Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 4. ALL welcome!

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I went to the doctor. I bled and passed clots and tissues for 9 days and the bleeding has now stopped.

They’re sending me for blood work to see what my HCG levels are like. I asked for an ultrasound but they won’t do one unless my HCG is too high.

I was intimate with my husband last night. My vagina felt “tired” if that makes any sense.

@graciepoo when you said you bled for nine days did you carry on with any light browny discharge after that or did your nine days include that?

I’m on day 16 now of my mc and still have a light brown discharge a bit similar to what I had the two weeks before the mc started. EPU told me to test on day 21 as they won’t do anything before then so feel I’m still stuck in this mc and my body hasn't quite moved on yet. Sounds daft but don’t want to take a pg test as I don’t want to still see a positive line. Not sure emotionally I could cope with that as stupid as it sounds.

Morning all, I'm new here. Thought I'd pop my head in to say hi and introduce myself, and catch up with the last few pages when I have more time this afternoon.

First I'd like to say I'm very sorry for all your losses.

I've had 2 mc now, and no kids. First one I was pretty well prepared for as it seems that most of my friends have miscarried their first pregnancy and gone on to have healthy babies with their second, so I knew how common that is. What I wasn't prepared for was being one of the 2% of women who have more than one, and my second mc, which was also mmc, was a lot harder to deal with. Still is, I guess. Because now I think there's another issue than just dumb luck with the embryo not being viable.

I had an MVA to deal with my latest loss 7 weeks ago and have only just stopped the continuous spotting and bleeding and starting to feel like my body is getting back to normal. I'm both relieved (like 80%) that my body is healing, and anxious (20%) that we can start trying again. I'm fast approaching 35 so feel like time isn't on my side and want to just get on with it now, but if I was a few years younger I would probably want to take a break from trying and get some things sorted first.

Anyone else in a similar situation?

@GinnyBee hi, I am in very similar situation.... I have recently had a MMC I am 36, no kids, this was my first miscarriage but I worry it won't be my last if I am lucky enough to conceive again.
Like you, I feel time is not on my side and I feel extremely panicky because of this!
I discussed just this week with my gyno my concerns she said the miscarriage was a good sign I can conceive naturally and there are no problems there! It did feel like we were trying for a long time xx

@Lulumam I'm on day 16 too and still have some light brown spotting. I have days where I have nothing then others where it appears again. I also want to test but am worried about seeing a positive. I think I'll wait it out until next week and test then.

Hi @GinnyBee, so sorry for your loss. I'm in a similar situation to you. I've also just had my second MC, also a MMC and I have no kids already, so I understand how you must be feeling. Have you been offered any investigations? Try stay positive x

It was 9 days in all. I miscarried at 6 weeks, 6 days so I lost my pregnancy early on. How far along were you? I have also been taking my prenatal vitamins and have been taking iron as well, both important things for me to take which made my cycle regular. Every woman is different and no two experiences are the same. I would give it time. My thoughts are with you!

I'v finally stopped bleeding. I bled for two weeks after passing the sac so almost 3 weeks in total - was nearly 11 weeks. I got told up to 3 weeks in normal. I got told to test 3 weeks after passing the sac, I don't really want to have to go out and buy tests hoping for a negative.

@WildflowerPetals I had bloods taken after mine, perhaps the gp can take yours to see if there's anything obvious wrong with them.

@GinnyBee sorry you're here too . I'm going to wait until I'v had a period first but that's only because I'v thrown myself into activities that aren't necessarily pregnancy friendly (should add nothing like drinking or drugs) as a way of dealing with my miscarriage.

@im2sad What bloods did you have done? Were they to check your hormones? I might look into it but last MC I had to really push for them to do my hormone bloods.

@GinnyBee sorry that you’re here too, it sounds like a really hard decision but whatever you choose is the right choice at the time, and that’s all you can do xx

I’m feeling a bit lost and wondered if I’m being unrealistic- I’ve been spotting since last Monday and bleeding steadily with a few v small clots since last Thursday, so 8 days now but only v minimal cramps and no sign of anything more. Is this normal in your experiences? I sort of thought once I started bleeding ‘properly’ it’s be a bit quicker. The waiting is awful. I have my next scan on Monday, but I’m worried to leave the house in case it gets bad. In the grand scheme of things I know it’s not much time but living through it it feels like years.

@PrettySad Sorry for your loss. Please believe that it is rare to have concurrent miscarriages and the odds are still on your side! Hoping your next one ends up in your arms!

@WildflowerPetals Thank you. I requested some basic tests through my GP (thyroid, clotting screen and APS antibodies - they've ordered full blood count as well) and had a treatment advice note from the local consultant for progesterone, but I don't qualify to be referred for recurrent miscarriages yet. Thankful that my GP has agreed to run some tests though! They've been brilliant to deal with actually. I only got my head organised enough to ask for these tests yesterday, they didn't even hesitate to agree and I'm going in for the bloods on Monday. Although I had to know what I wanted, they didn't automatically offer any specific ones. Maybe you can try asking your GP again? I originally just asked at the hospital and the consultant turned me down and I thought that was that, but then I heard other people were able to get tests through their GP and that's what I'm now doing!

@WildflowerPetals no not hcg. I think it's called full blood count - it can reveal any clotting issues and thyroid issues which I know can sometimes cause miscarriage. I have them done regularly anyway due to other health issues but got the impression it was standard for my EPU to do them too.

@MrsFLongbottom It depends how far along you were when you MC'd but I'd have thought you should get some larger clots as well as the smaller ones. Hopefully your scan will give you some answers but I know the wait is awful.

@GinnyBee Thanks for the info, I think I might speak to my GP and see if they can do some bloods. How did you get the treatment advice note from the consultant? I've been told about apsrin and progesterone by a midwife but don't have anything in writing to request it from my GP.

@im2sad I meant hormone test such as FSH, LH & Oestrodial. I had FBC and TSH done before I fell pregnant this time and they were normal x

@MrsFLongbottom I brought some incontinence knickers. I didn't end up really needing them (I think because the sac and placenta passed in one go) but it made me feel safer leaving the house.

@WildflowerPetals sorry yes I think they included all that from what I'v seen on the print out.
My folate levels have always been low so I'm worried that's what caused mine even though I take 5mg folic acid.

@WildflowerPetals thanks, I thought I was 12 weeks but measuring 7, so I’m really not sure? Online it seems to be mixed but I’m expecting bigger clots and a sac probably (there was a visible sac on the scan but no visible embryo). It’s hard to prepare yourself so I feel like I’m on pause right now. It’s taken a long time for my body to realise so I’m worried itll take a long time to deal with it.

@im2sad thanks that’s a good suggestion- I think I’ll put in an Amazon order tonight just to feel safer.

@WildflowerPetals When my midwife requested a referral for recurrent miscarriages the consultant didn't agree to the referral but then just gave me that treatment advice note. I didn't even know to ask for it, it's just something he did. He said that the evidence for it working for women in my situation is weak, but there's no harm in trying. I've also heard about aspirin, but the consultant didn't mention it. I will ask my GP when my blood tests come back, and it might be something they recommend anyway if the blood clotting screens come back with anything.

I don't know if this is something every GP can now do, but here because of covid they are now able to email consultants with patient questions and for advice without needing a referral, maybe your GP can ask your local consultant on your behalf?

@im2sad I still have hormone bloods outstanding as I was just starting fertility investigations when I fell pregnant so might ask if I can have those done now.

@MrsFLongbottom I was the same, supposed to be 12 but measuring 7. I had large clots and tissue mass but all the larger bits seem to pass at once when I went to the loo. Have you had much cramping?

@GinnyBee Ah right, I'm glad they seem to be trying to help you. I've read studies about the use of progesterone and it seems to work for some but not for others but, like you say, it's worth a try. As far as I'm aware the aspirin can't do any harm, that's why I've decided to just try it next time. I'll give my GP a ring and relay some of the info/advice you've given, thank you 😊

@WildflowerPetals how long did it take from the start of your bleeding? I can’t remember if you had medical management sorry? No hardly any cramping at all yet, every time I get a little twinge I’m thinking it’s starting but then everything settles again. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through the same, I hope you manage to get the investigations and some positive news xx

@WildflowerPetals hopefully they'll agree, some gps seem far more open to investigation than others. I took nearly 2 years to fall pregnant with my DD, hope you get some answers

@MrsFLongbottom I had light bleeding every day for two weeks and then I started to bleed heavier and have cramps and two days after this I miscarried but if you’ve seen my posts I’m still bleeding now and that was over two weeks ago now whereas @graciepoo took nine days to miscarry so I think we are all very different. However you could call

@MrsFLongbottom I started bleeding literally an hour and half before my 12 week scan, then after my scan started having really bad cramps and passed most of it that day. The bleeding lessened after that. Then I had another scan a few days later and they said there was some retained tissue but not enough to worry about, I passed that a few days later. Everyone is different though so don't worry.

@im2sad Yeah definitely, I've heard of people having bloods done when they've not even been trying a year (literally like 6 months). I had to really push for my GP to just do my hormone bloods after I'd been trying for a year.

Hi all, just wanted to update on my previous post, I have started my period today following my miscarriage, it has been just over 4 weeks since the miscarriage took place, I was always spot on every month with my periods they were literally like clockwork so I am impressed they have returned on time based on everything that's happened.
I'm not going to lie I had the shock of my life when I saw blood again, I haven't had a period since February so this is weird experiencing all of the feelings and using tampons again, I didn't think I'd have to buy them for a long time 😞
Pain wise it feels like my usual period so far, back aching and mild to moderate pain in my womb , it has started abruptly though which isn't what normally happens usually have some spotting as a warning at least, this is very full on and bright red blood. I will keep you updated how I am getting on how long the first one lasted etc only because I was really anxious about it would be and how I would feel so if I can help one person I'm happy 😊 hope you're all okay and staying strong my lovelies xxx

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Hi, new member here. I have lost my baby at 11 week . Been trying for six years (unexplained infertility)and this was my first pregnancy. everything was Okey ,I saw heartbeat was 189 about a week ago on USG.
But about 3 days ago suddenly I felt bad cramps throughout morning and I passed huge blood clot,and after that I passed a huge hard flesh( sorry for tmi) and within 1 minute my sac was out intact with the foetus floating inside. I was rushed to the hospital and I had to remove the placenta via d&c. My doc told me they can't find why it happened.
Now i am trying to recover both physically and mentally. I want to try right after my first cycle.and my doc said it's Okey if we are ready.

Anybody here can you please share your experience regarding this. Is it Okey or it will increase the risk of recurrent miscarriage? How long I should wait?
If anybody have positive story please share with me.🙂🙂
Thanks for reading this long post.

@prettysad I’m glad it’s come again relatively quickly, hope it’s not too and for you. I’m sorry that the blood felt a shock though x

Thanks @WildflowerPetals and @Lulumam it’s really good to remember that everyone is different- the advice and info online is fairly straightforward and simple which I know humans aren’t! It’s getting a bit heavier and more crampy today so maybe I’m moving forward a bit now.