Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 24 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[Brummiegirl15]

New thread for us if it's worked on phone! Will paste stats

Brummie, I watched that episode too, and I (Bones like in my analysis) was irritated because I know that the character has made comments about the statistical likelihood of mc to other pg characters in the past, and been called unfeeling and cynical. That show (love it) has a flimsy grasp on character coherence and bonkers plots (always with a moral message). I keep watching, though...

Girlie, to you. When is your scan?

Thanks lovely ladies. Really I'm ok, just had a wobble at the weekend. Scan is Friday, with surgery booked the same day unless a miracle has happened.

Brummie, positive thinking please. You have every chance this is your time x

Thanks girlie - got everything crossed for you for Friday xxx

Just I cannot get enough of everything on Sky Living

Bones, Greys Anatomy, Scandal, Madam Secretary (serious girl crush on Tea Leoni), Stalker (crush full stop on Dylan McDermott)

I watch too much telly obvs

Hi, a newbie here delurking,

Such an amazing thread but so sad that we are all going through this.

Stats:
Me 32 DH 35
TTC#1
MMC 2012
MC 2013 @ 7 weeks
MC 2014 @ approx 6 weeks

Basic bloods normal, clotting normal, USS normal. Then we complicated things by moving to Oz for a year so no UK follow up. Since moving 5 months ago my cycle has been all over the shop with periods not being what I would class as normal periods - light and dark brown so not sure if I'm even ovulating now. My mental health has taken a proper bashing over the past three years also so generally just feeling pretty hopeless about the whole thing.

The only plus is that we seem to have found a really good GP here, our first appointment was so different to all the appointments I have had back in the UK, (never even met our RMC consultant, was all done over the phone) and he said that I have to give myself permission to conceive again which I thought was really interesting. Anyway he's referring us to an RMC clinic over here and is getting some 21 day bloods done also, so I guess we'll see.

Sorry for the lengthy post!

Welcome girlin, and sorry you find yourself here. Glad you have found a good gp over in oz. It will be interesting to see how the care differs and what their protocols are. Hope we can provide you with some support and information or just a bit of hand holding through your next pg whereabouts in oz are you? I spent a year over there in my 20s, mostly in Sydney and absolutely loved it

Welcome girlin, sorry for your losses. I hope you find us helpful on here.

Bootles if I can hold out my next scan will be my 'real' dating scan around 12/13 weeks. Already doubting everything and its only been 6 days since my last one. Doubt I'll manage to wait another 2 plus weeks. I'm right in the time I usually mc so shitty myself on a daily basis would be an understatement. This is no way to live!

How you feeling this morning brummie? Has it sunk in a bit? Those first days can be a bit bonkers.

seb good to hear from you.

Minnie I panic on a daily basis about losing Ds. It's ridiculous in many ways but a huge thing for me. He went with dh to b&q yesterday and I was worrying about road traffic accidents. Madness.

Hi girlin hope you find us useful. Pleased you've found a helpful gp.

How is the feeding going just?

So who has scans this week? I'm hopeless at remembering. With 18 of us pregnant (is that right?! ) it's hard keeping up! girlie's is Friday. Hope you are feeling a bit better today x bootles do you have a location scan?

I'm feeling a little more human today as the nausea is being kind to me so far and my cold is finally sodding off. Obviously worrying its for the wrong reason. Just can't win. Big wave @ everyone I've missed

cloud hope the spotting's calmed down

Thanks ladies march I'm in Melbourne for a year, busy drinking coffee! Will definitely be interesting to see if they do anything differently here in terms of RMC.
mrsdiddly it's such a stressful time isn't it and you can't help but worry about it constantly. The only thing that helped me a bit was keeping busy but I still had my head in my knickers the whole time

Welcome Girlin sorry for your losses but we are all here for handholding!!

MrsD yep I'm number 18 and still in shock. I haven't thrown the tests away yet and have to keep looking at them!

I feel a bit sick this morning - nothing bad but I couldn't eat my banana and whilst my boobs aren't agony I can definitely feel them.

Have already emailed Prof B in a panic about my 2 missed days and whether I need 400mg plus I've emailed my acupuncturist for an appointment.

Will ring the EPAU today as well and try and sort a location scan for next week or so

Cloud and girlie how are you both today?

Just how is Scott getting on with his feeding? And how are you?

Ah. Melbourne. A friend of mine lived there for a while and I loved it when I visited there. I have a picture of us sitting on that big purse (if it's still there)

Hope the spotting has subsided cloud. Did you book a scan?

How did the first day without scott's tube go just?

morning ladies
i feel so tired today need more sleep
good luck brumie really happy for you :)
good luck girlie for scan hope things work out.

Welcome to the club no one wants to be in Girlienoz, so sorry to read about your losses. Also sorry to hear it's all taking a toll on your mental health, MC is so hard and people just don't understand until they have been there. The good news is that we are a supportive and knowledgable bunch and if we can help we will. Also there are lots of positive stories on this thread to prove that things can and do turn around. Hopefully your time will come very soon but in the meantime could you look into counselling or accupuncture to help you relax?

Brummie your post made me smile regarding the 18 and counting preggo tests, I was always the same. From the picture you posted I would say the line is plenty dark enough, not faint at all. Let us know how your scan booking and call to Coventry goes. Fingers crossed you'll have things in place by the end of today and that will help you to feel a little less anxious.I know you have a demanding job so this isn't easy but but please look after yourself and rest whenever you can.

Hugs to you Girlie, we've all been there and the anxiety can be so overwhelming. When is your next scan?

Texta and others on the subject of supplements... My consultant recommended inofolic, which you can order online here: inofolic.org.uk/ It's not cheap but I am convinced it balanced some of my hormones and helped to maintain my pregnancy.

After six long years of trying for my baby I finally break up for maternity on Friday and it cannot come soon enough now. Just counting down the days to freedom! Oh what a shock I have coming haha x

Hi,

I joined the last thread and have been quietly reading through without jumping in...

My stats:

37yo, ttc #1 since March '14, mc @6 weeks in May '14, mmc @ 9/10 weeks in Dec '14. Currently ttc cycle 4. AF due this Friday and I'm sure she's coming - am spotty, bloated, with achy boobs and back pain - and raging PMT. I feel really despondent and was in tears to DP yesterday, who is ever supportive :) Resorted to googling 'staying positive while ttc' and think I'll give affirmations and journalling a go to help with my negative emotions/worry.

Wonderful to see we have 18 pg's on board!

Brummie!! Brilliant news. I'm keeping my fingers and toes X'd for you!

Maternity leave on Friday Cat I bet you never thought you'd bloody get there!!!!!! Am so pleased for you.

What is your due date again? I know Longest is due Saturday with induction at 40+5 and yours isn't far behind. So bloody exciting.

I'm trying not to get anxious but it's not really working... Especially with Milan and Brussels looming.

Trying to calm my anxiety by thinking Milan, I'll only be. 5 weeks I can take pads and if anything happens it will be like a period.

Brussels I would be 8 weeks and that is scaring me more . But again it's 1 night and it's Eurostar so I'll just take pads and pray!

I could of course be ok, but 8- 9 weeks is my danger point.

I know i am overthinking things but I can already feel my anxiety and it's been a day!!!!

brummie - try not to panic too much about being away hun. Chances of something happening in the couple of days you are away are very small and even if it did, you would manage. I was in Milan with work when my first MC started at 11 weeks (baby measured 7) but still had plenty of time to jump on a plane home the morning that the period like bleeding started and the actual passing of the pregnancy didn't happen until much later that night, by which point I had arrived back home and been scanned at the EPU. Also the last miscarriage at 5+3 mostly happened on the plane to China and was just like a heavy period, so completely manageable. x

brummie I never threw my positive tests away. I have three from mc 1, three from mc2 and one from mc 3 ( by this point I thought if I stopped acting so paranoid it might help, so stopped at one test).

I've never had a successful scan, they're the only things I have to remind me of my babies

bubbly how are you feeling now? I'm ashamed to say I'm still in bed.

I ordered wobenzym, hopefully that arrives today.

Hello to everyone new

Oooh and girlinoz I've heard good things about Australian healthcare so hopefully you find some answers now

Sun thanks for the reassurance - that does make feel better, especially as I know you coped on a flight to China xx

Snoopy I had scans but only had 1 good one that ended up turning bad so never had any photos. I still have my green maternity notes for babies 2 & 3 and won't be throwing those away. Like you, they are all I have of my babies

Welcome to the thread girlinoz. Mc really takes its toll on mental health, I think we will all agree with that. It took me a long time to crawl back out of the black hole I fell into after my last - the wounds might heal with time, but the scars will be there for the rest of our lives.
It seems that the GPs in Oz are a lot more in tune with RMC clinics and testing, which is really what is lacking in the UK, I think. Hopefully, you will get all your results quickly. Are you actively ttc at the moment?

Hope you're OK, girlie The limbo is awful.

As for myself, I am not too good... 9+1 today, and my hopes are dwindling, even though the sickness has come back with a vengeance. But (and I can't believe I am writing this, it sounds sooo stupid) it's a different kind of sickness - no more coming in waves with ravenous hunger and having to eat all the time, it's now more constant, underlying, a bit like travel sickness. Eating doesn't help, at least not very much. So I am wondering if this is the progesterone giving me symptoms that are not really there? Has anyone had that? I'm wondering if that is possible, I've not been able to find any information on that.
The spotting is still there, now more or less constant every day, mostly red. And I'm feeling quite crampy today... So all in all, it doesn't look good.
I will try calling the EPU to see if they might scan me again this weekend, if not, I will try and get a private scan. I need to know asap - we are going on holiday in 3 weeks' time, and the longer I wait, the more chance there is that it will mess up the trip, if any 'measures' will have to be taken.

Welcome girlin and patience. Always bittersweet to see new faces on here. Glad you found us but sorry you needed us. I hope you this thread a source of information, support and hope.

brummie don't stress about Brussels. It's the one place I go quite regularly with work and the eurostar is so quick it barely feels like abroad making that time I forgot my passport totally understandable. I tend to go for the day these days and it's quicker to get to than brum (obviously that isn't true for you but still! Is also dead easy to change your tickets if you need to catch a different train). I do understand the anxiety though. It's ramping up again for me now.

cat enjoy mat leave. It's a great time. I am currently having lunch in a restaurant on my own. Trying to work out if this is the height of luxury or a bit of a sad act but it's a novelty either way. Have a midwife appointment soon. Trying to decide if I am well enough to try a sweep.

cloud crossed posts. Hugs. Travel sickness sounds very familiar, honest. As does the ravenous type. I know the spotting must be terrifying but it didn't mean bad news before. Another scan sounds like a good idea. Hand hold. Xx

Welcome girlin and patience - sorry you find yourselves here but this is a great thread, full of lovely knowledgeable ladies.

cloud - sorry you are still having bleeding. You are incredibly patient - I would be camped outside the EPU by now demanding a scan! Really hope they can arrange something for you for this weekend and that it is good news. x

Cloud I agree with longest (Woohoo on DD approaching and luxury lunches) that both types of sickness, plus a ton of others, were common for me. Cramping was also a pretty constant in the early weeks too. But I felt the same way, sure things were going wrong every time. Big hand hold to get through these horrible early stages.