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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 25 - tests, treatment and trying again

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Marchgirl · 07/06/2015 19:08

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
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SashaKerr · 14/06/2015 21:52

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barkingtreefrog · 14/06/2015 22:16

Just popping in quickly as I've been away at the wedding all wkd. Ttc/mc really does tinge everything. Sermon at the wedding was about supporting each other through the tough times. Sat there tearing up thinking about how much that applied to me and DH. Talk in the speeches was about kids to come. They're bound to have a baby before us. Yet another grandchild for DH's dad and step mum, that'd leave us the only ones to have failed to supply one Angry.

So. We started ttc #1 in Dec 2011 when I was 32. Finally pregnant at 34, then pregnant again at 35, but still no baby and no bump either and turned 36 today Angry.

Anyway, another Leeds student here freckle (was Brighton Beach the one with the revolving dance floor?!), and a 90's indie fan Grin.

Hello to the newbies Smile.

I'm not feeling well so heading to bed and hoping the nausea and headache will have cleared by tomorrow.

Brummiegirl15 · 14/06/2015 22:28

Fifi yay fab news! Congrats. I'm on progesterone supplements and clexane injections (heparin)

Barking happy birthday my darling. Big hugs. This is now how you should be feeling on your birthday and I'm gutted for you xx

Sasha that lot... 3 words. Bat. Shit. Crazy

Buying slings!!!! They are like 7 weeks pregnant at the most. I've never heard anything like it. Then you get me - really grumpy. "I'm not buying anything until gone 20 weeks"

Well after in-laws left I slept for nearly 3 hours!!!!

Definitely worried about lack of nausea. I know I've had a scan but hey been here before. This is my vulnerable point

fififolle · 14/06/2015 22:33

Hi Brummie! Thank you. I'm really hoping to get progesterone supplements this week.
There's a lot of craziness on the antenatal threads, I'm not even thinking of joining one until I'm much further along.
Thinking of you, this will be your sticky bean, nausea can come and go.

twilightstruggle · 14/06/2015 22:33

I'm also guilty of stalking the Feb bus and gasping at the excitement/naivety. It's so alien. and addictive

Barking - so sorry you've had a difficult time of it this weekend. MC just taints so much doesn't it. Hugs.

Brummie - glad you had a good sleep and hope you're feeling better. I know you don't have nausea but the tiredness feels a good sign!? Hand in there hon.

twilightstruggle · 14/06/2015 22:34

Welcome and congrats FiFi, but sorry about your previous losses.

Frecklefire · 14/06/2015 22:45

Ha ha barking**!! Revolving dance flooe was Planet Earth 94-97, brighton beach was near the calls.

Yes pop** at leeds tomorrow. Have had a total of 18 blood tests in past 4 months, i should be getting results, and want to discuss protocol if get bfp. Would like to know if they can do any more for me, but assume answer is no. Does anyone have suggestions with what i should raise?

Floweroct · 14/06/2015 22:47

barking sorry you've had a tough weekend, sending you hugs x

Frecklefire · 14/06/2015 22:50

Barking, happy birthday dear woman. You are due a fucking bucket-full of good karma in the next year. XxxxxxxxWine

MrsConfusion · 14/06/2015 22:59

barking, happy birthday my nearly twin (I turned 36 on Friday). Big hugs. CakeFlowers this is a tough birthday but they won't all be like this.

MrsD so glad spotting has stopped and DH is keeping you on the sofa. Sending you lots of love for tomorrow - will be thinking of you.

freckle good luck for your appointment, hope you get some answers. How long did you wait for blood results? I'm wondering whether to chase ours (7 weeks ago)

Welcome tom, thorne, sorry for your rough journeys but really glad you've found us.

march, brummie, sebs, sorry to hear about worries on lines and symptoms. Remember TYAP. sending anti-panic vibes

Waves to everyone else, we were away this weekend and it's taken ages to catch up!

bootles · 14/06/2015 23:34

Will never keep up with the supplement conversation...we did maca for a bit, but like you twilight I sort of let the supplements wash over me. Plus they are pricey and I didn''t want to get carried away - but hearing you taking control sounds like a really positive move. I currently have become a bit bread phobic, on the assumption that with high nk cells I need to reduce anything potentially inflamming, ie gluten/sugar. I haven't cut out but have cut down. Always did the Brazil nuts, and am now chucking an extra folic acid in. That sounds woefully inadequate compared to what you are all taking.

Thanks all for support re the pink cm. I am thinking - it was 2 days post dildo-cam, one episode on wiping, and none since. Which sounds positive, but minimal spotting has been a bad sign for me before. However, this evening my nausea returned for a good few hours (and not the sort that can be willed into existence) so feel vaguely reassured. For this minute.

Brummie we both know the symptoms come and go but I feel your mental torture. I have a number of different danger points, but am right in one of them now, and its horrible. I would definitely agree that your exhaustion is a good sign and you should take heart from that. One day at a time.

sebs hand holding for hcg tomorrow

barking well done for getting through the wedding weekend, and sorry your birthday is reminding you of such difficult times. As usual freckle has hit the nail on the head with her oh so delicate way of talking, and I wholeheartedly agree and dearly hope a fucking bucket-full of good karma is coming your way because you really do deserve some xxx

freckle good luck with your appointment tomorrow. I guess you could ask their opinion on the whole nk cells, and as you say the plan for next bfp - would it include regular scans? Sorry not sure what you have covered with them so far. Anyway I hope its helpful.

Still failing to go to bed early. Argh.

Marchgirl · 15/06/2015 06:05

Happy birthday for yesterday barking and for last Friday mrsc. Really hope this year is a better one for both of you, you absolutely deserve it.

Glad the symptoms have returned bootles, and dodo cam could definitely be a cause of a little spotting. Hope your symptoms come back soon brummie, although the tiredness is a great sign.

Good luck for the hcg test sebs, fingers crossed for you

freckle, good luck for your appointment too. I hope you get some answers finally, or a good plan at least.

I'm lying here stressing about doing another test, as I'm expecting it to be blank by now. Better get on with it before dd wakes up.

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Marchgirl · 15/06/2015 06:06

Haha! That should have been dildo cam not dodo cam. Ah, the innocence of my predictive text

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Marchgirl · 15/06/2015 06:27

Fuckety fuck fuck fuck. Looks like that's it then. Negative. Well, obviously i can see a tiny shadow but to any normal person its a negative and much weaker than yesterday. Miscarriage number 5. Feel so fucking useless. Why can't I hang on to these babies? So scared because I read somewhere that the chances of a successful pg really drop off after 5. I know some of you have had 5 and then gone on to be successful (tanny), but what if I never even make it far enough to get treatment on board? Going to email the prof today and see what he says. I know I should be grateful it wasn't later, and I am, but just so fed up with this fucking circus

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Lovemylittlebear · 15/06/2015 06:35

so sorry march xxxxxx thinking of you today xxxxxx

Kazz2112 · 15/06/2015 06:42

So sorry to hear that Maech. Truly gutted for you. Sending massive hugs.

MrsConfusion · 15/06/2015 07:09

march huge huge hugs. This is so unfair. we're all here for you. Good idea to email and see what prof says. Flowers

Frecklefire · 15/06/2015 07:15

Oh March**! SadSadSad I am so sorry! I was really willing this on for yoy. Maybe it wasn't a pos/chem preg? Your mind is cartwheeling and i really empathise as i know i would be exactly the same. Phone the prof. XxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxFlowers HUGS.

Floweroct · 15/06/2015 07:25

Oh march so sorry it's looking like a negative sending you big hugs x

Minnie74 · 15/06/2015 07:25

Oh march huge hugs darling. I'm so sorry xxx

ThePopAndCry · 15/06/2015 07:26

march that is really shit. I'm so sorry. Definitely get in touch with the prof.

freckle who are you seeing? With me, Prof Shillito was open to either following the Coventry protocol (progesterone and heparin) or Liverpool (as above plus aspirin) depending on my results, so I think it's well worth discussing everything. I've had all my results through now so am back next Monday to finally come up with a treatment plan should we decide to ttc again. Let us know how you get on.

fififolle · 15/06/2015 07:32

March I'm so sorry Flowers.

bootles · 15/06/2015 07:49

Oh march, I am absolutely gutted for you..I am so sorry. Absolutely understand that you are feeling utterly fed up with this process - it is completely shit. Definitely e-mail prof B and see what he suggests - he will see you again if you have lots of questions too, just ask for an appointment, there's no extra fee. I know you live miles away though. Please, please don't feel useless. This is not your fault. It's a pile of shite that is happening to you, it's not your fault. I really wish we lived closer, so I could take you out for tea/cake/wine. Huge hug lovely lady xx

mrsdiddlydoo · 15/06/2015 07:51

march I haven't anything useful to add. I hope the test is wrong because you deserve this bfp, but I understand why it seems like this one is another none starter. Def contact the prof. Call them if you don't hear back. Lots of hugs xx

Belated happy birthdays to barking and mrsC Cake Cake

longestlurkerever · 15/06/2015 08:02

Huge hugs March it's totally shot and you don't need to be grateful for any pitiful silver lining. You're being really brave. See what the prof says. Is there any hope it's just variable tests? How is the bleeding?

Happy belated birthdays Barking and Mrs d. Joining the throng wishing you better years. 36 was the age my mum was when she had me, after 12 years of ttc (which she now suspects may have involved early mcs).