Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 4. ALL welcome!

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Please excuse the double post. Did anyone find their first period after miscarrying was longer than normal? I had lots of spotting beforehand, which is not normal for me, but it’s now 8 days since my period started properly. It’s not particularly heavy now, just is still bright red and more than spotting IYSWIM. My period is normally only five days, with the last 1-2 usually being darker in colour. Sorry for TMI!

Does having a positive pregnancy test stop you ovulating?
I'm two weeks past my medical management and hoped that I'd have a 4 week cycle like normal so I could start trying again. But if I'm still getting a positive test then I'm not going to ovulate for at least another two weeks? Making it 6 weeks before my period? I just want to start trying again.

@Miscarriage39 I'm not sure but I have just spotted for 6 days before af arrived today too so will be interesting to see. I did spot a bit before the mc but nothing like 6 days. @spookycookies I ovulated about 14 days after my negative pg test after the mc and have just had af start 14 days after that which is nearly 6 weeks after the mc. I think it's different for everyone though and depends how far you were before the mc. I also had natural/expectant mc so not sure if that changes things too.

Thank you @kiwi17 @Miscarriage39 ❤️ my first period post MC was definitely heavier bleeding than normal, but it wasn't really longer. I did have a couple days of spotting before. My guess is that differences in your period post MC compared with before are probably normal, but if it doesn't let up maybe check in with the GP?

@spookycookies I'm not sure if you can ovulate with leftover HCG, but in any case if you're still getting a positive test a few weeks after the MC, you may want to check in with the Dr to check there are no retained products?

@AlbiMix I was told I didn't need to take a test but just did as I'm impatient. It's two weeks exactly today so maybe I'll take another next week and then call someone if it's still positive.

Congratulations @AlbiMix! and thank you for the tip about the other thread.

@spookycookies I was wondering about the leftover HCG slowing things down too, so I looked it up and I think it needs to be very low (like less than 10) for someone to ovulate. So, if you're still getting anything more than a total squinter on a FRER it's likely the body will need a bit more time to flush it out.

My miscarriage is in progress (bleeding tapering off now, thankfully) so I'll be testing once a week from next Sunday. I'm both dreading and looking forward to seeing a negative, which is the biggest head fuck I've experienced in some time.

Congrats @AlbiMix 🤞🏻✨🙌🏻

Thanks kiwi17 & AlbiMix. I’m not really concerned yet, but will definitely speak to my GP if it continues for too much longer.

Should have been my 12week scan today.

Good Morning,

I have been reading through this thread and found you all very supportive of one another and was hoping I could join.. Firstly I am very sorry for all of your MC and happy for those that are ready to try again .

I have recently had a miscarriage at the beginning of March at around 6 weeks this was my first pregnancy so I wasn’t really sure what to expect from any of it.

Me and my DP are eager to try again however I am still waiting on AF it will be 6 weeks on Thursday since my MC, I am hoping I am pregnant but I feel this is just to mask the feeling of being so down and upset about everything.

I was advised to take a pregnancy test if no AF after 6 weeks but I don’t know if I can bring myself to take the test!

spookycookies hugs for yesterday. I hope you got through the day okay. These non-milestones can be so painful 😥.

Welcome LollypopLol. I am so sorry for what you’ve been through. Do you know what it is that is stopping you from taking test? I totally get the clinging to something which may mask the horrible feeling beneath the surface, so could you maybe do the test when you have a clear day and somebody supportive who can be with you, just in case the feelings flow (I guess they may, if it’s positive). Have you also considered counselling if you are struggling with the feelings. I haven’t gone down that route (although I am currently considering it), but I know several people on here have found it really useful.

I thought I was moving in a bit and feeling more ‘normal’, but then yesterday the kids were having a fairly normal bicker and I completely lost it with them. I then spent hours crying, telling my DH how useless everything is, and how I now don’t have a life plan etc. I was trying to make big career decisions and insisting that having a baby was a stupid idea in the first place, and that we’d be really irresponsible to try again. I think it was just a huge torrent of emotions pouring out. Hopefully today will be a better day.

Hi, thank you.

I think it is just waiting for the 6 week mark as o was advised to expect AF between 4-6weeks so I am holding off for the 6 weeks which takes me to Thursday. I was thinking of doing a test first thing Thursday morning but I am dreading a negative result because then this leads to more questions on why AF hasn’t arrived. Although the pregnancy unit has said to contact them if I haven’t started by next week to carry out some tests so I guess I am trying to put it off due to that in a way.

I had thought about it previously but didn’t think I would need counselling however as the days go on I am considering it more and more. I guess I’ll wait until Thursday do the test and if negative call the pregnancy unit for advice and see if they are still going to book me in for some tests.

It is difficult isn’t it some days are better than others and I think it is hard for the people around us to understand if they haven’t been through it themselves. Just keep your chin up as my DP says what’s meant to be will be.

Hello @LollypopLol, I'm so sorry to hear what you've been through. I've just had a miscarriage (started Weds and still spotting) and am now thinking about when my body will return to normal too. I was 6+4 when it started but they diagnosed PUL and a MMC. I think maybe it stopped growing at five weeks or thereabouts and began disintegrating. They told me to contact them after 3 weeks if I was still testing positive, but warned it could be 4-6 before my period returned.

I'm going to start testing from tomorrow. I'm dreading a negative but also hoping for one sooner rather than later too. It's a terribly confusing time. Good luck to you.

It took 6 weeks for my period to return after my 6 week miscarriage in December. I got a negative test after two weeks. So I guess 6weeks is in the normal range. Hopefully I'll get my negative soon so I can get my period and try again.

Hi @weathervane123 & @spookycookies

I am so sorry to hear of your bad news, it seems as though we are all currently in the same boat so hopefully we can all come out of the other end together and TTC again

I’ve had my negative test so just waiting on AF again so I can track things properly. We have had unprotected several times so part of me is hoping I’m pregnant but will take a test on week 6 - Thursday and go from there I guess!

I do hope you both get your negative tests soon, I am sure they will soon come. I got mine quite early but was around 6 weeks pregnant and my Hcg levels dropped really quickly x

Thanks @LollypopLol! Got a very faint positive on a 10 mIU test today with afternoon wee less than a week since this nightmare began, so I'm hopeful that by next week sometime I'll get a blank FRER and can draw a line under it.

I don't think we're going to wait for my period to show either. What will be will be and I'm fine with that for now since it seems like there's no real risk to me or the pregnancy were I to conceive. Emotionally, I think I'm alright too, though I'm wary that the experience might bite me in the behind at some point. Got stuck in a queue behind a woman with a newborn today and felt wobbly but not overly so. I was lucky for the worst to happen at a time when I was already off work, and I'm still wfh thanks to covid, so I've also been able to lick my wounds in relative peace, and have my DP really take care of me very well.

Hiya I’m not sure where to post this, I have previously made a thread but am really looking for some advice.
Last week at 6+4 weeks I began to have some dark brown spotting, I also did a clear blue ( i know there a pain in the arse) but I did one anyway and it had gone from 3+ down to 2-3. I immediately booked a private scan for the next day to then be told they couldn’t see nothing but a gestational sac and I was measuring at 4 weeks. They told me to come back in a few weeks and they’d be able to confirm what was happening. Knowing my dates and my regular cycle pretty well I new something wasn’t right.

I then went to hospital and managed to get a scan for a few days later. They confirmed that they could see a yolk sac and a very faint fetal pole, but I was measuring around 5 weeks at this point. My next scan with the hospital is in 6 days and I’m literally convinced it’s the end, the wait is killing me, I’ve just gone and done another clear blue and it still says 2-3 although it’s been a week since the spotting and the last tests. My family and friends are being really positive and telling me to hope for the best, but I suppose it’s my way of coping I am convinced it’s over.
The thought of having faith in this situation is driving me insane. Has anyone got any experiences of a similar situation please give me the good and the bad. Sorry for the long post! And Thankyou for anyone who does reply

@Nich407 I'm sorry lovely, that's an awful place to be. I know from personal experience how hard it is to have faith and also how hard it can be to let that go. I barely had to wait and it still drove me insane not knowing what was going on. I don't have any advice I'm afraid as my situation was different, but I hope you get some clear answers soon.

I was supposed to have my first midwife's appointment this morning. It seems like yesterday and a million years ago that I was happy in the knowledge I was pregnant. Took another test today and it's a faint positive same as yesterday and I've just been staring at them both thinking about how happy I was to see that result just a month ago. Such a weird limbo to be in. My colleague's partner is being induced today and it just makes me want to hide under the duvet.

@weathervane123

I don’t blame you I was eager to try again and like you say no reason to wait for next period to arrive as that is just to help with determining how many weeks along you are. I guess everyone is different but it is the only thing keeping me going thinking to the future and trying again.

I know what you mean I keep seeing little babies or even parents taking their children to school and long to be able to do this some day hopefully soon as I am 30 in a few weeks and feel like I am more than ready to start a family!

@Nich407

I am so sorry to hear of this, keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you! It is a good sign that they can see a fetal pole just try and stay positive I know it’s hard but we are all here for you if you want a chat x

Can anyone tell me how long it took to get a negative test after an MVA / d&c?

I tested today 9 days after my surgery and it's still blazing super strong positive. I know it can take 2 weeks to go but I'm worried it hasn't even faded a bit.

My last MVA was just for retained products but the tests went negative within a couple of days of having it.

Hi ladies, how are we all. I have been doing ok for the last few weeks and have been back at work for a month after taking 2 months off following my ectopic. HR and my boss were being very supportive and on a phased return set out by my GP. Today my boss just starting dumping lots of work on me. If I was at normal capacity it would have been too much. But at one month back and not on full hours it was just too much and against my work plan. I spoke out twice through out the day to be told we are all busy and made to feel like absolute sh*t. After spending the afternoon crying and feeling the worst I have felt in weeks, I called HR who are now liaising with my boss. What a day. Things have been going well and then boom, it’s like the train came off the tracks today. Sorry just needed abit of a rant xxx

@treesall I took almost 6 weeks for a negative test. The frer had a squinter right up until the day before AF came back xxx

Thank you @Ralala. I hope it doesn't take that long, I need a negative before my recurrent miscarriage appt in 4 weeks! I'm not bleeding at all so just hoped it would be negative.

Sorry you have had a horrible time at work. Sounds like they've been really good / supportive to date so I hope they can help you get a good balance again until you're back full time. Sending hugs to you x

Oh @Ralala I feel for you and hope your work situation improves soon. It's really good you stood up for yourself, though. Sometimes people need reminding of the boundaries, and that's not an easy thing to do, especially when you're exhausted by it all. Give yourself a huge pat on the back!

I didn't need to take any time off for physical recovery but after a bumpy day at work today, I think maybe I should've taken this week for my mental health. It's tough because I don't want to let the cat out of the bag that I'm ttc, and I don't much want to deal with their reactions to my miscarriage while I'm barely dealing with my own. (this is probably one reason why nobody talks about it, I guess).