Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 2. ALL welcome!

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Hi ladies

This thread is open for EVERYONE. To discuss the highs, lows, emotions, and experiences of us all going through our miscarriage journey. Together we will get through this!

Previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/4119053-Support-thread-for-those-experiencing-or-recently-experienced-a-MC-MMC?pg=1

To my incredible strong warriors...I cannot believe we filled a thread! We've got this ladies ❤
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@Sleeeeeepy
@Mellous
@Nicolamac1
@Semla
@Seasidestarfruit
@mummydoingamasters
@elm7
@MrsD1992
@CookieMonster3001
@Dryshampoo32

Sincere apologies for missing anyone xx

@Fayezp1210, I didnt even have much when going to the toilet, mostly just when I wiped if I'm honest. Yesterday it completely stopped which I was very surprised.

Hopefully it will stop soon for you xx

@Neady1980 I hope too! I’m glad it’s stopped for you x

I’m so grateful for all your support ladies.

@jam291 I phoned epu back and got to speak to a nice nurse who was lovely and helpful, thank you for your advice.

@TheDaydreamBelievers thank you so much for the info on the pregnancy tests, I will test every week like you say so I can see a progression.

@Tealchoc hugs. If there is one thing I have realised this last week is that miscarriage is an absolute rollercoaster of emotions. Xxx

The sharing of scan photos in WhatsApp chats should be banned. Even before my miscarriage I wasn’t a fan of plastering photos of your uterus on chats but more so now....... sorry rant over.......

@Ralala I think a lot of things related to trying for a baby or carrying a baby should be banned on social media!
I don't attend baby showers or gender reveals for the very reason that I think it's insensitive and even though risk is reduced it still is not zero risk.

@Ralala oh sweetheart, it’s so rubbish seeing any reminder of babies / pregnancy when you’re going through a miscarriage or TTC. A scan pic seems to be the only way to announce it these days...! That said I had a friend who shared her pregnancy tests and every single scan photo from 6 weeks onwards with me on what’s app so I got the full shebang! 😀

@Scottishskifun I’ve only ever had to attend one baby shower and never been to a gender reveal so I think I’ve been spared!! X

@Ralala I'm with you. I was never a fan of big showy social media announcements or baby showers before I even started TTC, even less so now 😂

I agree! My social media is filled with all these kind of announcements at the moment! I am happy for these people but it feels like such a stab x

I've never gone to baby showers or gender reveal parties, just think the celebrations should start when you have a baby in your arms. There is nothing but scan pics all over facebook and Instagram and honestly it has never bothered me before until now,just seems social media is full of pregnancy announcements or new babies

So glad I’m not the only one ..... don’t start me on scan photos placed on Xmas trees!!!

@ralala definitely not just you! ;) I came off FB a while ago so spared any time line posts, although we've had 2 WhatsApp announcements since miscarriage, it's so heart renching even when I'm happy for them...I don't know anyone who's done a gender reveal, although I've been to a couple of baby showers in my time 😬 such a personal choice, but I agree would prefer to celebrate when buba has arrived.

Hi All, I'm new to this App. Just wanted some advice really. I thought I was 10w + 3 days but had an early scan due to some bleeding. Appears have a MMC and I'm gutted. Only measuring approx 4 weeks. At the moment I am home waiting to see if a natural MC occurs and due for a second scan next week. I'm very nervous about the miscarriage and what to expect if it happens naturally. I had 1 episode of heavy bleeding yesterday but that was it and just having mild cramps atm. Is it normal to be scared about the miscarriage? And how bad is it when it comes naturally?

Thanks ladies for taking the time to read this.

@Wag1987 I'm so sorry, I went through it last friday and honestly I was afraid everytime I had to go to the toilet because I didnt know what to expect. For me though I was exactly 8 weeks, I only had spotting for 5 days and back ache, I had no clots but miscarriage was confirmed yesterday. I think everyone is different though, I was expecting alot worse but apparently my scan showed that everything is gone just to do a pregnancy test in 10 days to make sure its negative.
I hope you get through it ok, its horrible for anyone to go through it xx

@wag1987 sorry you have had to join us. I think it's dependent on each person I miscarried naturally the day before my surgery was booked.
Everyone is different I had intense cramps for a few hours beforehand. Unfortunately had heavy bleeding so ended up in the trauma unit. Keep an eye on the bleeding I gave a breakdown of the levels I had further up in the thread.
But I would say from being on here and the experience of others who have miscarried naturally I am in the minority with the issues that I had. But it is worth knowing what to look out for as a worst case.

Hi, I'm sorry your going through this :(
I went through this yesterday and the previous day. I started bleeding brown blood on Thursday, went for a scan Tuesday and they confirmed the worst. I was supposed to be ten weeks and I was measuring 6 weeks and two days, they said this was because it had actually stopped at this stage but my body held it for 4 weeks not catching up with what had happened, so I continued to feel pregnant. I'm wondering if this is possibly so ill to your case x
I had cramps and bleeding on and off, it then progressed and the cramps got more painful, like a bad period cramp. Paracetamol took the edge off, please try not to worry about the MC, have pads and pain relief on hand and someone to support you. I feel so bad for you, I'm still grieving and it is so hard to come to terms with. Sending big hugs your way x

@wag1987 I have had 3 miscarriages, one at 5 weeks which was like a period, one at 7 weeks which was like a very heavy period with clots and one over 12 weeks which required a stay in hospital. What I’m trying to say is it has been very different each time.

Just listen to your body. Take it easy, painkillers, warm baths and give yourself time. Thinking of you ❤️

Thank you for your responses @Neady1980 @Scottishskifun @Sherryxxxx @Gymbelle

Fear of the unknown isn't it I think? I'm hoping I can book for the surgery on Monday if I have not miscarried naturally but who knows what my body is going to do. I almost feel silly being sad over losing it so early on when other people go through much worse x

@wag1987 if I'm totally honest I took it all in my stride until last night,it was like it just hit me and I had a melt down. I thought i was doing grand and kept busy but I cried for hours last night.
Just take each day as it comes xx

Morming ladies. I'm trying to catch up but think maybe I've missed some new people joining? For anyone who has joined since I'm so so sorry. We all know what you're going through and it's bloody awful

@Gymbelle gosh I'm so sorry you've had 3!! If you're in the UK then you're now eligible for recurrent miscarriage support via the NHS so get that ball rolling!!

@wag1987 I'm so sorry you've found yourself here. Lots of ladies here have had surgery and all of them had such positive experiences. As awful as it is, it seems the best option from a rubbish outcome

Awwww @Neady1980 so sorry to hear of your loss too. I have been crying lots and best to just get it out rather than holding it back x

@Wag1987 its definitely better out than in and I probably should have taken some time of work. Last night was the first night that it actually hit me and it's a week today since it happened xx

@wag1987 I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I felt similar to you initially, I found out at 7.5 weeks about MMC and had meds at 9.5 weeks. Please please don't feel silly for being sad. It is so sad and it's ok for you to feel that way. Whatever you feel is valid. Be kind to yourself and hope you're being well looked after. Sending hugs your way xx

Bless you @Neady1980 it's not nice. I'm off work atm as waiting for it to happen and don't feel I can concentrate. Not sure if that's the right choice or not x