Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 25 - tests, treatment and trying again

[Marchgirl]

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

Thinking of you March. Hugs x

Bleeding has started in earnest already, so that's something at least. It's like my body was waiting for confirmation from the fricking stick.

You're absolutely right freckle, the doctors will no doubt call this a chemical pregnancy but I hate that term! I know it would never have been a baby and I don't feel like I've lost a baby this time (or last) in the same way as the others, but it's just the loss of hope that comes with it. If I'm honest, i always knew this one wasn't right, wasn't strong, but I just really hoped the pred would somehow save it. Silly really, as I think it was doomed from the start. Onwards and upwards. Cycle buddies anyone? I'm not yet counting this as cd1 but I think I'm only a couple of days away at most.

Oh March I'm gutted for you. I really hoped this was it. You've been through so many losses.

But you are right, think of this as cd 1

Bollocks, I was really hoping for this one.

Hugs March

Oh March I'm sorry. It's so bloody unfair.

March I'm so sorry

Not good news from me either I'm afraid. Am in the hospital waiting to do repeat bloods and I've started spotting. Just a stain at the moment but I'm expecting to start bleeding properly soon. It just feels very 'periody' down there.

I'm going to have a quick word with the senior person before I go but I doubt they will scan at 5 weeks and I'm not even sure id want them to really unless it was to rule out ectopic.

Oh no Sebs. Hope it's not what you think, but totally gutted for you and March. Am away at the moment so just popped in thinking there'd be news of lines getting darker, am so sorry for what I've read this morning. Wish I could give you both big hugs.

So sorry, March
Sebs hope is just a bit of in and your numbers are more encouraging.

Oh no. sebs, I'm sorry to hear you're spotting too. Keeping everything crossed for you that it's nothing bad and that the numbers are going up x

Good luck for the scan today diddly

I think I forgot to say earlier welcome fifi and congratulations

Just made a right tit of myself crying at my boss. I don't know her that well and whilst she's been great about the mcs over the last year, it was all a bit awkward.

march and sebs - huge hand holding to you both.

march - it absolutely doesn't make it easier just because it's earlier. It's so bloody unfair.

sebs - still keeping everything crossed for you that the numbers come back good and this is just random spotting.

xxxx

Wow guys, I leave you for 3 days and you get through 14 pages?! Good chatting . Here goes on catching up and sorry if I miss anything!

sun and brummie great news on scans
twilight good luck for starting TTC again, really hope it’s your turn oh and ha ha for ‘yams’ I know what you mean about the word!
girlie hope you enjoyed your weekend away.
cat hope your DH is recovering ok from his op and you are feeling ok.
littlebear as a proportion, the your favourite dress isn’t that much more, could you bear to sell it afterwards? I have a feeling if you go for the other one, you will always think of your favourite one? Sounds like lots of people already mentioned 2nd hand. I ended up finding my dress in a sale, in a charity shop! wedding cheapskate I ended up sending my dress away to a charity in Africa which lends dresses to brides who can’t afford one. So no money back there but it makes me happy to think of others wearing it for their day.
barking glad there is some improvement for your dad but sorry they don’t think he’ll get all his mobility back. I hope you are coping ok with everything at the moment. Happy birthday belatedly.
march nice socks, and glad they brought you financial luck, but so sorry that this seems to be mc5. Huge hugs.
freckle sorry for BFN and sorry you weren’t able to get your pink sofa just yet
snoopy
thornfield, inamay, fifi and tomcat welcome
bootles hope you are ok and the pink stopped.
mrsD good luck today, I think you have your 12 week scan?
sebs hope that it’s not what you fear and the numbers look encouraging.

Nothing much to report here, had a lovely weekend in Bruges for DH’s mum’s 70th. Nearly 24 weeks and still completely amazed (with a little fear spinkled on top). Wishing you all good or at least ok weeks ahead.

Thanks girls. It's very reminiscent of MC1 where I had brown discharge on and off until I bled out at 6 weeks. Least this way it will be a heavy period so I won't have to have the op which is something.

I'm very sore 'down there' so I have a urine sample to test for UTI. I had this idea that the progesterone would stop the spotting from occurring and once I knew the pregnancy had ended (via blood test or scan) they would ask me to cease the Cylogest and I would bleed out. I'm sort of surprised that isn't the case.

I'm so sorry March that it's looking like MC5. Absolutely gutted on your behalf. It's just so completely unfair. Don't feel embarrassed about crying on your boss. I'd challenge anyone in that position not to really. I'm sure she's understanding.

Oh Sebs, I'm sorry you've got this stress too. I hope the spotting fucks right off quite frankly (pardon my language but it's how I feel). What dose of progesterone are you on? Don't they sometimes increase it when people spot?

I'm on 400mg twice a day. The consultant only prescribed 200mg twice a day but I've topped it up using the pessaries Tanny kindly sent me. I imagine thats the top dose.

Btw I am about 5 weeks and have absolutely zero symptoms, so I have no real hope in my mind.

Hey sebs - hope the blood results come back quickly to (hopefully) give you a little more clarity lovely. Hopefully the pain is just a UTI (although they are bloody horrid in themselves).

Meant to say also good luck to mrsd - think is your scan today?? Keeping everything crossed for you and sending good Internet vibes. x

I think you're right that 400mg x2 a day is the max. It's the most I've heard of anyway. Really hoping it ends up being just a bit of spotting that healthy pregnancies sometimes have and nothing serious. I think symptoms at 5 weeks are fairly mild/non-existent quite a lot of the time. I really hope it's all just fine for you lovey. Hugs.

Good luck with scan MrsD.

March, been a wee while since we heard from you so hope you're ok. Have you gone home?

Hi bythesea - lovely to hear from you and thank you for wishing me good luck. It means a lot. X Glad you enjoyed Bruges - particularly as I'm going there next week! 24 weeks - eek. Is the 'sprinkle' of fear reducing at all? I hope so - I really feel sad that we don't get to enjoy pregnancy in the same way the regular folk do.

Hi,

I'm new here, it's hard to know where to start! I'm 33 no children, and have been TTC for about 2 years, I've had 2 mc and just had third confirmed this morning.

MC 1 natural 7 weeks March 2014
MC 2 mmc 12 weeks died 9 weeks August 2014
MC 3 mmc 8+5 weekds died 6 weeks June 2015, have d&c programmed for Wednesday

Started spotting about 3 weeks ago and was put on bed rest and progesterone as there was a large SCH but sadly it hasn't worked. Went in this morning and there was no heartbeat. Have asked for D&C as had medical mc last time and it was horrific.

The Dr has no idea why it keeps happening as I have had all kinds of tests and everything is looking normal. The next step is referring me to a Haematologist to see if there is anything wrong with my blood as the preliminary tests for clotting have all come back ok.

Just feeling pretty miserable and I am glad to have found others who can relate although sorry that you are going through this too :(

twilight re: supplements, I've gone bonkers with this mainly, I think, because my tests are all normal and I want to feel like I'm going something...! So,

Me: Zita West multivitamin and DHA, vitamin D and calcium, methylfolate and B12, evening primrose oil up to ovulation, grapefruit juice and green tea to help ewcm, maca in daily smoothies with Pom juice. And magnesium spray. And no wheat or dairy! Or alcohol. And only 2 cups of tea a day. Although I'm not yet pregnant, migraines and insomnia have disappeared, IBS calmed down and I've lost a stone!

OH: Zita West multivitamin, baggy boxers, no alcohol.

Now I read that back it seems a bit mental.

march I'm so sorry to hear what's happened. Hugs to you.

Welcome to tomcat and Thorne, so sorry you need to be here but it really is the best place to be.

sebs im so willing the spotting to be nothing sinister and your hcgs to be good. Thinking if you x

march I'm really pissed off this is happening to you again Absolutely no reason for you to feel awkward about crying on your boss. I blubbered down the phone to my old boss after mc1 plus a few others in the office. They were all lovely though. I'm hoping the come down from progesterone won't be too bad for you but keep us updated with how you're feeling, don't want you to feel alone.

Good luck with your scan mrsD

Glad your spotting has done one bootles, sounds like possibly caused by dildo cam.

So sorry your birthday was sad barking. I think freckle put it brilliantly (as usual), you deserve for things to change for the better, now! X

Welcome back fifi and congratulations!

twilight I also like the word Yam, sort of exotic sounding but when I say it with my Yorkshire accent it ain't.

Hhmmmm, sure I've missed a few, will go back and check.

I'm 8dpo, still got sore boobs at sides and they look a bit fuller at sides too. (Passed DHs check with hands too) went out and got some frers yesterday so will try and hold off til wed when I'll be 10dpo to do one of those in the meantime wasting ic's

Welcome Peqpit so sorry for your losses but glad you found us. Hope you are being looked after in RL.
There are lots of ladies on here who have had 3,4,5 mcs but have gone on to have a healthy baby or currently pg and past their danger zones.
Have you been tested for uNK cells? X

Thanks CheesyMash

Yes it's heartening to read the success stories but at the moment it's just hard to believe I have to go through this again.

Just had a look through all the tests and it doesn't look like I've been tested for that yet. Will ask the Dr about it next time I see her. I live abroad so having all the test results in another language is another barrier!

This will be my first D&C on Wednesday, I was hoping to go back to work on Thursday as have already been off 2 weeks. Does anyone with experience think that will be ok, not sure how much it physically affects you

Hi peqpit I'm so sorry about your latest loss. Lots of us would say surgical management is the easiest to deal with so I'm glad you have that booked it. Sorry to bring it up but do you know if they will test the baby. It might be worth raising it or asking them about it if nothing has been said. Won't give you all the answers and possibly none at all, but they can check if it is chromosomally ok or not. It is usually done on the 3rd mc or later depending where you are. Don't be alone. We're all here for you x

Yup. Scan later this afternoon. Bricking it but hopefully its going to be a major milestone.