Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 25 - tests, treatment and trying again

[Marchgirl]

Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

Thanks cloud. Got my 12 wk scan on Monday and mw again next weds so I'll mention it then.

Delighted to hear it was a good scan day! High - five to brummie, sun and Jady. So pleased for you all.

Congrats to sebs on the bfp!

Sorry but not following all posts, manic few days with DH having his op. All's well but I'm very tired from all the running around. Will catch up with you all soon.

Actually i was going to say the opposite about ic type opk. I've always found them to show a very strong line when it's actually happening, with a slightly fainter line in the days leading up. But I think I do have quite a big surge so I know it's not like that for everyone. Problem is you probably won't know what's normal for you until you've done at least one month. Hopefully you'll get a really dark one tomorrow then you'll know.

diddly Just another thought on the progesterone - it is know to cause irritation of the cervix, so the spotting might well be that, especially if you are using the front door. Try alternating which way you insert it.

Ok guys completely non miscarriage related query. Trying to boggle my brain with wedding things over the next few crucial weeks. In love with one dress. Enzoani Fatima. It's expensive but reduced to 1650 with money off veil. I LOVED it when I tried it on a couple months ago (mega fat now though). Tried maggie sottero Delilah and it's a lot less 1300 plus a free veil. It's not quite the wow I had with the other dress but still I really like it, more forgiving if I struggle to lose weight and we are skint. Any views? X

Littlebear could you wear the first one if you did struggle to lose weight?

Yes I could get zip took out and they could put corset in but as it's slight drop waist might look a bit porky. Looked fine when was a 14 but I don't think it would be wow much bigger. The other one is A line x

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littlebear could you live without a veil? that'd bring it down? wedding stress usually brings down weight (plus crash dieting)... also, does it have more resale value? (fyi sold my wedding dress for the same as purchase price on gumtree of all places)

ooh freaken gorgeous! could you wear your hair down instead of veil?

Thanks :) yes I could do that instead. I was thinking there's a hire wedding dress shop in cardiff and they take gowns over 1500 I think you get 300 quid per hire and they hire it 3 times so I could get 900 back on it and keep or resell. The other dress wouldn't go to the shop as the dress isn't expensive enough for them. It's supposed to be 1900 which is crazy but the shop offered me 1650. I still think that's crazy as was thinking 1000 is expensive but I did love it when I tried it on. I was saying to my friend if I lose this baby i will be taking a break from trying until after the wedding and if I get to keep it (fingers crossed) then will try my best to diet and do some running. Aim would be to get down to a small 14 or a big 12 (anything smaller would not be realistic for me) xxx

• sorry should have explained the break bit. I mean if we get bad news again, personally would need a mental health break for a few months...nothing to do with looking thin in a dress xx

When is the big day bear? That's a beautiful dress. I'm tempted to say go with the one you love, but then it is a lot of money for a dress. But if you work out potential money you can get back for each of them which lowers the cost...£900 money back is tempting...sorry no help whatsoever!!
I picked my dress and searched online for prices and came across it for sale 2nd hand. The lady hadn't had an evening do so it was still like new, you couldn't tell (and I never felt like I was wearing someone else's dress iykwim), saved me about £500. Maybe this could be an option..?

Other one x

Excellent idea - will look on ebay and gum tree thanks :) it's next summer we have 12 months x

Got mine from preloved, looks like there's loads of specific websites for wedding dresses though. Good luck.

Thanks :)

Both lovely dresses little. Mine was also 2nd hand and was 400 instead of 1500. I got it on eBay and i think i could probably sell it for almost the same (if i can ever bear to let it go). Would defo recommend a little Google then you can get the one you love for the price you can afford. If you are breast feeding you will probably find the weight comes off more easily than you think. How exciting! I love a good wedding!

Right then, oh dear - you brought out the big guns. Wedding dresses. I can not back away from a clothing discussion. I havn't read any other comments, i'm just going to give it straight from the gun.
Buy the one you feel best in, regardless of cost. What's another £500 on a credit card? Buy the dress that makes you want to dance out the shop in. You will (hopefully) never get another chance to be a bride and those pictures are how you will remember you for the rest of your life.
Veils. I am a huge veil fan. A veil is what separates a bridegown from a bal. dress. If you're gonna do it, go the whole nine yards.
Don't buy for a size you 'might' be, take it from one who rockets between size 14 and 18 (at 5ft 4 that's the difference between 'tits and ass' and flesh couloured blamange. a good shop will take a dress in for you. There is only an inch in a size, unless you are planning on dropping a few sizes. The wedding day is one day where 'it will do' has no place.
Right. That's all ladies - shoot away!!!

Mine was this amazing one that I got in a sale. Bought it on the credit card and sold it on ebay. I took a hit on the resale, but still made it an affordable option. I still miss it though!

And you're right Freckle, it made me burst into tears when I tried it on. I walked out of the shop with it bagged up had an hour later. DH still doesn't know how much it cost

Sebs very impressed with your consultant, sounds like you're being properly looked after .

Jady excellent news

Sasha how did they look at the effect of the steroids? If my results come back high they want to give me steroids for a month and then repeat the biopsy, so they're testing it all on me - I'd prefer a test tube method!! And related to that sentiment, do you get gas and air or other painkillers when they do the biopsy at Coventry or Lister? I still think it's mean that I didn't get any and I really don't want to go through it again if they need to repeat the biopsy .

girlie hope you have a nice break even if the weather isn't nice all weekend! We're off to a wedding, family one. Won't know anyone there apart from the groom (I've met him three times) and the in laws...

Something weird is going on with the app on my phone. It skips from 9 last night to the next post being 1.30 today?! So I apologise for anything major I may have missed! I gather from the posts I can see that it's been a good scan day Excellent news sun and brummie !!

lovemybear it's such a personal thing. Personally I'm tight. I made my own wedding dress and the fabric (including enough to do a practise one with first) was less than £80! But when I got naively got married to my nasty first husband my mum came wedding dress shopping with me and insisted on buying me a dress that was just short of £1000. It was beautiful, but it didn't fit perfectly (despite being apparently fitted to me) and I regretted being persuaded towards it. You need a dress that makes you feel wonderful, if you're buying one that will look good 'if you lose weight' and then you have a certain look in your head and don't achieve it, it'll spoil it. Stress made me lose a stone before my first wedding (I knew I was doing the wrong thing and wasn't strong enough to call it off for many reasons I won't go into) and as a result the dress just hung off me. If it's a year away, I'd wait a good few months yet before making a decision, don't be bullied into making a decision sooner than you need to.

My dad is getting better. Due to the MSA he'll not get much mobility back, but he had a clear chest xray today. Probably another 2-3 weeks in hospital (it's been 2 already) while the physio works with him.

Wow Tanny amazing dress and freckle thanks :) shame you can't be my real life friend as I need an attitude like that... My friend was like Ohhh too expensive and I was like ...what's more debt when your already in debt lol. I'll only be married the once - we have been together ten years and although we argue...there will never be anyone else (so may aswell make it a killer dress). I LOVE lace veils but the woman in the cheaper shop was like no you can't have a lace veil...it's too much and I spent ten minutes telling her it's fine I want a lace veil. She said it will look bad on you and I was like yes I'll be part of the bad taste brigade but it's fine as I'll be happy. So kind of want to just go and get my more expensive dress where no one is telling me what to buy :) If I do get to keep this baby id really like to try and breast feed this time. Post natal anxiety was awful last time and had no help with breast feeding and my mum and dad were panicking I was starving my daughter (only through love but it didn't help)...so really would love to get a chance to have a better go at it. Thanks for the advice guys xxx

Thanks barking - great advice - wish I could sew. Hope your dad gets better very soon xxx

Oh yay! sun and brummie fab fab fab fab news!!!!

march sorry for the headfuck. Keeping everything crossed that it's implantation bleeding and your next test is a much stronger line.

littlebear both lovely dresses. eBay is a great idea. I'd like to sell my first wedding dress but I'm only 5.0 and it had to be shortened a fair bit so can't see there'd be many short arse takers!

tanny good luck with the potty training! We resorted to chocolate buttons in the end (one for a wee, two for a poo) no doubt I'd be slated on real mumsnet for it but it worked for ds! I decided to potty train during mc2 as we were stuck in the house- not my most inspired idea!

I'm 6dpo today and desperate to test but I've never tested till a missed period before. When's the earliest you've tested/seen anything? Going to start prog on Sunday I think, though I'm so tempted to wait till 10dpo and see if I get a line first. Don't feel pg at all.

Good luck to all the other tww'ers!