Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 24 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[Brummiegirl15]

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Good news little bear Once you've posted on a thread the quickest way to find it is 'threads I'm on'. You can choose to 'watch' threads you are interested in but don't want to contribute to.

Hugs tiny Be kind to yourself today. It's such a journey. Your success in march helps us lot keep going. x

loopy also meant to say my epu strictly won't attempt to hear the hb with a Doppler until 16 weeks because it just causes so much unnecessary worry.

brummie I had lots of pinchy feelings and stretching which I'd take as a good sign. I can remember when (unknowingly(...blissfully)) pg with DS, when i got up quickly from my desk it felt like I nearly pulled my muscles around my womb a few times.

tiny just goes to show it always stays with you, be kind to yourself. Xxx

Sorry tiny cross posted. I think the experience of MC, particularly RMC, changes you as a person. I'm so pleased you have your lovely girls, but that doesn't erase what you've been through to get there.
It was 6 years for me on 1st May. I've managed to gloss over the dates and due dates of the other three after the due date and the first anniversary have passed. EDD for the first one was my birthday, and that baby was so real to me because it had never crossed my mind that she wouldn't make it. I still think about her from time to time.....

Edd for this first one was Christmas day.. That is another bittersweet day where I now try to take some time to myself...

Tiny, hugs. Look after yourself. 2 of my edds are in the week leading up to Christmas, and the other is June (I seem to only conceive in April and October ).
littlebear, good news on your scan.
We roomed in in the neonatal unit with Scott last night... bf was a bit of a fail; I don't think he was getting much for his efforts. Gave a bottle of expressed milk at 03:00, and got some sleep after that. We had to keep a diary of every feed attempt and dirty nappy... I wonder whether we'll pass the test or whether we'll have to go back on the main neonatal ward...

Sorry, struggling to keep up !

for Tiny. Your innocence may have died but you have been a tower of strength and support to us all. Hold those girls close and do something kind to yourself today.

Bootles good luck making a decision. I think I would want to try the injections just because I would want to try something new, but that isn't necessarily the most sensible approach. It's unfair that we have to go through these endless dilemmas isn't it? Like wading through fog.

brummie yup, normal. I posted about cramping on this very thread. Nightmare isn't it?

girlie Hugs and hand hold. Still holding a flame of hope for you but ready to listen whatever happens.

Good luck to all those ttc!

Just waiting here now. V nervous but excitement is creeping in too now I am feeling a little less ill. Final hurdle!

Good luck Just!

Longest, good luck!

Tiny

Lots of love to you, I don't think it ever leaves you xx

I'm with you both there. Hugs today Tiny. Nine pregnancies and three kids is a strange place I never thought I'd be. The first mc stays with me for the same reason, it was such a shock and I'd made so many plans. The pg that did me the most harm was the termination I had when I was 23. That child would have been 19 in August. And I still miss it, even now. I wish I had been stronger and stood up to everyone. Hindsight eh?

Littlebear so pleased you had a positive scan. You had us worried!

At the moment I'm just pushing on through, trying to be less of a git to DH and hoping this helps.

On 5mg preds, 400 progesterone, 40 clexane, baby aspirin. Not under NHS they are so shit here I still haven't had an appointment date and was referred November for RMC. Went private but it's kind of half private as we had one initial consult then just scans to check so not really under anyone but I can have a phone call today to discuss fading meds which is good news :) still ever so nervous that something will go wrong...I'm a mardy git ATM lol when really I should be pleased that I even got to this stage it's the bloody worry if it all. Hope everyone is ok :) xx

Hugs to everyone having a tough time by the way xx

Am a bit confused by all the short terms ... am new on here.....

Am 21 partners 20
Had 3 pregnancies....
First was twins but one didn't make it 2012
Second we miscarried at eight weeks 2014
Third we miscarried at five weeks 2014

Sorry both miscarriages meant to be 2015!

Glad scan went well Littlebear!

Welcome Praying, I think there's a sticky post somewhere with all the abbreviations.

Tiny. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

welcome praying
mumsnet acronyms are here but I suspect we've added a lot of thread ones as we've needed them. If there is anything you don't understand just ask, it's not our intention to be cliquey.

You know you've taken it too far when you call hospital to find out when your appointment with "rmc" is.... The what?? the nurse asked me, never heard of it referred to as that before she said lol

(Recurrent miscarriage clinic)

Hugs for today tiny. I don't think this will ever leave us completely.

Great scan news little

Welcome praying, sorry to hear about your losses and hope you find some support here

longest, glad you feel ready now and excited. Can't wait to hear the news. I think the movement does really change as they move down into the engaged position, so it's probably a good sign that shortest is getting ready to meet you

I know jady! I referred to the epu on the phone the other day to the consultants sec and she had no clue what i was talking about, as we call it pregnancy support centre here.

Thanks everyone... Shall try and have an easy day with cake and ice cream...

Love to you today tiny! It's the third one that really stung me (due this sep). One was a blip, 'take one for the team', two a coincidence, three is a curse. Too much pattern to ignore or excuse away... I'm glad i don't actually remember my other due dates.
I had a termination too Tanny**, in 2009. Dh and i wern't even engaged back then, it wasn't planned and his response to the news was "oh dear..." But i'm not one of those that feel this is 'punishment' for that - the God i believe in isn't small, or mean, or petty like that. But it is unfortunate, and i do secretly blame dh, and for his 'not believing in marriage or wanting children' through most of my 30's, and for his selfish belief that 'people have babies well unto their 40's these days' (and by 'people' he must have been thinking of 'men' or women who can afford miraculous ivf).

Tiny I find a stiff drink also helps

Tanny and Freckle big love to both of you. I can't imagine having gone through that and I feel for you.

9 pregnancies... No wonder you are struggling with your emotions. I struggle with the idea of 4!

I think for me, I was single for 10 years before I met DP. As someone said - Freckle it might have even been you - there were quite a few alley cat scumbag flings in my time. For me work was my life. I wanted to meet someone but wasn't , so threw myself into work - and actually it's done fuck all for me as I'm now on the same salary as I was 7 years ago due to taking a pay cut, which I was forced to take and I am very bitter about it. But that's another story. Anyway, I digress, I never met anyone before DP that I would even dream of starting a family with.

I'm very grateful that this is my first opportunity and I didn't "miss" anything if that makes sense?