Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 6. ALL welcome!

[Sunbird24]

If you’re going through this, you’re not alone. I’ll post some links to support organisations shortly, but feel free to post, or just read, whatever you need.

@Sunbird24 @TheHideAndSeekingHill thank you for your responses and kindness. I think it helped a little just to write it all down. My rational brain knows there's nothing I can do but move on, just need my emotional brain to catch up!

@HappyPie82 I'm sorry for your loss and glad they looked after you in hospital. I second what @TheHideAndSeekingHill said about digestion slowing down. Trapped wind can be incredibly uncomfortable, especially when your abdomen is already sore.

@Handmaid2019 I really hope you're ok and the scan provided some answers. Being stuck in limbo land is hard.

Hope everyone is doing ok?

Im on CD1 again today as my last embryo transfer didn’t even implant, for the first time ever. I’m trying to stay positive because at least I don’t have to go through another MC, but tbh it doesn’t really feel much different.

I'm so sorry @Sunbird24 , it must have been a bit of a shock if all the others implanted. I can understand why it would still feel like a MC. Be kind to yourself x

I am joining you as had a missed miscarriage in June :( The embryo stopped growing at just after 7 weeks... The worst pain ever.

Sending you lots of hugs 🌻❤

@Pancake92 so sorry to hear that. How are you feeling now?

@Sunbird24 Thank you 💐Some days are better than others, I have to say announcements about January babies are heartbreaking 😪I understand that other people having babies in January have nothing to do with my loss and my reaction is probably irrational but it's very hard. How are you? 🌸x

@Pancake92 totally get that, mine would have been an April baby this time, but I’ve got other lost due dates in March, June and August, and people seemingly having babies all round me at the moment. I’m trying to come to terms with the fact I’ve only got one embryo left and no idea why I can’t grow them, so it is quite likely it’ll just never happen for me now.

So sorry for your loss @Pancake92 , mine was due 17 Jan and the pregnancy announcements are like a punch in the gut!

Hang in there @Sunbird24 'it ain't over til the fat lady sings' as they say, and I'm not singing yet 😂. Seriously though, I understand why you'd want to try to prepare yourself but I've git everything crossed you get your happy ending. Do you know when you'll be having the transfer?

Just jumping in hope everyone is doing okay 💕. Im going through my third miscarriage in a row, this one was detected at my 12 week scan, babies heart stopped beating at 10 weeks me and my husband were in total disbelief. Im absolutely petrified this one will be the furthest along out of my three miscarriages. Im going into hospital for medical management on Monday as nothing is happening naturally and the thought of having my baby still inside me lifeless is sending me mental, I feel sick with dread what I'm going to endure. Im exhausted, three losses in the past 10 months?!. Im absolutely devastated, this one hurt just that little bit more as I really thought this was the one this time 😭 Im not coping well and just bursting into breathless sobs constantly, my sister is pregnant I was due a month before her, we were meant to be sharing this journey and now mine is being ripped away. I also have a toddler, I wanted her to have a sibling so bad and now I feel so guilty for mourning this loss as I don't feel present with my daughter enough. They are referring me for tests for recurrent miscarriage but the thought of having to go through this again fills me with dread. I just don’t know what to do with myself my sadness is turning to anger, why me, what did I do to deserve this?!

Im so sorry for this depressing post I feel lost I feel like i want to go to sleep and wake up when its all over I cant do this again 😢😢

@Cindy974 massive hugs, I know how you feel. You will get through it but just focus on each breath at a time for now, no further ahead than that. You’re not alone.

@Cindy974 So sorry for your loss 💐
Life can be so cruel and you have already been through so much. I know that nothing we say could reduce the pain you are feeling. Will be keeping you in my thoughts ❤

Hi there. I’m currently recovering from a d and c after my miscarriage. I was ten weeks pregnant but scan last wed showed baby’s heart had stopped just a day or so before. I am so devastated. I do have other children but this would have been my first with my partner and as im 43 we were so thrilled to manage to conceive. I feel completely lost at the moment and so hopeless for the future because of my age. I feel time is up and we will
never have the baby of
our won that we so wish for. I’ve been crying so much over the last few days and feel scared that it won’t get easier. Hoping reading other stories and chatting to women in similar situations will help me through my grief. I am sorry for everyone’s loss on this board❤️

My heart goes out to you. Three in a row is Jsut heartbreaking x

@Cindy974 I'm so sorry for all that you've been through. Is there an option to have some tests done as this is your third in a row? I know it won't help with the pain of the three you've lost but maybe it could help provide some hope for the future x

I'm so sorry for your loss @Tray66 . It doesn't matter that you already have children, miscarriage is still heartbreaking. Be kind to yourself x

Thank you so much. You are very kind x

@Marmite83 thank you so much. You are very kind x

@Tray66 so sorry for your loss, hope this little group helps you feel less alone

@Sunbird24 thank you so much. It already does make me feel less alone x

@Tray66 I’m so sorry for your loss please be kind to yourself 💕

@Marmite83 thank you for your kind words 💕 I am going to be referred for test for recurrent miscarriage and they are going to send the fetus off for testing, I really hope i get some answers x

Hi ladies. Im hoping to have an erpc this week to get things over finally. Im nervous about the tablet they give before surgery? Are there side effects? I have a phobia of being sick, i heard it is one of the common side effects. I had an erpc in December and they didnt use the pessary before hand.

thanks x

@Hayley220 ive had several surgeries now and no nausea or sickness - if you’re worried you can ask about an anti-emetic but you may well not need it. Hope it goes well for you

Hello I haven't posted in a long while, how is everyone doing ? I had my d&c late June and it's been 7 weeks I am on the pill and a few days ago I thought I had my period back finally !
But I bled for like 1 day then really light hardly anything for 2 days after! I wudnt even call it a period ! Is this normal? I hope everyone is ok xx

@Hayley220 hi there. I had Erpc on Friday but they didn’t give me the tablets before hand so can’t help you on that one. The procedure itself went fine though. Mind yourself xxx