Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 28 - Tests, Treatments, Trying again, Trying to stay sane and most of all TREMENDOUS support!

[Kazz2112]

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!

Previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2416801-Recurrent-Miscarriage-Support-Thread-27-Tests-Treatments-and-Trying-Again?

Did anyone watch one born last night? I did, wasn't sure if I could but was ok

Ha ha Emerald. Out of intrigue I just did the same! I expected him to be older. Don't know why!

I've not watched any One Born but have loads recorded for when I'm in a situation that I want to watch them!

Currently stressing myself out fretting about when to start pg testing. I got a smiley on my opk test a week yesterday (early @ cd11) and then again on Sunday (cd15). it's my sisters wedding on Saturday so I'm. thinking about doing a first response tomorrow but i have a feeling I'm. going to be absolutely gutted if it's negative - which us pretty likely to be!

Hate all this ttc / mc / unknown / no control bollocks!

I watched it. Screaming Scousers

Hello all, can I join you please?

I have had 3 early mc in last 6 months (at 4.2, 4.3 and 4.4 weeks) and am losing my sanity over it all. I seem to be super-fertile but unable to stay pregnant. DD is 2 yrs 9 months and we conceived her on second month of trying, no issues with pregnancy. This time round it's a different story. I'm 40 and scared time is running out. Awaiting consultant app in September, and keeping trying until then in case it is just a numbers game. AF arrived 3 days ago so I'm gutted all over again.

I'm sure there is a wealth of knowledge in here that it would be great to tap into, and all this is battering my confidence so to talk to others in a similar position, and get hope from those who have conquered this problem, will be really helpful.

I used to LOVE one born but can't face it now

kazz Good luck for tomorrow please try not to be too down if it's bfn as its early days and doesn't mean it's a no. (easy said I know)

congrats to you all who are pregnant, there's so many of you!! and good luck to all you lovely ladies still ttc.
this thread is so funny......one of these days I 'll catch up and remember all of your names, this app is pants can't see posts when typing!!

I have been referred to gynacology eventually to try and figure out what the bleeding before af is, and why I'm not conceiving its about bloody time, total lottery not only postcode but in my case which gp I speak to!!!xx

welcome yomping, I joined here the other day so we can be newbies together
sorry for your losses, the ladies on here are great and know sooo much.
good luck and hope you get your bfp very soon xx

clairemorgan glad you have an appointment with a gynae to try and figure why it is happening. Please let us know the outcome. I may, if I can be bothered to go to my doctor and be shoved out the door AGAIN telling me to use more lubricant during ttc!!! Felt like punching him when he said that to me!!

YompingJo welcome here, so sorry to hear of your losses, all so early on.
I totally know the insanity feeling. I've have had 4 mc all early too, except one MMC found at 12 week scan, measuring 7 weeks. You'll find tons and tons of support here. X

onestep how insensitive I bet you felt like thumping gp. my appointment isn't until September but i 'll def let you know what is said.x

barking, that's exciting/nervewracking. Keeping everything crossed for you. Are you going for just one of your remaining embies transferred? Glad the day of reckoning isn't a weekday, so you'll have a couple of days to get over the excitement of being pg

Welcome yomping, but so sorry you find yourself here. My last two losses were between 4 and 5 weeks and i found them both hard, as well as frustrating. I really do hope it's a numbers game for you and that the next one will work out, but glad you have a referral as well. I've actually not got much clue about the causes of the early ones apart from them being chromosomal, but perhaps someone else will be along with some suggestions. It certainly sounds like you may fit into the 'hyperfertility' theory that the implantation clinic in Coventry are researching (ie your lining is not selective enough, and too receptive, allowing nonviable eggs to implant), so that might be an option for you to look into.

Oo. And I've got obem saved on the planner. Yay. Now just need a night when dh is out so i can cry unashamedly

Claire I'm on the Android app - I just go backwards and forwards, selecting all and copying the text each time before I go back to read the next post. When you go back it takes you to where you were, so you can just read and respond to one post at a time then copy and go back and repeat!

Just one embryo March, although the nurse keeps reminding us that there's an 80% survival rate of the thaw, so if it doesn't make it they'll get the other one out. Fingers crossed.....

Welcome yomping sorry you have reason to be here.

emerald I can't watch obem. Used to love it when first ttc, now over 3 years on it just makes me or or both. And always .

thanks for tips barking although for some reason I can't seem to copy and paste?
so excited so you, that's a really good success rate. really hope it works out for you & that this is your time xx

Claire 80% of embryos survive the thaw... Not 80% of embryo replacements result in a pregnancy - I think you might be getting that confused! The chances of me getting a bfp from this hideous process are around 20%, but the chances of the embryo perishing before I even get to the hospital are 20% as well... This is why on the day of the transfer I have to wait for a call from the embryologist. Until they've verified that you have an embryo to put in, they don't even bother giving you a time slot for the transfer. I've already had a failed iui and a failed ivf so I am realistic, if still hopeful...

Oh, and to copy/cut/paste/select all I just double tap the text, as I would in any app/email/etc.

barking I have everything crossed for you. Willing this to be successful for you! Huge huge ginormous hugs!!!

Kazz hope you have a super time at your sisters wedding this weekend. Love a wedding, especially when it's a family one. All the best!

Wierd yom** reading your post sounds like me talking, and if it's actually driving you nuts you're definitely in the right place - this lot are mad as a box of frogs! Not me though, no, three mc in one year, last at 11 weeks - i am completely sane (eye and lip starts twitching in syncrony...!) There is a rich treasure of information and sisterly sympathy on here. It really is a life-line. Welcome.

Monten, me? Well i'm not friggin pregnant, unlike the rest of this lot! I'm in the mist of having a propper teenage strop about it. Not taking the pills, having a drink each night, ignoring all my suspicious hocus-pocus i was addopting. Feel like poking my accupuncturist in the eye! The other half of me is tutting and wagging her finger ay my childish lack of patience. I've got pregnant nearly first time trying 5 times. Bur then nearly every time it ended in mc. So it's now been four months of bfn. I should hope my body's being a bit more selective, but being childish and churlish i'm just fucked off it's taking so bloody long. I'm 40 YEARS OLD FOR CHRIST SAKE, I DO NOT HAVE TIME TO WASTE!!! Mother nature? Mother f*** more like! Jes a smidge angry... (!)

On another note, i think we should use the little power-house that we have here and arange a ttc/fertility convention. A two day event/exibition thing with talks and stalls ect in all this shit we know!

Barking I really hope that this is your time! Lots of finger crossing for you!

Thanks one step. It will be lovely to see so many family at once - especially my grandad who is 91. But also going to be tough because told my sister about my first pregnancy by asking if we could have an addition to the guest list. If all had gone well I'd be showing of our 7 month old DC. Fast forward 15 months and I'm 3 miscarriages down, struggling to conceive again and guaranteed to face the question at least once 'when will you two think about having a baby?' So I've got to try to avoid pondering the what ifs!

Thankfully quite a lot of my family know about what we've been through. My dad is an only child so we asked into my Grans history - sadly she passed away 4 years ago at 96 so can't ask her - but what I have gathered is she had at least 7 miscarriages before having my dad and possibly more after although my Dad's cousin isn't sure of how many. Definitely makes me wonder what's going on!

Freckle that post you just wrote could've been taken straight from my head! about the 4 months thing. I'm very definitely on the verge of throwing all my toys / piss sticks out of the pram and having a full on tantrum if I don't succeed this cycle!

Onestep** lub..lubricant? What is this strange and magical thing that your clever gp speaks of? (oh ffs!)
Why is there no 'eyeroll' or chin smaking icons on here?
He he he...think i better put the pimms down again!

Barking**, can't believe how nerve-wracking the process is. Newly appreciating how tough it is on you. X

yompingJo hello! I remember you from the October thread in 2012... Sorry to see you here but really glad you've found this amazing group of funny brave lovely crazy ladies!

Kazz lol me too! He's quite young! Not bad either or is that just cos he's got a god like status about him now?! Have a lovely time at the wedding but know what you mean with the what ifs, and certain milestone dates where you think you'll be doing something with your child and then you're not only not doing that but still trying. Very tough. Hope you can enjoy the day and not think what if too much. Interesting about your gran tho, wonder if it's linked? My great nan apparently also had only child and MC too, I'm going to mention this at clinic next week.

Brummie lol yes and with bad teeth

Yomping welcome! Sorry for your losses, you've found a great thread here, so much knowledge on testing and support from lovely ladies, really helped me in last month. I'm bit like you, got pg first month of trying last 3 but all ended at 5wks ish. I have DS 2 and 5months and I'm 43.5. You have time don't worry, I had DS at 41 and there's lots of hope stories on here you'll see.

Claire glad you've got an appointment to find out what happening, sept will soon come round I'm sure.

Barking I know what you mean obem it's not same now as when I watched it before DS, felt all those things watching it last night.

Freckle great idea on the convention! Or a rally outside Houses of Parliament to get NHS policy changed to tests after 2mc and guaranteed date with prof b. Loving the teenage strop too!

yomping welcome. You have washed up in exactky the right place. Settle in and prepare to be educated, amused and supported the heck out of. Good job you got in now, I reckon freckle will be charging new members before now.
Who the hell has the stomach to watch one born? You total masocist! I only managed two episodes the week I was induced and they were for purely educational reasons. I suppose it could be good trainijng for dealing with real life pregnant ladies, kind of like aversion therapy.
barking I didn't know the ins and outs of your process, but I can see why not having your dp at your side would be more than a bit daunting. More power to you for going ahead. You have us all there in spirit.

Now everone stop stalking the nice professor and go to sleep