Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC

[AMS19]

Hi ladies

A few of us got talking on another thread and found having each other in the same boat, whilst devastating, helpful. So here is a little thread so we can stay in touch and support each other through this journey.

Anyone who has recently experienced or is experiencing a MC/MMC please join us. We are just on the start of our journey ❤

I found out I had a MMC on 21st December at 9+5. This was following a scan that showed a baby with a heartbeat 3 weeks earlier. My body hasn't let go at all, with no bleeding, so I'm booked in for surgery tomorrow. The hardest thing waiting over Christmas 💔

@Mellous - they test each time for molar pregnancy in scotland, but not for anything else till 3rd time

@Redfoxinthesnow that is frustrating! How long post op are you? My spotting is very on and off! So far none today but it comes and goes. I'm 2 weeks post procedure tomorrow so still early days I guess!

@mia2201 I’m the same as you I saw the HP 169bpm at 8.5 weeks and although I felt a sense of relief I still had this little feeling inside me not to get too excited. Strange how your body and mind are so in tune with each other without even realising. I also look on @AMS19 as the tribe leader and have found soooooo much comfort from this group even though it’s not a group anyone wanted to be part of its really helped me process everything knowing I’m not alone.
I hope it’s doing the same for everyone on here xx

@AMS19 yes maybe that is why ladies take baby aspirin for the blood clotting disorder thinking about it. I may ask that question when I fall pregnant again (positive thoughts and all that 😊)

@mia2201 awwww it was you who posted about Dr Crawford thank you I couldn’t remember without going back through the thread xx

@TheHotelCalifornia how are you doing today lovely? Xxx

@Redfoxinthesnow I’m also 2 weeks post op today and my spotting has increased and i am back to wearing pads. It’s not blood is brown though xx

@DMT1982 how strange our spotting all picked back up for us!! Remind me when you're testing?
I'm so sick of the Mediterranean diet and being healthy already 😂🙄🙃

Hi I’m new here . Was just looking for people who understands what I’ve been through I suffered a complete miscarriage on the 19/12/20 I think I was around 10/11 weeks I was devastated. I bleed for over a week and started to ttc again right when the bleeding had stopped . I haven’t had a period yet how long did everyone else wait till there period to come . I’m just desperate for my rainbow baby

@AMS19 I haven’t got any tests and wasn’t going to test again until I’ve had a period and if one doesn’t arrive by 6 weeks I’ll test. I’m not TTC until I’ve seen the gastroenterologist though which could take forever at this rate. I’ve put a cut off date for seeing a gastro doctor to the middle of February and if no joy I’ll go private if there are any private doctors left to see that is!

It’s strange isn’t it, had nothing or hardly anything then 2 weeks post op it ramps up. I wonder if it’s just the last bits of blood etc making it’s exit as it’s not fresh blood which is also good.

Ok so my nutri bullet has been on the side since the 1st and my fridge is full of fruit and veg. Today so far I’ve had a bagel, chicken sandwich, crisps and a pastry.....I’m all over this eating healthily my end lol!! Xxx

@Nicolamac1 thanks for posting and sorry to hear you miscarried and find yourself on this thread.

All the ladies on here have been through/going through a loss so we all understand what you are going through and hopefully be able to support you. We are by no means experts of doctors but will try and advise you on our own experiences and feelings.

Can I ask whether you went to hospital when you went through your miscarriage and if so what did they about about bleeding and TTC after?

I had surgical management 2 weeks ago after a miscarriage at 9.5 weeks. I had minimal bleeding afterwards however have just started to bleed again but it’s old blood. I was advised to expect my period 4-6 weeks afterwards and can then try again after that. Have you taken any pregnancy tests since your loss? Xxx

@DMT1982 I've been so good but my lunch is boring (albeit so colourful 😂😂😂). I would love to have a dirty burger and chips 😂😂 I am trying to do this 40% / 30% / 30% diet and it is so hard! Getting protein levels up is SO hard! Also I feel sleepy so want crisps and cake. It makes me sad 😭😭

@Nicolamac1 I'm so so sorry. It is really tough. I found out I'd had a missed miscarriage 2 days after you and had a MVA on 31st Dec. Most of us are still quite early and i don't think any of us have had periods yet. As @dmt1982 says the advice I was given was 4-6 weeks. Habe you had a scan to check all the tissue has gone? Xx

@dmt1982 I was took into hospital on the 19 as my bleeding was really bad I was in about 4 hours and they just kept me for a hour after I lost the baby they never told me anything about when I would get my period or when I could try again in fact they just gave me a leaflet and sent me on my way . I will admit I never looked at it and put it in the bin maybe not the best idea .

Ams19 I’m sorry for your loss hope you are coping ok . I wasn’t giving a scan it just says on my discharge note complete miscarriage so I just thought that meant that everything was gone . I did take a pregnancy test about just over 2 weeks later and it was negative.

@Nicolamac1 if you've had a negative test that is a really good sign all of it has good. So I would expect 4-6 weeks since the miscarriage so hopefully within the next couple of weeks. Have you been having sex since? Obviously if you have worth doing a test in a week or two incase you've fallen pregnant again straight away! Xx

@ams19 I have been having sex I’ll just wait a few weeks and see what happens if I don’t get a period then I will test . Thank you x

@Nicolamac1 keep us updated on how you get on. Also we are here if you wanna chat at any point. We are all in the same boat x

@ams19?Thank you so much for listening and I’ll defo keep yous updated x

My eating habits have been atrocious lately so I'm jealous of anyone managing to eat well 😂 although my nausea dropped off, my food aversions stayed in full force! I'm only just in the past few days able to eat veggies again.

So I have my EPU appt for confirmation scan and MVA tomorrow. So typically, my bleeding and pain has ramped up today! I'm passing clots now though still relatively small (biggest is maybe 1cm). Spoke to midwife yesterday and she said my sac was only 2.5cm so I shouldn't be expecting any really large clots. Definitely feel like this is 'it' now!! And I'm a bit worried about the scan as they said not to come in if my bleeding is really heavy. I guess I have to wait and see what happens in the next few hours/how I'm feeling by the morning!

Sorry just jumping on for a quick update and will be back once the pain dies down again and I'm able to concentrate a bit more xx

@LauraT94 don't worry it took me ages to be able to eat healthy again! I was living off chips and chicken nuggets when pregnant!
So this might be controversial and sure others will disagree but personally I would say go in regardless of how much you bleed / pass clots. You're mind will be so settled if you have a scan and know where you're at. I understand they are stretched but I think you should put yourself first and regardless go in and get the confirmation one way or another! Xx

Hi everyone. Unfortunately I’m joining the club no one ever wants to be part of 😢 I joined this thread a couple of weeks ago when I discovered I was bleeding and was worried I was miscarrying. At the time they found a subch. hematoma and a lovely heartbeat at 8 + 2. Yesterday I started bleeding and today I discovered I’ve miscarried. I felt certain this time that something was wrong as my pregnancy symptoms had started to vanish in recent days. I feel utterly devastated. It’s my second miscarriage - my first was in 2018 and I did go on to have a healthy baby boy straight after which helped me recover and gave me a focus but now I just feel lost and empty and if I’m honest angry that this has happened a second time even though I know that’s not a rational emotion and I’m so lucky to have my children. Xx

Hi ladies.

I've had a MMC at about 8 weeks, would have been 11+3 today and had the misoprostal pessaries at about 12.30 this afternoon.

I hadn't had any symptoms of the pregnancy ending, though the nausea is now tailing off, and other than a bit of cramping nothing has happened so far. Has anyone else experienced this, if so did it all start working in the end?

Just hoping to goodness I'm not going to have to go back...

@Sleeeeeepy hi there, I’m so sorry to hear we are in the same boat - I found out today that I’ve also suffered a MMC. I can’t say I have any experience of the tablets, I have opted for an ERPC which im hoping will take place on Saturday if my Covid swab comes back in time. If not then Monday although I’m bleeding a fair bit now so I’m not sure I will make it through the weekend. I really hope it starts working for you soon and you’ve got support at home xx

@SuzieDeLaTour oh no lovely I'm so so sorry you're back! I honestly thought you were going to be popping back with positive news. I'm so sorry. I really hope the bleeding isn't too bad. It is so so tough after you've been told all is fine. I'm starting to question the point of early scans!

Hi @Sleeeeeepy I'm really sorry you had to join. I had an MVA so can't help I'm afraid but from ladies I have spoken to I know the time varies. I really hope it isn't too bad for you. You're definitely in the right place and we can all help you through this

Sending everyone so much love xx

@Nicolamac1 hi! I’m sorry to hear what you’ve been going through although I have to say a negative pregnancy test is a great sign everything has gone. I can only speak from my own experience but I conceived 2.5 weeks after my MMC. I was told I lost the baby on the 11th, had my op on the 13th and conceived my rainbow baby on the 1st/2nd of the following month. It was the first time we had sex after my op and I didn’t have any idea I was ovulating. My gynae had also told me to wait one cycle before trying again and to be honest I didn’t expect to fall so quickly! He wasn’t overly impressed with me when I went back for a follow up appointment! BUT he did say that they only advise to wait a cycle for dating purposes rather than it having a detrimental impact on the pregnancy. My little boy was born 9 months later, a week overdue and a healthy 8lb10 😊 xx

@AMS19 thank you so much. I had a bad feeling throughout this pregnancy - my family all said to be positive but I just had this niggling feeling something would go wrong. I was expecting bad news today so tried to brace myself but nothing actually prepares you for the horror of it all. I was bawling my eyes out, soaking my mask! The nurses were both very sweet but I just felt so devastated I couldn’t really concentrate on what they were saying. I really hope the bleeding doesn’t keep getting worse, I’m dreading passing it at home, I honestly don’t think I’m emotionally strong enough for that! Xx