Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 24 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[Brummiegirl15]

New thread for us if it's worked on phone! Will paste stats

Sorry I posted too soon. morgan and spam sorry to see you here but welcome at the same time.

There's a lot of thread babies and pg people at the moment, fingers crossed for more!

Hey Morgan and Spam so sorry to see you here.

I had 3 in under 9 months and I agree with March it's absolutely brutal

I'm still getting symptoms!!!! My boobs are so sore and it's really messing with my head. It's making me want to test again but I've done 3 now. 2 x frer and 1 x cb digi - all negative

Why am I putting myself through this?? I've only got 1 x frer left and I don't want to waste it

I'm thinking it must be the progesterone that has given me sore boobs and I felt so unwell last week I was utterly convinced I was pregnant

I guess I'm just finding the bfn really hard to believe at the moment

Hello everyone. Thanks for the new thread - over 50 posts already! I have dd aged 3.9 and have been ttc dc2 since March 13. After one chm pg and 2 early gestation but missed mc I had tests at St Mary's. All clear except PCOS (causing 42 day cycles). No treatment recommended but I took agnus castus, got my bfp first cycle and am now 39+ weeks pregnant - due date is Saturday. Will be induced on 4 June at 40+5 if I don't go into labour before then so it's tenterhooks in our house. Both dh and I are ill though - really would like a bit of a healthier environment for the arrival of a newborn.

Morgan, spam - welcome and so sorry for your losses. spam your later loss must have been truly devastating. Sadly there a number of ladies on here with similar histories. I hope you can both find the support and information you need.

baking so pleased to hear you sounding upbeat and positive about your lovely Summer. You deserve it.

sasha wooo on the award nomination - well done!

Brummie - it's a toughie. I have had very late bfps before, but my cycle is long so ov always a bit of a guessing game. I find the superdrug tests good if you do want to give another one a try - much cheaper than frer but much more sensitive than ics. They are often on buy one get one half price. I should have taken out shares in the things.

bootles how are you feeling? Good luck for location scan.

Blimey Longest you are so close!!!!!!! Little Longest has got coat and wellies on by now - very wet in Worcestershire today!

Baking loved your pic of Faith, she looks so happy and such a cherub. Glad your Dad has got such positive things to say about her.

It's always useful having a medical background in the family.

My sister and I never used to get on, there is 9 years between us and I guess being completely different age groups meant we never had anything common. But she is bloody good at her job and just her knowledge and being able to ask stupid / demanding questions to someone that actually has the knowledge really helps. She stood her ground at Bham Women's for me to get my ERPC when they really just wanted me to do it naturally and get out of their way. She threatened to have an ambulance called for me and remove me to Worcester for the operation. Only then did they back down.

And the irony of course is now I'm under Worcester.

She can be a mardy cow at times - can't imagine where she gets it

Hi all. Sorry Ive been a bit off the radar for a few days and already 3 pages in on a new thread. So my stats are:
Me 43, DP, 50 (gulp I think that makes us the oldest.
2007 DS born
2009 Dec. mc1 5w+
2010 DD born
2013 March mc 2 5w+
2013 August mc 3 5w+
2014 August mc 4 5w+
2015 May mc 5 6w+
Ive been in touch with Coventry and as soon as I can Im booking an appointment.
Still going thro mc5, bleeding eased off but was cramping yesterday and in pain. I have a scan booked for week after next to
confirm all clear.
Its been sad reading everyones stats, hugs to u all. And at the same times the postive stats gives us all hope.

jady - I'm in same boat with symptoms. Having felt vaguely queasy / bloated for last few days (also a side effect of steroids apparently), woke up today feeling completely normal / not a hint of sickness. Is a complete head fuck isn't it. x

Hey ladies! Will have to catch up at leisure, am away camping for a few days on north yorks coast with dh n ds after wonderful spa day with old mates and signal is very patchy! Happy birthday little faith and congratulations monten!!! More later xxxx

Thanks ladies re bf advice, I'm taking it easier on the pump today. Scott has done well with a bottle with an orthopaedic teat in the night, and we're waiting for the weigh in later. Every day is one more day closer to bringing him home.

Wishing Faith a belated happy birthday.

Sorry you're struggling, Brummie, hope AF comes soon and clears the blues away for a brand new month.

Longest, any day now...!

Waves to everyone. xx

orthodontic*

New thread already! Can't keep up with you lot

Welcome to the newbies, so sorry you find yourself in the club that no one wants to be in. But you will find lots of knowledge and support here, always open ears for your woes and sorrows, and hands to hold.

Baking - happy belated birthday to Faith! You've had a rough time in the last few months, here's to a smoother journey ahead!

Port - you're not the oldest! I'm 43, too - we can share the joint title for being the oldest on the thread

Brummie - you need to step away from the test and give yourself a break. Don't test again until at af is actually due! Do you normally have regular cycles? Could this be just a long one?

Just - hope you're ok. Feeding is never easy, and premies are extra tough. Sounds as if it's going in the right direction, fingers crossed you can take Scott home soon xx

I'm in a right state at the moment After feeling so sick all week (didn't actually make it to work on Monday), I had nothing all day on Friday and yesterday - which totally freaked me out. Then today, the nausea has returned with a vengeance, but so has the spotting - enough to need a pad, and bright red. I am so anxious I have to remind myself to breath at times
Feeling very pessimistic at the moment... All the relief and hope from last week's scan is gone, I don't have much hope. If the spotting continues, I will call the EPU to see if I can have another scan - but I might get a private one, at this rate there is now way I'll make it to 12 weeks without losing my sanity.
I feel awful in every way - it's DS's birthday today, and my mum is here visiting, and all I capable of is lying in bed Family party at the in-laws tomorrow, dreading it...
Sorry about the Me post!

Sorry you're having such a rough time cloud. Please don't apologise, we all understand what this worry feels like and i imagine all of us are going to be feeling the same at some point and need some support. I think another scan sounds like a good idea for you. Was it cat who had one every week? I think if it keeps you sane then it's 100% worth it, even if it only reassures you for a short while.

So glad to hear that faith is doing so well baking and that you have some expert opinion on hand. Good luck for all the appts coming up in the next couple of months. I'm sure it'll be nice to feel like something is being done after a lull in her treatment, even though it is a bit full on for a while.

Glad to hear scott is also taking a bottle just. Sounds like he's really starting to turn a corner and will be home before you know it

Enjoy camping freckle. My dh brought up the subject of us having a few days away, so looks like we're going at the end of June. Hoorah!

Hugs to everyone struggling with patchy symptoms. I'm dreading that first 12 weeks next time.
Fingers crossed the tww goes quickly flen and anyone else.
minnie, glad you've started your ttc cycle. We are not far off the same place in our cycles. Hand holding

Hugs cloud - i think definitely see if your EPU will do another scan for you. They should do if you are spotting. Such a huge part of this journey is trying to retain a shred of sanity throughout it. Keep reminding yourself that despite the spotting, you have had a good scan, so every reason to remain positive (I know that is so much easier said than done though). x

Thank you for your welcomes everyone.

Bootles we had a perfectly normal 12 week scan, everything was progressing normally. I went for repeat bloods at 18+2 and asked to listen to heartbeat and couldn't find it so went to hospital and was scanned and he had no heartbeat. Consultant said everything was as it should be for gestation so he feels it would have been very recent. Possibly the day before.

mrsdiddlydoo We don't know yet, we have considered scattering his ashes off cardigan bay in Wales with the dolphins as we go there every year. For now we just want him at home with us. It has all happened so quickly, I don't think I have grieved for him.

I think I may call my consultants secretary and see if any results are back or when to expect some. I don't know if that would change anything but we are too scared to consider trying again for a baby as this has been so gard on everyone. Especially our 9 year old as he is absolutely devastated.

Oh, Spam, how heartbreaking hugs to you and your family.

Cloud, what a worry. Hope you can get a reassuring scan soon. Everything crossed for you.

Cloud please do not worry about unloading on here. We are here for you. Your head must be all over place.

AF is supposedly due Tuesday (ish) I do have regular cycles but they have lengthened slightly but I would've expected a BFP by now if I was

Freckle camping in Yorkshire! Braver than me lady!!!! Enjoy!

Just sorry you are struggling, wish I have some knowledge to advise. Potentially sounds like mastitis maybe? Definitely have heard good things about
Lanisoh (crap spelling!) cream

Hope everyone is having good / peaceful bank holiday weekends. DP is poorly so quiet one for us

New feed already?! My word you chatty lot!!!

Very quickly my stats are: me and DH 35, ttc DC#1 since 2008, unexplained fertility issues in me related to luteal phase defect, 2 mcs at 10 wks in 2014 and 1 suspected mc at 5 wks in 2013. Now almost 35 wks pregnant with a boy following progesterone and aspirin treatment. Just hoping and praying this is our time.

Hello spam and warm welcome to the feed. I want to give you huge hugs and sympathy over your heart breaking loss. Hope we can be supportive and helpful to you at this awfully difficult time.

Sorry to hear you're spotting again Cloud, how stressful. Hope EPU can get you in for a reassurance scan very soon. Spotting often doesn't impact on the pregnancy so hang in there and be kind to yourself. If you don't feel well enough to go to in laws tomorrow then send OH off on his own.

Glad to hear Scott is feeding better Just. I've got everything crossed he'll be home soon.

Whoop Longest 39 weeks!!! Your little rainbow baby will be here very very soon. So excited for you.

Sorry it was bfn Brummie and sorry to hear about the baby bombs Flower. This journey sucks at times.

Waving hi to everyone else. Sorry to anyone I've missed. XxX

Oh spam I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to think how heartbreaking that would be. My mum lost three siblings before her tenth birthday, she liked to believe they are angels looking after, particularly her little sister. I have her name as my middle name.

cloud I have everything crossed for you. I know it won't stop the worry but there are so many happy endings out there and I'm sure you will be ok.

Another text message, this one from mil saying she 'understands' how I feel. I know it's not the gracious thing to feel but this has made me so angry. How can she understand? She's never been in my place, not even once.

It's just one step forward and then two steps back all the time

I found this, I'm sure others have read it already, and maybe posted it but I haven't read back yet. Really interesting when we think about our partners
gu.com/p/496p9

Me 38, DH 42?
1st MMC May 2011 - 5/6 weeks, miscarried at 9 weeks?
DS May 2012 - placenta praevia but other than that, all ok?
2nd MMC Feb 2014 - 5/6 weeks, miscarried at 7 weeks?
3rd MMC June 2014 - 5/6 weeks, miscarried at 12 weeks. Rcm tests @ Leeds all negative, prescribed HCG from next bfp? for suspected hormone imbalance
4th MMC February 2015 - 17/18 weeks, no heartbeat at 20 week scan.
Induced labour and gave birth to dd at 20+4. Low PAPP-A hormone found from 13 week combined blood test. Put on aspirin for suspected placenta problems (but that was clearly too late ). Was also on HCG for first 12 weeks for the hormone imbalance. Have since been for tests at Liverpool (borderline high lupus anticoagulant) and Leeds again (nothing). Also had post mortem and histology performed – nothing found. Am just awaiting Coventry results now so that dh and I can decide what’s next.

spam sorry you find yourself here but welcome. I think I replied to your post elsewhere on the miscarriage thread a few weeks ago because, as you can see from above, I too had a second trimester loss in Feb. Like you, we thought things were going ok but dd didn’t have a heart beat at he 20 week scan. I kinda knew something was wrong a week before but it doesn’t prepare you for the shock and awfulness of the situation. Am still reeling from it and my heart goes out to you. We still have our little one’s ashes as I’ve not yet decided what to do with them and I’m not yet ready to do whatever it is we decide to do. Re tests: all my blood work seemed very quick but the histology/post mortem results took 14 weeks altogether. And as for trying again, I really wish I had an answer. The loss of our dd in Feb was life-changingly hard and continues to be so. It’s affected every part of my life and I really don’t know if I can put myself, my dh and my ds though it again… But I would love another child. It’s incredibly, incredibly hard. x

morgan welcome. Hope you find some help and hope here.

sasha and jady Re agnus castus – how long have you been taking it for and what are your thoughts on taking it in pregnancy? Likewise, jady, am interested to see you’re on the vit d. Can I ask what strength and, again, are you continuing now you’re pregnant?

freckle enjoy the camping!

cloud jady sun sorry these early weeks are such a trial. I really do sympathise.

tanny interesting article, thank you. The devastating impact that one miscarriage, or repeated miscarriages, can have on a partner should not be underestimated.

Happy bank holiday everybody. Hope you have a good one, whatever you're doing.

flower, just read back. Didn't realise your ivf starts next week. Eeep! Absolutely Best best luck for it. Hope you find the acupuncture helpful and sorry to hear about the baby bombs. That sucks. Another one today for me too, although at least that leaves only one of my antenatal friends still pg now, then they are all done.

spam I am so sorry that you had that awful experience of losing your baby at that stage and after a good 12 week scan. And it is still so recent, I do hope you are finding ways to be kind to yourself. Sorry too that your DS is so heartbroken. He will no doubt come to accept it, as children have a habit of doing, but I really feel for you all, and my heart goes out to you.

cloud sorry to hear you are spotting again, and though the nausea is a good sign I do appreciate that it is very hard to feel constantly physically unwell. I think another scan would definitely be helpful, and that you need to remind yourself that you were spotting before your good 8 week scan too, and all was well.

longest you're nearly there!!! Wow. Really hope you all get over your colds soon, then have a couple of days of feeling well before a straightforward and quick labour.

I am so on edge, I'm like a coiled spring. Everything makes me jumpy and highly irritable. Not sleeping well either so I'm too tired. Being positive about this pg seems like a ridiculous strategy, but I am trying (and failing often). To those on progesterone and prednisolone, this is my second pg on these medications and there's no doubt that symptom wise it's a complete headf**k - I have genuinely given up trying to symptom check. Moan moan. Sorry.

flower everything crossed for ivf !!

Hello marking place but been less active lately

Quick stats, 3 MCs in 2010, St Mary's tests all normal, DD1 born 2012.
Then 2 more MCs, went to Coventry and DD2 born in March 2015

hello ladies quick question, how long after d&c does the bleeding and cramping stop, and when can i start exercising at the gym again

thanks

bootles - did you find pred affected your symptoms? Did you have more or less when taking Pred? Sorry, think am clutching at straws here but just panicking that after symptoms seem to have disappeared again.

bubbly - I had an erpc which I think is a bit different to a d and c. For the first, bleeding was about 10 days, for the second 4/5 days and for the last one I had very little at all, so in my experience it can be quite variable. After my last erpc I was running / spinning abouts week later but I think you just have to take your time and see when you feel physically up to it and not rush anything x