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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 28 - Tests, Treatments, Trying again, Trying to stay sane and most of all TREMENDOUS support!

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Kazz2112 · 19/07/2015 12:24

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!

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Marchgirl · 21/07/2015 18:11

Crap timing barking, i know this is going to be incredibly hard, but you are so strong, you'll be ok. And hopefully you'll have some great news for him to return to. We're all here to talk/stress/shout/cry at as much as you like xx

barkingtreefrog · 21/07/2015 18:15

Thanks March Smile Thanks

Sunandrainbow · 21/07/2015 18:22

Woohoo! Great scan news mrsc and *flen. x

barking - timing sucks but we will all be here for you throughout. Lots of hand holding coming your way for the next few weeks lovely. x

OneStep2015 · 21/07/2015 19:01

Fell off thread for last couple of days.

Yippettydoodaaaaaaaaa Brummie!!! Really pleased for you. Grin

bootles · 21/07/2015 19:32

march how are you? Line/cramping etc? Still crossing everything for you.

barking I find it so touching that you and dh are so close, but can see that obviously that makes time apart more difficult, particularly in these circumstances! You are going to be ok. You are going to do this.(that's meant to sound encouraging and positive, not bossy!) Use us to bounce off every step of the way - we are here for you xx

bootles · 21/07/2015 19:33

I just told my manager I am pg and am terrified I have jinxed it. I thought the deputy had told her (only fair to tell them from the start I thought). Argh!!

bootles · 21/07/2015 19:34

Just to add I am at work and it was in context to an off sick conversation..not random!

girliesaints · 21/07/2015 20:03

Excellent news MrsC and Flen.

Barking, big hugs for the next few days. As others have said we're here for you x

clairemorgan81 · 21/07/2015 20:25

do any of you lovely ladies have any idea what could be causing me to get brown discharge/sometimes a little red blood (like start of af) for about a week prior to af? I have had an internal and swabs sent away (normal) also recently had progesterone day 21 blood test and again normal result.
it's driving me mad as have had it since last mc in december. I just don't think I'm going to get pg whilst this is happening and mc consultant or gp doesnt seem interested Angry. xx

Frecklefire · 21/07/2015 20:46

Evening all!
Am on break in caravan on yorkshire coast with dh n ds and just caught up properly...

Flen* and mrsc* - good news! Congratulations on positive scans!

March* and Minnie*, how are you doing my lovelies??

Loopy** - thinking of you babe, if i could i'd pop round and give you a hug xxx

Barking** you too! I think it's brilliant you are taking the bull by the horns and championing your own Oddysey to motherhood, instead of sitting at home and doing some nice embroidery until hubby gets home. I know you're bricking it, and if i thought you could endure a complete stranger and her 2 year old son bursting in on your life i'd come down to see you, what with it being school hols n all! But as it is, i promise you, there is a stranger who thinks very highly of you up in north England willing you on. You are in my thoughts and, like everyone else on here i am ready and willing to support you.

Thank-you everyone for your support to me on friday night - particularly barking**. I only wish i had the guts to send that email to my head, who is clearly a total fucking waste of skin. But i don't want to shaft my h.o.d, who i not only respect but like a lot too. But I am dreading my classes next year. The gift for the competent - tough classes.

I'm having a totally teenage reaction to my bfn this month. I'm thinking of sacking off my accupuncturist (who frankly panicked like an autistic bloke when i was teary in friday's session - clearly not a natural empath!) And flushing all the pills down the loo. Of course i still desperately want another dc, but all this shaman stick waving nonsense is really tiresome! I just want to do it old style - get pissed, get shagged, get tupduffed. Ho hum!

barkingtreefrog · 21/07/2015 20:47

Claire how long is AF? I get spotting before it, but AF isn't always that long.

bootles · 21/07/2015 20:47

claire I don't know, but the same has happened to me several times, and I have continued to get pg. Sorry not to have answers - I found it really frustrating.

bootles · 21/07/2015 20:51

Cross post freckle. I think your latest plan to ttc is as good as any other, I really do. Sorry you're finding the bfn so hard this month. It's just the pits. I have high hopes for you that it will happen soon.

OneStep2015 · 21/07/2015 20:56

clairemorgan yes I started to get that, exactly the same after my first miscarriage. I too began to find it really distressing as had never had it, ever. It's also started after my first miscarriage in 2013, also went to the doctor, who also wasn't one bit interested. I now don't let dh near me the week before AF as I just don't want to deal with the spotting before AF anymore. It's a friggin nuisance...

Well yet again AF has arrived after last months mc, we've ttc after each mc and never conceived straightaway, must take my body time to get back to normal. Kind of pleased AF has arrived bang on when it should have this month and hopefully body clock resets again. Really feel like I can't be bothered ever to ttc again at the moment happy to have my body back.

Struggling to keep up with everyone, will try and catchup properly. Good luck to everyone with scans. Love to everyone. Xx

BumbleBee0 · 21/07/2015 21:20

claire I started to spot (red) before af after my first mc as well, never recall spotting before af ever before mc. I would only spot a few days though, then af 3-4 days. For me I have always wondered whether my hormones were fucked after mc1 and the spotting a symptom of low progesterone/estrogen dominance. But as you say, you've had your Prog tested which was normal....Confused

BumbleBee0 · 21/07/2015 21:26

freckle hope you're enjoying your holiday. No doubt about it, your head is a dick! Hope your pt request materialises into something next term. I agree with bootles that your plan doesn't sound bad! You could forgo all the pills and pissing on sticks then start Prog from BFP (which I'm positive you will get soon Wink) x

Minnie74 · 21/07/2015 21:59

march I love what a great relationship you have- you're very lucky (and I do love my Dh a lot but he is known to piss me off on a regular basis!) As everyone has already said we're all here to handhold and listen to worries/rants as you start your next exciting journey x

claire sorry your af and spotting is pissing you off. I can't help really (no experience of spotting just totally random cycle lengths) hope it sorts itself out though.

freckle can totally understand your reaction to bfn (sounds like mine every time I've had one). I'd jack in the prog before bfp if I was you (I only bothered for two days and then decided I'd just risk it rather than get another bfn- I may live to regret it!) Your plan sounds like a great one - have a prosecco and get the caravan rocking!! Oh and if you want to try a different acupuncturist I'd recommend mine a million times. I love her and she's brilliant at empathy (has been through infertility herself I think from some of the stories she's told) she's north Leeds (rodley) so might be close enough to you. Xx

march how are you lovely? Been wondering how you're getting on today x

All quiet here. Zero symptoms but cramps have mostly stopped. Had acupuncture so hopefully it might hold on at least through my hols.

Catlover2014 · 21/07/2015 22:35

Great news Flen and Mrsc Grin

I'm trying to keep up with you all but doing rubbish. My baby has terrible colic and reflux so keeps being sick and is under the average weight for five weeks so I'm stressing. I guess the worry of infertility and mc stays with us Hmm xxx

MrsConfusion · 21/07/2015 22:39

flen so pleased for your good scan, and not long too next one Grin (posted earlier but it got eaten on bus)

barking we're all here for you - tough new adventures so take it one day at a time. We're all here for you

Justonemoretime · 21/07/2015 23:10

Cat, sorry Louis is suffering. I've pm'd you. xxx

MrsConfusion · 21/07/2015 23:32

cat sorry to hear worries about kitten Louis. The first weeks are tough but things do settle down. Are you getting good support from GP, health visitors, feeding clinics who may be able to advise on colic? It's a horrid thing SadFlowers

Emerald72 · 21/07/2015 23:43

Evening ladies! Just checking in before bed, had busy day at work and went back to gym tonight so just quick read to catch up with you all.

Congrats mrsC and Flen on your scans!GrinGrin great news.

Barking that's so sweet with you and DH not having been apart really, but makes it harder for your journey now. You're strong you can do it! And everyone is here for you, best of luck
Hope everyone else is ok,
Only another week and I've got my St Marys appointment. So thanks March for advice you gave for another on what to ask, I need to compile my list of questions!

cloudjumper · 21/07/2015 23:56

Handhold for tomorrow barking! Do you have anyone to come with you to the appointments at all? Good luck for everything!

barkingtreefrog · 22/07/2015 02:38

Can't sleep Sad. Just woke up from a dream where someone broke into where I was staying and shot me!

freckle xpost earlier, thanks for the support Thanks . As someone on their third acupuncturist I'd say ditch and move on!! I love my acu lady but didn't get on with the first and found the second one good with the needles but not with the empathy - I like chatting to my current acu lady, it's like having counselling at the same time, even if we're not talking about the ivf, she's just lovely to talk to about life in general and I come away feeling like I've just had a great catch up with a friend and usually a lot less stressed than I went in Smile.

onestep glad AF has not gone awol and your body is behaving Smile.

emerald it's weird, because we're not a couple that lives in each other's pockets, we have our own interests and own friends and don't feel the need to do everything together, but in terms of longer periods apart we just haven't, but not consciously, if that makes sense?! Last night he was saying he wished I was coming with him and he doesn't know how he's going to feel without me around and he didn't want to leave me. But we didn't think we'd still be on the ivf train this summer when he started talking about the trip with his mate this time last year....

cat sorry about the colic, hope you can find something that helps him soon Thanks.

cloud although there are friends who might be willing to come with me, all my appointments involve first come, first served clinics from 8-9.30, which generally involves turning up at 7.30 and queuing outside the clinic until it opens or you wait over an hour. I don't want to ask anyone else to have to do that! I think the embryo transfer will be okay and that's the main one, it's just the anxiety before each scan of worrying whether the lining is okay, whether the dates are going to work out and the cycle won't have to be cancelled if the timing falls on a Sunday when they're not open, whether they manage to catch ovulation and not miss it.... scanxiety exists even when you're not pg! Blush

Catlover2014 · 22/07/2015 04:55

Thanks ladies, he'll get there and I am sorry for moaning. Health visitor is nice and my sister in law has been really helpful in RL too.

Big hug to you barking, you're going through such a lot and it must be so hard to have your DH away. We're all here for you. Better times ahead Flowers xxxx

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