Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 28 - Tests, Treatments, Trying again, Trying to stay sane and most of all TREMENDOUS support!

[Kazz2112]

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!

Previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2416801-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-27-Tests-Treatments-and-Trying-Again?

barking awake in the early hours is horrible. I can definitely see your logic about the embryo's, yesterday sounds like a massive rollercoaster but now you have all the information. What do you have planned for today?

emerald the tfmr was after a bad 12 week scan, which suggested a high chance of death in utero at some point, a huge nuchal measurement, a likely severe cardiac issue. In the end she was found to be chromosomally normal, with an unknown cause of the problems. Of 5 losses, 4 were tested - that one, then a T22, then a chromosomally normal one, then the last one didn't get any results despite testing.

I'm now 14+4 and stressing as still can't feel uterus. Always something to stress about.

It does seem so unfair that as women we so readily search for answers for our losses, and if the problem is with us then so be it, we just want to find out, and fix it. For men, I think the suggestion that anything may be wrong with their reproductive capacity, is somehow very difficult for them to address. I'm sure not all men are like this, but it sound that your dh is worried due to his brother's diagnosis. And it must be hard for you both to have it all stirred up, and be forced to think about it and wonder if there's a link or whether it's all just random. I think any hospital with a maternity service should have a genetic counsellor?

Great newskazz!

Great news kazz .

You could start it in advance Barking.

in fact... I reckon with a bit if effort we could fill this thread today! lol

Really quick one as I've been mega busy and missed loads and off on hols today!

barking sending lots of positivity your way xx

Congrats on all scans!

kazz congrats!

Afm had hysteroscopy at weekend all fine, which is obvs good but was hoping for a reason for difficulty ttc and mc. Also has meant delay in ivf as they're now booked up for a while grr! Should ov over holiday so I'm going to "relax' and enjoy cos its that easy

Great news Kazz

MrsD great news on getting to 20 weeks Also exciting you know what you're having.

march, bumble, gen good news

home welcome, I hope everything gets moving for you and you get your appointment sorted soon.

Also welcome allmy

belle I don't think I said before, I am so sorry about your friend. I hope you are doing ok

bootles Your accidental bold post just had me in hysterics and actual crying at my desk, no real idea why, let's blame hormones. It just seemed like something I would do and then be really horrified about, anyway, glad it's not someone's super weird user name!!!!

barking and biscuits really like that quote, it really does sum up how you can be brave in all sorts of unseen ways.

kazz congratulations and good luck, hope you find the support from the Response trial helps you.

barking not surprised you were awake again after the rollercoaster of yesterday, I hope you can chill out over the weekend a bit and have some time for yourself. I also find that when DH is away, it takes me a while to sleep ok, seem to settle after a few nights. Keeping everything crossed for you over the next couple of weeks.

flower glad you had the hysteroscopy done. I know what you mean about wanting answers but it's good to have ruled some more things out. Sorry that it's meant a delay in IVF but I hope you are swept up in the holiday spirit and manage to relax.

Well done and congrats kazz** - you wouldn't believe the amount of people who join this thread and get pregnant straight away. Guess it's really lucky!

Thank you again for all your warm welcomes! Also thanks for the info on nku cells, makes sense...congratulations kaz
, I know I've only been on here since yesterday but good news is always lovely to hear x

bootles that made me chuckle! Don't worry about it, I often make typos and it drives me mad x

POAS today, bfn...but only 8dpo, last cycle I didn't start getting 'shadows of lines' until 10dpo, so trying not to stress too much!

Barking** our threads normally last 2 weeks, although we are nearly 200 messages away i think you should shoul shotgun and reserve the opportunity this time! X

Just popping on to say congrats Kazz - such wonderful news. I am crossing my fingers and toes for you!

Welcome, home and allmy. May you find support and good fortune on this thread.

Also to say that I had my first acupuncture session yesterday. I read Randine Lewis' book, 'The Fertility Cure: The Ancient Chinese Wellness Program for Getting Pregnant and Having Healthy Babies' and found it fascinating so thought I would give acupuncture a try. I have to say I found the acupuncture session itself a bit strange, but I am keeping an open mind and intend to try at least 4 sessions before making a decision about whether I feel it is doing me any good. Expensive, but at least I feel I am doing something!

Sending sunshine (which is even making an appearance up north today) and positive vibes to all. We may not be there yet but we are closer than we were yesterday! Repeat it like a mantra. :)

Great news kazz!

oneday hope you find acupuncture works for you. it was something I tried but only for 6 sessions and for me it didn't change anything and I found it too costly, although I am intrigued and lots of people swear by it. such a shame its so expensive. I'm also up north and Sun is trying for a change!x

great news Kazz keeping everything crossed for you!!!

Bootles I can't feel my uterus either and I'm 13+4 so exactly a week behind you.

Spoke to my parents lady night and they were drinking a very nice bottle of wine and said they were celebrating????

I asked them what they were celebrating and they said it's suddenly hit them that this time they really could be grandparents.

I got a real lump in my throat - we forget the impact of miscarriage really is far reaching and affects everyone close to us

Oneday, I got told yesterday that I was very stressed and therefore I was resisting the power of acupuncture but more sessions would mean my resistance would be worn down. Resisting not to take the plasters out of my ears I've been told to wear all week to help my qi...

girlie that sounds like nonsense. There is advice given about choosing a counsellor that you need to find a good fit. I think this might be true of other forms of therapy too. I started seeing an acupuncturist last year who is very experienced and well known here, but I didn't feel at all comfortable with her so I switched to someone else, who is great.

Thank you for all your comments. I'm soooooo glad that the starting new thread / ttc thing worked! Barking you're up next!

I've been randomised and dine my first injection. Niw home in bed for a nap as I'm Emotionally exhausted!

So relieved to be where we are now but also now terrified of the weeks to come! Any advice on getting through those would be welcomed with open arms!

Kazz all I can say is that you take it literally a day at a time and remind yourself "this time it's different"

Every single pregnancy is genetically different. New lining , new egg , new Sperm , New start.

Tell yourself everyday "this time it's different"

Just remembered mrsC had a scan today(?), hope it went ok!

kazz hmmm, any advice I give would make me a hypocrite! Ha! I would say try as much as you can to go about your day as normal. Stay positive and calm and try not to let the anxiety take over, because being anxious or calm won't change the outcome, but it's much kinder to yourself to stay calm if you can. (Again, massive hypocrite here!) x

How has today been barking? X

kazz - great news hun! So pleased for you. Hhhm - advice on getting through those first weeks... I have never managed to stay sane through it. Wise words from brummie though. Plus lots of distractions. x

Hope the scan went ok today mrsc

barking, hope you are doing ok today. Sending lots of positivity your way. When is your dh contactable again? Hope you've had lots of friends looking after you today xx

kazz, great news that you are randomised and started on the drugs

Afm. Just back from hospital. I have perhaps mellowed in my opinion of the consultant. She was very kind and has given me the heparin (although we were both a bit disorganised and neither had the suggested coventry dose so she has given me what she normally gives to aps people. Hope it's right).
She was, however, a little concerned about the haematoma and was her usual blunt self about telling me it can cause mc (which i knew). Anyway, as a result she had booked me another scan for next Thursday. I'm astounded that she suggested this, but pleased to be seen again so soon.

Brummie your comment re grandparents has made me a bit emmoch xxxxxx

Typed a big message then lost it, grr!

march glad the appointment went well even if she was rather blunt, and super glad you are booked in for another scan.

kazz I don't think I've found any way to get through it, I'm getting through because time does just pass! I'm doing a lot of distraction tactics though, watching box sets etc....