Journey after miscarriage support thread Jan 2023

[Fairylight102]

I wondered if anyone out there would be interested in joining a thread for those who have recently experienced a miscarriage - a place to share how we’re feeling emotionally, physical recovery, becoming ready to try again (for those that want to), and hopefully one day positive stories of successful preganancies.

I’m 32 and recently had a miscarriage at 5-6 weeks of my first pregnancy. I was relieved to have conceived after quite a short time, because I have PCOS and was worried I might struggle to get pregnant.

My miscarriage was about 2 and half weeks ago now, and today is the first day I’ve not had any spotting/bleeding at all, and that has been a relief to feel like my body is moving on from it. I know it’s advisable to do a pregnancy test a few weeks after miscarriage, which is something I’m a bit anxious about doing as I’m fairly sure it will be an emotional thing to do.

Since it happened my sleep pattern and energy levels have been a bit all over the place. Some days I’ve just wanted to sleep all the time, which I think could be a mix of actual physical tiredness and also emotional tiredness/hormonal changes. I was back at work for the first time today, and it was helpful to have something else to focus on and motivate myself for.

I’ve restarted tracking my BBT to see what happens with my cycle returning, though I’m aware it could take a while to get back to normal. My husband and I are both on the same page that we’d like to try again once I’ve had one normal period, so I guess we’ll just see how things go and how we feel when we reach this point.

Sorry this has turned into a longer post than I expected! Anyway, if there’s anyone out there who’s had a similar experience recently and would like a place to share feelings/questions/advice it would be lovely to hear from others.

0h @TheBirdintheCave i bet it is such an awful wait, will they give you some dates when you can start as well?
im feeling much better thanks still exhausted but not ill anymore just hoping it doesn’t delay my previous ovulation 😂😂😂. I’ve been so good with diet, smoothies, supplements but have barely ingested anything for 5 days. I have managed to get my supplements swallowed down though so we will just have to see I guess xxx

@Chocolatebean They told us that we could start when I get my next AF so around 14th of March :)

@TheBirdintheCave that isn’t far away at all. How do you feel? Xxx

@Chocolatebean I've made my peace with it now. I'll do it if I have to. I just really hope we get lucky with this last cycle 😅

@TheBirdintheCave oh can you Imagine if this last cycle works for you that would just be incredible. You do hear of it happening, it happened to the girl down my street then a lady up my street her ivf failed and she got pregnant naturally straight after and that’s just in my street of 14 houses so here’s hoping xxx
i am still struggling to find some kind of peace I don’t think covid has helped as I just feel even more depressed I just need to be able to keep myself busy and get on with things grrrr xxx

After starting the day with 2 positive pregnancy tests AF has now arrived!
Miscarriages are a real mindf*ck!
hoping my hormones can calm down and ready for my next cycle and a got bath in the mean time!

@SMG1992 Really? That's awful I'm sorry :( I'd keep testing over the next few days though just in case it's early pregnancy bleeding and not AF.

it’s not heavy but it’s fresh blood rather than the old spotting is had for a few weeks after the MC.
I’ll test again after the weekend but I’m fairly certain it’s my AF.

my head is all over the show!

but hopefully after one period I’ll have a better chance on my next cycle and atleast they seem to have come back regular. It’s crazy how before my MC I had no idea that conceiving would be this psychologically draining

Oh @SMG1992 thats awful I’m so sorry it’s so cruel this journey is so bloody hard I had no idea it would be like this. It’s all consuming isn’t it? You never know as @TheBirdintheCave says keep testing you never know. It’s just cruel so bloody cruel xxx

So sorry @SMG1992 it really is so draining, I was still testing for my ovulation on cd17 and instead AF came, totally messing with me. Enjoy your bath and if this is af see it as a reset and a fresh start

Thanks ladies, I don’t even know if it is definitely AF
I keep DH updated and he must think I’m going mad, he doesn’t really get how I can’t know if I’m definitely on my period or not… I don’t blame him as I just don’t trust my own body any more

Hey @Enigma85 so much for us getting straight back on track eh? How are you feeling it’s so hard when all u want to do it ttc but we can’t do that without our cycles getting on track can we 🤦‍♀️
Even though my temps suggest I did ovulate, the fact at my scan my lining was nice and thin and also I was just about to ovulate and the scan person said I was mid cycle and my period started 2 days later something most certainly went wrong there. I’ve been a total lunatic with supplements along with the usual I’ve added Maca, aspirin, vitex and other stupid stuff that will probably do more harm than good and then covid added as a final component to make it even more messed up. I’ve just lost the plot a bit and I need a proverbial slap and a oull
myself together. Whether I will even ovulate this month with having covid never mind screwed up hormones from
the mc remains to be seen. It totally and absolutely sucks I am trying to find a positive mindset but failing miserably 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ xxx

@Chocolatebean sorry you are feeling like that.
your cycle last month sounds so confusing, I really hope it becomes more regular and reliable for you this month
and as for maca supplements they have other nutritional benefits so I wouldn’t worry they are doing any harm
I’m taking a small dose of aspirin daily too

Hey @SMG1992 how are you doing this morning? Been thinking of u xxx

@Enigma85 @SMG1992 @Chocolatebean Sorry you’re having all this stress with your cycles this month, it’s so frustrating isn’t it?

I think from BBT I ovulated on day 13 which about 5 days early for me. Assuming my luteal
phase is the same length as normal, I should expect a 27 day cycle rather than 31-32. I’m
on day 24 now so I’m expecting to get my period/test if not in a few days time.

My heart just keeps saying why am I still doing this, I was pregnant, why am I still having to do the whole TTC process 😢 I feel so up and down, some days fine, others I can barely motivate myself to do anything.

@Fairylight102 The snakes and ladders feeling is just the worst. I hope this is your lucky cycle.

@Chocolatebean aw thank you
ive had no more blood actually so really not sure what’s going on
I think I’m just going to have to sit tight for now x

@TheBirdintheCave Thank you. I keep symptom spotting, I’ve had little bits of nausea, bloating and cramping on and off since about 4DPO (which realistically I know is way too early for anything to have happened), but there is a hopeful part of me that keeps saying “this reminds me of how I felt before the miscarriage”. .. The whole experience is such a mind-game 😣

@SMG1992 that must be so confusing! Could it be implantation bleeding?
I had implantation bleeding with my son, it was just like a period so I had no idea I was pregnant. Bright red and it lasted for about 4-5 days.

@Fairylight102 I know how you feel, I’m the same, one day I’m positive and convinced I’ll have a successful pregnancy soon, the next day I’m down in the dumps.
I’m 3dpo and just started to have some light cramping( it’s definitely my mind playing games 😅).
If you’re on 11dpo now you could definitely have some symptoms though.
Fingers crossed for you this cycle!

@Travellingislife Fingers crossed for you too!

Hi ladies. Jumping on this thread as I’ve previously been on a few others regarding MC. I have recently gone through my 4th miscarriage. I had 2 early, then one at 12 weeks, and my most recent at 5 weeks in January. I am currently having my first period since the January miscarriage and hoping to starting trying again this month. I am 28 with no baby as of yet.
I have been doing okay, although today for some reason I feel all doom and gloom. Just emotional and upset that I am still going through this journey with empty arms. Thinking of you all xx

Oh wow ladies here’s hoping we get some good news soon. good news much needed 😊
Im still getting negative opks so I need good news from you guys as I’m still miles away from anything just hoping bloody covid doesn’t muck up my chances all I can do is hope xxx

@Sophiey11 Welcome and so sorry to hear about everything you’ve been through x

How is everyone doing? My period started last night, so my second cycle post-miscarriage was super short - 24 days with ovulation on day 13. God knows what’s going on with my body because my cycles were previously 30/31/32 days (never completely regular because of PCOS).

I’m trying to stay positive that at least my BBT chart shows I am ovulating. But with my cycle lengths being so irregular, it’s hard to plan for ovulation, so this cycle I think I’m going to try for every other day from the end of my period until BBT indicates ovulation has happened (OPKs don’t seem to work very well for me).

Sending best wishes to everyone xxx