Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 23 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Bubbly I found it much better than natural and I know a lot of the ladies on here feel the same. If there's anything you want to know do ask.

I recommend having some nice tasty treats in the house for while you're resting up afterwards. XxX

asda online home delivery being done today :) and i have a new lawn which i need watering :)

That's good do help! Make sure your OH takes care of the new lawn while you're recovering and don't go back to work until you feel ready. X

Glad you've got some treats on the way and the holiday to look forward to. Take it easy and we're here whenever you want to chat x

bubbly I am so, so sorry. Please look after yourself and take as long as you need to recover.

girlie. I remain hopeful for you. Am sure it's agonising waiting though.

cloud fx the spotting is nothing. I am heartened that you have been feeling rubbish since the last lot.

just how is minijust today? And purple what about baby john? Will you be home soon?

Bubbly I'm sorry it wasn't better news. Definitely don't be rushing back to work. Lots of yummy food and box sets help me. x

girlie it's like deja vu. Another week to wait. You seem to be coping with this so well. I wish I could fast forward the week for you though. And cloud for Sunday.

Still feel shite here which I'm trying to brainwash myself is a good thing. Mc is just never far from my mind. I'm not trying to think about it. It's like some horrible dark shadow hanging over me. Can't sleep atm either which doesn't help. I close my eyes and the last year's events, hopes and disasters pop into my mind. Not helped by next due date coming up which I want desperately removed from my mind

Huge congratulations just and purple. I'm delighted for you both. Really lovely news.

Bubbly. I'm so sorry it is not good news for you. I've had two erpcs, as my MCs did not show any signs of coming out on their own. They really are not too bad to recover from and I felt they allowed me to move on. I think waiting for a natural miscarriage (especially if you can't just take to your bed) must be so hard.

Girlie i have my fingers crossed for you.

I had my appointment at Mary's today. They were really lovely to me, and to hear a doctor say he thinks I have a good chance of a successful pregnancy (and to explain why!) in spite of my age meant a lot. I left there quite a lot of money and six or so tubes of blood lighter, but with a bit of a spring in my step too.

I hope everyone else is ok, and enjoying this amazing weather.

Hi Bubbly I'm another one who's had 2 x ERPCs and I wouldn't hesitate to do it again if I sadly had to make that choice.

It's a very personal choice. I needed to close my eyes and have it all be over.

I was too frightened at the thought of passing everything, but I know others need the cathartic feeling.

The anaesthetics will make you very tired for a few days so absolutely do not rush back to work. Take all the time you need, be kind to yourself and chat to us if you need to. We are here xxx

thanks you all for your well wishes :) I'm doing ok but that doesn't mean anything last time i woke up in the middle of night and had a panic attack.

but the support on this group is immense and i don't know why i haven't been a member before

Sounds like a very positive appointment Spart good to know the consultant is optimistic!

MrsD sorry you're not feeling great. It's such an emotional roller coaster and due dates are the pits. If you can do something to mark it you may feel a little better. I planted a yellow rose bush in my garden and it flowered beautifully

Excellent positive appt spartacus, great to have a supportive and hopeful doctor.

I feel like that every day bubbly with this bunch of lovely people, so grateful to have this place.

Sorry you're still feeling rubbish diddly. It's so hard when you feel like you should be grateful for feeling sick, but it's not as simple as that. And the dread is always there, lurking. Hugs for your impending due date. I also have one coming up next week and dreading it. Really hoping I'm pg again, even though I know that's realistically not going to make it any easier

bubbly lots of hugs from here. I'm so, so sorry.

girlie sorry it was all inconclusive, so I have all digits crossed for the next scan.

spartacus glad to hear the appointment went well and hope the results come through soon.

minnie how's your mum doing?

just and purple hope you are all doing ok.

Hugs to the rest of you lovelies. xxx

just have you managed to have cuddles yet? How is minijust doing?

I'm so sorry bubbly. No matter how much you prepare for it, it hurts like hell. Am so sorry. I found surgical fine, quick and relatively pain free. I'm glad you have a holiday with dh booked, look after yourself and each other. And we'll allbe here.

girlie whispered excitement on the twin sacs! but it must be so hard to not have a conclusive result. You're being very brave.

As are you cloud. I'm sorry the spotting has started again.

There was a new story out today about miscarriage. It didn't say anything that new or that interesting but here's a link if anyone is interested: www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-health/11599816/Miscarriage-Sex-wine-or-stress-How-I-mistakenly-blamed-myself.html

It brought this to my attention which again isn't that revelatory but there was a bit about health professionals treating it like a 'commonplace medical problem rather than a personal/family tragedy' which I thought was spot on. That's exactly how it felt.

Sorry this to my attention: drive.google.com/file/d/0BziWpytU8RObWnNiRlNfR2dtZjg/view

Hi, miniJust is still on his ventilator but he's stable and hopefully getting stronger. I'm OK, in pain from the section, but improving. I've fallen off a bit of a cliff, hormonally speaking, I think. I don't want to leave him here if they send me home, so been a bit teary this evening.
I know lots of you are further away from holding your babies than I am, so sorry to hog the thread. x

Hi everyone.

Am I okay to jump in?

My stats:
Me 37, DP 28. Ttc #1 since March '14. Two mc's since then - natural mc @ 5weeks, mmc @ 10weeks. Currently ttc. On cycle 4 since last mc at Christmas.

No tests or anything yet. Gynae said she would see me if I'm not pg by June.

Will go back to the beginning and read the thread now :)

monten that link (the second one) is so true. And it really doesn't have to be like this! A bit of compassion and understanding wouldn't go amiss. I had that inappropriate question experience. 'Were you using protection?' was the first thing the nurse asked me after confirming my first mc. I was so angry. We'd been ttc 20 months at that point, and finally conceived on clomid. No, it wasn't a bloody accident, it was my already much loved baby you stupid arse of a woman .

Ohh minnie...you're gonna LOVE this rant...FUCKING LEEDS - WHAT WASTES OF SKIN! Grrrrr... I must vent!
So it is 6 weeks since my first apt with prof walker. They couldn't get my bloods from Bradford that i had done 16th Feb, so i had to have them done again, and more ontop. I was supposed to see him again this week and i hadn't heard a dicky-bird from them. So have had a right old ride of it for the past week, past from pillar to post to find out what the bloody hell's going on! Finally get through to prof walkers sec yesterday and, you guessed it... I hadn't been given an apt. Infact, if i hadn't chaded i doubt i ever would have. The day i had my first apt was tye day before easter weekend, and they were moving buildings. Clearly i was lost! All those blood tests and no results. If i get my period this month i'm going to coventry in june (still in the 2ww...)

just don't apologise, you've had a very rough time recently and I can't imagine there's a single person on this thread who hasn't been wondering all day how you and minijust were doing. I'm not suprised your hormones have taken a cliff dive, this time last week you were expecting to still be at work today, not recovering from giving birth!! Give yourself a break! And I mean that in the nicest sense, look after yourself, minijust will be home with you soon enough and you'll finally be a little family .

Welcome, patience!

Big hugs Just. Completely understandable what you've been through over the past few weeks and even more so after mini just's sudden arrival. I'm going to sound like my mother and say hopefully after a good night's sleep, things will look better in the morning x

Welcome to the feed Patience. Sorry to hear you've lost two babies along your journey, it's so heartbreaking. Hopefully the ladies on here will be able to share knowledge and kindness to help you to your bfp and beyond. X

Big hugs Just. Completely understandable what you've been through over the past few weeks and even more so after mini just's sudden arrival. I'm going to sound like my mother and say hopefully after a good night's sleep, things will look better in the morning x

Sending a hug to just and minijust. It's hard when you just want to get home and cuddle up. Hope you feel better from the op soon. Keep us updated. X

Thanks Barking and Girlie. I need to shake off my inner pessimist and get some rest, I know. And possibly some strong pain relief, since I'm in hospital for the night. Might help me sleep. x