Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 23 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Thanks, Cat. x

Hi Patience so glad you've found us. Pull up a chair and chat. Some very lovely, funny kind women on here.

Just do not apologise!!!! You've been there for us, and we are here for you. We are all thinking about you and miniJust xx

Thanks Brummie x

Thanks for the welcome ladies. Looking forward to sharing the journey with you all.

Welcome patience

Big hug for just and tiny squeeze for minijust glad he is doing ok. Everybody feels a bit teary the first few days, without an unexpected arrival and NICU thrown into the mix. It is awful being in hospital, especially when your DH has to go home at night. But you have us to keep you company Any further forward on a name? Justin has a nice ring to it

purple hope you and baby John are doing well.

freckle how infuriating!

Sorry it's bad news Bubbles. Glad they will be able to test, and refer you to RMC though.

Crossing fingers for you Girlie and Cloud.

Sun, I think you summed it up by saying it can feel like the years are slipping away. So hoping making other plans will feel like regaining a bit of control.

Just and Purple, very interesting about placentas. After DS2 was born the placenta did not follow, even after the midwife gave me an injection to help. I think it was partly stuck. She ended up just having to pull it out by the umbilical cord, while I pushed and she did remark that it was a very small placenta.

Have read that thyroid antibodies can cause placentas to be small, and that would make sense for me.

Thanks Baking x

diddly sorry you've got a due date lurking on top of the general worry. Bloody MC- ruins any hope of a carefree pregnancy. Hope you manage to get some sleep tonight.

Hugs for your impending due date too march x

spartacus what a lovely appointment that sounds. So positive. Makes such a difference to have someone be positive.

Welcome patience sorry you have to be here but it's a lovely place to get support.

just the first few weeks are so hormonally tough. Everything has happened so quickly. Give yourself time and take all the support you can get. Minijust sounds like a little trooper and will soon be in your arms. Big hugs xx

pop my mum's home and doing ok. She's a bit apprehensive that something will go wrong but I guess she just has to trust in the machinery! Thanks for asking lovely.

freckle aargh you have my sympathies! Fully know how bloody frustrating they are and have experienced the total lack of understanding that actually this is a shit time and no we don't want our results losing/tests done wrong thanks very bloody much! I don't know why I expected more! Am looking forward to a better experience at Coventry on Monday.

Monten that's a great article and so true. As I moved after falling pregnant a 3rd time, I've experienced miscarriage care at 2 hospitals - Birmingham Women's and of course Worcester.

Birmingham is not an experience I wish to repeat. I had to fight for my ERPC as they wanted me to do medical management. I'd already had to have morphine due to the pain so what part of fuck off do you not understand?

Worcester for mc # 3 was very different. It was entirely my choice what my decision was. No one challenged me and for that I was thankful.

That said at both hospitals I was booted out with a "right bye then" but that's the NHS full stop rather than mc care.

The irony is for my hysteroscopy I have a follow up appointment. If I'd broken my leg, I'd get a follow up appointment but ERPC for a miscarriage? No chance.

That said, the EPAU at Worcester got straight on to requesting my tests so I was in the system ASAP and for that I'm grateful.

Worcester is getting a lot of shit at the moment because they currently have 140 patients bed blocking. In that they are refusing to send them home because these people have no suitable care plan in place. Not sure if that says more about Worcester or social services.

Anyway I digress, Worcester were - and still are- being exceptional in their care through the fab Mr Watts and I'm grateful.

I'm aware, as Freckle has just pointed out, some of you are having a nightmare

Thanks Minnie. I feel better now I've had a cry and got it off my chest a bit. x

Please don't be apologising just. You've had a whirl wind of 36 hours. I would be a wreck in your shoes so I think a bit of a wobble dealing with everything is very much ok. We'd all be very worried if we weren't hearing from you. Hogging is a banned word on this thread. Hope you manage to get some sleep and feel a bit better in the morning x

Thanks Mrsdiddlydoo x

bubbly I am so sorry to hear your news. It's horribly shit for you to be in this situation again. Sending lots of hugs and support.

girly oh dear to another inconclusive scan...it must be beyond frustrating. Sending you grow vibes...

cloud I still have everything crossed for you...

purple huge congratulations on the birth of baby John ! Wonderful news!

just don't you dare even mention apologies or thread hogging. We are in your corner. You have had a horribly stressful time, and having minijust in SCUBU must be so so hard, and as has been said, tears are entirely normal even without all that you are going through. I for one am waiting for updates on your and minijust's progress and very much hope he is in your arms very soon. Lots of hugs to you.

march I am 9 dpo too...

Thanks Bootles. Just been to visit miniJust. He's stable and doing some breathing on his own, but still needs the ventilator for most of it. He's responsive and holds my finger. Hopefully he will make a bit more progress in the night. Thanks everyone for your support.

How are you this morning just? It is not surprising you are feeling all over the place, an early birth, baby in NICU and all the worry that goes along with it must be a shock. Hopefully you will get to have cuddles soon, and minijust will make progress and be home before long.

Just hope you managed to grab some sleep. Really don't apologise as I bet in public you're holding it together. As we all know on here, this is our little escape to release all those emotions that the rest of the time we managed to suppress x

just I hope minijust did well overnight, and you managed to get some sleep.

I think I'm out this month - bfn at 10 dpo. I always get a result at 10 days. I'll test again tomorrow to be sure, and keep on the progesterone until then, but I don't think it will show anything different. I'm particularly gutted this month because this now means I have to go back to Coventry for another scratch as advised by Prof Brosen. I know it sounds so silly, but after 3 years I am getting tired of all the appointments, it just sucks up so much time, and energy. Nothing compared to ivf/iui etc, I know. Sorry for moaning.

Hugs to you just, can't imagine how hard it must be coping with it all. We are all here for you, you've been here for us so many times. xxxx

bubbly so sorry to hear it, it is just a horrible horrible thing.

mrsdiddly here are some hugs for you, when is your due date? I have one tomorrow. It takes its toll, doesn't it, the constant presence of loss and anxiety.

girlie how frustrating to still be in limbo land. Hope you have lots of nice things to make the week pass.

freckle the system is just UNBELIEVABLE sometimes! Here's willing you lots of strength to keep bashing away at it.

flen and mrsd, and anyone else who has one coming up, hoping your due dates pass calmly and are not as bad as you fear.

Don't apologise just, that's what we're here for. I appreciate that even though now you have your beautiful little boy, you're brain just doesn't switch to that of a happy, content new mummy. Not after everything you have been through to get here and especially with the early delivery and miniJust being in nicu. It must really play hell with your hormones and emotions and I imagine I would be a blubbering wreck in your shoes. Very soon miniJust will be in your arms and you will have your cuddles. I really hope it is soon and you can stay in hospital until this happens. x

Sorry you've got a bfn bootles and it means another hospital visit. x

Sorry about your bfn Bootles - I agree about hospital appointments, they suck the life out of you.

Prof B mentioned another scratch to me but said that my hysteroscopy would do the same job. But if I don't catch within 4 cycles I'll probably need to do the same.

It's soul destroying this TTC lark isn't it? xx

just - so glad that mini just is doing well and managing a finger squeeze or two. Can't imagine how tough this must be for you and such a whirlwind in the space of a few short days. Really hoping he can come home with you very soon.

bootles - ugh to bfns. The whole cycle of ttc is just draining isn't it. If it's a bfn, it's a complete blow, if it's a bfp there's an initial whoop and then the dread sets in of whether it's going to all end the same way.

X

morning all a few tears shed last night some cuddles and a cake eaten

i was just wondering if
does anyone know much about fibroids?
1st m/c scan rold i have 1 fibroid size 24.1cm3 intramural posterior right
2nd m/c 43.4cm3
3rd m/c told i have 2 first scan told it was 31.7cm3 and 1.5cm3 (subserous)
2nd scan 64.9cm3

could this be effecting my m/c?

any thoughts?