Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 26 - tests, treatment and trying again

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Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

Ooh I went to a birthday lunch at the Five Bells in Weston Turville. T'was nice! And I do love the Bell @ Aston Clinton.

Is the Broad Leys the pub by Aylesbury Police station? Just by the Esso garage?

Only one I've not been to is Red Lion in Wendover but I am happy with any of those suggestions so will go with the majority.

Hi Brummie yes Broadleys is by the Police station.

I've lived in Aylesbury since 2012 so still finding out about things here...

All of you are so lovely, thank you for the support today, it has really helped when I am feeling so gloomy. The good news is that in-laws are no longer coming to stay this week which is a) an extra pressure off OH and b) means we can test on Sat, which will be 12 DPO. I will spend some time this week thinking of nice things to do over the summer, and then come Sat I will know more anyway.

Fab news on the meds bumble! What a relief! X

Thanks, hoping to get a scan next week...eeek!

Gemma, welcome to the thread and hope we can provide some support

Sebs, with my last MC at the 6 week scan the sonographer dismissed the second sack as a blood clot for it only to be a confirmed as second pregnancy a week later. It's apparently very hard in the early weeks to see a second sack until nearer 8 weeks (as its hiding behind the first & further away from the probe) so it still could be a possibility!

All good choices onestep. How about one of Brummie's favourites - I've never been to The Bell in Aston Clinton but have always wanted to. Happy to go with majority though if others would rather go elsewhere.

Hi Thorn, yes me too, I'm more than happy to go to The Bell in Aston Clinton.

Good luck tomo Erica - we are having ours tomo too. Cried last time I had a scan coz I felt so on edge...fingers crossed for good scans on this thread x

Good luck tomorrow too little. Crowding in there with you x

Thanks sebs it seems to have taken forever to get to this stage, but v grateful for all the support
good luck for you too little how many weeks are you now? X

This thread moves so fast. Haven't been on for a few days at least and you are 16 pages into a new thread. Can't remember everything but :

Sebs I really miss hotel chocolat's factory shop, we loved getting bargains from there. And we miss johnsons of oldhurst.

Brummie I could meet up at some point, if you are ok with my boys and a million questions from them.

Mrs C congrats on your BFP.

Minnie glad the breast scan looked ok.

One step, sorry it's a mc but better that than an ectopic and the complications that could have had, so fully get you being pleased it was a mc.

Hope everyone else is ok.

I'm at Worcester this weekend, having an ultrasound scan to see if any signs of PCOS. Cd 19 today, have been ovulating around cd 26-cd30, scan is cd24 so presume they should be able to see stuff that close to ovulation unless Sod's law occurs. Had first bit of cm today for this cycle and was very much like ewcm but highly expect it to bugger off shortly and come back again at the weekend/early next week. Have to say I'm feeling more relaxed as of today, had a lots of other things going on, the biggest being worrying that my Dad was going to be diagnosed with cancer, but he has been told today that it's benign tumours so whilst there are still serious risks of the tumours because of location, it's not cancer and a big weight has washed away. Suddenly feel more positive about everything.

Ps good luck with scans little and erica

Hi there flen**, i totally understand about not spending time off with dh. My dh works every second weekend and work don't like him taking time off
in the six weeks holiday, and being a teacher, that can be a royal pain in the arse! My family and friends live an hour and a half away too. It is amazing how quick the time goes though. I tend to get to visit friends more than most, i go back and stay at my parents with ds, and step back into my life as a 17 year old! Meals made, washing done, 5 min walk from my friends! You could look at it as some indulgent you time?! X

flen hugs. It's so tough. My DH often works late in the study or away, especially when he's got deadlines, and I hate going to bed alone, being on my own in the evening feeling resentful of his work and guilty I'm not working and generally awful. Plan something nice, ideally for both of you or if not, just for you. You so deserve some cherishing!

Big hand holding for scans tomorrow erica and little remember we're all thinking of you.

I still can't quite believe BFP - confirmed by CB digital saying 2-3 weeks this morning at 14dpo. Finally got hold of someone who can book me a scan (there seem to be lots of people on leave at RMC!) and they've booked for 10th July. Which feels a bit late as their normal protocol is to scan at 7 weeks but the consultant said I would need an earlier one due to ectopic history. So of course my body has been sending me loads of left side twinges all day and the odd shoulder spasm too to freak me out . Hmmm thought I was doing so well to stay calm in my head but my body is freaking out instead!

Will be thinking of you tomorrow bootles, Erica and little Keep us updated.

Welcome gemma best bunch of ladies on Mn right here. Hope you're OK and have some RL support as well right now. Another pom pom waver for Coventry here.

Thanks Onestep2015 and Bootle for the welcome.

Sorry for recent losses and scares, life is just 'pants' ... my last loss was 6th June. I've mentioned giving up trying but I know deep down after a few says thinking ... I don't want to give up trying just yet and I think I'm saying we won't have another as self preservation. I've got the meeting a week today to see the private gynae doctor who also does ivf etc. I'm going to ask her about the Coventry place. I know a N obstetrician friend is very anti it but then he's got a different view and already got two gorgeous kids. .... I'm definitely going to investigate it further. Thank you for pointing me in another direction.

I had a uni friend come stay for a few days it was good to talk to her and about my feelings. My DH is a bit more rational about the losses so it's sometimes difficult talking to him about it.

How do your other halves cope with the MC's?

Good luck to you all tomorrow ladies.

Big hugs MrsC. Xx

I just read a Facebook post from Tommy's charity, a lady just posted a pic of her baby which she nearly lost, after 16 miscarriages and 1 still birth. I just burst in to tears and told dh. I mean how the hell do you get the strength to carry on and go forward after all that????!!!
This lady was basically saying always, always listen to your body and trust your gut instinct. If she hadn't gone to hospital to alert them to the fact the babies movements had decreased significantly (and they and the hospital monitor/machines, were still telling her the baby was fine in the hospital) and she knew that it wasn't alright, she may have lost this baby too!!
Always, always trust your own instincts! Xx

Good luck tomorrow bootles, erica & little
Belated welcome chrystley think I missed you before.

Freckle I know what you mean. My little single bed is still in my room, with a cupboard full of my old college art stuff, books, tapes and CD's, lol ! I instantly fall back into that cosy girl living at home feeling. So nice to be able to do that now and again!

Thanks onestep! I know it's childish and self indulgent too, but i LOVE going home! As i said to minnie on saturday, i'm the only one of my gang who never moved back to our home town post uni and they all live within walking distance if my parents home. I still know few people where i live now and when i go home i'm just so happy. I feel like i become my old, better, confident, breezy self - a stronger me. Despite it not being the afluent rural area i now live in, east or west home is best! My greedy grandson-deprived parents gorge on ds and it gives me lots of time for shopping with mates, dinners, drinks...i honestly think dh worries one day i jyst won't come back!!!!!!

Cloud, thought you were Cambs, was certain there was also one more. Now thinking maybe it was you Loopy saying you used to live in Hunts?

Good luck tomorrow Bootles, Little and Erica.

Good luck tomorrow, bootles, bear and erica, will be thinking of you. X

Good luck everyone having scans today x

Thanks guys :) should be 13 weeks today....fingers crossed x