Journey after miscarriage support thread March 2023

[SMG1992]

Hi All,

I've started a new thread as the other was at page 39.
I hope everyone had a good weekend. I'm still just about in my fertile window - I got my LH surge yesterday.

The clocks going forward has hot me a little bit, but I'm looking forward to brighter evenings.

@fleur89 i had this happen to me 8 years ago I ended up with sepsis and pelvic inflammatory disease do not mess about try phoning your early pregnancy unit if not call 111. Do not mess about as if u have an infection it can damage your eggs and fallopian tubes.
@YearoftheRabbit23 woooooohoooooo awesome news congratulations and what a way to pass the time.
afm had my super early scan this morning saw a sac and yolk so puts me where I thought and I am just waiting for my progesterone another scan 1st may xxx

Was relying on cm only originally. Then started using OPKs (just cheap ones from ebay) to confirm that side of things. Then added in BBT tracking recently as started to wonder if I actually do ovulate (seems I do).

Hi. Just taken a pregnancy test nearly three weeks after MC (at 10 weeks but don't when it stopped) and there is the slightest shadow of a line. I did go for a less sensitive test deliberately. Should I worry or not really? Scan had showed it had the pregnancy was all gone.

Amazing news @YearoftheRabbit23 huge congrats x

@fleur89 so sorry you're going through this, that sounds scary. Agree with pp that you should try going through 111 as well if not getting anywhere with EPU.

@YearoftheRabbit23 congratulations, that's wonderful news!

Thank you all, I called all the numbers and emailed all the email addresses I could find. Left multiple voicemails and eventually EPU called me back. I have an appointment at 4pm today so glad they have prioritised me. Will keep you updated 💗

Thanks @TheBirdintheCave @Chocolatebean @Hankthehonk @Nmvasey85 for your kind words, hope those of you who are pregnant are all doing well and for those still trying, may this cycle be the one that sticks!

@fleur89 hope the scan reveals that all is fine and no infection.

@YearoftheRabbit23 congratulations! So pleased for you and keeping fingers crossed everything goes happy, healthy and smoothly!
@Chocolatebean i have my early scan booked on 1st May too! I think I’ll be 7+1 then so really hoping it all looks as it should
I’m trying so hard to feel positive about this pregnancy, if a thought of doubt enters my mind I just try to not dwell on it

I hope everyone is doing well
@fleur89 i hope your scan goes ok and gives you the peace of mind you need
x

@fleur89 i hope it all goes well let us know how u get on xxx

Good luck everyone!

Sorry try to keep up with messages while at work so apologies im in & out of the chat.

My period just finished today so im in the 'impatiently waiting for ovulation, dtd phase & then will be the dreaded 2ww!

Xx

@Ttc2023x good luck for this cycle I always found waiting for ovulation worse then the 2ww as mine was always late 🤦‍♀️ at least the 2 we I know it would be less than 14 days 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️.
hi @SMG1992 how are u feeling? I am on for a while then I have a freak out and decide there’s no way this will work. I’ve had this weird lump in my throat today mind you I was super anxious this morning so that won’t have helped. You must be ahead of me by 2 days as on 1st may I’ll be 6+6 xxx
@VillageFete @Fairylight102 @TheBirdintheCave @Hankthehonk @hennie222 @kookyelephant how are you all keeping xxx

@Chocolatebean really sweet of you to ask and a massive congratulations to you! Sending all the positive energy ⚡️

I've gone low, really low, I almost feel like giving up. I stopped tracking my ovulation giving nothing any effort I need to snap out of it

I had my miscarriage analysis back, and the baby had trisomy 13 so basically would never have survived. Because of this Leicester have offered us genetic testing!

It was a little boy I was also told, it's weird because it's almost made me feel so much worse knowing that, it's no longer I miscarried a baby.. it's I lost a baby boy 😔

Sorry to be so doom and gloom

I hope you're keeping ok and staying positive 💕💕💕

@kookyelephant im so so sorry, I can see why it has made things so much worse it means they were real and you can now picture yourself with a little boy it makes it so much more real and therefore so much more painful no wonder you have gone downhill I’m so sorry.
i gave up last month, ovulation just wasn’t happening I drank wine and ordered a new piece of exercise equipment. I started living again and it was hard but it got easier I just kept so busy so I couldn’t think I just would not let my self go to that dark place again.
do you think you will take the genetic testing?it’s really good they’ve offered you that Xxx
thinking of you and if u need to vent vent away xxz

@kookyelephant sorry to hear this and I can totally understand why you'd feel worse knowing it was a baby boy. Sending so much love and best wishes 💗

I got the all clear just now, so no infections etc. They think I passed the rest this morning and my body is finally realising I’m not pregnant. They were very thorough and spent half an hour scanning, 3 doctors checked me to confirm as infection would be so dangerous if they missed that. They said to expect a period pretty soon as they can see activity on my ovaries and all looks really healthy. So glad this process is almost over after so long dealing with it - the baby had stopped developing 10 weeks ago so it's been a really drawn out process.

Will wait for my first period and then start tracking / ttc again.

@kookyelephant So sorry about your little boy :(

@fleur89 I'm glad there wasn't an infection and that your body can start moving forwards again. I remember the waiting being the worst part.

I'm ok. 6dpo today. Nothing to report really. I've had some twinges today before and after my IVF baseline scan but I doubt it means anything good.

All approved to go ahead when AF arrives on Tuesday now :)

@fleur that’s brilliant. Funny enough that’s what happened with mine I kept going to the dr as was still spotting they were like it’s fine it will stop, then one morning I started bleeding super heavy thought Oooh good finally my period but then what was inside broke away and there was lots of it when I got to hospital and they did an internal my body had expelled all the contents, I ended up admitted on intravenous antibiotics for a while but my body did the hard work. God forbid you ever go through this again but after this mc I also had retained tissue it was only a small piece but they kept an eye on it and after 3 periods it had gone thank goodness but just be aware as when I had my son I also retained some of his placenta so keep an eye as some people seem to be prone to it xxx
@TheBirdintheCave crikey that has come around quickly oooh keep us updated xxx

@Chocolatebean thanks for checking in with everyone that's kind! I'm in the tww - 5dpo today. I'm trying to tell myself it's unlikely I'd get pregnant so fast (as a reminder I caught ovulation 4 weeks post mc, haven't had a period yet) and not get my hopes up. But still waking up every morning thinking I'm one day closer to testing.
Feeling physically well now though, getting back into running and I've never eaten so healthily.
However, the weekend AF is due I have a pal's hen do so if I'm not pregnant this cycle I'll be having a few drinks and eating what I want!

@kookyelephant I totally get it, I don't think I would want to know whether the baby I lost was a boy or a girl. We had names picked out for both so suddenly they'd become that name too. Sending you a huge hug, but hoping the offer of genetic testing is a positive step for you

@fleur89 what a relief that it's not an infection and that they were so thorough with you. Must be reassuring to hear that everything looks healthy. But I'm sure you're still feeling low as well. Well done advocating for yourself

@fleur89 relieved to hear you don’t have an infection, I hope you start to feel better soon.

also sending all the positive energy and baby dust to those in tww.

@Chocolatebean im not 100% sure on my dates to be honest but I’m going on 5+1 today as I did one of the clear blue tests yesterday which said 3 weeks plus so must be over 5weeks… won’t know for sure until a scan as my cycle was seriously messed up since the mmc

@SMG1992 that’s Fantastic u got a 3+ on your test, I’m way too chicken to do any more tests now lol. Have u got any more symptoms? I have like a swimmy head and had a lump in my throat all day yesterday but I don’t really have anything else xxx

@Snookypook tagging you here so you can join this lovely group x

@Hankthehonk thank you so much!

Hi everyone. @Hankthehonk just told me about this lovely thread and I've just read the whole thing and am feeling so uplifted. Sorry for your losses. How wonderful to see all the BFPs knowing what you've all been through. And love seeing how supportive you all are of each other. Hope you don't mind me joining 💕

Unfortunately I found out on Friday that I'd had a MMC. I had some fairly mild spotting but was close to 12wks so they invited me in for a scan. Baby had stopped developing at 7+5 😔 I was booked for surgery which should have been this morning but I actually started miscarrying naturally after the scan and they checked yesterday and said I had passed everything. Was a weird mix of relief and upset. So I'm right in the thick of the early days and getting my head around it all. We were gearing up to announce (would have been 12wks yesterday) and it just feels so cruel and bleurgh right now.

Still bleeding etc so won't be on the trying again bandwagon just yet, but don't think I'll want to leave it too long, although also want to make sure I give myself space to recover etc. It's a weird balance isn't it of longing to be pregnant again, being terrified to be pregnant again and just not quite knowing where your head is at etc.

Anyway, I hope everyone who has had BFPs is doing well, and I hope those of you trying again get yours soon. ❤️

@SnookyPook Welcome and sorry for your loss :( MMCs are so cruel.

Hi @SnookyPook welcome to the group and I’m so sorry for your loss everyone here is lovely and I always found so much comfort being among ladies who had been through the same thing. Xxx

@SnookyPook so sorry for your loss and welcome to the group
I hope you are feeling as well as you can be and know that this is a totally safe place to vent and say however you are feeling
take care of yourself and your partner too, it’s such a cruel thing to go through x

@Chocolatebean not really having anymore symptoms, very slightly groggy in the mornings before breakfast but that’s it.
I got my midwife appointment today booked for 11th May too - seems so far away, time is going so slowly! X