Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 25 - tests, treatment and trying again

[Marchgirl]

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

may I think I'll do the back door first! Might do one of each first day and see which I prefer! If prefers the right word!

I've done hundreds in the back door (!) - trust me, it's way better once you get over the initial yuck factor!

Inamay, here's my research on aspirin: justonemoretimeagain.wordpress.com/2014/10/05/it-cant-do-any-harm-the-aspirin-problem/

Welcome Tom and Thorne. I'm sorry to read of your stories. I hope you find help and support here, and this forum gives you the support you need to get the help you need in RL, too, knowing what questions to ask, and which clinics to try.

Thorne, I'm so glad that you have found my blog helpful. I am indeed a grammar school teacher... would be very interested to know where you work? Maybe we know each other?! PM me if you want to share more detail :)

may The rmc doc said the baby looked abnormal (he was 10+5 when he died so they could see) They couldn't culture the cells to give a definitive answer but apparently the brain hadn't developed properly and some facial features weren't developing correctly either. So she said more than likely a bad egg. I'm on high dose folic acid now till I get to 13 weeks (if I get pg again!) to try and prevent the brain problems happening again.

Thanks Just.

Thanks for explaining Minnie. x

just interestingly my GP was concerned about prescribing the aspirin as he was worried about the increased risk of MC. He was pleased when I said I hadn't been taking it.

Totally get the friends all having second baby thing. 2 of my closest friends had their babies on the edd of mc2 and mc3. What are the chances? Dd said to me a few days ago "where's my sister? Where's my baby?". My heart aches when she says things like that.
I agree Coventry are against aspirin as it can interfere with implantation. Latest research says only for clotting disorders

I was planning on talking to my GP about the exact same thing this week too - I was thinking if it's a really low dose, then surely there can't be any harm. But if opinions are as divided as you say they are minnie it looks unlikely.
The hyperfertility theory sounds interesting march - we've only tried to conceive twice and we've succeeded both times. Because of that I just assume we will this next time too. I'll keep Coventry in mind. I've seen it mentioned a lot on this thread.
may that sounds tough. I guess you can't just hide away like I find myself doing. People wrongly assume that if you've had one then you should be able to have another. And they think they're making harmless sympathetic comments when they say stuff like that. My boss recently said to me 'I've no doubt that it will happen for you eventually' (how does she know?!) and then told me about how she 'lost count' of how many mcs her best friend had - I know she was only trying to help but all I could think was it was easy for her to say with her 2 healthy kids, and how many times do we have to go through this before we get our happy ending?
Thanks for all the advice on the acupuncture etc ... definitely worth looking into as I am heavily into spoiling myself atm. I'm spending my Sat night researching options while dh has a boys' night. Decided tonight is my last glass of wine before we start ttc again this week.

It's so funny how different friends react to miscarriage. Made me chuckle:

Friend #1. Oh you poor thing you must get your hopes up every time

Friend #2. You're too old for this shit. You will be happier trust me. Children fuck up your life and ruin your marriage.

Friend #3. Keep going! You look so much younger than you are!!!

Many thanks for the welcomes Minnie and March. Thanks for the FRER tip Minnie, I'm just entering the dreaded 2WW so will take myself off to Boots tomorrow to stock up!

March - Thanks for the Coventry advice. Whispered congratulations on your very recent BFP, sending lots of sticky mean vibes your way.

Just - off to PM you right now. Think we are in the same town!

March - that should read 'sticky bean vibes' fingers are too fat for iPhone keyboard!

Welcome thornfield! You have found a lovely place with lots of knowledge and experience.

march I need to pay attention!! How are things down in my beloved Edinburgh??? Have you tested again? X

My lucky socks have TOTALLY worked today. Dh got a letter this morning telling him they are sending a cheque for 2000 for an account he didn't even know he had ppi on. Then we just won 25 on the lotto draw! Seriously considering buying another pair tomorrow so I can wear them while these are in the wash

OMG am watching 'The 90s' on telly and feeling old/secretly reliving my indie-kid youth. Playing '90s bingo with dh and waiting for Paul Morley to appear. And how old is Jarvis Cocker exactly? Love it!

Sorry, nothing to do with rpl! X

Yes annie, tested again and a bit darker. Trying to be positive. If you are ever in Edinburgh let me know and we could meet for a coffee

I'm so glad I found this thread, though wish equally that none of us needed it.

What's your experience of ttc immediately after a miscarriage? What advice have you been given? The specialist I saw at our private scan today advised we wait until this bleed ends, for the next proper period, and only try after that, so that the lining builds properly in a full cycle. I've heard this before, but I've also read that this is outdated advice and that you can ttc immediately that the miscarriage bleeding stops, and that many people are successful that way. I don't want to delay given what's happened in the past 8 months!

Wow march that's fantastic! Those socks are bloody brilliant!

I have the same socks! Why are they lucky exactly?

Woo hoo for the dark line!!! . That's fantastic but obviously we are keeping a lid on it for now. Grow grow grow little bean!

Will let you know next time I'm there.

Good luck March. I missed your bfp.

Hello inamay and welcome. I'm pretty new here too. My experience has been "wait until you get your period and then start ttc one cycle after that". Personally I've waited until period and started 5 days after that. They do say there is a risk of infection. I have just had a D&C this week and don't feel like doing it right now but will feel like it in a couple of weeks no doubt because we haven't DTD for so long. Sorry not a v clear answer. Id say wait until your period comes and after that start DTD when it feels right for you.

Re TTC again, IMHO, the biggest problem with TTC before your next AF is the risk of not knowing dates, and not knowing if a +ive test is a new pg or the hang over from the old one. It can be a really mindf*ck if there is any ? about that.

Thanks Just.

Annie, hi, your username sounds familiar. I think we've been on other threads together before? IVF?
Sorry for your loss.

I think this mc will complete naturally, as the last one did. Last time the EPU monitored me with blood tests every few days until the hormones reduced to zero. They did within a couple of weeks with no issues.

I'm inclined to just go for it, despite the possible issues, as I just want to get on. We waited a few months after the first miscarriage before trying again as I couldn't face it but I regret that now and just want to get on, especially as this last pregnancy was a totally unexpected natural conception.

Me too Pop, bringing back some memories for sure!