TTC after miscarriage

[Winkle2020]

Hello Ladies

Please give me some hope and confidence. I have been through a miscarriage recently. Had d and c and then retained products. Had to wait for my first af 9 weeks after d and c. Now in the last scan I was told that almost everything is gone except that of a very very small 8mm tiny bit left which will eventually come out in the next cycle. Doc has asked me to wait for just one more cycle to ttc. Somehow in the length of this whole episode which dragged for 3 months now, I feel very hopeless and scared to death about ttc. I really want to hold a baby and have a second child. I sob everyday endlessly alone. There is no one to talk to, I have no sibling or close friends and lost my mother 2 years ago. I am a full time working women and it takes a toll on my emotional health. I am terrified and abosultely scared to death to go through this emotional pain again. When I was going through miscarriage this forum has been my single strong support and I have come back again to get some hope from you lovely ladies. Please help

I just went and got a test 🙊

Congratulations @iwm2020 !

That’s amazing - I hope I’m first month lucky too! I’m still having positives on the internet cheapies since my surgical management two weeks ago (although they are getting fainter) and still having quite a lot of brown discharge so don’t think I can be ovulating yet. But tempted to start DTD anyway... hospital did say to wait until I have a negative pregnancy test but I don’t want to miss the opportunity this month! Did you have any indications you were ovulating?

Oh my @IWM20 ! Amazing! So happy for you! 💗

Thank you @hoppyhops ☺️

@notalwaysalondoner I've got everything crossed for you 🤞🤞. I started DTD right after bleeding stopped. I got lots of EWCM on 4th June and I never get loads like that. I started to track ovulation with OPKs which I'd never done before but I didn't seem to catch the positive as it never went darker or as dark as the the control line but it must have happened. I think they really helped me to know a little more about what was happening and gave me something to focus on with helped xxx

Any thoughts on these? Did this test this morning as my app told me it was time. A feint line is easier to see in RL but could be an evap line. The app ‘intelligent recognition’ marked it as positive but I switched it back to negative as I don’t think I can see anything on the actual image so I don’t know how the app can. Can anyone see a squinter?

Also, bought these super cheap test this month as my POAS habit was becoming expensive so it could be that their just really crap, cheapy tests.

@hoppyhops I'm sure i can see a line!! How many dpo are you? I used a cheapy test this month and it was super faint so I did 2 CBs a few hours later and got 1-2 and a much darker positive. Can you get to the shops? 😁😁. I've got everything crossed for you!! Xxx

@IWM20 I feel like my eyes are funny! Sometimes I look and I’m certain that I can see something, then I look and think absolutely not. I’m 12dpo so probably a bit too early- I wouldn’t have tested only that the app said to and I’m trying to follow it religiously this month. AF is due Friday. Got sore boobs and a little bit of cramping but my boobs always get sore before AF so could just be that. Interesting to hear that you had a positive with CB. I should be able to get to the shops tomorrow so I’ll definitely get one and try that! Here’s hoping! 🤞🏼 Xxx

I can't tell I'm afraid. My super faint positive I could only really see by putting it next to an actual positive test on the cheap strips (because I was testing after a miscarriage so HCG was falling I had one!). Otherwise it's almost impossible to see the line.

I got my negative test today 3 weeks after surgical management - I had a reasonably strong positive on Saturday so was really worried today would be positive and the hospital would make me go in for tests. I've been testing twice a week though so I knew it was getting fainter so didn't want to have to take more time off work - very happy it won't be necessary. Now we can get back to DTD and hopefully we'll get lucky in the next couple of months! I've just started a new role so am quite stressed so hope it doesn't impact TTC!

So weird how I'm now super happy about a negative test!

@hoppyhops how are you getting on? Were you able to test again? 🙊

@bailee26 how are you getting on hun??

Hopping on this as your stories are all so unique and interesting

@GingerCalico you sounds like you've really had a tough time 😔. It was awful enough going through it once let alone twice. It's really not fair how things work out sometimes. I don't blame you at all for just wanting to relax and enjoy life for a little while 😊 sounds like it's definitely the best thing right now. Plus you can set a goal of 2 months but that can always be brought forward/back depending on how you're feeling. A dance class sounds like a fab idea! What sort of dance are you thinking? I'm 5 weeks today, not past the point of my last MC yet so I'm just taking every day as it comes but I've got an overwhelming feeling it's going to happen again. I can't believe how many people this happens to and its just not something that's talked about 😔. Take some time to put yourself first and relax xxxx

@GingerCalico that sounds super tough - be kind to yourself, take a break from TTC if you want to/need to, particularly so your body can recover.

I’ve had one MMC which was surgically managed three weeks ago and managing to keep my chin up, but I know if I had another one I’d start to really struggle mentally. The second I found out I went back to drinking, having unlimited coffees and eating whatever I wanted - the little things do make it easier to deal with. For now we’re going straight back to TTC but I know I’ll be nervous the whole pregnancy after this time when everything was so normal until the scan.

So this has happened after having a MC in January 🥰 I am so scared and nervous thou can't get excited too yet!! We will all have our rainbow babies one day ✨💙

Congratulations @dm14 what fab news!! And already 2-3 on clear blue 🥰 xx

@notalwaysalondoner Pleased to hear about your negative result (does feel weird to say) so that you can get back to TTC 💗

@GingerCalico Sorry you’ve found yourself here but it is nice to read about other stories and just have somewhere to vent to people who understand. And lovely when positive things happen! Taking time to look after yourself sounds like a good idea. TTC and especially TTC with MC is so stressful and it doesn’t help that you feel like you’re going through it alone sometimes.

@dm14 Congratulations! This is turning into a lucky month!

@IWM20 Hope you’re doing ok. I can imagine that you must feel quite nervous- I hope you’ll feel better and more able to relax when you pass the point that you had your previous MC.

I managed to get a clear blue early test yesterday. Tested this morning and am still unsure. It doesn’t help that there is a mark on the actual test where the line should be but I think there might be a really faint line there. DH reckons he can see it by squinting. What do you reckon? I’m going to have to get a digital, I think. I can’t take the uncertainty 😂

Thankyou everyone!
Honestly after my mc I was so obsessed with getting pregnant.
Last month we didn't even try and look what happened! So don't give up hope!!
🥰

@IndieMorg definitely looks like it was a chemical. of course that sucks but there’s not really anything we can do about it. they passed a new law in my state that “elective” procedures are being put on hold so there goes my chances at IUI unless I go somewhere else. just feeling very lost.

@GingerCalico I get what you mean. My husband and I had a long talk yesterday about what the whole thing has done not only to use health wise and mentally but also that my confidence in being a strong woman capable of anything is officially shot. I haven’t been back to work since it happened either. I guess want I mean to say is that you deserve good things. You deserve to feel beautiful and desirable. You deserve to go out and get a little loose and have fun dates.

Wow youre all so nice! 

First off congrats @dm14 :) I've got fingers and toes crossed for you
@IWM20 thank you so much your message was a v sweet thing to read waking up to a splitting headache (side affect from the antibiotics from the hospital) i dunno what kind of class i just want to move! Ive been house bound for about a week now as im too weak to walk far without getting v out of breath, but im thinking tomorrow I might try (with many rests along the way!) to walk up the road and back with my partner :)
@notalwaysalondoner yesss coffeeeee and a nice big pint! Or not even pregnancy banned stuff even just doing some vigorous exercise to get a sweat up :)
@Hoppyhops yes im hoping this threads stories will be encouraging :)
@Bailee26 youre so right, i mean all this shitty health stuff has happened to me, but my husband needs a break too, he burst out crying when he saw me so pale and weak and took it really hard as he hated to see me struggling, so i want to have a normal few months for 'us' too :)

Thanks everyone!
I'm just so scared to ring the hospital or doctors to book in with what happened last time Incase there's a problem I hope this is normal 😞 x

Tell me you guys can see this too?

How’s everyone getting along? Currently hoping for ovulation next month but relaxing until then and don’t know if I’ll be testing or letting nature run it’s course. @IndieMorg*@GingerCalico@IWM20@notalwaysalondoner @Hoppyhops*

Congratulations to everyone who has got their BFP.

@Bailee26 It's been a year since my MC really thought I'd be pregnant again by now, i chilled out the last few months and it still didnt happen. How are you doing?

Well, after some Faint positives on FRER over the weekend, I’ve had spotting today and now a BFN on a test this morning (albeit a less sensitive one as I’m out of FRERs) so I’m very sure I’ve had a chemical. So frustrating. Not sure if I’d rather know or not as I’m now just wondering why.

Is it too early for wine at 7am?

How’s everyone getting on?

@Trying93 God I can imagine that’s incredibly frustrating. I believe I had a chemical after getting a positive on a digital but having a period a few days later. It’s fine it sucks but I’m stupidly optimistic that every month I have “a good feeling” that this will be our month. I’d even love to do IUI(I want twins so badly) but my state has closed all elective procedures due to Corona. We’re moving states though, my husband has a new job but the home hunting is slow going. So I’ve been busying my mind cleaning and packing and making sure I’m eating right and taking vitamins. Currently laying on my back with a pillow under my bum and my legs up against the wall. I forget how long I’ve been here lol 😂😂