Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 28 - Tests, Treatments, Trying again, Trying to stay sane and most of all TREMENDOUS support!

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Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!

Previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2416801-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-27-Tests-Treatments-and-Trying-Again?

march think one of their tasks is to assess whether to refer on to a&e, I have found them v helpful in the past though, and they also made an out of hours GP appt for me with mc2...

March, I would seek a medical opinion if only to reassure you x

Barking, I'm not surprised you've woken early as you do seem to have lots of energy (can I have some I yours please ?)

Off to dd's nursery fair today. Will be to torture as there will be lots of dd's friends and their siblings from the baby room. At least have girly meal tonight to look forward tonight. The last two I've been pregnant at (although no-one knew) so looking forward to having few cheeky glasses of wines with my girlies.

Those meeting up today have a great time. If anyone's on the south Coast and fancies a southern catch up, let me know

March, I'd see your GP. I'm sure its just a popped pile but your HP will be able to give you something more effective for healing than you'll get over the counter.
Barking, everything crossed for you!
Bootles, re cervix. Will someone scan you to measure it? If its short, they can stitch it at about 14 weeks. It will be useful to have it measured, anyway. I had a shortened cervix with Scott, but it wasn't discovered until 27 wks, and no one knew what it was in the first place so no one could say whether it was actually shortening. Never used it in the end anyway!
Cloud, so sad to hear of the lady on the other thread. Since Scott was almost delivered at 27 weeks, it really does make you think. So sad.

Thanks ladies. The bleeding has stopped for now so going to see how it goes and just stick to the front for the prog for a few days at least. I know it's nothing to do with mc, but it's just really shaken me up seeing that blood and reminded me how fragile thongs still are. Hate what this had done to me, feel scared of my own shadow

March I had rectal bleeding at about 6 weeks, gave me such a scare but it wasn't profuse and I have had it before when constipated. I know I have internal piles so I suspect it was that, sounds like it could be similar for you. Not sure about the clots though.

cloud I am so sorry to hear of the late miscarriage you have mentioned (I do know who you are talking about and remember the poster from the TTC after miscarriage threads - not mentioning names just incase it's insensitive or seen as gossiping). It seems to me that just when you think you've had enough heart break you read another story on here that's leads you to catch your breath and think 'oh lord, what I've been through is nothing'. My heart breaks for late losses and stillbirths, I have no idea how I would cope but of course you do because what is the alternative? If people find out I have had three miscarriages they say how terrible, I couldn't be so strong etc. I inwardly roll my eyes a little as I/we had no choice, it just happened and you carry on getting up in the morning because that's what we all do. Life can be a very cruel place.

Can I ask those who inject heparin daily. Any technique to help with the bruising, arnica perhaps? My DP has MS and has to inject himself weekly and works in medical engineering so he has had the task of injecting me this morning. Couldn't feel the needle going in, did feel the liquid going in and that was the stinging sensation but it's left a bruise. Coag nurse said to alternate sides, don't go above belly button and pinch the skin, needle in
at 90 degrees. Also don't put pressure on the skin afterwards. Any other non bruising tips?

Sebs, I never did it, but I've heard some others put frozen peas on the site before injecting.

Sebs I was just told it bruised, and not to worry. All the different ivf injections didn't bruise (apart from a couple of times when I hit a vein or something) but the fragmin does apparently. I'll be starting it on Wednesday. Have you got all the prepared syringes with the red bits on them? I've usually had to mix up the syringes myself for the cetrotide etc so that was a relief!

Yep that's right barking, exactly the same. I'm just worried I'm going to have a belly full of bruises and no clear skin to inject into in the end. Plus I have no idea how you inject a pregnant belly as last time my bump was small and hard, I don't remember there being much spare skin to pinch.

You can do the tops of your thighs, too. I used to alternate sides and vary how close to my belly button I did it. The bruises faded after a few days and I could start at the beginning again.

March I had the same problem only yesterday when I went to the loo (cough cough)

Sebs I rub the skin before injecting to warm it up and that helps

Hi ladies I'm new to this thread, I'm on the response study thread so recognise some of your names.
I'm currently 7weeks pregnant & taking part in the response study, I've had 1 mc in 2011 @ 5weeks then I had a healthy problem free pregnancy which resulted in my little boy who was born 2012, since trying to give him a sibling I have suffered 3 miscarriages in the last year all between 6-8weeks.
I've started brown spotting over the last few days, minimal amounts but enough to worry me sick so my trial nurse is having me in on mon morning for a scan...so scared something will be wrong! I had a scan last Monday which showed a healthy looking fetal pole & heartbeat. I'm keeping everything crossed that mon will bring good news. Xx

Hi brummiemum, welcome to the thread and sorry to hear about your losses. Everyone here is ace, knowledgeable, supportive and it is a good place to be. I totally feel your pain, I'm also 7 weeks and brown spotting! My next scan is Wed, so we are both counting down time. It's scary and stressful I know, am here for handholding.

Waves brummiemum, sorry you've been having spotting. It's all just so stressful at the start. Brown is normally old blood so fingers crossed it's nothing serious but i hope it buggers off soon. Glad you've got an extra scan to hopefully put your mind at rest

Thanks brummie(original!) and sebs, that makes me feel a bit better that other people have had it too. No more since so hopefully a one off

Thank you all, it's so nice to be able to talk about everything.

Marchgirl, I have been in touch with the coventry clinic, going to see what the results of NHS tests are before considering going there, but I hadn't heard of the hyperfertility thing - that's interesting, thank you for the tip.

MrsConfusion, hello, nice to see you!

Emerald72, that's really reassuring, thank you. I'm really bothered about my age, feels like everyone around me is getting pregnant in their 20s and 30s and I'm really self conscious and imagine everyone rolling their eyes that I have left it so late ttc number 2, and thinking I should have known better.

Was just thinking about your spotting flen. Do you think it could be caused by the cervix being a bit irritated by the prog? Just a thought, as your back end obviously took offence to it

I had wondered the same march, and I think just had that kind of spotting, not sure whether it would be brown or more pink/red. Mine came back about an hour ago, with a tiny clot so am now shitting myself again...

Hand holding lovely x

Thanks March and Barking for your thoughts, it has left me feeling rather crap today really, then had row with DP as thought he was not very understanding. Oh dear. Barking can completely understand now why you've done that, just makes you feel rubbish. She did however give me some bee pollen tablets she had left over. Wish I was meeting up with you all today, feeling like no one else in my circle here

march omg that must've been a big shock till you realised where was coming from and then still a shock. Reckon it's your piles then? Maybe see how it goes and see doc if it doesn't improve?
Barking hope your little embie defrosts nicely and good luck for tww.

Girlie good luck today for the nursery fair, always hard going somewhere where you were pg before for first time and also seeing the baby siblings too. I feel same when I drop DS at nursery and also at swimming like this morning too think was overload after last night. I'm in Essex but would love to meet up! Can we arrange it? A southern one. Willing to drive a distance, anyone else??

Hi Brummiemum and welcome, sorry for your losses and I hope all is well with this one, it must be very worrying for you. You'll find lots of support on here these women are amazing.

Yomping don't worry that's exactly how I feel too, but women on here and at the clinics don't seem to mind at all and don't see a problem with our age. I think those who don't understand are very narrow minded.

Flen hand holding for you sure it'll be ok

emerald I'm in Kent, so a southern meet would suit :)

march perhaps ring GP Monday, even if you just get a phone appointment to start with? Best get it checked out.

Welcome brummiemum the ladies here are all fantastic and we will all be here for advice/support.

Had a girlie day yesterday to help get back into work mode - hair colour, painted my nails, bought some new work clothes.
Today DH helped me rearrange the bedroom. I was ok, then he went to work and I just lost it. We were planning to reorganise things to fit in a cot etc....and now I don't know when that will happen.

Still anxious about work on Monday, I'll probably be ok, and my colleagues will probably feel awkward. They all know what happened though, so at least I don't have to explain. I think if someone tries to hug me or speak about it I'll be a mess though.

Lovely to meet the Bucks based ladies today and put some faces and actual names to pseudonyms

Blimey another Brummie!! so sorry you find yourself here. These ladies are amazing.

Thoroughly enjoyed my afternoon, was great to meet Just Sun Onestep and Thorne and I got to have cuddles with Scott!!! Who I can confirm is gorgeous

hope you ladies are all okay and enjoying your weekend.
lovely that you ladies got to put faces to names

March how you doing now? gosh everything is such a worry, I bet you were worried sick and of course it would shake you up. big hugs.

anyone know what I might expect from gynae appointment for bleeding every month prior to af? got app letter which just says bring urine sample and doubt they 'll do anything else at 1st app but not sure what else they will arrange from there?xx

Me too, a lovely afternoon, with Brummie Just & little Scott, Thorne & Sun. All lovely ladies! Wishing you all the best of luck with your weeks ahead.

Emerald, Mrsb I'm up for a meet up, happy to drive wherever is nearest point for you. I used to always be driving down to Yalding in Kent where my friend lives. xx

Welcome Brummiemum xx

onestep emerald private message me when you get a chance and perhaps we can organise something. Anyone else nearby - be nice to meet up and chat.