Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 27 - Tests, Treatments and Trying Again

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Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
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Great news mrsc, fifi and sebs! So pleased for you all.

Welcome newbies, so sorry for your losses. This is a great place for advice and support as you try again.

Brummie another yes for the 25th. Looking forward to meeting you all!

Thanks everyone for your kind words and good wishes over the last couple of days, meant to update yesterday but was home late from work and totally shattered and fell asleep on sofa. Not much to report really. Spotting hasn't increased but had some nasty cramping yesterday and now completely symptomless so not really got much hope that this one will work out. Last time I spotted for four days before mc really got going so expecting it to happen over the weekend. Scan on Tuesday if not though so not too long to wait. Just trying to put it out of mind at the moment.

Also, march echo what others have said, really hope that it is just IB and that things work out for you this time.

Hugs thorn xxx

Congrats to MrsC and sebsmummy I think we can all breathe a big sigh of relief this evening.

Thorn hugs, good luck for your scan on Tues. xxx

Congrats fifi mrsc and sebs lovely scan news

march hoping desperately that it's just implantation bleeding. Huge hugs hon you really deserve some luck xx

Welcome to all the new ladies today. So sorry you find yourselves here but it is a great thread for support, advice and a place to rant about the unfairness of it all. Pull up a chair x

sasha sorry you've been worried by the results of your lining test. No ideas of how to thicken it but brummies list sounds like it covers it!

freckle you never know! This could be your month! Hope so lovely lady!

biscuits sorry you're out. Such a downer. I fully expect to be in the next few days. Cramping following the exact same pattern as last month.

Sorry and waves to everyone I've inevitably missed x

Sorry thorn just seen your post. Sorry you're still spotting. I remember panicking that things would start before my hospital appointment too. They didn't though and I hope you're the same. Rest up and I'm so sorry you're going through it again x

Just reread your post thorn and I'm so sorry I think I mixed you up with someone else! I'm so sorry hope the spotting stops and you're scan is totally fine. Really sorry again!

March congrats!! Sounds exciting!
Welcome Casio I had progesterone for last pg from private consultant and pinned so much hope on it but it didn't help me unfortunately.
Welcome Gem
Biscuits would love meet up in Cambridge if I had a successful pg, fingers crossed!! In fact I would be up for meeting any of you lovely ladies in Essex/Suffolk or London area.
Sasha your meeting with Shehata sounds very positive, look forward to hearing about their protocol ahead of my private visit in August.

Having few glasses wine tonight, sod it. Was going to stick too little alcohol and caffeine diet, but tonight...sod it.

Congratulations on the scans ladies! Amd hello newbies - i am sorry you are here but i am very pleased to know you too xxx.

March** what's happening on knicker check? Apparently 20% of women get inplantation bleed you know?! Are really really really rooting for you xxx

Bleeding has stopped for now but the cramping and heavy feeling continues so I'm expecting more bleeding tomorrow am probably. Hoping it will be brown. When are you testing freckle??

Sasha I said about testing after 2 mcs also. I lost one at 6weeks last year and one at 18weeks this year. Zero support from any medical professional in either case. I only found out that the consultant will want to see me (eventually) because I called and asked if I am allowed to get my blood results.

I lost my boy 2nd May and I haven't had a phone call, a letter or a follow up appointment. I was going to chase the consultant this week but I haven't. When I finally get an appointment and get my blood results and the placental histology I am going to ask if I can have some more tests.

The system is wrong, why should you have to lose 3 children before having tests. Perhaps if I had better care after the 1st mc then the 2nd may not have happened.

Good news on scans Fifi, sebs, mrsc

thorn still hoping it's not as you fear, and that the days pass quickly u til Tuesday.

march as everyone else says, really hope this bleeding is IB - if you are 9dpo, it would fit timing wise? What a stress for you though.

I have gone from feeling very sick at the start of the week, and so tired I could barely function, to feeling more or less OK. I don't like it.

longest thanks for asking, my childminding plans are going slowly at the moment - just when they need to be going quickly. Stressful. Lovely that Alice and Beth met! Really hope I can make a meet up one of these days.

spam I'm so sorry, I don't think I ever responded to your other post. Glad to hear your eldest is accepting things a little more, and what you said to him sounds lovely - you must be a wonderful Mum. The situation with your youngest sounds incredibly frustrating, I really hope you get some input from the professionals soon, so that you have more clarity. You have a lot on your plate, and it sounds like you are coping admirably. Please have meltdowns on here (or anywhere else in my opinion) if it helps. I am appalled that you haven't had any input from the hospital following the loss of your baby ds in May - you shouldn't have to push them for updates, but I think you may have to. Surely they must have tested chromosomes etc, or done an autopsy (sorry) after such a late loss? It makes me very angry on your behalf . Sorry again if you previously discussed all this when you were here before.

Spaminit that's terrible that youve had nothing at all back since you lost your boy, it's disgusting really. So sorry for your loss, I cannot imagine having a loss more weeks in, it must be awful. Well none are good, but must be horrendous,

bootles We chose not to have a full post mortem as he was very small and fragile. He weighed 150 grams and selfishly we wanted him to stay perfect. They did xrays, skin swabs and blood samples from the umbilical cord and placenta was assessed also. I had approx 13 bottles of blood taken for all sorts of things but have had no results at all.

The secretary saud when I called that it is the placental histology that takes a while. I am just sick of waiting, I need to process it all and find a way to move forward.

Thank you for all the lovely things you have said, I do my best but in all reality I am a stress head and cry a lot. I am dramatic and every now and again I sob all day and moan about how crap my life is. I am terrible for not seeing all the positives and letting myself drown in the self pity and negativity. helps.

Emerald it was horrible but if I am to be perfectly honest I just went through it all like a zombie and got it done and didn't cry because I thought being strong was the thing to do. I stared at the wall during his funeral and I am really gutted I was such a zombie because it was a lovely service and I will never get that chance to be there again. xx

spaminit that's so sad, I cannot imagine having to go through that, you must be so strong tho you don't feel it. Being a zombie is probably all you could be to get through it so don't feel bad for that. Big hugs.

Xx

What a truly awful time you've had spam. I'm so angry for you that there hasn't yet been a follow up since you lost jack. Hard as it is I really think a little nudge is worth while. As we have said many times on the thread, it's the squeakiest wheel that gets oiled. A friend of mine lost her baby at 16 weeks with a heart problem and from what she said, they did all the usual rmc testing as part of her follow up (she'd had a previous mc too), so i really hope this is the case for you too. Glad to hear your older son is doing better now but sorry you're still having issues accessing the help you need for the younger one. You must be very frustrated, but you sound like a very strong person (even if you sometimes don't feel like it), and i think you're doing great for them. Xx

Really pleased for the good scan results yesterday. Long may they continue!

March, holding my breath for you and hope it's all quiet over the next few days.

Welcome to the newbies,hope we can provide you with support/ advice x

Spam, big hugs. I get very frustrated that the Nhs doesn't manage our expectations regarding timelines for test results so you don't have to worry that you've been forgotten and instead can focus on grieving x

Spam so sorry to hear of your loss in May. It's absolutely desperately sad. Don't be harsh on yourself. You are grieving and it's all complete natural to feel how you are feeling. Everybody deals with grief in their own way. When you have the strength to do it I would get on the phone and chase up your results. I would say I would give them six weeks max and call and follow up in writing. Lots of love to you. Xxxx

Thanks girlie. Darker test today and no more bleeding or cramps. Feel like it might be only a temporary reprieve but going to try and be hopeful.
How are the other twwers? When is testing day twilight, freckle, minnie, may, loopy?

Keeping everything crossed for you march. Really pleased to hear that things are looking up.