that this one is happy and healthy! Please keep us posted. ❤️

@TheBirdintheCave so sorry you're feeling a bit rubbish and I've got everything crossed for you that those stars align so you can do your transfer.

@Ttc2023x yes it really does help having company on this journey. Big hugs to you!

@Wanderlust86 I'm so glad that you've had confirmation that you're through the physical side of your miscarriage now. Great that there are no retained products etc. Also great that they are being so thorough in investigating your womb and possible anatomy differences. I can imagine that's a bit scary too but usually better to know about these things and then hopefully if need be, you can do something about it. Do keep us posted if you want to regarding any updates you get from the specialist etc. 💕

@SnookyPook My partner doesn't want an early scan as he doesn't want to think everything is okay then something happen after. It makes sense but also the unknown is scary!
How are you?

@RegardingPersephone yeah it's tough isn't it. I didn't with my loss but then found out at nearly 12wks that they had stopped developing a month before... So I think maybe if I get pregnant again, I might want one around the 8wk mark just to see if they've passed the previous loss gestation... But of course it's no guarantee is it. So hard to know.

I'm doing ok thanks. Right at the start of the tww and feeling a kind of hopeful anticipation at the moment... 🤷🏼‍♀️ Ask again in a couple of weeks!!

Good to hear everyone’s updates, and thanks for asking @SnookyPook Wish I could post something positive but sadly not - I’m going in for D&C tomorrow for RPOC and a possible molar pregnancy :( Feel like this is dragging on forever (it’s been more than 5 weeks since MMC diagnosed) and didn’t expect it could get worse! If it is molar there will be months more waiting and tests. Should know in a couple of weeks.

Those who had D&C under general, any positive stories please?

@Oxalis00 I did. It was very easy. I went to sleep and when I woke up it was all over. I had very little if any bleeding or pain afterwards. The nurses were all so, so kind as well.

I'm sorry you're going through this :(

Thanks @TheBirdintheCave that’s good to know. I’m just scared - never had a GA, have always wanted minimal intervention… I hear you when you say “my body sucks”. It’s a shock when things start going wrong, and then get worse. Especially hard to process after a successful previous pregnancy. I don’t know much about IVF but it sounds like you’ve got possibilities ahead, and plenty of chance of good luck this time. Waiting waiting waiting is SO HARD though... Keep us posted. X

@Oxalis00 I had a D&C under GA also and it was all very straight forward, as previously said u ‘fall asleep’ and wake up to it all over, I’d very little bleeding and ovulated just over 3 weeks later, period just over 5 weeks later. I’m sorry ur going through this and wish u all the best❤️

im just 1dpo so at the start of the TWW again, anyone else similar?

@Oxalis00 ah sorry to hear your update. Hope all goes well. I didn't have the surgery in the end but I opted for it on the recommendation of my Sister and one of my good friends, both whom recommended it and described it similarly to @TheBirdintheCave and @DmcinT . Hope all goes well for you. Really hope it's not molar as I can imagine having to wait around etc being really frustrating. Keep us posted.

@DmcinT also 1dpo here!

Thanks for checking in @SnookyPook how are you doing?

And congratulations to those with their BFP’s 😊

I’m doing ok, had my first period since my second miscarriage and just seeing how it goes this cycle. I think we won’t properly try right away but at the same time not going to fully prevent.

@SnookyPook hello, I'm doing ok? It's been over a month since my MVA and I have just gotten my first period, it's been quite heavy and painful but I'm glad everything is getting back to normal. We have our wedding in 5 weeks so we are focusing on that at the moment and we are going to try again on our honeymoon, so I may have another period before then, letting my body get back to normal. I'm strangely calm and ok which makes me feel guilty that I'm not sad or as upset anymore. In actual fact I'm scared of getting pregnant again, so not really excited yet, maybe after the wedding I may be.
How are you x

Sorry, another D&C question for @TheBirdintheCave @JJ2023 and others! Did you have a breathing tube? Or urinary catheter? I’ve never had surgery before and all of these things terrify me. Including the cannula. Thank you for sharing! I realise this board is supposed to be for AFTER miscarriage. Never knew how long it would take to get ‘after’! 🙄