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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 26 - tests, treatment and trying again

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bythesea82 · 17/06/2015 14:40

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

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bootles · 30/06/2015 21:19

Sasha hugs for due date

twilight WTF to the adoption agency ??? Glad about the smiley, and yours too freckle. Sounds like you're around that time too march

flen how are you doing? How's the line? Hoping you are just keeping your head down but are OK.

thorn any hcg results back? (I think that was happening today)

jady are you OK? Hoping you are just keeping your head down but are alright.

bootles · 30/06/2015 21:21

Morgan hugs for due date. And oh for gods sake to the pictures of beingback at the gym with a month old baby. I don't really do Facebook (though am tentatively trying) but that sort of thing would really wind me up!

MorganLeFey · 30/06/2015 21:24

Good luck with everyone about to start shagging! Think our timing a bit out last month - should've just gone by dates rather than being confused by discrepant CB digi/mucus/IC...
What do most people aim for?
I think we used to try every day for 4-5 in run up to predicted ovulation... But I just feel pretty exhausted physically/emotionally by the whole thing!

MorganLeFey · 30/06/2015 21:30

Thank you bootles . It's interesting - even though I actually know some of what's also going on with this friend that doesn't make it onto Facebook (precarious previously on/off relationship - making a go of it for the baby) a post of her in gym gear & current weight update pissed me right off. (Even though I realize that I am obviously projecting frustration that I am much much fatter without a newborn "excuse"! & stuck in a bit of a downward body loathing/feeling broken anyway spiral...)

Minnie74 · 30/06/2015 21:49

Thanks for the explanation freckle sounds like it's worth a try. I always need a wee too!

march Grin at the sneezing (but bleurgh to hay fever). I'm cd11 always ovd today previously but since the scratch I'm definitely at least 5 days later. Still low on the monitor. Finding it all a bit frustrating. And depressing. I've no faith in ever getting pg again.

morgan Facebook kills me at the moment. Scan pics left right and centre. Not even anyone I know- just liked by people I do know. Horrible but I think it was bumble who said would you want actually swap lives and on the whole I generally think no! Hugs for EDD (sasha too)

barking glad you're not needing another biopsy but sorry your FET dates are causing you stress.

Good luck to everyone with smileys!

twilight omg to the adoption woman! What the hell was she on?!

Loopyaboutmy2boys · 30/06/2015 22:04

Time to delurk I think. Am cd27 today, had ewcm since Thursday so ov should be anytime. Cycles have been circa 40-44 days with the odd longer one, so cd 30 is Friday. So ov likely between yesterday and Friday. DH managed to DTD Fri night and extremely late sun night, so hoping that put us in with a chance this cycle, as long as the egg hurries up! I had a scan at Worcester last week and they didn't think any signs of PCOS so no idea what else might cause my long cycles. She saw two ovaries and said everything looked normal. So am trying to convince myself that it's just a case of getting a good egg and then letting the medication do its stuff to combat the coagulation problem.

Sounds like quite a few good scans lately from the bits I just tried to scan through, and quite a few entering the 2ww this week. Fingers crossed the threads are entering a new positive phase and it will just be full of babies and healthy bumps by the end of the year. If only, but doesn't hurt to hope. Brummie hope you can get through the next couple of days without stress levels going too high.

bootles · 30/06/2015 22:07

Minnie I really hope it happens for you soon - meant to say that before. Everything crossed for you.

Morgan and a weight?! I just don't get it! This is what I hear people saying about fb, that it's often essentially a cover up for what's really going on. Please don't feel badly about yourself - it is very hard when bodies aren't behaving as they should, and I totally get the feeling broken thing, but you will rise up again, and I am sure you aren't seeing yourself as others do.

Quick question: My Coventry letter says to take pred until '10 completed weeks of pregnancy' and then I am to start weaning off it - 10mg for a week then 5mg for a week. So I assume that means when I am 10 weeks, ie now? This is a really stupid question I know, I am just going into blind paranoia about starting stopping the meds (pro,g and hep until 12 weeks).

bootles · 30/06/2015 22:09

loopy his frustrating to be none the wiser about the long cycles. Everything crossed for this one.

OneStep2015 · 30/06/2015 22:09

Ditto Facebook is a no go zone at times!

Thornfield38 · 30/06/2015 22:12

Yay to good scan news mrsc!

Happy bonking to everyone with smileys today Grin

Thanks Bootles. Haven't had HSG test yet but I'm off to the GP on Friday so if there's still no clear answer one way or another will push for one. Have stepped away from the tests for a few days - will test again on Thurs and hopefully have a clearer picture although will probably cave in and test again tomorrow

Brummiegirl15 · 30/06/2015 22:27

Sasha and Morgan hugs for due dates - they are the crappiest. I've done 2 and got 1 more to go - 7th August

Ooh it won't just be the weather that's hot tonight with all the solid smileys!!! Grin

Loopy really chuffed you don't have pcos that's something!! Fingers crossed for this cycle.

9 wks tomorrow. It was at 9 weeks last time I found out the baby had died (8.5 wks time before that) so it's all playing on my mind

Other than that I've got really stupid patches of sunburn where I clearly can't put on sunscreen FFS

Sunandrainbow · 30/06/2015 22:33

Yay mrsc - great news that all in correct place and a good hcg increase. x

Sunandrainbow · 30/06/2015 22:35

Hugs to everyone with due dates around now - they are such a tough reminder of what could have been.

And good luck with the solid smileys ladies!

X

BunnyMad · 30/06/2015 22:41

Great news MrsC, all sounds really good

Freckle excuse the ignorance but how does gravity not just pool the sperm in the cup? Can they really swim all the way back up?

March not really sure, had a bit of trouble with the ov kit so last 4 tests were void and the day it worked and gave a negative is when Fertility friend says I ovulated so 14dpo or less. I gained an extra 2 days on my cycle after the first mc so not sure if I will do the same after the 2nd. So tempted to test in the morning again. But I will be annoyed with myself for wasting a test so expensive if it's a bfn

BunnyMad · 30/06/2015 23:21

Morgan I know how you feel about the discrepancies between all the different signs and ov test (cb digit for me too). This is the first cycle I have ever charted so still early days for me. I just aim to dtd every 2-3 days from about cd 8 to cd 20 to make sure I catch that ov day. This way I don't really think about the actually ov and dtd is quite relaxed needless to say he doesn't know my plan, tried explaining it all to him but he looked lost, he is just happy for a stress free time I feel a bit like that about my body at the mo. Just no impressed with what I see in front of me. Seems to have got worse after each mc. Hubby has started to run as he is planning to raise funds for Nepal so he is encouraging me to exercise too but I just feel so down about myself it's tough to pick myself back up again. I know I will get there though and I am sure you will too. Time to unfriend that 'friend' I think! Hugs for your due date x

inamaymaybewrong · 30/06/2015 23:24

Hello everyone
I've only read back a few posts so am behind as usual! I'll try to catch up more tomorrow...
Was back at EPAU today for a check up, 2 and a bit weeks after my
MC. (See separate post on miscarriage thread on that!!)
Anywhere, all was 'fine' in that everything has concluded naturally. Urine pregnancy test barely registered a positive and when they did an internal scan I had a fat follicle ready to pop and a triple stripe lining (I know fromour IVF experience that this is good!!)
So, hot weather, wine in the garden until past dark....and so to bed...! Would love to find that extra fertility post -MC goes in our favour this month.
Good luck to all the smileys!
My due date from my 1st MC will be this Saturday, so feeling that too. Hugs to those in the same boat around now.

barkingtreefrog · 30/06/2015 23:26

twilight what an unhelpful woman! Shock

Morgan and sasha , due dates stink. I'm on my 'baby would be 2' round next, it's been so long since my first bfp.

Morgan at the fb post Angry.

freckle I was told by a nurse at the fertility clinic that the sperm that make it to the egg (or in the right place to wait for it) are shot up on ejaculation and the semen doesn't matter. Having said that, I bought a mooncup for AF and I much prefer it to loads of tampons Grin.

MrsC great news Grin.

March another one suffering with the pollen over here, it's killing me!!

Sasha with the age thing I'm going purely off the published success statistics of my local private clinic for ivf, not fertility in general. There's a 10% drop in success rates for ages 35-37 compared to

Marchgirl · 01/07/2015 06:28

morgan, The gym a month after giving birth? Yikes. I seem to remember having something else to do with my time when i had dd. Hugs for your due date too.

minnie, that's interesting that your still later this month. A lot of people have weird cycles immediately after cov but thought it normally settled down. I am keeping my fingers crossed that it means your egg will be a little more perfectly ripe with the extra days cooking. Hopefully you'll be joining us soon in the tww.

loopy, good to hear from you, i was getting worried. Glad you've got the all clear as far as pcos but frustrating to still not know why you have long cycles. I'm sure I've asked this and you've answered before, so sorry if i sound like a broken record but have you tried acupuncture? That along worth the prog from cd21 has reduced mine from 32-38 days down to 28 days last month and on for the same this month. Good luck for the tww!

Good luck for the tww too may, there are lots of us at once. Law of averages says we have to have a few bfps, no?

bunny, fingers crossed there is still time. How annoying the ov testing didn't work out this month.

thorn, really hoping the test is darker on Thursday or this morning

barking, understand your concerns re the age thing, but stats aren't everything. It's impossible to know what the spread of ages was for either age group without looking at the data. You'd probably find the drop off was much more gradual if they published it in individual years rather than in age bands. and it doesn't take account of other factors like health or lifestyle. I'd say being super fit and healthy you have to be in the best possible place among you age group.

Frecklefire · 01/07/2015 07:28

Bunny* barking minnie* i assure you - i am not secretly a mooncup representative! I know probably less than most (biology knowledge formed mainly by cosmopolitan magazine circa '89-'91). It's just that now i'm 40 i'd bathe in feckin' glitter and goat urine if i thought it'd make a difference!!!!!!

BunnyMad · 01/07/2015 07:37

Lol Freckle anything is worth a try

AF arrived today so spared me the annoyance of wasting a test. On the bright side I can have a glass of wine this weekend and a few when on my hols. Was a bit wishful thinking to get pg on first cycle after mc2 Sad

twilightstruggle · 01/07/2015 07:42

Minnie - it's my first cycle since scratch and I ovulated a few days late too.

Ha ha - goats urine.Grin I remember when I was taking heparin in pg 3 or 4 someone asked how I felt about injecting myself. My response was "fine. I'd inject myself in the eyes if I was told it might help".

twilightstruggle · 01/07/2015 07:44

Sorry about AF Bunny. Always gutting - but hopefully you will have a lovely holiday and have better luck next month. Glass of wine sounds like a good plan.

Frecklefire · 01/07/2015 07:50

Re:facebook, there seems to be something funny evolving from it recently. I don't really knotice it with older posters, but those younger than myself seem to use it as a promotional vehicle, as if they are a 'product'. It's all disgenuine claptrap (or wanking bollocks, as my husband, who is fluent in french, spanish and swearing, puts it.) It's just not real, you may as well be reading an advert for all the authenticity on there.

Flen · 01/07/2015 08:11

Hello all. I need some cyclogest help! Been taking for three days and this morning had the most awful cramping, cold sweats and diarrhoea (sorry tmi). Has anyone else experienced this? Did it calm down? I'm only taking one pessary at night... First scan is booked in for next Wednesday.

longestlurkerever · 01/07/2015 08:24

could be a pregnancy symptom rather than cyclogest flen. certainly I had cramping and diarrhoea though no cold sweats (had them just after the birth though). ask the profs if you're worried though.