Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 26 - tests, treatment and trying again

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Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

I've had bloods done, they'll call with results tomorrow and decide from that whether to scan on tues or fri next week, and when/if to do repeat bloods. I'm 4+3 based on ovulation (early this month) so too early to scan today. Didn't get prodded at all which is weird. Continuing random tummy pains, no idea what to worry about anymore.

Thanks everyone for your support, really means a lot that you understand and care. I'm going to curl up for rest of day and see what happens.

Good to hear you were seen to. Hugs and good luck for you MrsC

Thanks onestep, the lovely Tori is working today and (sadly) I only had to say my name for her to tell me to come in. It's a bad sign to be so well known at EPU! How are you doing today lovely? Head, heart, body?

MrsC, know the feeling. I was greeted by three members of the rmc team yesterday and each time I could tell the other women on the waiting room were thinking how on earth did they know me so well. Hopefully it means you don't have to repeat your history and they empathise why you're worried.

March, hopefully will feel relaxed once we're there. Dd is freaking out how big Gatwick is and dh is stressed as a result. I'm going to sneak off for duty free shopping in a bit for some peace (& retail therapy!)

Glad you've been seen but sorry you're in limbo mrsc. It's just horrible, the waiting. Keeping everything crossed.

sebs, what time is the scan?

Thanks Longest if I'm honest there are definitely symptoms but what happened last time is too fresh in my mind.

Have/am really struggling this week. Week 8, even the words strike fear into me.

Girlie and MrsC I'm well known at Worcester EPAU too, which admittedly is partly because they are my sisters colleagues.

She was on the delivery team for a£35,000 baby last week. A lady that had so many attempts at IVF and was finally successful after spending £35k!!!

Briefly met Tori one morning last week whilst waiting for a blood test, clinic had just opened and the phone rang non stop, she picked up call after call in an extremely efficient and cool manner, mega impressive. I'm sorry if I go on and on about JR but we just can't help be impressed by them. MrsC just want everything to be absolutely fine for you.

I'm fine today almost have a spring in my step, bleeding had almost come to a grinding halt, not sure whether to trust that is a good thing! Took myself off to the garden centre, had a few panicky moments on my own, but told myself to get a bloody grip and distract myself, it's the odd twinges and heart palpitations where you realise, hang on a minute I've been sat at home for nearly two weeks need to give my body a chance to wind back up to full speed again!! Hugs xxx

Brummie with all the extra drugs and tests you can easily spend £15,000 on one round of Ivf so she might not have have that many rounds! This is why I've been looking abroad....

onestep lovely to hear you sounding more yourself .

MrsC glad you were seen, hand holding while you wait .

Right, got brother and his wife heading over to visit, must run round the house tidying hiding shit and make their bed...

barking love it, same here, stuff goes flying in to cupboards and drawers when tidying for visitors, then it's never to be found again!!! Drive myself crazy when I do that!!!

Ha ha barking, that's the only time I can get DH to tidy the house, when people are coming round. Always results in a mad couple of hours shoving shit in cupboards.

Hope sebs got on ok, does anyone know what time her scan was?

barking my mum was working with a lady on reception yesterday, her daughter lost twins quite late on in her pregnancy. She taken herself off to Spain for ivf as it's cheaper.

Just picking dd up from nursery when she says to me "mummy, where's my stister? You got a baby in your tummy" Cue all the nursery staff grinning at me inanely waiting for me to make an announcement and me running out with tears in my eyes. Bleurgh.

Wow, £35,000. It adds up, doesn't it! I wonder how much the NHS has spent on all of my operations (7 including the c-section) and hospital stays that might have been saved if I'd had more tests after mc#1? I bet waiting to have 3 is a false economy...
mrsC, how are you?
Sebs?

I'm utterly failing to follow this thread in any meaningful way but wanted to say that feeling jealous of other people's pregnancies is totally natural and something I've been dealing with for 5 years! Don't feel bad.

I asked upthread about how open people are about their MCs. Thanks for your replies. I've decided from now on I'm not hiding anything about either of mine, nor our fertility struggles either! Thanks for the encouragement!!

Oh March, hugs

Just DH and I were only talking last week about the possible cost-savings of earlier testing and interventions for MC, and for infertility. In some areas IVF and IUI aren't funded until you're at least in your late 30s which is daft as they're less likely to work then. I guess they hope most will go private or give up before then. In other areas

... they're not funded by the NHS at all!

Oh march that must have been so difficult and upsetting. I hope the staff realised you were upset and are tactful when you next see them. Treat yourself to a takeaway and large tonight lovely xxx

Postcode lottery for infertility and MC testing is totally unfair!

mrsC sorry you're in limbo. Hoping everything is fine.

march sorry you've been upset. The nursery staff will understand I'm sure. Just hits you in the gut doesn't it. Hope you're ok xx

barking that's the only way to tidy round here!

Well my friend has had her baby and I've said all the right things on FB and text while feeling insanely now going out on a surprise mini hen do (my first night out in ages!) No baby talk at all- yay! Many drinks in order too I think- already writing tomorrow off! Have a lovely evening everyone xx

Let your hair down and have a great night minnie. x

Have a lovely evening Minnie.

March takes the wind out of you, big hugs to you.

May I'm really glad you now feel that way, it's how I feel anyway! Xxx

March hugs xx

Minnie defo wine for you tonight my love, and cocktails!!

Barking this lady was an overseas IVF in the end - she also went to Spain

Devastated for my close friend today. She's just done her pregnancy test for 3rd round of IVF and it's failed. She's got blocked tubes as a result of scar tissue so that's their only way. She had max drugs this time, acupuncture, glue and two fertilised eggs put in. But it still didn't work and they are running out of funds for more attempts.

So upset for her

Brummie that's absolutely desperate for your friend, what an ordeal and struggle, my heart goes out to her. Xx

Have a great night out minnie

How awful for your friend brummie. Now feel a bit silly being upset earlier

Don't feel silly, March, we're all on our own journey. xx