Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 24 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[Brummiegirl15]

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Welcome girlinoz and patience sorry you have to be here but hope you find the support we've all found here really useful and it makes you feel a little better

cloud you're having such a rough start- really wish the spotting would do one for you. With my ds I had the travel sickness type of sickness more than the actual puking sickness so your sickness is totally normal (travel sickness wristbands worked reasonably well though looked pretty stupid) Hope you manage to get another scan in for reassurance x

brummie the stressing is totally normal. None of us will, sadly, ever have a properly normal, stress free time again but this is your time and you've got all plans in place for it to be brilliant x

mrsd I have that same fear every Friday when Dh has ds by himself and I don't know what they're doing. Horrible feeling isn't it. I have to make myself not think about it!

cat enjoy maternity leave- so envious, I don't think I totally appreciated it last time and it just whizzed by.

longest your lunch for one sounds great. When I was younger that would have totally embarrassed me but now I quite enjoy feeling grown up if I ever eat on my own!

Hope everyone else is ok. Might only be able to dip in and out for the next couple of weeks as its report writing time and my evenings disappear before they start! Waves to everyone x

Thank you all for your kind words - I am currently struggling not to burst into tears at my desk in the office...

Minnie Thank you for reminding me - I actually have travel sickness wristbands, I totally forgot! Wore them when pg with DS. Will get them out tonight.

Oh cloud - big hugs lovely. You will get through this. I've never got as far as the sickness stage so have no experience, but it does sound like it's a good, positive sign and from what the other ladies have said, travel sickness type sickness sounds common. I think another scan is definitely a good idea to put your mind at rest though. X

I had the travel sickness type with dd (as well as the waves), so completely normal cloud, but it's a total bastard and I often found myself wishing I could just be sick so I'd have 10 mins of relief. It's truly miserable and on top of the spotting I'm not surprised you're fighting tears. You've been so strong but I think it's time to give yourself a break and get a scan so you can find out what's going on. The epu should scan you if you've got bleeding and cramping. Do you need a referral in your area? Hope they can see you in the next day or two. Hand holding from me. Really hoping it will reassure you xx

Take it one day at a time if you can Brummie. The statistics suggest that this pregnancy is going to be fine and I am keeping faith for you. We're here for you every step of the way.

Waving hello to patience so sorry you're feeling dispondent and struggling with it. It is such a lousy journey. Try to grip onto hope and remember the odds are stacked in your favour for having a baby one day. If there is anything you can face while you're waiting like exercise, going on holiday, seeing a councillor or taking accupuncture then go for it. It might help.

Sending a massive hug to Cloud. Can you rock up at EPU and beg to have the next available scan? I think given the fact you're spotting still they should be willing to see you. If it puts your mind at ease at all my sickness was just like travel sickness and eating didn't help at all. I used to say to DH that I wanted to get off the pregnancy seaboat

Thanks to Brummie, Longest and Minnie for the well wishes, never for a second thought that I could get here and I certainly hope to make the most of it. I'm due 2 July and I think Boozle is just a few days after me. Sorry for the shameless me post, just always want to remind the lovely ladies on this thread that there is always hope.

2nd July cat - wow that's really getting close . Is lovely to hear stories like yours and it absolutely gives me hope that we will all get there one day. x

Longest , Cat and Boozle 3 more thread babies to add to our list

Heard back from Prof B, he's writing me a prescription for 400mg cyclogest and helpfully reminded me that failure in early pregnancy is very very common

Need to sort out with Kerri picking it up. I'm very fortunate that unlike most of you, I literally can nip to Cov in my lunch hour

Oh brummie - as though we need reminding how common it is! Well I am erring on the side of positivity to say it is statistically more likely than not that this one will be your take home. Everything crossed for you that this is the one!! x

Cat, not a me post at all, you are doing so well!

Brummie I hope you're managing to have some hopefulness and sort out a location scan. For my money the sooner the better, for a first look as well as heparin x

Doh! Cross posts!

Brummie as if you needed to hear that from him, how insensitive. Hope scan and Heparin are firmly in place very soon. Keeping everything crossed this IS your time. xxxx

Brummie, ikwym about planning for the worst, but you have every chance of being able to hope for the best, too.

Cat, so close! And Longest, even closer! Enjoy your mat leave, ladies. I feel a bit weird that I never got to have any leave before having Scott, but the two weeks in the neonatal unit have at least allowed me to catch up on some sleep and recover from the c-section a bit. I must say, I've learned so much about how to care for him while he's been in here and I'm feeling a bit more confident about coming home with him (hopefully in a couple of days...!)

Spoken to the Julie's in the Worcester EPAU (who looked after me last time) and my location scan is booked for 6 weeks so 12th June.

Worcester only prescribe clexane once they know it's viable - so 6 weeks it is.

So I've got progesterone and acupuncture doing the job until then.

Nothing more I can do until then apart from try and manage my anxiety...

just that's great news. He'll be home soon keeping you up all night.

cloud do work know anything about what is happening? Do your local epu operate a walk in system? If not surely your gp could refer you if you explained the situation over the phone.

brummie I think our histories make us super sensitive. I got a text from my line manager today that said 'sorry to hear your sad news again'. The inclusion of the word 'again' drove me to tears. I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it but it just made me feel like such a failure. Yes, it's the third time, yes I'm in that 1% of women. Just feel scared and hopeless now.

Glad scan is in place Brummie. I'll be here for hand holding, armed with positivity every step of the way.

Thanks Just. Very excited to hear baby Scott should be at home with you and DH later this week - it will be an amazing feeling to carry him through that front door for the first time

welcome girlinoz ( can we call you oz since we already have our girlie on the thread?) and patience

cloud I'm sorry it can't just be straightforward with no worrying symptoms. I hope you can get another scan soon. We are crossing everything for you, you've waited a long time for this.

brummie glad you got your scan booked but it seems a long way off? If you have short cycles aren't you already 4 + something weeks?

Damn. Back on the feeding tube. They think its all been too much of and effort and he's knackered himself out. Not sure where this leaves us with coming home... hopefully only a little set back. Try again tomorrow...

Hugs Just keeping everything crossed he can still come home this week.

He'll get there, just hang in there. I know it's disappointing when all you want is to take him home, but it is only a bump in the road.

Oh poor little Scott.

Hopefully it's only a minor setback and he will only need his feeding tubes for a couple of days and then he'll be coming home.

Baking my last period is 1st May so doesn't this make me 3+4? I am confused.

My heart did sink when they said 6 weeks but as Snoopy quite rightfully said I think it's my/our sensitivities clouding our sense.

I just want to rush about getting everything in place so I can desperately try and hang on to this one. I know I must seem to any sane person probably OTT. As Prof B reminded me probably to remind me to calm down

But in my head, every day I don't get something sorted is a day something could go wrong. Which is mental.

I really want to tell my sister so she can reassure me but she will be as practical as Prof B. Plus if I tell her, it means my parents will know immediately!

Maybe I misunderstood the discussion re early ovulation brummie
The pregnancy is dated from ovulation minus two weeks. If you ovulate earlier than day 14 you'll be further on than LMP suggests, which normally doesn't matter but if it's delaying you getting a scan/ starting meds it might be significant.

just he'll get there, you already know he's a little fighter.

brummie are you 14 dpo? I would just add two weeks on to the day you ovulated as that's the average 28 day cycle. I have the opposite problem, my cycles tend to be 33 days.

Do your parents know about Coventry etc? It might be nice to have their support.

I echo Baking brummie. My cycle is long so I always have to get them to correct my dates. Lmp only works for 28 day cycles. I'd try and push for an earlier one - count your bfp as four weeks.

Just sorry Scott is back on the tube. Good luck for the next attempt and getting him home. You must be fed up of hospital.

Back from midwife. Had a semi sweep. Cervix is soft but not very open so not holding my breath. Not too impatient though. Relishing this cold having eased a tad and feeling semi human.

Sorry about the upsetting message snoopy. I would have winced at that too, though it's clearly sent with good intentions.

I'm also the opposite brummie, with a longer cycle so i have to adjust (unless it suits me not to!). I was told to take ov as cd14 (like it would be for a 'normal' people), so at ov you are 2 weeks. Didn't you say you were 12dpo last Thursday when you started testing? So you'll now be 17dpo, which makes you 4+3 today by my reckoning and a 6 week scan would be due in 11 days time (7th june). However, i think it would still work to count bfp as 4 weeks, because you might have implanted a bit later.

Sorry to hear Scott has tired himself out just. Poor little poppet. Hopefully he'll do a bit better tomorrow. He's obviously trying really hard,which is a good thing x