First Pregnancy Missed Miscarriage (Part III)

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Hi ladies! Our last thread was automatically closed (again) because we reached the 1,000 post limit (twice!). I was hoping we would be able to start a new thread called First Pregnancy Post-MMC, but unfortunately we are not all quite there yet (BUT some of us are!! congrats!!!). I know we will all be pregnant someday soon and that this will end up being a lucky thread! In the meantime, I hope you will all join me as we continue on this journey together. You have all been an invaluable source of inspiration, support, and kindness for me and I want to thank you for making me feel less alone in this. This thread and the ladies on it have been a source of inspiration for me, which is why I created this blog to help other women find information and support after miscarriage: mcandbeyond.weebly.com/

About me, for any newcomers: 31 years old, first pregnancy ended in an MMC in February at 12 weeks (baby passed at nine), D&C the next day, found out five weeks later that it was a partial molar pregnancy and had follow-up with CX hospital until mid-May. Second early MC in April (we weren't supposed to be getting pregnant because of the molar, but didn't know about it at the time). Now TTC again nearly four months after the first MMC and so so ready for a baby!

@Kiki061190 thanks, we’ll see how it goes.

Oh no regarding temping. I found temping tough as my DH goes to work at 4.30. I’ll either get up or go back to sleep to quite inconsistent patterns of sleeping. I use Ovusense and it’s amazing. It’s so accurate as well as long as there’s been 4 hours of sleep. Xx

@Catconfusion I completely understand what you mean. My OH is up much earlier then me every day and I always wake up with him!

Morning ladies!

How are we all?

Is anyone else ready for the weekend? I can’t wait for some time off!

Here’s the chart today! Had a FRER left in the bathroom cupboard to took it to rule out pregnancy. It was negative so feeling confident AF will be here in the next few days 💗

Hey @Kiki061190

Glad to hear AF is coming but it’s a shame about the bfn.

Unfortunately and I really can’t believe it but it’s looking like another failed O for me. I O’ed on cd 36 last month and today it’s cd 36 and I have a drop. Unless it’ll rise up tomorrow. Feeling pretty deflated.

My husbands mum came over and she’s asked if my friend who’s about to give birth wants a baby blanket she’s made (have a feeling it was originally meant for us when I was pregnant) It just made me really sad.

Anyway I hope you’re all ok! Xx

@Catconfusion thank you so much! I’m feeling quite settled about mmc now hoping July is our month! Defo getting cramps and sore boobs now so hoping for AF in the next couple of days.

I can’t belive about the O AGAIN!!! you have patience of a saint ♥️

@Kiki061190 I’m glad you’re feeling better.

I think the patience is running out. Altogether having a down day today 😞 xx

@Catconfusion so sorry that you’re having a bad day! It’s so hard to distract yourself when you’re having a down day. I hope tomorrow is better ♥️ Sending lots of love xx

Thanks @Kiki061190 I think it’s a combination of what happened with my mother in law and yet again another failed O. Also getting a bit freaked out that we actually might need a fertility clinic. Sometimes I don’t think I can go through this! Xx

So sorry you are feeling low @Catconfusion, although perfectly understandable. Sorry if I have missed this, but did the GP say anything about the failed ovulation? Really sorry that you find yourself in this position, as it can't be easy, but do try and not let it impact your mood. I know this is so hard, and I'm one to give this advice!

You sound positive about AF @Kiki061190, which is a good mindset to have. I was similar tbh and felt like the first AF was a start of a new chapter in the whole ttc process.

Thanks @Amanda81she just said it’s pcos but so low level not showing in my blood or on ultrasound. That’s why she’s referred me to the fertility specialist. All I can do is keep with a low carb diet and hope it improves. If feels like it’s getting worse. My cycles are 50 + days since the mcs. If it doesn’t calm down we will get drug treatment monitored with ultrasound. The referral will take a few months though. I know there are people worse off but I’m just feeling sad today about it all. Probably feeling bad about my impending 40th and the fact I would have been getting close to maternity leave. I’ll be ok!

How are you feeling? Xx

Would the drug treatment be something like clomid? I really hope you don't have to go down this road, but if there are options out there to get you ovulating more regularly, then good. So pleased you had a GP that has taken your concerns seriously and that you have a light shining down one tunnel in a couple of months. I still have everything crossed that you won't need it and you will conceive naturally 🤞🏻💖🤞🏻

I'm doing okay. Met my Midwife for the first time today. I have delayed having a booking in appointment as I really couldn't face going through those questions and getting the book again. I'm 12+1 today and have the 12 week dating scan next Tuesday. I think my anxiety has improved a little, but still expect to have bad news at the scan - this is a mental health issue I suspect and nothing I do seems to get me in a positive frame of mind. Just totally lost hope in this journey, but I do well not to let the anxiety build up and get the better of me. DH has enough positivity for the both of us...he has started talking names!!! 😮. We should get the harmony results next week aswell...eek! Xx

Thanks @Amanda81 yes would be Clomid or something similar. I do feel relieved we have the referral now but still so much uncertainty.

I can understand why you put off the midwife and didn’t want the book until it got to this point. It’s all becoming very real now. It’s fantastic you’re nearly at the scam and getting the Harmony test results. I’ve got my fingered crossed all will be ok. The chances of something going wrong must be pretty small now. Bless DH with the names and optimism. It really helps to have a partner who’s supportive. Have a lovely weekend and hang on in there. Not long now! Xx

Thanks @Amanda81 I’m feeling like AF will be a fresh start and I’ll be able to move on to a new chance to conceive.

I have so much knowledge now on the process now so I feel better prepared this time ♥️

Hi ladies,

Thank you for your stories, I am so sorry for your losses :(

I'm going through my second miscarriage, D&C scheduled for Monday. Only ever been pregnant twice and twice failed. I'm only 28, petrified something is wrong.

Life is so cruel and i feel like an awful person for saying this but I can't stop myself feeling resentment to those pregnant around me who are nearing the due date of their first time pregnancy. Especially towards the friend who describes her pregnancy as a "massive mistake". We are really trying to keep hold of our baby and you are granted one you didn't want at the beginning! :(

I just want this all over so we can try again, I am hoping to the end of the earth it's 3rd time lucky for us.

My heart goes out to all you strong women who have been through a lot more.

Pressed post before I was finished!

I hope to be in your position of TTC again soon and I wish you all the best, it helps for me to read and reading over all your Q with tracking on FF will really help me.

Thank you x

@BabyPending I completely understand how you feel. I’m the same age and it’s so hard losing a child. I feel now when I do fall pregnant I won’t be able to enjoy it.

I am so sorry for your loss. Talking to the ladies on here has helped me and also educated me a lot on the TTC process!

I’m cycle day 37 post missed miscarriage and still waiting on AF so I can start TTC again x

@Kiki061190 sorry about the bfn, hope you are feeling ok about it. Temping can be quite misleading looking at some of the charts that have been on here in the recent past. Fingers crossed for you for next month.

@Catconfusion also sorry to hear about your MIL. I get it though - my SIL had offered us her cot (we have never spoken about us trying to concieve or the MMC) but as nothing seems to be happening she is giving all her other stuff away and asks me if any of my friends want anything. It does feel a bit insensitive.

Fingers crossed things happen for you without intervention. Very long and very short cycles are horrible and you just feel out of control. I suppose the fact that you are being monitored is positive as long as you can keep your cool with the waiting game (I am very impatient).

@BabyPending Sorry for your loss. Everyone on here understands so feel free to vent.

My body can't decide what it's doing. After two really short cycles, I am now on CD 12 and there is no sign of ovulation. OPKs usually work really well for me so not sure what's happening as they are currently completely blank. Will watch and see. I'm actually happy to have a slightly longer cycle as 22 days was pushing it a bit.

@Kiki061190 thank you for your response, I am so sorry you've gone through similar. I hope AF arrives soon for you, I really do. My first miscarriage it took a little longer to arrive, but it will do. It made the wait easier knowing that my body was correcting itself and correcting the hormone levels and when it's ready it'll let you know. Hugs to you.

@zoomies1 thank you for your message. OPKs were never really accurate for me and some people say their cycles are different after miscarriage. are you getting signs of ovulation through your CM? My first cycle after my first miscarriage, ovulation was horrendously painful but it is known for first cycle or 2 to be anovulatory after MC, not sure how true but seeing as hormones are all over the place it's possible! Hope it happens for you soon sweetie x

Hey @BabyPending I’m so sorry for you loss. I’m sure you’ll get plenty of support here. Xx

@zoomies1 it’s so horrible to remember being pregnant and it being all go. People offering you baby things. Then suddenly it becomes awkward and they’re being given away. I think my mil just wants it to be used and is probably thinking she’ll just make us another one. It’s tough though as I’m quite sentimental so in my mind that one was made with love and care for us. I don’t think I can pass it on to my friend. DH says he might just ask if we can have it for us still and think on the positive side.

I’m so glad your cycle is getting longer. It’s the opposite end of what I’m going through but similarly can mean fertility isn’t great. Hopefully the short one was your body recovering.

So I got a peak Opk last night and a rise today so what I thought was failedO might just have been the run up to it. I was cd 36 last cycle as 38 today so it makes sense. We dtd to cover ourselves. I have to say it’s got very mechanic as I’ve lost the will to do it after a month of every other day. Anyway here’s my chart. Xx

@Catconfusion - I have never been so excited at the results of someone pee'ing on a stick. Hopefully that's it and you will be in your two week wait.

@BabyPending I may have had EWCM (??) on Monday but that would have been ridiculously early on day seven. No other signs this month so I don't think it has happened yet. My temps don't show it either. That's ok though. I think my body has just taken a (REALLY) long time to get back to normal and if I did have a CP last month, then I just need to ride the wave. Actually feeling quite calm about it this month.

@Catconfusion YAY for peak Opk!!! Fingers crossed for you! You’ve been so patient this cycle.

My temp dipped today so I’m hoping that means an impending AF ☺️ I’ve promised myself I’m going to be relaxed this next cycle and see what happens!

Hi ladies! How are we all enjoying our weekend?

I’m sitting patiently waiting for AF to arrive! I usually have a 13 day LP so she should make an appearance soon!

My OH has been away the last couple of days so I’ve just been enjoying some me time and had some dinner with friends.

Here’s my chart. Temp has stayed steady the past 2 days but filled before.

dipped sorry not filled 😂

Thanks @Kiki061190, I’ve massive dipped today so I’m hoping that’s a pre O dip. We went to a party last night and had a few drinks which was lovely. Your chilled few days sounds lovely. Hoping for AF for you! Xx

@zoomies1 thank you, I hope it’s happing. I have tugging in my tummy and breast pain today so hoping for a rise tomorrow. I hope you have a longer cycle this time xx

Thanks @Catconfusion! Your drinks sound good. It’s nice to forget about this whole process and just enjoy life! I did a whole wardrobe clear out today, have bought myself some new bits and it feels good to start again.