Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 4. ALL welcome!

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@Miscarriage39 That sounds so frustrating. I can’t imagine the limbo you feel like you’re in. Have you spoken to EPU/gynae about it? Surely this is exactly the type of thing they should get you in for a check for. I know nothing about perimenopause, but I reckon it’s far more likely to be miscarriage related than that.

Thanks PolarBear63, you are probably right, I am just mentally torturing myself. I did call the EPU last week, but I am no longer under them (I had no idea how long I was under them for, as I didn’t have any real contact after having surgery, apart from the receptionist giving me her opinion a few weeks ago!). I couldn’t get an appointment with my GP on Friday, but will try again this week. The rational part of me thinks it is probably normal and just my body adjusting, but I am impatient and anxious!

Hello all sorry to all those rhat have had to join this thread :(

I'm wondering if those that are further on long in the journey can help me i had a MMC detected on 9th March (9weeks) with surgery on the 15th of March. On 5th April i got a negative pregnancy test (supermarket branded). Im pretty sure I ovulated a couple days later.
I am yet to start my AF and today is 5 weeks since surgery and so I took a test this morning which i think shows an extremely faint line! The thing is this morning test was a First Response which i know detect lower levels of HCG. Is it a possibility that it's detected hormones from the MMC given my negative before was with a supermarket branded test? Although I'm pretty certain I ovulated shortly after. Or could it be a new pregnancy!?
Any advise would be really appreciated my MMC was my first pregnancy and its all very confusing.....

@SamBass is there a chance to check the sensitivity of supermarket pregnancy test you used and compare to FRER. So its been 2 weeks between your negative test and faint FRER... well it does sound positive to me but Unfortunately only time can tell, with FRER you should start getting stronger lines every day...
I hope its good news for you!!! 💕

@Doremifasol the supermarket one i used was Asda, im not sure but after looking online i think Asda might be 15mIU and FRER 12?? Im
Not sure though....

SamBass I think you’ll just have to keep testing to see if the line gets stronger. I hope it’s good news for you

@Miscarriage39 thank you for reply :) Yeah i planned to wait until Thursday to test again but i caved and tested this morning. There is still a faint line but im not sure if its any darker. Will leave it tomorrow and test again Thursday i think

Left one is yesterday morning right one is this morning

@Miscarriage39 so sorry to hear you're going through this, that sounds really frustrating. Stay positive and see what the GP says - I tend to find I feel better once I've spoken to a Dr about something that's worrying me, as you get some control back when you're taking action to find out what's happening. I also totally get it your mind jumping to the worst conclusions, I always do that. Before my MC I couldn't actually believe I was pregnant, I convinced myself I must have some disease that was causing the positive test haha. Let us know how you get on ❤️

@SamBass fingers crossed for you!

This is a completely irrelevant rant, but I feel I need to vent somewhere. I finally plucked up the courage to call the GP this morning. Sat in the queue to get through to reception for fifteen minutes, only to be told they are only dealing with medical emergencies today, and I can either call back tomorrow or book an appointment for 11th May. I know another day won’t make any difference, but I find it so hard calling and talking of about all of this that it just feels huge.

Hi, unfortunately an early scan has shown that our baby is measuring around 3 weeks behind what it should be and no heartbeat. I'm going back next week for a repeat scan but I'm not holding out much hope for positive news. Sorry if this is a really insensitive question, but how did you all decide on how to manage this? I've started looking into it and wouldn't want to wait (if my body hasn't realised yet that baby isn't growing then who knows when it will), and the thought of the surgical option scares me, but similarly I don't know if I want the pain and seeing it happening with medical management. I just want to be prepared so if it is bad news I can move onto the next steps quicker.

Sorry @Miscarriage39 sometimes the gp system is just so crap!!! Many times I haven't sought advice when I wanted to because I couldn't be bothered with the hassle. Our surgery is currently doing online consultation forms and the docs phone back very quickly. It's also easier to write everything down then you don't feel like you forgot to say something. Does yours have anything like this?

@BaaBaaEmily so sorry to hear. I also had a mmc. I also felt similar, felt like if my body hadn't recognised it for the last 2/3 weeks when would it and I just wanted it out of me (sorry hope that's not insensitive to anyone). I read the miscarriage association leaflet so had already decided before the nurses gave me the options that I wanted surgery under a general anethesetic. I didn't want to see anything and had read some people find natural or medical quite painful and I just wanted it over with.

Thanks for responding @justwant2beamum that's how I feel too. I've had a look at the miscarriage association leaflets and it just worried about the potential complications with surgery. Were you in and out in a day? I think it's harder as we're in Covid times and I'm not sure if DH would be able to be with me, whereas he could if we were at home for medical management.

BaaBaaEmily I am so sorry you are going through this. I had a MMC, discovered back at the start of March at my 12 week scan. I initially decided to go for a medical management (literally because they could do that the same day, but also because the medical team seems to emphasise the risk of surgery). I didn’t find the medical process too painful, but passed lots of enormous clots (the size of jam doughnuts!) and had complications with heavy bleeding. Unfortunately, it was also incomplete and the doctors weren’t my happy to try again. I was booked in for surgery the following the week, and was quite terrified. As it happened, surgery was all very straightforward. I was admitted to hospital at 11am, went to theatre at 3.30 and was home by 7pm, having had dinner. Obviously, it’s a very personal decision, but if I were to be in that position again I would definitely opt for surgical.

I'm sorry @Miscarriage39, I find some doctors receptionists to be very insensitive and rude. A lot of the time it is totally uncalled for. I hope you manage to get an appointment tomorrow.

@BaaBaaEmily I'm sorry you are going through this. My miscarriage happened naturally so I didn't have any medical intervention..

Thank you @Rozed @Miscarriage39 sorry you've been through this too.

I've been reading through some accounts online and quite a few people seem to prefer the surgical method, I think it's just the risks that scare me (even though I know there's risks to everything). It's good that it can be done relatively quickly too, as I think that's the hardest thing right now is the waiting.

BaaBaaEmily the risks were what turned me off in the first place. What I wasn’t aware off when making my decision, was that medical procedures are fairy commonly incomplete, and therefore requiring further intervention. Saying that, some people have really positive experiences, and I believe, the earlier in you are, the better chances of it working without issue.

@BaaBaaEmily I chose to have medical management in hospital. It was the best option for me as my body wasn't going into miscarriage naturally. I had some pain but it was managed really well in hospital and I was out within 7hrs. I did pass a very obvious baby but it didn't upset me as much as I thought and I was 9 weeks. I'm not sure how far along you are but I also had a natural miscarriage at 6weeks and saw nothing at all. I didn't even know id passed it until my scan. My miscarriage was fully completed on the day and I was checked over before I was discharged so no worrying about anything being left over which can be a concern if you have medical management at home. I didn't want surgery and I'm happy with my choice.

That must be awful to go through medical management and then have to have surgery sorry you had to go through that @Miscarriage39
Did you have to be on your own @spookycookies or were you allowed someone with you for it? I had a small pph with my second child so I know that can be risk factor with medical management and they may not allow me to be at home, but the thought of being without DH is awful. I'm 9+5 but baby was only measuring 6 so still quite small, hoping that will make it easier.

My Dh was allowed to be with me. I was in a private room and all was ok. I liked being in hospital as it felt like I was being well looked after.

BaaBaaEmily DH was allowed to stay with me throughout the medical attempt, and he was allowed to be with me before and after surgery. It is worth asking, though, as I know different health authorities have different rules.

Thank you both - that's reassuring to know. DH hasn't been allowed to the EPU so I think that's increasing my anxiety as I'm going to be alone for the likely bad news.

My DP was allowed with me all day in hospital, we were in a private room until I was taken for surgery where he then waited and then I was brought back to that private room.

Just a quick update following my rant yesterday. I spent 23 minutes waiting g to get through to the doctors this morning. When I did, the receptionist quizzed me about whether it was a medical emergency, and when J said what was going on, she pointed out it could be a period . Eventually, after telling me none of the doctors I have ever seen were available, she did book me in for 3pm. Eventually got a call at 5.30, but the doctor was lovely and seemed to really listen. She said it could be an infection, but if that was the case I should have more symptoms. I need to drop a urine test in tomorrow, and she will call me next week to see what is happening. If no better, I’ll have to try a different antibiotic.

@Miscarriage39 glad you finally got to speak to a dr. And that she took it more seriously than the not-medically-qualified receptionist. Hope it gets sorted soon.

@Miscarriage39 really glad you got somewhere with your GP hopefully the urine sample gives you some answers. Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼